i'm thinking about trying internet dating

[Bob]

i probably won't do it because i'm a vagina, but i'm thinking about it

basically my problem is this; i don't know where i stand with women

i have a fair amount of female friends, in fact lately, i'd say i've been getting along with girls far better than i've been getting along with other guys, but i just can't tell the difference between a girl who likes me as a friend, and a girl who likes me as something more

and i'm tired of caring about that

and i don't seem to be meeting anyone

so i'm thinking about the internet, where i'm a viking

does anyone have any experience with that? is this a terrible idea? i'm pretty drunk, i'll probably regret this thread in the morning but i dunno, i'm honestly sort of thinking about it

[cosmo105]

don't do it until you've had real-world experience.

there's a very good chance you could meet someone that's really not as right for you as you think she (/he, i ain't judgin') is and won't have anything on which to base your judgements. of course that's true for meeting someone in person. but trust someone with experience here.

[ggirlballa]

u seem to be drunk a lot lately


ehh what can u lose besides money?

[adam_f]

If there is a female Bob, she's gotta be a tranny.

[ggirlballa]

I thought those things were free?

i think some of them are & some just want your money

[Bob]

don't do it until you've had real-world experience.


see that's the thing

i don't have any, and now i'm 22 and i don't know how to get any

it sounds pretty emo but there it is

[Pres Zount]

Just wait untill dorothy wood is single (is she single?) and then pounce. is there anyway to block her from reading that? It wasn't meant to be offensive or anything.

[Bob]

If there is a female Bob, she's gotta be a tranny.

she might be, the jury's still out on that one

[cosmo105]

euugh. ok, maybe an internet fling wouldn't be the worst idea to start you off. fuck man, you're drunk anyway. go tell someone he's the best friend you've ever had.

[ToucanSpam]

Internet dating is cruel and more often than not can be a painful experience.

[Bob]

So you haven't had a girlfriend before?

not so much no

i probably could have with a girl or two but i managed to screw it up.

one of them turned out to be nuts, i think she's suicidal or something, i dunno

the other one's getting married soon

and there was a third one who i forgot to mention that's also getting married soon. but she's also crazy a little

[cosmo105]

Internet dating is cruel and more often than not can be a painful experience.


that's not necessarily true. it's just different. don't base it all on your negative experience.

[Knuckles]

A good way to find out if a woman wants to go out on a date with you is to ask her out on a date. If she says yes then chances are she's interested.

I don't get you Bob. Everyone here (including myself) thinks you're great. I've seen pictures of you. You are not an ugly guy. What's keeping you from unleashing the inner stud?

[ToucanSpam]

that's not necessarily true. it's just different. don't base it all on your negative experience.
Gah, yeah I know. I can only base how I feel about it on my own personal experience. You and Steger are lucky. I envy it sometimes.

[ggirlballa]

yea when i saw a pic of bob i was like, lol kinda cute(y)

*giggles & points*

[Bob]

A good way to find out if a woman wants to go out on a date with you is to ask her out on a date. If she says yes then chances are she's interested.

I don't get you Bob. Everyone here (including myself) thinks you're great. I've seen pictures of you. You are not an ugly guy. What's keeping you from unleashing the inner stud?

hell if i know, i probably hate myself or something

thing with this girl is, if i ask her out, and she says no (which i think she will but i dunno, she's hard to read, and i have a better frame of reference than any of the rest of you), then it'll make our relationship weird, and truth is i like her as a friend if nothing else, she's easy to talk to and she honestly makes me laugh

also she's in my class and i couldn't get away from her if i wanted to. it'd be like asking a co-worker out, basically

[ToucanSpam]

Bob, if I can get laid, you can. It's that simple.

[ggirlballa]

5 dollar crack whores?

[Knuckles]

also she's in my class and i couldn't get away from her if i wanted to. it'd be like asking a co-worker out, basically

My wife and I were co-workers.

[marsdaddy]

My wife and I were co-workers, too.

22 is still pretty young and you've got plenty of time to receive and give emotional damage from failed relationships. Maybe you're afraid of failing? It's bound to happen but helps you figure out what you do and don't want.

I don't think internet dating is the way to go. It's not like you right click your mouse and skip to the happily ever after part. You still have the basic challenge of relating to the other person, no matter how you meet.

If not having had a girlfriend to this point in life is something you want to change, make it a goal. Like law school, the 100 beer club, or whatnot. I suggest you start in your school as you'll never have a better chance to date and related to 22 year olds.

[ericlee]

Bob, you're probably like me back in the day. I've had many girls that like me but I was too damn shy.

Be more assertive. If you see a girl and she's looking at you then walk over to her and talk.

Internet dating may work too. It's the future now and there's really nothing wrong with it. Maybe you should go with adult friend finder first.

[Bob]

don't do it until you've had real-world experience.

there's a very good chance you could meet someone that's really not as right for you as you think she (/he, i ain't judgin') is and won't have anything on which to base your judgements. of course that's true for meeting someone in person. but trust someone with experience here.

i just realized that you called me gay

fisticuffs, right here, right now

[Genocide Tulips]

I would go with you, bob. You look great and are hilarious. I hope you are just as hilarious offline as you are online. And I'm kind of drunk right now too, so we would hit it off easily over a bottle of vodka or something.

[Genocide Tulips]

i just realized that you called me gay

fisticuffs, right here, right now

Upon reading your first post, I thought maybe you swung the other way and ust didn't realize it or acknowledge it. Not too sure though.

[ericlee]

Bobocide Tulips

[Genocide Tulips]

I like. Let's do it, bob.

[Bob]

i have GOT to start getting offended over the fact that people think i'm gay, seriously

[roosta]

Bob, if I can get laid, you can. It's that simple.

Damn bob....i'm sorry. Im so damn sorry. I don't know what to say....

[ericlee]

i have GOT to start getting offended over the fact that people think i'm gay, seriously

I never even thought of you as being gay. Not even one bit and I've noticed that people are kind of hinting that you are. Probably just jokingly but if they're not then I'm not even sure how they would have even the slightest thought of you being gay.

[Bob]

Damn bob....i'm sorry. Im so damn sorry. I don't know what to say....

i tried so hard to ignore that post, but you just had to draw attention to it, didn't you

[na§tee]

i had a call from a journalist this week about internet dating. he was looking for an expert (not me, LOL, one of our psychologists). if i can only remember about the study he was talking about... hmm.. something about as you get to know someone online through a dating thing or whatever, the image you both project is pretty positive, but they have an incomplete picture of you. so you start to fill these gaps in your knowledge with positive things about the other person. but when you meet for the first time and some of these positive things you've created in your head don't match up (because we're human), you start to get more and more pissed about the discrepancy, the gap. and so it becomes an avalanche effect. or something.

of course, a lot of these sort of relationships work out. i just mention it because i spent all of thursday looking for an academic to talk about it!

anyway, i think the internet is just another social platform and people certainly shouldn't look down on online dating as some lower form of engagement. for some people it is easier, and i think maybe you would feel more comfortable making baby steps towards a relationship, maybe, online. because right now it seems that the whole imminent nature of IN-REAL-LIFE women sort of freak you out. but you shouldn't be so intimidated.

but don't panic. you have plenty of time. don't be rushed into anything you don't want to do. i think if you chill, someone will realise you're a cool kid and you'll meet and it'll just happen organically, which is the best way.

i'm still with my first boyfriend. never even kissed anyone else. like you, i felt a lot of pressure when i first came to university to be some uber slutty mcslut and get out there. but that wasn't me. and any effort i could have made to become that sort of person would have left me in a pretty car-crash like emotional state.

so, bobster, what i'm saying is you're a great guy indeed, and if any lady recognises the qualities that all of us see in you, they won't be the first :cool:

coolio?

[ET]

If anyone can keep up with my MSN ramblings they deserve a proper shagging, as they say. You're still young. It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do, right? So do it. Do it. Do It!

[DandyFop]

I didn't read all the crap everyone else said so if I repeat myself, suck it.

I have had a lot of experience with it (duh), some great, some meh. Nothing horrible really. My main suggestion is, if you find someone intriguing, meet them ASAP. Because if you don't, if you start to form some weird relationship, you will both build up your idea of the other, and think you like them or vice versa, and make it even more awkward when you meet in real life. Especially if the chemistry just isn't there in person.

I've been trying a bit on craigslist, but not much, lately. I met a really nice guy who was cute and we met quickly. We're pretty much friends now but I know we're not right for each other and that's cool. But if we had kept exhcanging emails longer I know that I would have started liking him and probably saying cheesy shit and I'm really thankful that didn't happen.

The End.

[Dorothy Wood]

Just wait untill dorothy wood is single (is she single?) and then pounce. is there anyway to block her from reading that? It wasn't meant to be offensive or anything.


I am already planning on marrying bob on my 30th birthday. SO STFU, GENOCIDE TULIPS :mad:

[ToucanSpam]

i tried so hard to ignore that post, but you just had to draw attention to it, didn't you
:mad:


Come on, now.

[fucktopgirl]

humm, i guess you could at least have enought balls to ask the girl you like in your class out..Internet dating is for people who are desperated, i mean you got a real life ,physical crush on a girl. Just be a MAN !

[cj hood]

i probably won't do it because i'm a vagina, but i'm thinking about it

basically my problem is this; i don't know where i stand with women

i have a fair amount of female friends, in fact lately, i'd say i've been getting along with girls far better than i've been getting along with other guys, but i just can't tell the difference between a girl who likes me as a friend, and a girl who likes me as something more

and i'm tired of caring about that

and i don't seem to be meeting anyone

so i'm thinking about the internet, where i'm a viking

does anyone have any experience with that? is this a terrible idea? i'm pretty drunk, i'll probably regret this thread in the morning but i dunno, i'm honestly sort of thinking about it

why.....you're not gonna find anymore hard up girls than on this mb........

[Randetica]

e-pussy is better than no pussy

[Jitters]

Those words ring true in the life of so many...

[cosmo105]

humm, i guess you could at least have enought balls to ask the girl you like in your class out..Internet dating is for people who are desperated, i mean you got a real life ,physical crush on a girl. Just be a MAN !
you always come across as so insulting and condescending in your posts.

[befsquire]

for real, bob, until recently i just thought you were super picky. and if you are, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

[Pres Zount]

you always come across as so insulting and condescending in your posts.
Better the desperated than the frigidity.

[Bob]

Better the desperated than the frigidity.

and the potatod headeds?

[befsquire]

hey! whatever is boat floateds, bob!

[Randetica]

you always come across as so insulting and condescending in your posts.


thats the french way

[thegoodmrbrodie!]

i tried the "internet dating" last year. recomended by my mother no less. the first girl i met was totally awesome. like literally the best person i had met in about 18 years. yeah. but she turned a little weird and it didnt work out romantically, but anyone else was just rubbish compared to her, so i gave up with that. and pretty much everything else. so in the end it's all the same shit. awkward messy annoying. long live sitting alone in your room listening to red house painters. :)

[fucktopgirl]

you always come across as so insulting and condescending in your posts.

that unfortunate, it is not my goal but i am what i am and i did not insult bob, far from that, i just told him that he could try. When you dont try you dont know, what is so scary to know ? The truth and were you stand?

[ToucanSpam]

that unfortunate, it is not my goal but i am what i am and i did not insult bob, far from that, i just told him that he could try. When you dont try you dont know, what is so scary to know ? The truth and were you stand?
You didn't insult Bob, you insulted everyone here who's ever been involved with anyone else on the board romantically. That's what she is getting at.

[cosmo105]

that wasn't what i was getting at. i was getting at the fact that she said to "have some balls" and "be a MAN" as if bob has/is neither of these.

[Bob]

that wasn't what i was getting at. i was getting at the fact that she said to "have some balls" and "be a MAN" as if bob has/is neither of these.

what's condescending about that? get some reading comprehension skills and don't be a RETARD, cosmo

i'm sorry if the truth is so scary to know?

[cosmo105]

i'm sorry bob, i just have to say when enought is enought.

[milleson]

Bob, did you ever get those awesome shoes?

[fucktopgirl]

whatever, its true , he talk about a girl that he like but he is afraid to ask her out because of the fear of rejection so..BE A MAN

And i dont think that all the people that meet on the internet are in a state of despair but if you can give it a go in your realphysical life..just do it!

[Bob]

Bob, did you ever get those awesome shoes?

yes

they are very comfortable, like walking on unicorn farts

[Bob]

yes

they are very comfortable, like walking on unicorn farts

haha

anyway i appear to have signed up for an account on okcupid a few days ago (i was drunk) and it has completely backfired

in the sense that it appears to be working, and i don't know what to do about it

one girl added me to her saved list or something and "wants me to know about it" (i guess that's some feature of okcupid, i don't know how it works, i was drunk), and the other one just said "hey let's talk"

i guess that means i'm supposed to make the first interesting move, because i'm apparently a man or something, oh god how did i get here, i'm not very good with internet girls

as for that actual girl in my class that i had a thing for (i dunno, maybe i still do, i can't even tell anymore), nothing really happened, BUT, she's still fucking with my head, because i was out with her and a bunch of other people a few days ago, and a mutual friend comes up to me and says "hey, don't tell jill (not her name but you can pretend it is) i said this, but at the beginning of the semester she told me 'i'm gonna make bob my friend'"

who says that? who tells people that someone said that? what does that mean? i didn't need to hear that. i'd moved on, i was over the whole thing, and then she tells me that, giving me more doubt to roll around in my insecure little head. what is that? not "i like him" or "i love him" or "i'm gonna suck his dick by the end of the semester" but "i'm gonna be friends with him". what the hell does that mean? i didn't need to know that

[QueenAdrock]

I've had two serious boyfriends in my life, both I've found online. I found Wayne through sparkmatch.com, they have a compatibility test that tells you about your personality and who you should be with, and we were both bored. I did it for my own amusement but ended up talking to him and we realized we lived 5 miles apart, so met up and hit it off. 6 years ago today, actually.

I'd been friends with Brett online for about 4 years, we met up as friends when he came to DC as a side trip from going to NYC, one thing led to another and now we're dating. Strangely enough, I don't consider Brett's and my relationship to be an internet relationship based on the fact that neither of us crushed on the other until we met. It just...sorta happened during a board meet-up. It was weird.

Anyways, if I have to give advice, there's a lot of shitty sites out there with creepy people. If they're on the sites purely for dating, most of the time it's because they can't get a date in real life. Some are just shy like you, but that's maybe about 25% of them. The others are mainly either crazy, or just looking to fuck. Which may also be okay, I don't know.

[Bob]

oh yeah, they both live in boston

well one does, the other lives in waltham which is like 9 miles away or something i dunno

the boston one's going to law school next year i guess, i should get on that with the whole "i can trade you advice for sex" thing

that's a thing, right?

i dunno, i think i just need some shitty relationships for a frame of reference, i need some experience, i have no experience

[mikizee]

any experience is good experience, well, almost.

at least u can practice and hone your sex skills on ugly chicks that dont matter.

go and get'em!!

[Lyman Zerga]

haha



lol

[Odie]

I did the computer dating thing a while back, and dated a computer. I can tell you the sex was shocking! ahem.

[Otis Driftwood]

i'm not very good with internet girls

Is it true they are even weirder than the real life ones? At least they don't stand next to musicians who beg for money downtown making you uncomfortable cause you don't give them any money.

[na§tee]

bob, dude - don't panic. just go with the flow. these girls have expressed an interest in you and now you are just spazzing out. enjoy it! have some fun. drink a couple of beers with them. what could go wrong? second thoughts, don't answer that.

[miss soul fire]

I would be worried if I was a man and got along that good with women. I mean, you are just a ladybuddy, ya know. Do not let them think you are in the friend zone. Watch "Just Friends".:p

[mikizee]

advertise on your profile that you are a virgin needing to be broken in by a sexy girl. you will be swamped.

[Genocide Tulips]

Get drunk, go out, get your goo-goo sucked and your balls will drop soon after.

Seriously, you need to get yourself out of the comfort zone you are in. You need to make yourself uncomfortable in order to grow more socially and to gain confidence.

[-T-]

advertise on your profile that you are a virgin needing to be broken in by a sexy girl. you will be swamped.

X2 (y) Seriously that might just work. Then its out there in the open.

[Bob]

i really am kind of considering that

in other news, another girl just expressed an interest in me (she "wooed" me, which i guess is another feature of okcupid...i think it's the equivalent of a poke in facebook). that's 3 in 4 days, i'm beginning to think i'm attractive or something, jesus.

[Bob]

i've made a huge mistake

[mikizee]

why?

[Lo_Lyfe]

i've made a huge mistake
hahahaha. Well, you're crying.

[Otis Driftwood]

i've made a huge mistake
:eek: Not the tranny mistake!

[paul jones]

i probably won't do it because i'm a vagina, but i'm thinking about it

basically my problem is this; i don't know where i stand with women

i have a fair amount of female friends, in fact lately, i'd say i've been getting along with girls far better than i've been getting along with other guys, but i just can't tell the difference between a girl who likes me as a friend, and a girl who likes me as something more

and i'm tired of caring about that

and i don't seem to be meeting anyone

so i'm thinking about the internet, where i'm a viking

does anyone have any experience with that? is this a terrible idea? i'm pretty drunk, i'll probably regret this thread in the morning but i dunno, i'm honestly sort of thinking about it

any luck yet?

[ET]

:eek: Not the tranny mistake!

*que photo of tranny again*

[Bob]

Woah last night a girl friend of mine told me that this other girl who is pretty hot who I don't really know tooo well thinks I'm adorable or cute or some shit, I was a bit drunk at the time so I can't remember properly. What the hell does that mean? And why would she go out of her way to say it?

not reaaally the same thing

a girl telling you that a friend of hers thinks you're cute means that the friend likes you, but she's too shy to tell you herself

a girl telling you that a friend of hers wanted to be your friend means ??????

[Bob]

Yeah I know it's not the same thing, I didn't say it was haha, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me that way. Which is a shame cause I'd bone her.

OH yeah, i read it again, i see what you mean. it kinda sounds like "cute/adorable" like a teddy bear

you don't fuck teddy bears

generally

[Bob]

She wants to be your friend?

fuckin i don't know, i thought she already was, that's why i'm so confused by the whole thing

[-T-]

There was a guy who was caught in my area last fall for having sex with dead dogs he found on the side of the road. No joke. He was caught in the act by the police and the dog was already there for about 4 days.

[Bob]

what an odd thing to say

[Dorothy Wood]

wait, I want to know what the mistake was.

[Bob]

oh

i talked to some girl, and i was very drunk and apparently a fairly good conversationalist somehow, i think i lead her on a bit; but when i woke up the next morning, i realized i didn't like her much, so i've been avoiding her (i gave her my AIM name too, so i can't go back there for a while)

i don't think i'm cut out for this whole relationship thing, i seem to be pretty immature

[Dorothy Wood]

oh! that's why you're not online? boohiss.

omg tell me a storyyyyyy

[Bob]

i think i'm gonna make a new screen name, i'm overdue for one anyway

adrock1551 is LAMESVILLE USA

this new screenname will represent the post-internet dating bob

what shall it be?

oh a story; did i ever tell you about the time i had diarrhea while i was taking the SAT? it's a bowel-clenching tale

[Dorothy Wood]

oh no! that's the worst!

hmmm, man, it seems like you'd have to come up with something pretty unique as an aol screenname these days. millions of people...millions of people...MILLIONS

use the internet.


ohgod.

[Bob]

how about yahooseriousfest

i've actually already got it registered

hang on

[Bob]

how do you import a buddy list from one screen name to a new screen name? i'm too drunk for this

[Dorothy Wood]

yahoo serious is older than my mom. weird.

[Lyman Zerga]

what an odd thing to say


it's an option

[Bob]

it's an option

alright that was pretty funny