people are flakes

[Mr Films]

and I guess I'm just not.

so, a month and a half ago, I bought tickets to the Secret Machines concert in Dallas. I'm in Austin- 3 hours away. I asked this good friend of mine if she wanted to go and she was down. I told her not to worry about the ticket cost cuz I'd invited her. However, a few weeks later she bought me a ticket to see Jamie Lidell here in town the night before- which is now tomorrow. the Secret Machines takes place on Friday.

So all were merry. Last week she had to go on a short business trip to Vegas and she'd be back over the weekend.

WELL, FUCKING TODAY she text messages me saying she "can't" make either concert due to being tired from traveling. Keep in mind she's been back from Vegas for 3 days. Apparently, people today need the same amount of time they were on vacation to re-couperate from vacation. Whatever.

What pisses me off are the following: It took an act of fucking congress to get these days off work. Which is why this had to be planned a month and a half ago. Let's remember, that's how long ago I asked if she wanted to go.

Also, I've been trying to see the Secret Machines for years. It'd be no big deal if the show were in town but since it's 3 hours away and this fucking Friday, no one can just drop their day and go. I suppose I could go alone but that seems lame to me.

Then there's the fucking text message bullshit. Is it really that hard to pick a fucking phone and tell me this? As much as I love myspace and such, the whole thing has really given birth to this "friendship" with zero contact movement.

Speaking of, hours later she texts me with "wait, I can go to Lidell after all!"

So, assuming you read this, my question is...am I out of line to be like "fuck you, I don't want to go to Lidell"?

And yeah, I am aware of how childish the whole thing is. I just rarely get time off and was looking forward to this.

[jabumbo]

i really feel for you man, i have the same kind of shit happen to me all the time...


thats why i never buy tickets in advance for shit anymore

[Drederick Tatum]

you should definitely ditch her. send out a signal. you will not be fucked with. play video games instead.

[ms.peachy]

If you don't want to perpetuate the childishness of the whole thing, then you have to act like an adult. Pick up the phone and call her and tell her, in a calm and rational way, that you would love to still go to the concert, but that you feel like she is jerking you around a bit. Point out that these plans were made a long time ago, you went to a good deal of trouble to arrange the time off and the travel, and that you're disappointed that she thought it was acceptable to blow you off with a text message, and not speak to you directly, and then just as capriciously change her mind an hour later. If she values your friendship, she'll get it, apologise, and then you two can go and have a lovely time. If not, then that's unfortunate but at least you know she's not someone you need to waste time on in the future.

[Ally Al]

i wouldn't miss lidell, apparently he puts on a good show, cutting, nose, face and all that business

[Loppfessor]

How far is Dallas from Shreveport? I'll be your date...but nooo funny business. Oh and how freakin tired could she be from coming home from Vegas? It's like an hour time difference right?

[Mr Films]

it's obvious she just doesn't feel like driving there and then driving back. so, I get the whole

"ugggh, I'm so tired I just don't want to do anything ever again."

*5 seconds pass*

"but hey, let's still go see that show in town with my friends."

[HEIRESS]

Id go with you, but I got tickets to see sloan in a town 2.5 hours away tonight!

[Mr Films]

Id go with you

liar. you're just saying that cuz you can't!

[Lo_Lyfe]

and I guess I'm just not.

so, a month and a half ago, I bought tickets to the Secret Machines concert in Dallas. I'm in Austin- 3 hours away. I asked this good friend of mine if she wanted to go and she was down. I told her not to worry about the ticket cost cuz I'd invited her. However, a few weeks later she bought me a ticket to see Jamie Lidell here in town the night before- which is now tomorrow. the Secret Machines takes place on Friday.

So all were merry. Last week she had to go on a short business trip to Vegas and she'd be back over the weekend.

WELL, FUCKING TODAY she text messages me saying she "can't" make either concert due to being tired from traveling. Keep in mind she's been back from Vegas for 3 days. Apparently, people today need the same amount of time they were on vacation to re-couperate from vacation. Whatever.

What pisses me off are the following: It took an act of fucking congress to get these days off work. Which is why this had to be planned a month and a half ago. Let's remember, that's how long ago I asked if she wanted to go.

Also, I've been trying to see the Secret Machines for years. It'd be no big deal if the show were in town but since it's 3 hours away and this fucking Friday, no one can just drop their day and go. I suppose I could go alone but that seems lame to me.

Then there's the fucking text message bullshit. Is it really that hard to pick a fucking phone and tell me this? As much as I love myspace and such, the whole thing has really given birth to this "friendship" with zero contact movement.

Speaking of, hours later she texts me with "wait, I can go to Lidell after all!"

So, assuming you read this, my question is...am I out of line to be like "fuck you, I don't want to go to Lidell"?

And yeah, I am aware of how childish the whole thing is. I just rarely get time off and was looking forward to this.
yo she probly got a coke problem

[Loppfessor]

Hey I really would go cept I never heard of that band (big surprise) and I have never driven to Dallas before, aaand I'd hafta talk my boss into letting me take tomorrow off

[abcdefz]

If you don't want to perpetuate the childishness of the whole thing, then you have to act like an adult. Pick up the phone and call her and tell her, in a calm and rational way, that you would love to still go to the concert, but that you feel like she is jerking you around a bit. Point out that these plans were made a long time ago, you went to a good deal of trouble to arrange the time off and the travel, and that you're disappointed that she thought it was acceptable to blow you off with a text message, and not speak to you directly, and then just as capriciously change her mind an hour later. If she values your friendship, she'll get it, apologise, and then you two can go and have a lovely time. If not, then that's unfortunate but at least you know she's not someone you need to waste time on in the future.


I'm about 90% on this, except I'm less forgiving. I'd probably say these things as a preface for why I'm trying to find someone else to go with or just taking the bus and going alone.

What it sounds like is that old Marcia Brady "Something suddenly came up...!" thing that I find pretty inexcusable when it's done behind the back. If all this were going on and the woman called me and said "I know we had plans, but would you forgive me for backing out? I got a date with Jason Schwartman allasudden, and..." and I'd probably be disappointed as hell, but at least the girl was straight up about it.

I don't think friends should treat each other like Seinfeld characters; that's not so much to ask. And I think there's a certain amount of lack of self-respect for the people who allow it.

[beastieangel01]

pretty much was peachy and a-z said.