Proof that I'm a real asshole.

[DipDipDive]

My brother got engaged tonight, and I'm not excited. In fact, I don't really care.

I like his girlfriend and all, but meh. I'm generally not really excitable about this kind of thing. I feel like I should be, especially in this instance, but I'm just not.

:(

[Kid Presentable]

Are you two engaged yet?

[DipDipDive]

My brother and me?

[Kid Presentable]

No, you and your spouse.

[Bob]

i'm not very excited about this news either, so don't feel too bad

[Kid Presentable]

Yeah, it hasn't done a lot to my nipples.

[QueenAdrock]

Are there a lot of engagements/babies out of your friends and family? I mean, I was really excited when my cousin had a baby and I told my friend and she just said "So what?" She wasn't even happy that I was excited. It's because her family's Mormon so marriage and babies are a "meh" occasion for her.

[Kid Presentable]

Are there a lot of engagements/babies out of your friends and family? I mean, I was really excited when my cousin had a baby and I told my friend and she just said "So what?" She wasn't even happy that I was excited. It's because her family's Mormon so marriage and babies are a "meh" occasion for her.
Nah, I think it's just that people expect others to give as much of a shit about stuff as they themselves do. You may have wanted your friend to like the news as much as you did, which is unrealistic. Funnily, if you'd reported somebody died or was dying I'm sure you'd get their attention. Maybe it's because people hate babies.

[QueenAdrock]

But the thing is, my other friends were like "Yay, how exciting!" even if I knew they didn't care specifically about the occasion.

This friend I'm talking about literally told me "So what? People have babies." when I told her my cousin was pregnant. It's one thing not to care, it's another to be a jerk about it and try to make me feel dumb for being excited.

[DipDipDive]

No, you and your spouse.

Fuck no.

I think the reason I'm not all giddy and doing stereotypical chick shit like flashing jazz hands out of glee is because it isn't changing their relationship at all. Engagements never do. It's just an excuse for a girl to get a new ring and start referring to her significant other as her fiance instead of her boyfriend. Big fucking deal.

[QueenAdrock]

Shouldn't you be excited about the possibility of free open bar?

[DipDipDive]

Shouldn't you be excited about the possibility of free open bar?

I suppose, but that's countered by the fact that I'm gonna have to wear a dress.

:(

I'm guessing it'll be at least 2 years before they tie the knot anyways.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

I can understand people wanting you to be excited about marrige/babies, but I hate those people who call you to tell you "Oh my god! I just went out on a date/got a job/some other insignificant shit like that" and then when you respond with ...ok? they get all mad that your not screaming and jumping for joy and running next door like they are.
I got a phone call like that yesterday and it more pissed me off than got me excited.

[Mr Films]

that doesn't really make you an asshole.

what would is that if, when they told you the news, you said something to the effect of "wow, then there really is hope for us all."

[Bob]

or maybe if you'd just gone "really? huh."

[Mr Films]

or maybe if you'd just gone "really? huh."

no, I like the way I said it better.

[Lyman Zerga]

Fuck no.

I think the reason I'm not all giddy and doing stereotypical chick shit like flashing jazz hands out of glee is because it isn't changing their relationship at all. Engagements never do. It's just an excuse for a girl to get a new ring and start referring to her significant other as her fiance instead of her boyfriend. Big fucking deal.


you asshole!

i mean i get your point

[Bob]

no, I like the way I said it better.

well, that's why you're you and i'm me

[Kerrbear]

A coworker recently told me that he and his wife were having a baby, and I said, "Uh, did you want to?" I forget that people actually like kids.

[Mr Films]

well, that's why you're you and i'm me

actually, you're me and I'm you. just so you know.

[Bob]

wait wait wait back up a second

i'm who

[Kid Presentable]

But the thing is, my other friends were like "Yay, how exciting!" even if I knew they didn't care specifically about the occasion.

This friend I'm talking about literally told me "So what? People have babies." when I told her my cousin was pregnant. It's one thing not to care, it's another to be a jerk about it and try to make me feel dumb for being excited.
So your only investment was people saying "Yay!"?

[QueenAdrock]

Sure. Everyone has their own lives and I'd argue 80% of shit my friends get excited about is only exciting to them, but being a good friend is saying "I'm happy for you." It doesn't matter if it TRULY makes you happy, it's just something you say, because the person's excited and wants to share. It's an automated response. Kinda like when someone asks "How are you?" and your automatic response is "Fine." No one will say "A little constipated. It's making me grouchy and irritable. You?"

I think good news is kinda the same thing. You go to someone to expect some sort of excited response out of them too so you can have someone you can jump up and down with.

[DipDipDive]

Kinda like when someone asks "How are you?" and your automatic response is "Fine." No one will say "A little constipated. It's making me grouchy and irritable. You?"

I would. And I do. Except usually I don't even go as far as to ask the other person how they are.

^ Further proof that I'm a real asshole.

[QueenAdrock]

But is it casual acquaintences? That'd be kinda awkward. The furthest out of the norm I've said to like random people who ask "How are you" is "a little tired." I should start saying "A little frustrated from a failed sexual venture from last night." Just to make them feel uncomfortable.

[Kid Presentable]

Sure. Everyone has their own lives and I'd argue 80% of shit my friends get excited about is only exciting to them, but being a good friend is saying "I'm happy for you." It doesn't matter if it TRULY makes you happy, it's just something you say, because the person's excited and wants to share. It's an automated response. Kinda like when someone asks "How are you?" and your automatic response is "Fine." No one will say "A little constipated. It's making me grouchy and irritable. You?"

I think good news is kinda the same thing. You go to someone to expect some sort of excited response out of them too so you can have someone you can jump up and down with.
Why bother getting excited for them if it's only an automated response? You're either truly happy for them, or you're a phony. Whenever people ask me how I am, they get the full story.

[QueenAdrock]

It's not so much that they're a phony, just that they're being polite and a trying to be a good friend. There have been many times that my friends have had exciting news, and while I'm happy for them, I've had to muster up actual enthusiasm for the purpose that I knew they wanted someone to be EXCITED with them.

Either way, the point is that if you basically tell the person you don't give a shit and it isn't a big deal, it's a huge damper when you're already pumped over it. It pretty much put me in a foul mood after I talked to her. She could have at least said "Oh, good for her," or something, but she definitely didn't and that was kinda sucky.

[Kid Presentable]

It's not so much that they're a phony, just that they're being polite and a trying to be a good friend. There have been many times that my friends have had exciting news, and while I'm happy for them, I've had to muster up actual enthusiasm for the purpose that I knew they wanted someone to be EXCITED with them.

Either way, the point is that if you basically tell the person you don't give a shit and it isn't a big deal, it's a huge damper when you're already pumped over it. It pretty much put me in a foul mood after I talked to her. She could have at least said "Oh, good for her," or something, but she definitely didn't.
See, I'd just keep good news like that to myself.

[QueenAdrock]

Yeah, I do that now. Debbie downers= (n)

[HEIRESS]

oh man, I hate dresses :mad:

[Dorothy Wood]

"So what? People have babies."


ha ha, that's what I'd say...okay, well, maybe not out loud. out loud, I'd muster a, "cool". also, it's your cousin. I mean, It'd be pretty impressive if one of my cousins got pregnant, because they're all 14 and under. other than that, telling people news about your cousin is kinda meh.


I'm always getting in trouble for not getting excited enough about GOOD NEWS!
:(

hi5 ddd

[abcdefz]

Yeah -- I think that, unless you think someone's "good news" is actually some unhealthy thing, the least you can do is come up with a hearty "You must be very happy!" or something. But, yeah... I think the general rule is "rejoice with those rejoicing, weep with those weeping."

[skinnybutphat]

Jerry Reinsdorf will perform the ceremony for $500.

[Loppfessor]

i'm not very excited about this news either, so don't feel too bad

ditto

[QueenAdrock]

tellingpeople news about your cousin is kinda meh.


True, except my entire extended family consists of 6 cousins, 2 aunts, and my grandparents on my dad's side. No family on my mom's side. So when something happens in my teeny family it's like OMG! And she knew it, dammit. She knew. :mad: