what the crap, seriously. opinions needed [Archive]

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 11:53 AM

SO, perhaps some of you have been following my "love" life lately. I was all, "omg LOL <3" about this one boy Lewis about a week and a half ago. He's been really busy, I've been really busy...so we haven't seen eachother since. However, last monday, he wrote me a text telling me to call him on thursday. so I called. and he never called back. nothing. so I'm like, "dick". and I figure...well, maybe something happened? and I'm thinking, crap, maybe I did something? no no. I did slip into a vague britishish accent during my message, perhaps that turned him off? I mean, he didn't seem like a jerk. and I thought MAYBE HE FOUND THE BBMB! :(

anyhoo. I asked some boys what they thought and they were like, "dunno, it's a mystery".

THEN, I had a dream this morning that he called and I said, "did you not call me back on purpose?" and he said, "yeah". and then my heart sunk and I woke up startled from it and never found out why the dream Lewis didn't call me. SO, I look at my phone, AND THERE'S A TEXT FROM HIM. weird, eh?

anyway, it's from last night around midnight (I was already asleep) and it says:

whats up. sorry I flaked out. at [a bar where bicycle kids hang out] whatre you doin?

WHAT THE FUCK

so anyway, I don't know what to do about it. I don't know if I should text him back, call him...no idea. should I just forget about it? should I let him know that I was disappointed and see if he wants to make it up to me?

grr.

jabumbo

11-06-2006, 12:09 PM

text messages are lame!

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 12:13 PM

text messages are lame!

should I text that to him?

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 12:14 PM

I could say,

"text messages are lame. if you want to hang out for real, give me a call. otherwise fuck off and die."

?

jabumbo

11-06-2006, 12:18 PM

maybe not the fuck off and die part, but ok

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 12:24 PM

I really am confused about what I should do.

MORE ADVICE PLEASE. I'M GOING TO GET SOME MILK AND EGGS AND WHEN I COME BACK I WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER.

ms.peachy

11-06-2006, 12:25 PM

I hate tyo say it, but girlfriend, maybe he's just not that into you. Not saying that to be mean, I'm just saying, if he had felt it was important to call you, he would have. You know? So you should say to him straight up, "I'm a little offended that you blew me off and didn't bother to call back." And then give him one (and only one) more chance and if he blows it again, then you know he's not feelin' ya.

kate

11-06-2006, 12:30 PM

i'm so tired of this "he's just not that into you" bullshit. jesus, somebody gets a book published then all of a sudden THEY KNOW EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE MUST QUOTE THEM EVERY CHANCE THEY GET. maybe he was scared of calling you! or maybe he just hates using the phone! pfah. he should get at least one goof before you're all "omg this dude's an asshole"

kaiser soze

11-06-2006, 12:32 PM

don't worry...you'll find another boy today...in 2 minutes to be exact ;)

Funky Pepp

11-06-2006, 12:42 PM

Yeah, I think you should try to talk to him once again. But try not to call him before sunday at least and say you were busy as well. Then you're not the one who's kissing his ass!!!
Good luck! (ha, I almost typed "good lick" instead of "good luck" :D)

... oh, and don't forget to update this thread :)

DandyFop

11-06-2006, 01:08 PM

I wonder what Deanna Troi would say. Ah fuck that bitch, she's useless.

Anyway, I would say "hey dude, if you want to hang out, call me. I don't like this text message bullshit, it's a pussyfooting way of doing things".

This is why I love being with someone who has no cell phone/myspace. It's all actual DIRECT communication. I reccomend it highly.

I would give him another chance. Of course, I'm a huge flake, so perhaps I feel strongly for my own kind.

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 01:19 PM

More advice? What I told you was perfection. Fine, I guess I'll just make smart ass comments from now on.

Text him that he missed his chance for anal, and see how quickly he calls you.

yeah, yours works, but it's pretty vague.

I think I want to just call him tonight and get it over with. or text him today...dunno. seems like he likes texting better, which is fine, I totally get it. I hate talking on the phone too.

as for the "he's just not that into you"...I don't know if that's the case. I mean, I certainly considered that, but why would he bother even texting at all? and why would he have all shmoopy with me on our date night? he didn't even try to get laid. I don't think he even touched my boobs for pete's sake. and in the morning, he was all cuddle town and smiley. meh, maybe he's that way with everyone? and on the way to the train, I said, "sorry I kept you up so late." and he was like, "are you kidding? I had a lot of fun, we should do it again soon...I mean, if that's okay with you?" and I was like, "sure". and then he put his arm around me and kissed my forehead.

sooo, I don't know. maybe I'll tell him he has to make it up to me in the form of a bassoon solo.

Loppfessor

11-06-2006, 01:20 PM

My advice if for you to invest in some sort of super dildo that way you can make posts about your experiences with that rather than all these stupid threads about the boys in your life. I"m sure I'd enjoy reading those dildo stories a lot more

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 01:21 PM

DandyFop

11-06-2006, 01:21 PM

Hey Lopp - why don't you not read them then?

I enjoy them.

edit - lol jinx.

cookiepuss

11-06-2006, 01:26 PM

Lex Diamonds

11-06-2006, 01:29 PM

Text him back "hay dood it's me dorothy wood. sorry it took a while to reply but i was gettin advice off internet ppl. wanam eet up for hot sex0rz?!!!11 tb xxxx".

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 01:30 PM

this is the one with the pink bike messenger bag? I'm sorry the pink bag is a deal breaker for me. I mean unless he's really concerned about breast cancer awareness or something. yeah there's other fish in the sea and this guy is a minow. throw him back.

uhh... :( he dresses perfectly. except for the night we met when he was on a date with another girl. he was wearing a v-neck black t-shirt. blech to v-necks. otherwise, he has pretty cool clothes. and he has a bunch of cool shoes too...although I did see some black crocs. boo to those, unless they're for practical purposes. his jeans are perfection. maybe he's gay?

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 01:31 PM

Text him back "hay dood it's me dorothy wood. sorry it took a while to reply but i was gettin advice off internet ppl. wanam eet up for hot sex0rz?!!!11 tb xxxx".

actually, I told him I had a messageboard addiction. he used to have a livejournal. we high-fived.

kate

11-06-2006, 01:31 PM

wtf pink is awesome

Lex Diamonds

11-06-2006, 01:32 PM

actually, I told him I had a messageboard addiction. he used to have a livejournal. we high-fived.
Then it can't fail. Get texting!

cookiepuss

11-06-2006, 01:36 PM

uhh... :( he dresses perfectly. except for the night we met when he was on a date with another girl. he was wearing a v-neck black t-shirt. blech to v-necks. otherwise, he has pretty cool clothes. and he has a bunch of cool shoes too...although I did see some black crocs. boo to those, unless they're for practical purposes. his jeans are perfection. maybe he's gay?

heh. well at best he's Metro sexual. Personally I'm not into that look but it's ok.

bottom line: in terms of liking you, it kinda sounds like he's keeping his options open but hasn't really determined what he wants.

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 01:39 PM

yeah, same could be said for me too. it just seems like personality-wise and locationally, we could work out pretty well. maybe he's in the middle of a girl swamp, like I'm in the middle of a boy swamp. AND NOBODY'S THROWIN ANY ROPES.

skra75

11-06-2006, 02:10 PM

he's gay, the v-neck and crocs + bicycle are a dead giveaway.
I prefer Padster's reply of all those posted, I reco you follow his lead.

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 02:40 PM

hey bikes are cool!

skra75

11-06-2006, 02:41 PM

I repeat, v-neck + crocs + bicycle = gay

cosmo105

11-06-2006, 02:42 PM

i dunno, man. i hates me some v-necks and crocs.

HEIRESS

11-06-2006, 02:45 PM

HE MAY HAVE PHONE ANXIETY!!!

I never use the phone

fuck man as of saturday I dont even have a phone number anymore

Ive never owned a cell and my brother moved out of the city and canceled the phone line in the house we shared

Im un-reachable

and I love it

except if I get splatterd with hot oil while cooking dinner tonight

can you email 911???

cosmo105

11-06-2006, 02:47 PM

just yell NINE ONE ONE EH as loud as you can and ambulances (ambulancii) will show up.

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 02:47 PM

yeah, but I think he was wearing the v-neck and a little more dressed up for that date thing because the girl was that type of girl. the type that wears black and red and pink and stuff. she was wearing black and red striped pants. my friend kept calling her "pirate pants". heh. that's the only time I've seen him dress like that.

ima throw those crocs right in the trash if I ever see them again though.

cosmo105

11-06-2006, 02:51 PM

i wear black and pink sometimes but i don't care what my date wears, we're often quite mismatched

i'd say give him a chance but be like, wtf, mr. doesn't call when he says he will or something like that. datings sucks.

HEIRESS

11-06-2006, 02:52 PM

I need to find a hermit boy that will live in my cave with me

:(

Loppfessor

11-06-2006, 02:52 PM

Text him back "hay dood it's me dorothy wood. sorry it took a while to reply but i was gettin advice off internet ppl. wanam eet up for hot sex0rz?!!!11 tb xxxx".

This shit made me laugh so hard I cried

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 02:56 PM

i wear black and pink sometimes but i don't care what my date wears, we're often quite mismatched

well, me too, but you know, I'd describe as a "club foot" girl, but only natalie would know what I meant. kinda punk, kinda goth...hot topic lite.

I still don't know exactly what to say to the kid. should I call instead of texting?

bah. well, I have to go to work.

Loppfessor

11-06-2006, 02:58 PM

What do you need a phone for? Just post it on here...

HEIRESS

11-06-2006, 02:59 PM

Old man look at my life,
Im a lot like you were.
Old man look at my life,
Im a lot like you were.

Old man look at my life,
Twenty four and theres so much more
Live alone in a paradise
That makes me think of two.

Love lost, such a cost,
Give me things that dont get lost.
Like a coin that wont get tossed
Rolling home to you.

Old man take a look at my life Im a lot like you
I need someone to love me the whole day through
Ah, one look in my eyes and you can tell thats true.

Lullabies, look in your eyes,
Run around the same old town.
Doesnt mean that much to me
To mean that much to you.

Ive been first and last
Look at how the time goes past.
But Im all alone at last.
Rolling home to you.

Old man take a look at my life Im a lot like you
I need someone to love me the whole day through
Ah, one look in my eyes and you can tell thats true.

no idea why Im posting these lyrics BUT YEAH!

DandyFop

11-06-2006, 03:02 PM

crocs are comfortable (I hear). GHETTOVERIT

HEIRESS

11-06-2006, 03:05 PM

are they used?

what if the crocs only cost 5 boners?

beastiegirrl101

11-06-2006, 03:46 PM

I'm wondering why he can't call / text you at a decent hour? Booty call perhaps which would equal no respect. I dont know ...I was always told...when they want you they find a way to get in touch with you, Bob I think once disagreed with me though.

treat him like dirt, he'll stick like mudd.

bigblu89

11-06-2006, 03:49 PM

treat 'em like dirt, they'll stick like mudd.

That's the exact opinion a guy friend of mine gave me once when it came to his philosophy on da ladies.

He also said "Women love marrying nice guys, but love fucking bad boys."

Yeti

11-06-2006, 03:54 PM

His text read.......whats up. sorry I flaked out. at [a bar where bicycle kids hang out] whatre you doin?

He probably doesn't have a prosperous future...but that is just my opinion.

Dorothy Wood

11-06-2006, 09:18 PM

he makes decent money as a server and a bartender. and is saving up for school in germany. the server and bartender thing is also why he's been texting late. or so he says.

bleh.

anyway, I texted:

"play me a bassoon solo and buy me a thousand beers."

Documad

11-06-2006, 09:37 PM

His text read.......whats up. sorry I flaked out. at [a bar where bicycle kids hang out] whatre you doin?

He probably doesn't have a prosperous future...but that is just my opinion.
<3

I'm laughing so hard I can't sit up.

Oh, for the love of god. I send messages like that at odd moments to people who I don't care about. It usually happens when I'm out with someone who gets up and goes to the bathroom and I am bored and I whip out my blackberry and send a stupid message to someone I owe a response to. It's what I do to kill time when I'm waiting for something else -- sometimes I'm waiting for a ride, sometimes I'm in between bands at a club. It's pretty disrepectful, and I don't see what you have to lose by telling him that you took it as a sign of disinterest.

Booty call was also a good answer.

hitmonlee

11-06-2006, 10:18 PM

i'm really really bad at answering the phone and replying to messages, even if i think the person is really cool.

kaiser soze

11-06-2006, 11:45 PM

I need to find a hermit boy that will live in my cave with me

:(

I have a cave too!

;)

Dorothy Wood

11-07-2006, 12:26 AM

I don't really think it was a booty call. I think it was a "I'm at the bar and I should've called her before but I didn't, but now I'm tipsy and I'll shoot a text." I'm thinking it wasn't a booty call because like I said before, he really didn't try to go too far with me at all...respected my boundaries and all that.

I'm not sure why the "not very prosperous" thing is funny actually. can someone explain it to me?

we shall see if I get a response.

befsquire

11-07-2006, 12:28 AM

sort of a bravery by Bud?

Dorothy Wood

11-07-2006, 12:36 AM

sort of a bravery by Bud?

sort of. though he is a beer snob, so it was probably something much fancier.

befsquire

11-07-2006, 12:45 AM

yeah, but i was following that whole "body by bud" line, and none of the snobbish beers i could think of would fit except for bitburger, and then not everyone would get it.

Dorothy Wood

11-07-2006, 01:05 AM

oh, well, good show then. I've never heard of "body by Bud". at first I thought you were talking about pot.

venusvenus123

11-07-2006, 03:03 PM

hey i liked your response. it was funny.

i'm way way out of the dating thing, but don't people like to play all cool and not return calls for 3-5 days or something? i dunno.

well anyway, keep us err... posted. heh.

beastieangel01

11-07-2006, 04:16 PM

anyway, I texted:

"play me a bassoon solo and buy me a thousand beers."

awesome.

anyway I can't say too much since I'm kind of like him. I'll not call or do texts, I'm a freakazoid about the phone and I don't know why. Also there has been men I've liked and I end up not calling them back right away, not for any particular reason, I just get caught up in other things.

I say a second chance is good. But if he keeps this up then drop him.