girl question..

[dancin2beasties]

okay so weird place for me to be asking this, but im in kind of a time-limited thing and i dont have a lot of non-awkward-situation people to ask. theres this girl, she's thinking she wants to have sex tomorrow, shes never done it before, its going to be a pretty rare occurance because her boyfriend is going to college soon and there is rarely a good time and place.. as far as protection goes.. condoms are covered, but is it really necessary to start going on the pill right away? i know that its not really effective the first week so if the answer is yes then tomorrows out of the question anyways.. but is it not smart to not start taking the pill before your first time? i'll probably end up asking someone else for advice anyways, but anyones thoughts or information would be appreaciated for now. ..basically i really want to but i dont want to be too stupid. is not taking the pill before your first time stupid?

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

Blue pill or Red pill?

[dancin2beasties]

whichever one will keep the babies from escaping the matrix

[monkey]

if the girl is getting the pill from a doctor (which i assume she absolutely needs to), then she should ask these questions from that doctor, who can properly advice the girl.

that said, the pill is not a way to prevent a pregnancy AFTER having sex. it is a way to control hormones so that a girl doesnt ovulate. meaning that it takes the body a bit of time to work the pill through the system, which is why they advice people that they should use a backup method (another form of contraception) for the first month of being on the pill. this is not something you can take once in awhile or anything like that. it's something you take everyday, for a long time, at the same time everyday.

though preventing pregnancies is important, i truly believe protecting yourself from STDs is even more important, so please always, always, always use condoms.

[g-mile7]

A public service annoucement from Monkey style

[dancin2beasties]

question in simpler form - is it okay to only use a condom? and this first time we agreed we wouldnt get too dang passionate about anything or make this a regular deal, we just want to see how it all.. fits together?

[monkey]

just condoms is ok if you use them properly. it shouldnt be too difficult, but bananas are handy for condom-placing practice.
also, lube might be really helpful, especially for a first time.

most of all, this should be something you're really ready for, both mentally and emotionally. if you have ANY doubts, you can always wait till later. trust me on this one.

[Knuckles]

Condoms are quite effective when used properly.

Are you sure this is something you are ready for?

[dancin2beasties]

yeah, im emotionally ready for it, and really we know we're not going to go too crazy, we just are curious about how it all is going to work. and i love and trust this kid beyond the ends of the earth, and he's not pressuring me at all. when we actually start making this a regular intense thing then i'd start the whole doctor/pill/hardcore no baby stuff. but i just hoped it wasnt necessary for a little experimentation.

[Schmeltz]

its going to be a pretty rare occurance because her boyfriend is going to college soon


Not for him it isn't! (y)

[dancin2beasties]

hahaha well, he's a pretty devoted guy so i dont think i'll have toooo much to worry about. he is much more worried about what i might get myself into in my last year of highschool than what he would get into in his first year of college.

[hitmonlee]

condom is fine, but if it slips off or breaks, just go and get the morning after pill. then if you think you are going to continue having sex, get the pill as well and start taking that after. but you said its a rare occurence so i wouldn't worry about that.

[na§tee]

yeah, i'm confused if you are speaking in the third person or whatever, too. because if you are a dude it sorta sounds like you are about to bang someone else's chick, maaaaaaaan.

pauli said it all, really.

you don't need to be on the pill the first time but it helps if you are super paranoid. and you can't just take it right before having sex and be like 'yo, let's do it'. you have to start it at the right time in your cycle and take it properly.

first time i had sex it was just a condom. i was surprised to say the least. but then i got so paranoid about just having a thin layer of latex between me and baby-dom that i went on the pill and have been on it pretty much ever since, bar a few months of "omg it is making me fat i wanna go off it".

practice putting the condom on together. you gotta learn together, right? don't worry if you can't get it right the first time. i think it would be great if you could laugh at things that may go 'wrong'. because sex is sometimes funny. LOL RUBBERS.

don't do it unless you are completely sure. sometimes i wish i had said no. but, meh, can't really change it now, can i? oooh, hymen surgery! (y)

[Pres Zount]

dancin2beasties is the best name on the board.