In actual life I have no friends.

[Kid Presentable]

It's been a funny little experiment. Maybe it was never an experiment. I had my Bucks night this weekend. And my 5 guests invited more friends individually than I did altogether. But I don't mind. Actually, I do. It used to be fun not having to define myself by a group of other people, but I kinda feel bad now.

My best man is a dude I used to work with, five years ago. He's money, but it's been hard to maintain that tie, you know? Haha, even my relatives didn't show up. Little wonder I enjoyed the stripclub so.

I'm not complaining. But you can assume that if you have no friends, you aren't one of the better people you know.

Since about 2000, I have moved through only groups of peripheral people, who I've socialised with on occasion at most. My first bad life choice is finally making itself apparent.

[Kid Presentable]

Fucking hell I feel like death.

[jabumbo]

i think most of the people i know are more like acquantances than real friends

[fucktopgirl]

My first bad life choice is finally making itself apparent.


I am curious to know what it is?

I dont think there is bad choices but choices and dilemmas, i mean if you have regrets about how you handle your life, that is just pure fucking poison. You are not defined by what surrounding you but YOU defined your surrounding. Does that make sense? Maybe not ...It is not the quantity of friends that count but the quality(i know cliche but really true).

All i am saying is to be down for little petty shit like that.

[Loppfessor]

What is a "bucks night"? Is that like Dude's night out!!....

[na§tee]

aw this made me go :(

don't worry. you're not alone.

i'm sure you can make bucket loads of friends if you wanted to but it is an effort that many people don't want to go to. some people don't even have to make an "effort", it just sorta.. happens. don't worry. it will! you should go on a date with lopp :cool:

[Kid Presentable]

What is a "bucks night"? Is that like Dude's night out!!....
Pre-wedding stag night thing. Like being at your own funeral, in many ways.

I think the choice was trying to keep my distance from people. It's surprising that it is having an effect after all this time. My pops died a hermit.

[Loppfessor]

you should go on a date with lopp :cool:

;) Yooohooo!

[Kid Presentable]

;) Yooohooo!
I would ask questions about what happened, even though I was there.

[Freebasser]

Shame.

[Loppfessor]

I would ask questions about what happened, even though I was there.


LOL good call...although your fascination with my "life" has always made me feel good inside.

[Kid Presentable]

I'm a cunt, that's why.

[Loppfessor]

^yeah but even when you're making fun of me you do it in such a hilarious way that I can't help but laugh

[Kid Presentable]

^yeah but even when you're making fun of me you do it in such a hilarious way that I can't help but laugh
When was the last time you made a woman laugh?

[Loppfessor]

Just a couple of minutes ago...I was on the phone with a lady friend I dated back in Germany. In fact she said "Aww I love talking to you cus I always laugh when I do"

so take that smartie pants!

[Kid Presentable]

Just a couple of minutes ago...I was on the phone with a lady friend I dated back in Germany. In fact she said "Aww I love talking to you cus I always laugh when I do"

so take that smartie pants!
Did you get sex from her?

[Loppfessor]

Did you get sex from her?

Yes a lot...back when we were still in the same country. What does any of this have to do with your lack of friends?

[Kid Presentable]

I am curious to know what it is?

I dont think there is bad choices but choices and dilemmas, i mean if you have regrets about how you handle your life, that is just pure fucking poison. You are not defined by what surrounding you but YOU defined your surrounding. Does that make sense? Maybe not ...It is not the quantity of friends that count but the quality(i know cliche but really true).

All i am saying is to be down for little petty shit like that.
When the surroundings make you feel bad it's a problem. Either way they're defined.

[Kid Presentable]

Yes a lot...back when we were still in the same country. What does any of this have to do with your lack of friends?
Did you see other girls at the same time? Or did you go steady?

[Loppfessor]

Did you see other girls at the same time? Or did you go steady?


Well we never really had "the talk" about not seeing anyone else...never really had time. We only knew each other about a month and then it was time for me to come back to the good ole U S of A

[Kid Presentable]

Well we never really had "the talk" about not seeing anyone else...never really had time. We only knew each other about a month and then it was time for me to come back to the good ole U S of A
Cool. What are you up to today?

[Loppfessor]

Working....well at work anyway posting here. I'm bout to go to lunch in a minute. This dude says there's a burger place with burgers the size of my head so Ima check it out.

[Dorothy Wood]

I haven't been going out much at all lately, so with the halloween festivities, I've been seeing the old crew. at a party on saturday, one of my friends said, "I miss you so much, I really do, I love you" and that felt pretty great, because he's one of my favorite friends.

otherwise, I feel like a lot of my "friends" are people that just squeal and say, "how ARE you?! I love your outfit!". I have maybe 5 or 6 good friends, the rest are just kinda people I know. and people rarely call me. some of them do stuff like play tennis and horseshoes on the weekend, but I'm alway working.

I wouldn't worry about it. people get busy doing stuff when they get older and I think it's pretty hard to maintain friendships sometimes because people are always changing. you've got a lady though, so you've got a close companion to guide you through your days.

[fucktopgirl]

When the surroundings make you feel bad it's a problem. Either way they're defined.


Indeed , they are cirscomstances were we just dont fit in, so it is normal to feel uncomfortable and therefore that mean that thoses people(because we talk about friendship) might not be worthy of our time and energy.



I also think that the definition of ourselves depend on the perception we got on things and what going in our life. Everything is so subjective and in relation with our state of mind and emotions that it is really hard to dissect the subject in a way that it is really black and white. It is true that we are interacting with our environnement/friends so therefore an alchemy happen and exchange thus we have the illusion of who we are in this
and what our role is. A Social interpretation of us is vehiculated. It is our true self or mainly a projection of how others perceive our being/saying?

It all a trick of the mind, we are being in constant motion and swimming in the flow, nothing is fixed, everything changed(if you are a flexible person) you are defined by what you want to be defined and you let yourself be attain/cast by what you decided too at one extent.

So yea , your interactions might put a blurry definition on yourself but nonetheless you always are the one who can accept this definition or search for a better one.

Nothing can defined us if we choose not too.

Really nothing make sense...

[Loppfessor]

OH GOD!! That burger was huge....I need a nap and possibly a stomach pump

[hitmonlee]

at least you have a fiancee :) do you guys have other "couple" friends?


i will soon be friendless.
my best friend is moving overseas next year

i have other friends, but i don't really hang out with them, they are more like... "people i was friends with in high school and now don't have much in common with and don't really want to hang with them and their new friends"

its pretty fucking depressing when you think about it hey?

[Kid Presentable]

at least you have a fiancee :) do you guys have other "couple" friends?


i will soon be friendless.
my best friend is moving overseas next year

i have other friends, but i don't really hang out with them, they are more like... "people i was friends with in high school and now don't have much in common with and don't really want to hang with them and their new friends"

its pretty fucking depressing when you think about it hey?
Makes me want to smoke some weed and lose my job and shit. Yeah, I have my lovely lady. But other couples shit me to tears. I always think they want to partner-swap.

[hitmonlee]

lol... classic

[Kid Presentable]

There's one couple who always divide and conquer us at get-togethers. And the wife goes on and on about how hot my fiancee's breasts are. They're pretty much card-carrying spouse-fuckers.

[TimDoolan]

Hey kid, I can sympathize. In High School I was a very social person, but alot of crazy shit went down in college which made me very anti-social, to the point of hermitism. I was making friends slowly but lately I've been pulling back and not hanging out with them. I suppose I worry about what people think of me, how I presesent myself, reprocussions if the relationships don't pan out. But lately I've been thinking about doing charity work or volunteering for something, because thinking about yourself and your own problems all the time is no way to live. If I can quote the honourable MCA:

Another day slips by
I've got to fix my mind
Because the mind's maligned
With I mean mine
I've got to turn it around
Got to give back
Because this self centered thing is keeping me off track

[Kid Presentable]

Hey kid, I can sympathize. In High School I was a very social person, but alot of crazy shit went down in college which made me very anti-social, to the point of hermitism. I was making friends slowly but lately I've been pulling back and not hanging out with them. I suppose I worry about what people think of me, how I presesent myself, reprocussions if the relationships don't pan out. But lately I've been thinking about doing charity work or volunteering for something, because thinking about yourself and your own problems all the time is no way to live. If I can quote the honourable MCA:
That quote is actually really appropriate, and is helping me a bit. Thanks man. Well played.(y) (y)

[SandyLove]

There's one couple who always divide and conquer us at get-togethers. And the wife goes on and on about how hot my fiancee's breasts are. They're pretty much card-carrying spouse-fuckers.

Holy crap, I don't think its the lack of friends you have, I think its the type of friends, most people are indiscriminate of the people they pick to be their friends. if I were you I'd surround myself with a set of classier people than card-carrying spouse-fuckers!!

[b i o n i c]

start talking to her about how hairy her butthole must be and dont let up till she stops thinking about breasts (y) (y)

[hellojello]

you're not a cunt man sometimes its the people that associate with that are the problem. Sure it's always a 2 way street but still some friends are just detrimental... I lost one over the weekend and I dont even care cause she was just a fucking drainer it's no loss to me she's the one with no fucking friends now that she don't even want to be my friend anymore since i told her the cold harsh words of reality that maybe she should reflect on why she cant get a bf can't get a job, can't get any friends (its her attitude man). That seems really harsh of me to say but seriously every time i see her i she makes me feel bad, and then when i told her something real fucking raw and honest about myself, she STILL made me feel bad so I thought fuck her and told her what I really thought of her)...anyhow..everyone has to get to that point eventually if they want to develop as a person, (think about their interactions with others I mean, relationship patters etc) I been through this myself several years ago... it's hard to come to terms with but at the same time atleast I know the people I know now are my REAL genuine friends... I haven't made any new ones (well other than like 2) since I left highschool in 98. I know how you feel but seriously don't get too down on yourself you're decent and eventually you'll meet people that realise and appreciate you for that, that's when you find your REAL friends.
and it'll be all good.
in the end.

[Loppfessor]

Feelin better today KP??

[Kid Presentable]

Feelin better today KP??
It's 4am, no Hfuhruhurr Ale in sight. Hitting the books. Then reading them /recycled joke.

[Loppfessor]

Glad to hear it

[Kid Presentable]

Glad to hear it
What are you doing today?

[Loppfessor]

Worked....then PT, might go see a movie with my bro and his lady then gonna chill with my lady