Wow, this is the worst day ever

[hpdrifter]

My sister and I are arguing about something we've argued about since we were kids. I told her I want space from her because the hundred or so conversations we've had about it aren't helping, we don't see each other's side and we only end up being more and more hurtful and frustrated and spiraling further down.

I don't think she's going to handle it well. I think she is going to be angry and accuse me of not caring enough.

Then I just got a snide email from a friend about throwing out too many ideas about the next group trip.

I have stuff to do at work but I can't concentrate because I know the drama with my sister is only going to increase and I don't know what to do about it. She's not going to let it go. She's not going to understand and she's only going to be more angry.

My stomach hurts.

[milleson]

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[hpdrifter]

Its just so wierd, I really have no idea what the disconnect is with us. We just cannot communicate about things without it escalating to a ridiculous degree. And I think in general we're both pretty reasonable people but when we talk to each other we just become completely closed off to the other's point of view. And no matter what we try or how it never works. We always come back to the same arguement.

[befsquire]

are you both the exact same personality, and both of you have to be right?

i have no insight as to how to help the situation, i'm just curious as to whether that's the reason it escalates. my mom and i used to do that (because she and i were exactly the same), and then one day my sister pointed it out to me, and i just decided that it was important to her to be right, and i could deal with knowing that i was right without needing to prove it, so i would either agree with my mom or i'd say something along the lines of how i don't agree with her position, but i know it's important to her and i respect her opinion but don't want to belabor the issue, and then i'd change the subject. worked great for me, and we were super tight after that and hardly ever argued anymore. probably won't work for you, i just felt like telling a story.

and using the word belabor. it's a fairly awesome word that i don't use enough.

[jabumbo]

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but you're more than welcome to go for a ride in that hat

[Waus]

I have stuff to do at work but I can't concentrate because I know the drama with my sister is only going to increase and I don't know what to do about it...
My stomach hurts.

You get like that too? When I have a relationship with someone that's in that much turmoil I get physically sick. Can't concentrate.

[hitmonlee]

i think a lot of people get that. i get physically sick if i have to tell someone something they don't want to hear, if i'm arguing, anything.