beastieangel01
12-08-2006, 12:22 PM
it's weird because I only once really had my feelings hurt by a friend and I was 14 at the time. Didn't think it'd happen again I guess...
There is this girl I knew in high school. In our junior year we got really close. I liked her a lot, thought she was so fun to talk to and we'd always be making jokes and laughing together. Then, the summer before senior year she went on a mission trip with her church.
After that, she stopped talking to me. In fact, she stopped talking to just about our ENTIRE circle of friends with the exception of maybe one. And that one was very much involved with her church.
I didn't really push at why she never really talked to me anymore but I always held her in high regard and all that. After high school we didn't much talk at all but sometimes we'd be at the same gatherings and we'd say hi and try to catch up, things seemed fine. She was always very friendly. Anytime there was a gathering, she'd always be invited since she was within our circle of friends in high school. I've invited her to things I had going on and all that.
She's getting married now, in a month. I was told by our mutual friend Sallie to give my address for the invitation. It never arrived. Then I was told that I'd go with Sallie so we'd be each others "date" (company) and Sallie's sister Kim was invited and could bring her date (and boyfriend since high shool, we all went to the same hs) Mark. Then the girl called the mutual friend telling Sallie "Oh Crystal can't come, and you can't bring anyone else. Your sister can come but she can't bring anyone either." The mutual friend asked why and the girl said "Well I don't even talk to Crystal and Kim, well, since she's your sister you and her are kind of a package deal..."
Sallie said the friend barely acted like she wanted HER to go, and saying that Kim is a package deal with her was said in such a rude way.
Sure we don't speak to each other much anymore but we were so close that year in high school and were still in the same circle of friends. She was always invited to gatherings where all of us were (after HS too) and despite us not talking much now, I still held her in high regard and was so happy to hear she was getting married. She and I talked about going to dinner and catching up. She never said a word to me since she knew she was getting married (was told by Sallie and Sallie said she asked for my address but that's it, never got anything in the mail). Not that I am getting married but she would have been within the top 10 people I'd invite.
Turns out she turned in to one of the very "clique" christians. One of those "I'll talk to you in private but if you aren't a church-going god-fearing person, I won't talk to you around others" kind of deal.
I feel really, really hurt to hear that she SAID I couldn't come. And then she tells our friend, not me directly, that I cannot come. I cared about her too. I almost cried. I almost want to call her a bitch but I really DID think so highly of her that I don't want to call her a bitch.
I'll just go with meaniehead.
:(
There is this girl I knew in high school. In our junior year we got really close. I liked her a lot, thought she was so fun to talk to and we'd always be making jokes and laughing together. Then, the summer before senior year she went on a mission trip with her church.
After that, she stopped talking to me. In fact, she stopped talking to just about our ENTIRE circle of friends with the exception of maybe one. And that one was very much involved with her church.
I didn't really push at why she never really talked to me anymore but I always held her in high regard and all that. After high school we didn't much talk at all but sometimes we'd be at the same gatherings and we'd say hi and try to catch up, things seemed fine. She was always very friendly. Anytime there was a gathering, she'd always be invited since she was within our circle of friends in high school. I've invited her to things I had going on and all that.
She's getting married now, in a month. I was told by our mutual friend Sallie to give my address for the invitation. It never arrived. Then I was told that I'd go with Sallie so we'd be each others "date" (company) and Sallie's sister Kim was invited and could bring her date (and boyfriend since high shool, we all went to the same hs) Mark. Then the girl called the mutual friend telling Sallie "Oh Crystal can't come, and you can't bring anyone else. Your sister can come but she can't bring anyone either." The mutual friend asked why and the girl said "Well I don't even talk to Crystal and Kim, well, since she's your sister you and her are kind of a package deal..."
Sallie said the friend barely acted like she wanted HER to go, and saying that Kim is a package deal with her was said in such a rude way.
Sure we don't speak to each other much anymore but we were so close that year in high school and were still in the same circle of friends. She was always invited to gatherings where all of us were (after HS too) and despite us not talking much now, I still held her in high regard and was so happy to hear she was getting married. She and I talked about going to dinner and catching up. She never said a word to me since she knew she was getting married (was told by Sallie and Sallie said she asked for my address but that's it, never got anything in the mail). Not that I am getting married but she would have been within the top 10 people I'd invite.
Turns out she turned in to one of the very "clique" christians. One of those "I'll talk to you in private but if you aren't a church-going god-fearing person, I won't talk to you around others" kind of deal.
I feel really, really hurt to hear that she SAID I couldn't come. And then she tells our friend, not me directly, that I cannot come. I cared about her too. I almost cried. I almost want to call her a bitch but I really DID think so highly of her that I don't want to call her a bitch.
I'll just go with meaniehead.
:(