Moving out dilemma…

[TonsOfFun]

I know I don’t post here often apart from to bitch and whine and find out answers to questions I can’t myself, plus I’m anonymous here as I don’t wanna consult mates on this; but what would you do in this situation:

I’ve got a place to move out into; its where I wanna be in a decent location. To cut a long story short my Dad has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Probably around 6 months to live we have been told. Obviously this is shit and after his brain tumour it’s the worst possible news we could get. Before the terminal part I talked to my parents about the bad timing of this but since getting a job etc it was the first thing I did and they told me not to change my plans. Now, things are slightly different because there will be major money issues soon. But how hard is it gonna be to then move out when the worst has happened… I can only imagine close to impossible.

I feel awful because of the bad timing of this but another part of me thinks, just carry on with plans and react to situations when they happen. I know if I talk to them about this again I’ll get the same of don’t change plans for them. There is also the hope that some Terminal Cancer patients live for years after the doctors say so many months… So I dunno, what would Brian Botono do? Or you for that matter?

[hellojello]

Yeah I see it's a big dillema for you t.o.f.
I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad.
I guess there's a few things to think of. How far away will you be moving? Will still be able to spend the precious time with your Dad?

But then there's that old philosophy, you can't help others until you help yourself. So if staying will be detrimental to you, it might be detrimental to everyone in the end.

So yeah, I totally suck at this advice thing.

[mp-seventythree]

Adam, so sorry to read your news. I know it's a really tough decision to have to make, but maybe moving out now would be a good move. You can still visit your dad all the time, and if you did stay at home it might be more difficult to move out later.

I'm sure your dad would be happy that you're not standing still just for his sake. You could always ask him what he would do in your position.

I think this is just a case of really shitty timing. If you were planning on moving out anyway, I would personally keep to your plans.
But that's just my two pence worth.

[TonsOfFun]

To be honest you two have just said what I think would be best. I'm not moving far away, I'll still be there all the time. A big issue is money but I'd rather just use the credit facility I have to make things go along fine until a routine is in order.