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09-27-2006, 10:18 AM
so you go to a party with a date. lets say that date is… pick one:
(black/hispanic/asian/’ethnic’/short/tall/fat/skinny/flat chested/eccentricdressing/whatever/ insert a trait)
this trait and person will just be “X”. im keeping it open so you can insert something you can relate to. now you’re at this party and your date tells you there’s another person, “Y”, there that slept with someone that she too “regrettably” slept with once - someone person “Y” brings up a lot. for some reason its important that you get along with “Y”. so you’re talking to “Y” and everything is cool on your end except “Y” cant stop talking about what a slut she is. “Y" is a very successful agent, a business partner of the hosts. she felt a need to tell everyone how fucked three guys last weekend, a cuban, a black dude and the random doorman, how she’s had crabs twice and more or less wanting to shock everyone with her whorietude. not too impressive, but she goes along to tell everyone that she couldn’t walk on sunday from being fucked so hard, blah blah.
so then she tells the story of how she saw some guy she fucked in town walking around with an <insert trait X> girl and how she thought it was so hillarious, what a blankety-blank-blank he is to be with “X” girl… an incredibly biased statement to begin with. i felt it was at least a little insensitive to X girl and at most passive aggressive that Y would say something like that, and that it was not without purpose that she brought it up.
now of course X girl says that i’m jumping to conclusions, being too sensitive and that somehow my interpretation is some sort of revealing of how i really feel about her. i think that how i feel is in defense of her and, in a way, my dignity but its not like i’d lose any sleep over it, not something i need to hold on to. its just kind of sad for someone to allow themselves to be the butt of a joke like that and a real turn off to know that at most X girl would allow it and at least not be aware of it. if someone said to me, “oh my god! this girl I know went out with a latino guy, ewww!’ i just couldn’t laugh along without at least throwing some sort of jab back and, perhaps, then laughing… but probably more at my own response. its not like id get in a fight over it, but id throw back exactly what i received in a case like that.
since i was supposed to behave around this person, my response was just a puzzled look with a half smile. i sort of think X girl knows what’s going on but wants approval from this group so she lets it go.
does this all make any sense? what do you think? it’s a turn off and im not really interested in someone like that anymore. am i wrong?
(black/hispanic/asian/’ethnic’/short/tall/fat/skinny/flat chested/eccentricdressing/whatever/ insert a trait)
this trait and person will just be “X”. im keeping it open so you can insert something you can relate to. now you’re at this party and your date tells you there’s another person, “Y”, there that slept with someone that she too “regrettably” slept with once - someone person “Y” brings up a lot. for some reason its important that you get along with “Y”. so you’re talking to “Y” and everything is cool on your end except “Y” cant stop talking about what a slut she is. “Y" is a very successful agent, a business partner of the hosts. she felt a need to tell everyone how fucked three guys last weekend, a cuban, a black dude and the random doorman, how she’s had crabs twice and more or less wanting to shock everyone with her whorietude. not too impressive, but she goes along to tell everyone that she couldn’t walk on sunday from being fucked so hard, blah blah.
so then she tells the story of how she saw some guy she fucked in town walking around with an <insert trait X> girl and how she thought it was so hillarious, what a blankety-blank-blank he is to be with “X” girl… an incredibly biased statement to begin with. i felt it was at least a little insensitive to X girl and at most passive aggressive that Y would say something like that, and that it was not without purpose that she brought it up.
now of course X girl says that i’m jumping to conclusions, being too sensitive and that somehow my interpretation is some sort of revealing of how i really feel about her. i think that how i feel is in defense of her and, in a way, my dignity but its not like i’d lose any sleep over it, not something i need to hold on to. its just kind of sad for someone to allow themselves to be the butt of a joke like that and a real turn off to know that at most X girl would allow it and at least not be aware of it. if someone said to me, “oh my god! this girl I know went out with a latino guy, ewww!’ i just couldn’t laugh along without at least throwing some sort of jab back and, perhaps, then laughing… but probably more at my own response. its not like id get in a fight over it, but id throw back exactly what i received in a case like that.
since i was supposed to behave around this person, my response was just a puzzled look with a half smile. i sort of think X girl knows what’s going on but wants approval from this group so she lets it go.
does this all make any sense? what do you think? it’s a turn off and im not really interested in someone like that anymore. am i wrong?