completely predicted and expected thread

[monkey]

:(


is love supposed to be hard? if we work this out, is it better in the long run? is he really the one?

[Otis Driftwood]

Yup, it'll make you feel like "Having mastered crisis 407, we have emerged again triumphant, thus proving again how good & right our love is". Which is of course nice and important and will stay with you both.
Then again, it doesn't help much either if you work out and work out and make up and shit.
Ditch him!

[Loppfessor]

no, no, and no.....next question

[icy manipulator]

go overseas and have a fling with a board member. that'l take your mind off things(y)

[jabumbo]

i didn't expect it

[drizl]

what are you going to marry him? hahahahaha hahahahahaha!

[monkey]

yes. i was.


is it so hard to believe that someone can love someone else so wholeheartedly, that someone could fall in love completely head over heels and have that returned? i know there's people who know this feeling.

[beastiegirrl101]

I know this feeling you speak of, but sometimes...love isnt enough.

[Loppfessor]

I'm not saying I don't believe in love....but if it's causing you this much pain and heartache it's not right for you. I am currently in the healthiest relationship of my life and it's seriously like cruising along on autopilot. It's weird for me cus I'm totally used to all the drama, bullshit, and pain but it is possible to find a relationship that doesn't include all that. So cut your losses and move on simply loving somone doesn't mean you're supposed to be with them. I love more than one of my exes and always will but they weren't for me.

[Otis Driftwood]

I'm not saying I don't believe in love....but if it's causing you this much pain and heartache it's not right for you. I am currently in the healthiest relationship of my life and it's seriously like cruising along on autopilot.
Yeah, next time you open your eyes you went through a wall, hard, and are trying to get out of the pool you ran into... :p

[Loppfessor]

Yeah, next time you open your eyes you went through a wall, hard, and are trying to get out of the pool you ran into... :p

Piss off ya wanker! :D

[Otis Driftwood]

Wank off, pisser! Seriously, you might be right if you're girl is auto-pilot, too, but is she???

[Loppfessor]

Wank off, pisser! Seriously, you might be right if you're girl is auto-pilot, too, but is she???

Yeah man we had a nice little discussion about it over lunch yesterday. We agree that things are going great, we're both quite happy with where we are, and the direction we're heading.

[Otis Driftwood]

(y) Keep dodging change then, dude!

[beastieangel01]

I know this feeling you speak of, but sometimes...love isnt enough.

amen to that.

[beastiegirrl101]

amen to that.


isn't it sad though? That you can love someone with every ounce of everything you've got ....and it still isnt enough.

[venusvenus123]

didn't you just announce a big break up pauli? is this the new guy you're talking about?

[ScarySquirrel]

I kind of feel like anything that's worth investing time in is going to be hard. It's almost a necessity... if it's not at least a little bit hard... then it's probably not worth my time.

So, yeah, I think love should be hard at times. Not all the time... but it should and will be hard.

[cookiepuss]

didn't you just announce a big break up pauli? is this the new guy you're talking about?

yeah I'm a little confused? Has your ex come back in the picture?:confused:

[roosta]

isn't it sad though? That you can love someone with every ounce of everything you've got ....and it still isnt enough.

what else do you need?

[cookiepuss]

ok I think perhaps reading a-z's "women of the board thread" helps to shed some light on this here thread.

is love supposed to be hard? I don't know because love is differnt for everyone. to quote a little ditty by bruce coburn, i'll say this: "nothing worth having comes without some sort of fight; you've got to kick at the darkness until it bleeds daylight."

look lady all I can really tell you is if you stuggle and you've tried this relationship every which way you can both fathom and it still won't work, then at least you don't have to doubt or regret that you didn't try hard enough. at least then you'll know you've done everything you could. you'll know when to let go then and you probably won't be able to let go until you've reached that point. People tear themselves over lifetimes because of "what ifs" so I say don't let that be you. Ride this train as far as it will go, beleive me you'll know when and if you should get off.
(p.s. I give this advice with the understanding that you already know not to scarfice yourself for the sake of a relationship.)

[HEIRESS]

I enjoy therapy sessions via texting

<3

[Helvete]

Text me.

[monkey]

OK, i'll preface this by saying: dear board, you were correct.

now the answers to the questions: this is about my exbf. the one who keeps breaking my heart. he's done with that now. im not allowing myself to fall for this anymore. i did all i could. i did more than i should have. im too good for this.

the new boy has nothing to do with any of this. it almost feels like im in two completely different worlds. the new boy is like a passtime. not love. im not that stupid.

thanks. some of you have supported me more than you know through all of this. i appreciate it.