Dating Services

[kll]

While I know of many-a-successful relationship spawned from internet dating sites, I wonder what y'all make of this situation:

A good girl friend of mine has tried everything from match.com to cupid.com to browsing all the others. She met a guy off of cupid.com and dated him on and off for a year, but they recently broke up. He was a retard anyways (i.e. a real Trekkie). She decided to skip e-harmony (even though I protested) and went ahead and signed up for It's Just Lunch instead. This service has middlemen that pair you up through human matchmaking instead of a computer finding your matches for you. The premise is that you go to lunch at a pre-arranged restaurant and you have a limited time to spend with the "date", so if it's heinous, you can say you have to get back to work. The restaurant is in on the whole situation, so they automatically bring separate checks, etc., so the awkwardness of who pays the bill is never presented.

It sounds good enough. The catch is that it's $1100 for 12-months and you're only guaranteed 13 dates in that period.

She has been on about 5 dates in 2 months and all have been no one she'd see again. They are all about 3's on a scale of 1-10, all are boring and in general, just lame-o's. She's all upset that she hasn't met anyone decent. My argument is that no "normal" guy is going to pay $1100 for a dating service. No way.

What are your thoughts? Should she stick with the cheaper online sites where she can preview her potentials? If you're a guy, what do you think of that pricey fee?

[kll]

She did go to the Santa Cruz show with me in October... hmmm...

[kll]

I'm sure there will still be the same ones still hanging around. And still single.

[fucktopgirl]

Paying to get a date with men.....not really my thing!

I mean , if you have the skills, you can date as many man you want for free!!!

1100$ , she should not pay that price, it is extremely ridiculous!

[TurdBerglar]

just tell her to lay down on the sidewalk downtown with her legs spread eagle. can't be that hard to trap so poor unsuspecting fool.

[beastieangel01]

My argument is that no "normal" guy is going to pay $1100 for a dating service. No way.


that is a very strong and very good point to be making.

[Rock]

My argument is that no "normal" guy is going to pay $1100 for a dating service. No way.

Do you consider her normal?

[Dorothy Wood]

I think really expensive dating services are dumb. I know a girl who got some boyfriends doing that in ohio, but ended up moving to california and marrying her friend's cousin. he's into ass play, but she doesn't mind.

[jabumbo]

hey skye, whats new with you? ;)

[ericlee]

Tell her to go to adultfriendfinder.com and post pics of her boobies.

[QueenAdrock]

Do you consider her normal?

Precisely what I was thinking. There may be another guy out there who's thinking the same thing "What if only loser chicks sign up for this?" and it wouldn't be true of your friend. It's hard to say, I personally wouldn't spend $1100 on that kind of thing...doesn't seem worth it.

There are a lot of creepy guys online or guys just not worth it, but every so often you'll just find a guy who's on it for legitimate reasons, like shyness in real life or someone who doesn't like to go out to bars, or something. When I was on dating sites, there were probably 10 creeps to message me for every 1 that was worth it, so while there ARE worthwhile guys they're harder to find. Thus me saying no to spending $1100 - digging through the garbage to find someone special is hard work and may not pan out and it would add insult to injury if she dropped more than a grand on it.

[abcdefz]

I can't imagine paying for a dating service. MAYBE for a "relationship wanted" ad in the local weekly or whatever, but paying is just too, too desperate.

the thing is: I bet the person who "needs" a dating service is already meeting people he or she would really like if he or she would just open the mouth and say hi.

[Kerrbear]

I've never used a dating website (except the ones where you find the guys who are into those very specific kinky things...) but a really gorgeous and smart friend of mine has tried them all. Those free or cheap sites bring out all the guys who want a girlfriend if it's easy, and they all end up being self-obsessed workaholics or partyaholics who don't really want to commit. I think if you're just not having luck with normal dating and you want a guy who's serious about dating, you need to look for the ones who've shelled out serious bucks for it.

[fucktopgirl]

I can't imagine paying for a dating service. MAYBE for a "relationship wanted" ad in the local weekly or whatever, but paying is just too, too desperate.


My thoughts too, were our society is going dammit? Now people need to pay to find a mate :rolleyes: My theory would be that if you are alone in life , deal with it and concentrate/focus your energy on others things. Eventually, a mate will come along. When you become obsessed with something,liek having a partner..this will likely not happen.


the thing is: I bet the person who "needs" a dating service is already meeting people he or she would really like if he or she would just open the mouth and say hi.

So true, i mean there is people everywhere ffs!





You can't buy love!!

[beastiegirrl101]

All the men I have been in serious relationships with I met when I wasn't looking. Tell her to chill the hell out and she'll meet him when the time is right, tright I know...but true.

[abcdefz]

That's kind of the other thing that would put me off: every relationship I've seen people get into because they felt their relationship clock was ticking, or whatever -- man, did it NOT work. And sometimes this desperation led to some BAD marriages, and then KIDS in very unhappy households.... fuck that.


CHILL. CHILL.


I don't understand why people are so afraid of being single, anyway. There's so much more freedom. Yeah, being with someone else can be nice and can even help you grow in ways that you might not as a single person, but still. If you're not ready to be single, you're not ready for a relationship. Fuck that "you complete me" bullshit.

[Yeti]

What happened to the days when you met your pillow partner in a bar? You get drunk---make small talk--- get their number---call them up the next day or 2 weeks later (whatever your preference)---make a date---realize they are butt ugly and have the personality of an eggplant---go see a movie---go to a bar---get drunk---when you are drunk and they look good and seem interesting you take them home and sex them up---don't call them again and start the process over again the next day.

[abcdefz]

...why look further than your cousins? -- that's what I'm saying.

[fucktopgirl]

^haha, that why our world is fucked, too much interbreeding!



I don't understand why people are so afraid of being single, anyway. There's so much more freedom. Yeah, being with someone else can be nice and can even help you grow in ways that you might not as a single person, but still.

Still being single make you grow in a way that you would'nt be able to do with someone!!




If you're not ready to be single, you're not ready for a relationship. Fuck that "you complete me" bullshit.

People who cannot be alone, its because they cannot stand themselves., so how on earth they expected somebody else to be able too?

[ampm]

Brother Nelson finds women in the city who don't speak the king's english and offers them tutors. Then lonely men pay Nelson $15 to "tutor" these girls. It's a lucrative business, but highly illegal.

[kll]

Some of you have asked what she is like?

I find people interesting because someone can be the greatest friend, but in a relationship, they turn into a complete stranger. I obviously do not know how she is in her private time with her significant others/dates, but I would imagine based on things she's told me that she comes off as desperate, rushes things too quickly, overlooks dealbreakers, etc. On paper, she is ideal, but probably sucks as a girlfriend.

[jabumbo]

40 is a long ways of my friend. ;)


why wait when i'm ready for you right now?

[jabumbo]

i can only hope that you are that great

[jabumbo]

if you're going to do that, at least do it yourself (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v251/jabumbo/b37dd660.jpg)