friends

[beastieangel01]

I was thinking lately on how my friends are very geniune, kind people. In a jam they would be there for you no questions asked. They are also very fun to be around, to go out with for drinks or dancing and all that.

However, I don't feel challenged by them. Maybe that isn't the right way to say it. I don't know. Like I said they are geniune people, and I am not trying to be insulting, but they also seem to be the kind that aren't moving forward in life.

And so although I do care about them and do want to spend time with them here and there, I feel like I need to find new friends or other people that do challenge me or are going after goals in life too, or something.

I'm not sure what my point is. Does this make any sense at all?

[mickill]

FIRST!

[beastieangel01]

FIRST!

I hate you.

I hate you so much :p

[mickill]

;)

I don't like making new friends. I prefer perfecting my present friendships. Like, if I can't make enough time for my current friends, I shouldn't be trying to cop a few more. That's the way I see it.

[b i o n i c]

it makes sense and it happens all the time. ive had a group of friends since i was a kid, but feel like i outgrew their interests... like you say - they've stayed the same and i've changed. while i still value them and would never let them go, i have branched out and dont feel guilty about it. i think that as much as i am aware of the gap, so are my friends, they must understand..

[The Notorious LOL]

I had a three hour long conversation with one of my closest friends from high school last night. Hes unemployed and lives in his dead uncles house which he is fixing up. It was kind of depressing because it doesnt sound like he has anything going on, nor is he interested in finding something.

[Tone Capone]

You know, I feel like that with a lot of my friends I see when I go back home on leave. The ones that are doing good or headed in the right direction have already left town (like me :)). The ones that are kinda not really doing anything (or worse) don't really stimulate me like they used to. I mean, with some of my old friends still have the same mentality they did when I left 9 years ago and I want to ask them "Don't you want more? You realize that you are closer to 30 than 18 right?" but what can you do?

[Loppfessor]

How many of us have them???

[Tone Capone]

How many of us have them???

Do you mean ones you can depend on?

[yooooo]

How many of us have them???

fuck i wanted to do that...


Do you mean ones you can depend on?
:mad:

[skra75]

I hear what you're saying. My old friends from Home are the same way. Alot of my friends from work are this way as well.

Taking a step away from them was smart for me, as I was able to take risks and move ahead and try different stuff. Sometimes I look at those guys now and some of them appear to be trapped in the 90's (mentally), kind of like those guys in the 80's that were trapped in the 70's (does that make sense?)

Still, those fuckers are my pals, and I visit them and it's always a good time. I find I'm happier when I have a group of buddies to fall back on though. But I'm a no-bullshit less-is-more cheap-bastard kind of guy. I stick my head out, experience crazy shit, but I like my stable base to fall back on. I'm kind of conservative in that regard.

[SobaViolence]

i find that there are degrees of friends (which is pretty obvious) but i tend to see it that we are all on our own path(sound like a hippy) and i have not always the most productive, goal-oriented, 'going-somewhere' kinda guy. shit, i barely now where i'm going and i'm ON the right track.

but i have been blessed with three amazing friends, who are brothers to me, and all have gone through changes and challenges, but we always come back home and it still just clicks.

sometimes you just need a drinking buddy, sometimes someone in the same boat; someone to have amazing conversations with and sometimes someone just to listen to or listen to you.

[Loppfessor]

Do you mean ones you can depend on?


yeah like the kind that still have a box of your shit from Korea and it's been over two years since you seen it...

[QueenAdrock]

Yeah...I think maybe you'll naturally find more friends who share the same goals and interests and others will be phased out...it's sad to say, but true.

I've been best friends with about 6 of my girlfriends since I was 5 years old. We went to the same schools, graduated together, all live near each other, and we're extremely lucky for that. Most people have falling outs or move away or have different interests and grow apart. I'm really lucky that they have the same outlook and goals as I do and we all have the same hobbies and interests.

I've started to grow apart from friends who are just unmotivated and don't care and it's just like we're in different places and can't connect really. Not like I meant it to be that way, it's just happened.

[bigblu89]

Except for the guys that are married to my wife's friends, most of my guy-friends are still living the single guy life.

Yet we're still as close as we've ever been.

If you think changing your friends is going to motivate you to build on your life, then you have a pretty low sense of self-confidence.

[Tone Capone]

yeah like the kind that still have a box of your shit from Korea and it's been over two years since you seen it...

YEAH or the ones that skip town without saying goodbye:(

[Loppfessor]

When the crap did I do that??!!

[Tone Capone]

When the crap did I do that??!!

A few weeks ago :( :(