I just had a really bad fight with my dude

[DandyFop]

Ughhhhh. This sucks. I am scared and pissed and all of the above. It's too long a story to tell but basically he was ignoring me and I wasn't having it and yeah. I'm freaking out :( blah. And I lost my phone today and have no friends to call so you guys get to be my shoulder to cry on right now.

[Justin]

Guys really arent great for relationships. You should just have sex with them.

[DandyFop]

That would have been cool with me. :/

[Pres Zount]

why do you think he was ignoring you?

[DandyFop]

I have no clue. I'm not stupid though, I can tell when something is up, you know? He was like I DON'T KNOW SORRY I'M JUST IN A WEIRD MOOD. He got all defensive right away. A bad sign I know.

This shit sucks. I love him so much but at the same time I have this feeling it's not going to work no matter how much I want it to. I am glad I stood up for myself though...being ignored is one thing, but treating me like crap for no reason is not cool.

[HEIRESS]

ah, Im having some lovely flashbacks right now

just lovely

[Pres Zount]

I have no clue. I'm not stupid though, I can tell when something is up, you know? He was like I DON'T KNOW SORRY I'M JUST IN A WEIRD MOOD. He got all defensive right away. A bad sign I know.

This shit sucks. I love him so much but at the same time I have this feeling it's not going to work no matter how much I want it to. I am glad I stood up for myself though...being ignored is one thing, but treating me like crap for no reason is not cool.

Stand up for yourself, but at the same maybe he just wanted to be ignored for a while.

[DandyFop]

Fuck em' all man :(

Let's have a girls night only, fuck men and their bullshit evening.

[DandyFop]

Stand up for yourself, but at the same maybe he just wanted to be ignored for a while.

Believe me, I'm very respectful of that and I understand when that needs to happen. But at the same time, I had had a shitty day and I really needed him, so that's valid too, ya know? I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells to make sure that he is happy and it's not really going both ways seems like.

[HEIRESS]

I used to be put on basically 24 hour ignore

and Im talking about no talking

like Id ask a question and get no reply and then ask again and again until I was screaming and still nothing

then he'd start talking again and everything would be perfect again and Id pretend that the previous day never happened

Id rather get screamed at then have someone pretend I didnt even exist

I wouldnt rather get beat up, but screaming I could handle

[Bob]

people are odd

[Pres Zount]

Believe me, I'm very respectful of that and I understand when that needs to happen. But at the same time, I had had a shitty day and I really needed him, so that's valid too, ya know? I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells to make sure that he is happy and it's not really going both ways seems like.
fair enough.

Bob knows I'm great at advice giving.

[DandyFop]

bleh. I'm going to watch something funny and go to bed. bye doods

[zorra_chiflada]

joe's really good at relationship advice. my friend once came around to like ask me what to do about her falling apart relationship, and i just sat there saying "uhhhh" and joe gave her all this advice

[Freebasser]

Don't forget to buy a dildo to tide you over until this resolves itself.

[beastiegirrl101]

can we talk about trust? Because I have major issues with it. I dont know if I have these gut feelings because there is actually something to be concerned about or if it's just me and something I have a hard time with. It seems as if every serious relationship I am in...I have trust issues, some have been for the right reasons and some I guess my subconscience conjured up. So my question is...when do you trust your gut and when do you say to yourself, "Self, chill the F out and relax." I really have no clue where it stems from and I'm starting to see a pattern forming. SABOTAGE. :(

sorta related Brabs.

[Rock]

I don't understand that if you don't think its going to work out why you are bothering with it. Just don't want to be alone? Hoping it will work out (even though your doubts will probably chip away and destroy any hope)?

I dunno....I guess I'm the type of person that gets the fuck out of dodge if there is a large amount of doubt in the relationship. Don't get me wrong...I expect the whole getting pissed off at eachother bit, but the doubt thing is a no no. It eats at you. Snowballin' getting bigger.

[monkey]

i have this problem that i need to talk shit out to death, till there's nothing to talk about. except im the only person who does that and it annoys the others. and when this makes other people annoyed.. well... fuck, im in trouble.

my point is: men arent as cool as us ladies. or something equally empowering.

[beastiegirrl101]

i have this problem that i need to talk shit out to death, till there's nothing to talk about.

ME TO.

my insecurities end up sabotaging. (sp)?

[skra75]

I have the same problem, in reverse. I think I listen to the point of not really ever getting the point. Often, I'd be better off just grunting like a caveman or ignoring the girl, but my attentiveness has dug me some holes that I've fallen into before.

[DandyFop]

I don't understand that if you don't think its going to work out why you are bothering with it. Just don't want to be alone? Hoping it will work out (even though your doubts will probably chip away and destroy any hope)?



Because I love him...and it's been pretty awesome for a lot of it. I get scared about being alone, but right now I'm thinking pretty clearly. We'll see how it goes...going to see him today or tomorrow. But I'm probably going to be breaking it off and it sucks big fucking time.

[monkey]

I have the same problem, in reverse. I think I listen to the point of not really ever getting the point. Often, I'd be better off just grunting like a caveman or ignoring the girl, but my attentiveness has dug me some holes that I've fallen into before.

you're a forever listener and im a forever talker. we should get married and live in separate bedrooms. <3