so it occured to me

[beastieangel01]

that I am far, far more nerdy than my boyfriend.

By a lot. In fact, he's not a nerd. Not even a little bit. And both of our friends has said that the other is very unlike anyone we've dated before.

That makes me feel kind of nervous. Very actually. Our own parents said that about the other too. No one is saying it in a bad way by any means but still.

It is outside of my comfort zone to date a non-nerd I think. :|

[befsquire]

i didn't realize you and he made the step from dating to boyfriend/girlfriend.

hell, i don't even know who he is. does he live over an hour away?

[beastieangel01]

I don't recall how much I've spoke about him. This is not the same guy who had me meet his parents right away. This guy is training to be a paramedic/firefighter.

the whole official title thing is very recent. very.

[befsquire]

one of my friends went to firefighter school, and i swear, he only learned dirty, lame jokes.

he's been a fireman for about a year or so now, and is currently taking the courses to become an emt. one of the first things he told me was to make sure i don't call 911 because there are ducks in the runoff system (where streets drain the rainwater, etc.) because ducks are actually able to swim quite well and aren't really in any danger of drowning.

[zorra_chiflada]

you're not a nerd

[befsquire]

we kind of all are.

[zorra_chiflada]

no. you don't know nerds. joe knows real real real real nerds.

[beastieangel01]

in comparison to him I most definitely am. Or is dork the word? I'm not sure.

I get really in to the web design thing. I can talk about coding all day long, in regards to the web anyway I like it. I'm really in to art. I know all about Star Wars and can hold actual conversations on the topic. I love Bruce Campbell and zombie movies in general and I hear video games and know a ton of various music and movies and comics and a laundry list of other things.

He can barely use a computer, knows nothing about art, knows jack shit about Star Wars, doesn't know who Bruce Campbell is, and he is willing to play video games but doesn't have any of his own.

I am happy he's willing to try stuff, and vice versa. He's very in to snowboarding and extreme sports and that kind of thing. None of which I've been exposed to since my friends are well, in to the same crap I am or whatever. But I'm willing to try what he's in to. But it's strange that we have the chemistry we do with the very little we have in common.

I guess I'm just being insecure about the whole thing right now. For some reason it just kind of hit me like a slap in the face. Not that I'm saying I want someone exactly like me but, wtf.

[Otis Driftwood]

Nerd couples = (n)
Couples where noone is a nerd = (n)
Nerds and non-Nerds need each other! ;)

[TOY]

Opposites attract :D (y)

[beastieangel01]

thanks people. I feel a little less uneasy about it now that I've slept ha.

Toy: you posted not long ago about a guy you were seeing that's kind of a jock did you not?

[TOY]

thanks people. I feel a little less uneasy about it now that I've slept ha.

Toy: you posted not long ago about a guy you were seeing that's kind of a jock did you not?

He turned out to be a real prick in the end. Like, a REAL prick. I was played. (His last words to me were "I never thought of you as girlfriend material anyway. But I'd like to remain friends, LOVE to have sex with you. It can be a weekend-thing...") I ended it myself, which was quite satisfying. I'm glad I followed a gut feeling this time unlike before. Still, even if he had been sincere, it would have never worked out.

It only works if your opposite is actually INTERESTED in what you have to say, share, bring into the relationship. So, despite the fact my ex-whatever (actually, I won't even give him the title 'ex') was a complete and utter douche, as long as your man is listening-in, laughing, -- showing some form of GENUINE intrigue, you're a-ok. :)

[beastieangel01]

ack sorry to hear he turned out to be a prick. glad you followed your gut feeling on that too.

:)

thanks for that.

[skra75]

Know the feeling. : /
I try to do a bang-up job of hiding my nerdyness.

...Then I go and snort when I laugh and drop x12 dorkey Advanced Dungeons and Dragons 2nd Edition references.

:o :(

[beastieangel01]

ahahah yeah

it's the references that kill me. I make them constantly and I get this blank stare. And then I am like "oh yeah I'm the nerd not you :("

[roosta]

yeah, my other half isnt nerdy at all. it makes her laugh though, when i complain about the fonts used on a website, or point out the references in shaun of the dead etc.

[adam_f]

The other day all I had to say was "garbage man" and this girl I'm friends with knew I was talking about that Emilio Estevez movie Men at Work.

We're not dating or anything, I just wanted to be a part of this.

[QueenAdrock]

Nerds and non-Nerds need each other! ;)

I'm a semi-dork, Brett's a huge dork/borderline nerd. It works out well because I keep him in check, like forcing him to go out to bars when he wants to stay in and watch The Wrath of Khan with his nerdy best friend. :mad:

[cosmo105]

zorra, those that partake in LAN parties are not just nerds or dorks. those are full-on geeks. i'm totally a nerd, but my boyfriend is definitely a Geek. capital G.

[HEIRESS]

I have a bad history of always falling for the jock

and then I realize that the other person never reads any books, asks me shit like "do you always...always....always have to have music playing???", and doesn't like to create a couch nest and watch gory war movies.

I thought the last asshole was outside of the mould because he was studying chemistry and we could chat "le science", but then I found out he was on the university track team the two years previous as a long distance runner
fuuuuuuuuck

[zorra_chiflada]

zorra, those that partake in LAN parties are not just nerds or dorks. those are full-on geeks. i'm totally a nerd, but my boyfriend is definitely a Geek. capital G.

they collect warhammer figurines as well. :(

[cosmo105]

i caught him with a geek boner drooling over the forthcoming transformer action figures. i made him promise me he wouldn't become that guy.

[zorra_chiflada]

i caught him with a geek boner drooling over the forthcoming transformer action figures. i made him promise me he wouldn't become that guy.

joe already is that guy :(

[skra75]

My girlfriend just walked in and I was drawing listening to "Yoda's Theme" from Empire Strikes Back full fucking blast on my computer speakers. ftw :cool:

[The Notorious LOL]

The word nerd gets thrown around too casually. Id say straight up nerds are on some Linux coding D&D playing on a friday night rarely shower wear long trenchcoats in the middle of summer and call themselves Dante type of shit.

[beastieangel01]

zorra, those that partake in LAN parties are not just nerds or dorks. those are full-on geeks. i'm totally a nerd, but my boyfriend is definitely a Geek. capital G.


I love LAN parties :(

Skye, could very well be. It's weird, I felt super insecure and weird about this last night and a bit this morning still. Then he dropped by and it was like nothing.

He is :o

[DipDipDive]

And both of our friends has said that the other is very unlike anyone we've dated before.

That makes me feel kind of nervous. Very actually. Our own parents said that about the other too. No one is saying it in a bad way by any means but still.

Yeah. And those relationships didn't work out.

[QueenAdrock]

The word nerd gets thrown around too casually. Id say straight up nerds are on some Linux coding D&D playing on a friday night rarely shower wear long trenchcoats in the middle of summer and call themselves Dante type of shit.

How about 40-year old balding fat guys who have never had a girlfriend and live with their parents still and borrow their mom's Civic to go see their friends because they can't afford their own car because they spend $6,000 on new gaming computers and $800 on new Renaissance Faire boots?

If so, I know a true nerd.

[beastieangel01]

Yeah. And those relationships didn't work out.

that's what he said to me when we were talking about this earlier.

touche, my friend.

[Slimboy Fat]

I have a bad history of always falling for the jock

and then I realize that the other person never reads any books, asks me shit like "do you always...always....always have to have music playing???", and doesn't like to create a couch nest and watch gory war movies.

Well, i'm on my own at work tonight, with a good book, good music and Bridge over the River Kwai to watch in a bit.

Just need a couch to make nest and I'm sorted.;)