I think I have some serious issues of some kind

[beastieangel01]

And no, this is not fishing. I just get serious anxiety and I really wish it would stop happening.

As of late, there have been men, very good looking men, that talk to me. And I don't mean "hey buddy" kind of talking, I mean they are interested in me.

It's not that I mind, but their level of attractiveness makes me kind of uneasy. Around them I'm okay because I force myself not to think about it, but after I find myself thinking "why the hell are they talking to me I am not in the same league." Even if they are cool as shit and we have a lot in common, their physical attractiveness is high enough where I'm like "uh, hey this guy is talking to me? weird..." AND because they are cool AND attractive I get even more "uuuuh."

Then I tell myself to shut up because even if I'm not in their league, I'm happy that they are even bothering. After that though, I end up with that uneasy, nervous feeling and feel some dislike toward the fact that they do talk to me BECAUSE I end up nervous and unseasy.

But I mean, I get REALLY uneasy. Like my stomach starts to hurt when I think about it.

I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice, help, or if anyone else gets this way. But yeah. Whatever. I feel mildly retarded for sharing this but I had to get it out. I don't know what's wrong with me.

[HEIRESS]

drink more!

[The Notorious LOL]

make them buy you shit. I have a friend who pulls that all the time. She got me and her drunk at a bar once off some dude buying us drinks thinking she would probably go home with dude but then we left full of beer.

[beastieangel01]

drink more!

when I drink, I feel a lot more weirded out about this then I do normally. Unfortunately. Haha.

and NLOL, I can afford my own stuff. I just want to be able to not think like a crazy person in regards to males.

[The Notorious LOL]

being able to afford your own stuff isnt the issue. If I was a girl I would so take advantage of the whole male mentality of "buying her heart" but then again Im a much bigger prick than you.


Yeah, I know what you mean though. A compliment from someone you consider to be above you makes you question its sincerity at times.

Also its probably happened in the past but you werent as perceptive about it because you were in a relationship and your focus was on that

[cosmo105]

i only get compliments from gross old dudes i'm ringing up. "have you always been that pretty?" "well sir, you should have seen me before the accident..." :rolleyes:

[monkey]

i realize youre not fishing, but the reason these hot guys are coming onto you is cause you're really hot too. and everyone has issues and everyone thinks they arent hot enough, but really, any of those hot guys would flip backwards to have a chance with you. to them, you're probably out of their league.

[The Notorious LOL]

^ which turns into both parties wondering what the hell is wrong with them and walking away empty handed thinking they arent good enough but in reality both of them thought the other was ideal. RELATIONSHIPS LOL

[beastieangel01]

^ which turns into both parties wondering what the hell is wrong with them and walking away empty handed thinking they arent good enough but in reality both of them thought the other was ideal. RELATIONSHIPS LOL

IKR! LOL!

yeah. I'm sure I'll stop freaking out so much about it at some point I just dislike the anxiety it brings at the moment. Also I haven't been single since I was 16 so... it's new. I guess.

[dirtgirl]

Before you go out at night, and before you leave your house in the morning look in the mirror. Tell yourself that you are a beautiful, amazing, fun, etc. (insert cool personality adjective here). I find that taking deep breaths and taking my mind to a pleasant experince helps too. Enjoy being single, it's likely not going to last very long. :D

[Loppfessor]

GET CONFIDENT STUPID!!!

[HOTWIFE]

just imagine you're talking to a close friend and you'll talk more naturally and won't be so nervous

[beastieangel01]

GET CONFIDENT STUPID!!!

OH THANKS THAT HELPS.

dirtgirl, yeah, I think doing something like that should help. HW, I am fine when I'm around them, relatively. It's after that I'm all "lolomgwtf" etc.

I'm working on it.

[Randetica]

i want your problems :(

[Bob]

what is it with everyone being neurotic these days

i blame myself for getting the ball rolling

edit: happy 8000th post

[Dorothy Wood]

I like to tell myself in the mirror, "hells yeah, you are the awesomest, HOT HOT HOT HOT, AYE AYE AYEEEEE!" every morning.

I generally try to be the better-looking one when searching for a mate though. the last hot guy I tried to go for was kind of intimidating, because he's like the most handsome kid I've ever seen and I'd probably be constantly second-guessing myself if we'd ever gotten together. but his handsomeness also blinded me a bit because I overlooked a lot of completely nutty behavior on his part, just because I thought he was sex on a stick.

[tracky]

I think it's time I told you this ba01. You and you alone are the only reason I hung around this board. Somewhere in my deluded mind I thought, maybe, just maybe.... It's ok I'm over it now, have been for years. I still think you're the hottest, but I've come to accept the fact that I was crazy to even think I had some kind of chance.

If anyone's out of anyone's league it's you (!)

[backwoods]

I can relate. I think it's because I was/am a big fucking nerd. a girl just hit on me today, she was cute too, complimented my vest LOL. I don't take compliments well I think. I constantly second guess myself with girls, even people in general. Thus, I'm comfortable surrounding myself with other nerds, nerds are more fun anyways. Yeah being newly single after a relationship as long as mine is part of it too I guess.

Thus, my hermit lifestyle at the present!

[ET]

Not giving a fuck is a good option. If it's not sincere then so what? You're not dumb enough to bonk a guy if he gives you a compliment. Unless that's what you want then go for it. Just play like it's sincere and if it is then shit should work out. You'll loosen up in time.


That was not a pun. :mad:

[beastieangel01]

ahahaha ET!

neurotic, I'm not neurotic! psh!
Actually I was going to mention that it's a pretty good indication that all of us here have something going on considering the frequency of our posts how long we've been posting here.

tracky, you are really far too kind. I'm a nerd. Maybe that's just it though, I've always been a kind of awkward nerd and maybe I grew out of it, maybe on the surface anyway, and never realized it. I used to get rejected like crazy back in the day.

Anyways. Yeah. I'm hungover now and I think I will be done with this issue, because I say so. Issue be gone. poof.