Don't laugh at me.

[TOY]

I'm inexperienced with proper office etiquette... I'm only 19. I should be at school.


I've mentioned this girl before. She's real opinionated. And fat. And has a lot of acne. And listens to Cambridge and Cambodia. Anyway, I think there's a jealousy issue, but I don't want to sound vain. I'm usually the one who gets jealous.

She trained me for a bit, and my understanding was that when being trained, it's best to ASK questions. I would ask, she'd get easily frustrated, and then I'd go along doing everything wrong. "WAWAWA, WHY ARE YOU DOING THAT?" Um, because, you never taught me the right way?

Today I had my headphones on for most of my shift. The batteries died. So I just sat at my desk, headphones still in ears, waiting for a little juice when all of the sudden bitch-face creeps over to my cubemate and starts talking. I wasn't TRYING to listen-in until I heard this girl mention my name. Oh no :( There's only one Sarah in our department, and that's me. Now it's my business to listen...

"What the fuck is up with that Sarah girl?"

"I dunno, man. She just doesn't get it. And talking to her is like talking to someone with down syndrome."

(some lolz here)

"I think she's slow."


I need a tearoticon here.


The only time this girl and I ever spoke for her to discern that I am "slow" was during training. And that went to shit quick when she made fun of me for listening to The Clash/labeling me as a "mall punk" (oh, but let's not call the kettle black here -- 'cause My Chemical Anus are by no means "mall punk" :rolleyes: ). I bit my tongue, though! HARD! p0df9gpdugodfgj


I don't know how to ask what her problem is without losing my job, because, I LIKE MY JOB! She has two years on me, and I've less than 2 months.


I like Gwen's new single.

[cosmo105]

it always sucks to hear people talking shit about you. boo. just do your job as well as you can, and make an effort to impress the people above her. not necessarily her. besides, she sucks anyway.

[b i o n i c]

tell her that you dont always keep your headphones on to listen to music, but sometimes to just not be disturbed by office mates when there's actually nothing playing on them. she might put two and two together and realize that you heard her that other time, and she might then try to compensate by being nice to you?

[HotAndWet]

ehh she sounds like a cunt, just laugh at her and her acne! (y)

[TurdBerglar]

fat cunts suck

[Kerrbear]

At work, it's not about who started first but who sticks around longest. Once someone leaves, you can tall all kinds of smack about them and they won't be there to contradict it.

[Loppfessor]

Here are a few helpful ways to get her back...

- stand in the break room and laugh loudly with a group of people then every time she walks in go "Ssshhh, her she comes" then give her a cheerful "Hey! How ya doing Crater Face?? (don't actually use the term "crater face" use her real name")

- when it's someone's b-day and they do the cake thing every time she goes to take a bite say something like "I wish I could eat non-stop like you, but I'm too scared I'd get fat"

- staple her post its together

Umm that's all I got off the top of my head....I'll think of more later

[Kid Presentable]

Push her out a window.

[Loppfessor]

^Good call then laugh hysterically and say "Got ya!!"

[Kid Presentable]

^Good call then laugh hysterically and say "Got ya!!"
Just steal her car.

[na§tee]

workplace bullying is not fun and should always be called out.
speak to your most senior boss and tell him/her that these sort of comments are affecting your ability to do your job in a work-conducive environment.
if you allow yourself to be bullied without sticking up for yourself you will turn into one of these 30 somethings who break down at the first sign of crisis and fake illness to get days off work. do it.

[Loppfessor]

workplace bullying is not fun and should always be called out.
speak to your most senior boss and tell him/her that these sort of comments are affecting your ability to do your job in a work-conducive environment.
if you allow yourself to be bullied without sticking up for yourself you will turn into one of these 30 somethings who break down at the first sign of crisis and fake illness to get days off work. do it.

What? That’s the worst thing she could do. No one respects a taddle tell. She needs to get medieval on this bitch…

[zorra_chiflada]

- when it's someone's b-day and they do the cake thing every time she goes to take a bite say something like "I wish I could eat non-stop like you, but I'm too scared I'd get fat"



hahaaaaaaaa that one rules!

[Kerrbear]

What? That’s the worst thing she could do. No one respects a taddle tell. She needs to get medieval on this bitch…
I have to agree. I'm a manager for a very large department, and the last thing I want to hear is someone coming to me saying, "She's being mean to me." If it's a sexual harrassment situation or similar, by all means, but not just petty interpersonal stuff. Seriously, just do your best work and wait her out. She's just being insecure and jealous, and it'll get old.

[na§tee]

oh, come on.
the office environment is for work and not for schoolground bitching. if she wants to bitch, she should do it in her own spare time and if not, certainly not around other the person she is referring to and encouraging other staff members to get involved. it produces a hostile and totally unacceptable place that someone has to work in.
it's exactly that sort of attitude - "oh i'll be labelled a taddle tell!" - which has bred a generation of workers who are more than happy to be walked on and abused at work.

[wanton wench]

one drop of visine in her coffee will put a smile on your face all day. this way there is no bitching no being a bully no telling on someone. only you will know :D

[Kerrbear]

Of course this other woman is completely out of line. But you will be facing people who don't like you and who talk behind your back all your life. If you go running to a manager every time, you'll never get anywhere. You need to develop thicker skin and have the last laugh by being a good worker who sticks it out and makes a name for yourself.

[Loppfessor]

oh, come on.
the office environment is for work and not for schoolground bitching. if she wants to bitch, she should do it in her own spare time and if not, certainly not around other the person she is referring to and encouraging other staff members to get involved. it produces a hostile and totally unacceptable place that someone has to work in.
it's exactly that sort of attitude - "oh i'll be labelled a taddle tell!" - which has bred a generation of workers who are more than happy to be walked on and abused at work.

See that’s just the point you’re missing. I’m not saying she should do nothing and let this girl walk all over her. I’m saying she should be an adult about it and confront the person or if she does feel so inclined to tell someone then go to her direct supervisor. Problems should always be handled at the lowest level possible. Going to her “most senior boss” is highly inappropriate at this point. If I were him/her the first question out of my mouth would be “Have you talked to your supervisor about this?” and possibly “Well have you discussed this with her?” running to the boss every time someone looks at you funny shows no backbone.

[abcdefz]

oh, come on.
the office environment is for work and not for schoolground bitching. if she wants to bitch, she should do it in her own spare time and if not, certainly not around other the person she is referring to and encouraging other staff members to get involved. it produces a hostile and totally unacceptable place that someone has to work in.
it's exactly that sort of attitude - "oh i'll be labelled a taddle tell!" - which has bred a generation of workers who are more than happy to be walked on and abused at work.


Nah.

I'd say "Develop tougher skin."

Either blow it off or go directly to the person and say "I heard you saying you have a problem with me. What do we do to resolve it?"

-- and MEAN IT; don't just be trying to pick a fight. Maybe the person has a valid point, maybe not, but create an above-board opening for discussion.

Be direct and, ahem, ADULT in your dealings and you carry no shame, no guilt, and no blame.

[na§tee]

OF COURSE I MEANT THAT SHE SHOULD TALK TO THE BLOODY GIRL DIRECTLY FIRST, BUT AS IT SEEMS SHE IS CLEARLY A WOMAN OF LOW MORAL STANDARDS AND REASONING POWER, IF THIS DOESN'T WORK AND SHE CONTINUES SHE SHOULD REPORT IT TO A SENIOR PERSON.

jesus.

[Loppfessor]

^Are you going to report us to the mods now??!! :D

[abcdefz]

OF COURSE I MEANT THAT SHE SHOULD TALK TO THE BLOODY GIRL DIRECTLY FIRST, BUT AS IT SEEMS SHE IS CLEARLY A WOMAN OF LOW MORAL STANDARDS AND REASONING POWER, IF THIS DOESN'T WORK AND SHE CONTINUES SHE SHOULD REPORT IT TO A SENIOR PERSON.

jesus.



I didn't see where you said that. Sorry.


Would you like to discuss this? :D

[na§tee]

well i fucking ASSUMED that was obvious - don't come with your sarcastic little "oh sorry miss na§tee i didn't see that written in that there post oh sorry!" commentary mistah a-z, seriously! imma have to come over there are stuff your sarcastic wee american mouth with laced haggis and super flammable scotch whisky EHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEH!

an old man just groped me. :mad:

[na§tee]

that was a joke, btw, people.
the a-z raping, not the groping.

[beastiegirrl101]

do you mean Coheed and Cambria?

[Loppfessor]

imma have to come over there are stuff your sarcastic wee american mouth with laced haggis and super flammable scotch whisky EHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEH!




"Haggis" lol...that word always makes me giggle. Also I hear you in a Fat Bastaresque accent in my head

[abcdefz]

well i fucking ASSUMED that was obvious - don't come with your sarcastic little "oh sorry miss na§tee i didn't see that written in that there post oh sorry!" commentary mistah a-z, seriously! imma have to come over there are stuff your sarcastic wee american mouth with laced haggis and super flammable scotch whisky EHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEH!

an old man just groped me. :mad:



Sorry; I forgot you're female. I should've read your mind. Mea cupla. :)

[Echewta]

I'd have a chat with my manager about it. This is a work place. Very unprofessional.

[hellojello]

man you sound like the new girl who's 19 and doin my job for the rest of the time i'm not there which is most of the time since I declined the fulltime employment.
But I was really helpful to her when I was working with her (I think I hope) although I ended up just saying hey do u mind if I finish this stuff off because its gotta go out today and it was getting late in the avro and she was taking forever. Since she's been working there about a month now I've been forced to do like 3 hours of unpaid overtime a week because I dont have any time to do my own work because I spend most of it fixing her mistakes.
she saved over all the master letters goddamit!
sure i've been there nearly a year and she'd been there a month now and still making silly mistakes like not putting appointments in the appointment book. i didn't get training either. I started and then the next day the girl who was doing my job left and i was thrown in the deep end. This chick i'm talking about has had more training than me already since she got a few days with the former part-timer and a few days with me and everythings written down step by step anyways in the bible .
I hope i dont come across like that :(
and i've never called her a retard. or anything else.
that's just unnecessary and unhelpful.
keep at it the longer you're at it the more (whatever you're doing) will be like a second nature to you. im sure your completely capable otherwise you wouldn't have got the job. It just takes a bit of time to get your head around specific office procedures...an office politics unfortuantly (n)
the chick i work with only got the job cause she's the directors daughter and they were desperate.

[The Notorious LOL]

undermine her. Im an expert at making people feel like complete fucking morons without lowering myself to the level of shouting. Purposely get in more conversations with her and when she says something stupid, point it out.

Some guy at my job that I cant stand always rants about nothing and he was talking about how Porsches have these "wacky" warranties where only a Porsche dealer can fix it otherwise the warranty is voided and I paused and looked at him and said "you mean like every warranty on the planet, Chris?" and he paused..said nothing, and walked away.

[skra75]

hahhahahahhahaahah

[P of R]

Piss in her coffee.

[Nivvie]

The problem with most jobs is there's always gonna be some idiot, some bitch some something.

If it's not her, it'll be someone else, and often the best thing you can do is just either ignore of let these people wash over you. The people you work with don't have to be your friends, it's great is they are, but if they're not, who really cares?

If someone gets you in trouble, sabotages your efforts, etc, or really bullies you to the point of you either thinking of leaving or being depressed, then report it.

But just not liking someone, and them not liking you, is pretty much normal.
Pretty much everyone gets gossiped about at some point.

[ms.peachy]

I'd say this isn't just petty interpersonal stuff. its affecting the way sarah is being trained because of the person training her's lack of patience and being an all around bitch.

if anything I'd go to a manager and explain that you don't feel you're getting the proper training because she gets pissed when you ask questions.
I agree with this. It's not about running to the manager and saying "That girl's being so mean to me and stuff!" She absolutely should be able to go up the chain of command and say "I do not feel I have been adequately trained, and my supervisor is not creating an atmosphere where I feel I can ask questions about what I am meant to be doing."

[Kerrbear]

One of my coworkers, our Events Manager, is...not my favorite person. She's tall, thin, blonde, and gorgeous, and she is clearly used to getting her own way, even when she's wrong or doesn't have a clue what she's talking about. This weekend was a huge event for us, and I saw her taking a break to eat a bagel. She left a huge blob of cream cheese on her cheek, and I opened my mouth to say something, and then just shut it again and let her go. It made my whole day.

[Loppfessor]

^ I got news for ya...that wasn't cream cheese. How the heck do you think she always gets her way?