Have you ever dated multiple people at once?

[Dorothy Wood]

I mean, not in a GEA poly way. just like, goin on dates with different ladies or dudes. and then like what happens? do you have to choose at some point?

not that I'm in this position at all really. but the night before last, I made out (just kissing, no sex, maybe a little dry hump action) with a friend of mine and we might be developing feelings for eachother or something. I dunno. anyway, I left early for work and let him sleep and when I got home, he had made my bed :o I was impressed.

anyway, so I just checked my email and there was a message from this dude I've been talking to, asking me out. :/ and I like him a lot. he's a comedy writer. and fuckin hot.

maybe I'm thinking about this too much. it just seems like it would be rude of me to go out with this second guy, if things are gonna start being romantic with my friend. man, they are both awesome kids, i dunno what to do.

sincerely,
Marsha (Marcia?) Brady

[Otis Driftwood]

I mean, not in a GEA poly way. just like, goin on dates with different ladies or dudes. and then like what happens? do you have to choose at some point?

If you are really serious about someone you will choose cause otherwise you'll go from 2 to 0.
So if you have no urge, you're not too serious, so just leave it as it is, MANkind will thank you for it... :D

[avignon]

Not to be rude or anything, cause I like you, you're a fun chicky, but don't your relationships have a tendency to fizzle out kinda quickly? (I'm really not judging.) My point is, just wait and see what happens with one for awhile before you date the other one.

[Loppfessor]

here's a hint...don't use real names. Instead use things like "sweetie" "honey" etc....that way you won't call ther person by the wrong name....(y)

[Otis Driftwood]

here's a hint...don't use real names. Instead use things like "sweetie" "honey" etc....that way you won't call ther person by the wrong name....(y)
Hahaha. At least while you're awake...:p

[Loppfessor]

Ten women enter. One woman leaves, with me.

More like 5 new lesbian couples...you go home solo again...FACE

[Dorothy Wood]

Not to be rude or anything, cause I like you, you're a fun chicky, but don't your relationships have a tendency to fizzle out kinda quickly? (I'm really not judging.) My point is, just wait and see what happens with one for awhile before you date the other one.


well, I really haven't had an actual relationship in 2.5 years. I had an almost relationship in the fall with that rockstar, but he was on tour most of the time, so it didn't really count. also, I didn't care for him too much.

everyone else has just been hook-ups or people I've liked who didn't like me back, or people who've proclaimed liking me back but jerked me around too much.


I guess I'm just scared with the friend thing. because we are very good friends and already love eachother. it just sort of seemed a little more serious than a random hook-up, on account of the spooning and the tenderness and all. I dunno. heh. gahhh! I just don't want to fuck up the friendship. but then I think we could also be pretty good together as a couple. pfft. it's just that the friend aspect sort of dimishes the sexual attraction for me in a way. it's hard to explain.


and the second guy is hot hot hot.

[GreenEarthAl]

Did you ever have a class in school where the teacher was like "Okay, not you again Billy, but anyone else feel free to answer the question."

[Dorothy Wood]

ah! well, gea, maybe I should just give polyamory a try.

I'll see if they're up for it.

I agreed via email to go out with the second guy, as he is interesting and looks like skra :cool:

I also emailed my friend and thanked him for the buttsex.

[Lyman Zerga]

Not to be rude or anything, cause I like you, you're a fun chicky, but don't your relationships have a tendency to fizzle out kinda quickly? (I'm really not judging.) My point is, just wait and see what happens with one for awhile before you date the other one.


buuuuuuurrrn!

[Lyman Zerga]

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I agreed via email to go out with the second guy, as he is interesting and looks like skra :cool:

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send him to me after youre done with him

but no buttzsex with him poolease

[Bob]

i accidentally dated a pair of twins once

[Dorothy Wood]

i accidentally dated a pair of twins once

that wasn't you, it was kirk cameron. and it was an episode of growing pains. :(



none of this would be happening if you'd just marry me, bob. sheesh!


oh, and my friend just called. I didn't answer! I chickened out! and he didn't leave a message. omg omg. my roommates were squealing.

[hitmonlee]

yeah i have a few times
one guy i was casually seeing for a while (few months) and another guy asked me out, and we ended up getting really serious really quick so i told first guy the truth and it was all good.

another time i started dating a guy and he went overseas like a week later for a few months, and in that time i went on some dates with another guy and eventually told him that first guy was coming back and that i was going to go out with him again. first guy knew i had been seeing someone, didn;t care, we weren't a couple.

wow i sound like a mean person now. (n)

[Justin]

Yea i did. I was seeing two women at the same time....which ended when I forgot one girls name while we were making out on the couch.

It was just like that Seinfeld episode where Jerry trys to have george and kramer find this girls name out after he had already made out with her.

[GreenEarthAl]

When I was a youngun my mother used to tell me I was going to be really handsome and that I was going to "have to beat girls off with a stick"

In high school I was a very moody little boy because I wanted to touch boobs and all the girls thought I was pretty ghastly.

In college I got a little bit more action, but I still was impressed neither by myself nor the quality of woman I was attracting. And I was big time clingy. Any time I could get a woman to let me touch her boob we would end up in an exclusive relationship of 6 months or greater.

All the while my mother was still telling me "date around." "Don't get so caught up in one woman." "Don't get so serious so quickly."

But I was all like. "FRICKIN FRICKIN FRICK! Do you have any idea how hard it is is to even get one girl to like me??? Let alone two. Let alone two at the same time? Let alone even one ever again if word gets out that I've ever thought I could get away with seeing two girls at the same time???"

However... During my crazy co-dependant twenties, there were several ex girlfriends that became really attached to me that would 'come around' every time I became single. And they would say 'hey no strings attatched' [and then hide all the strings behind their backs].

So when I was like 28 or something, all of a sudden I realized there were several ex gfs that would let me hit it and all I had to do was pretend not to notice that I was commiting misdemeanors of emotional torture. So then I was 'seeing' (not dating) 3 gals at once.

So then I met this new young woman. I was pretty into her. I suggested that we should be friends, have some casual sex, and see where it goes from there. And she pretty much flipped out and told me what she thought of that idea and at the same time promissed me that if I dropped all them other gals I would never regret it.

Curiousity piqued, I broke it off with all ex girlfriends and made this new young woman my girlfriend. She was extremely jealous and constantly accusing me of cheating on her with this and that ex gf, and while I certainly had some good times with her and grew a lot from the relationship, she ended up sucking away two years of my life that might have been better spent elsewhere.

Five years later I met and fell in love with Heather. And one year after that I became polyamorous. And some days my life reminds me of that scene in trading places where Coleman and the Dukes are trying to convince Billy Ray Valentine that all of the stuff in the mansion is his to utilize as he will as he's trying to stuff shit into his pockets and what not. My girlfriends are really cool and some days I totally can't believe that I get to touch two different pairs of boobs.

Good thinkin MOM! SCORE!

[QueenAdrock]

Last year I was just dating. I didn't want anything serious, just wanted to see who I liked/was attracted to, and so I went out with several guys. One I met in February and we went on dates off and on until late April. Another dude I met mid-April and went on one date with and wasn't attracted to and he really liked me and that was sort of awkward. And then the next week I met Brett and it was all over and I started dating him exclusively.

As long as they know you're just testing the waters and don't want anything official or exclusive yet, it's all good. The only drawback from seeing several people is that once I became serious with Brett, the guy I had been sorta-not really seeing for 3 months was shocked. I don't know why, because we went out maybe a total of 10 times and never even kissed. We were more friends territory (I assumed so), but I guess he thought it was more and was just shy to make a move? I dunno. But anyways, I'm still friends with the dude but he definitely doesn't like Brett. Not as a person, but in the whole "You ruined any chance I had with Diana" kinda way. Ha!

So yeah, my experience may be a little different since I didn't have strong feelings towards the dudes I was dating. Just kinda seeing what was out there. Once I found one I liked, I stopped the whole dating thing.

[befsquire]

when i got divorced, i dated two guys at once. both knew i didn't want anything serious, and when i told the skater that i was going to go out with the model, he got pissed off. the model didn't care, and liked making fun of the skater. the skater decided all was cool, but then i dumped them both when bobby said he had a crush on me.

the skater was pissed and went psychotic. called my ex-husband, had his sister sign onto this site to spy on me, etc. the model was all "that's cool, hope it works out for you, let me know how it goes when you meet him."

your situation is way different, and i think your friend may not like to hear that he's sharing you. the "hot hot hot" guy isn't likely to be anything near what you and your friend could be, so i would say cancel that date. is it too late to do that?

[Dorothy Wood]

well, the date isn't settled yet. I just responded to his request today and he hasn't gotten back to me yet.

this friend thing isn't a done deal either. so, I don't know. I'm a little iffy anyway, because I'm friends with his ex. but recently she came on to my ex and they hooked up a few times, but she doesn't live here anymore, she was just visiting. so, I guess we're even. but still. I still can't shake that weirdness. it's like we switched partners or something. yuck.

apparently the news has spread like wildfire and people are getting a huge kick out of it. last night, according to cort, it was the topic of the evening amongst our friends (I stayed in on account of being tuckered out from my art show preparations and heavy drinking).

IT'S TOO MUCH! I'M NOT READY! AHHHHH!


what the crap. of all the crap. this is what happens when you declare yourself asexual I suppose.

but some of you seem to have semi-successfully dated two people at the same time. I'm just gonna roll with it and see what happens. what a mess.

[na§tee]

but then i dumped them both when bobby said he had a crush on me.
awwwhh! <3

sarky. er. i have never had the opportunity :( well. i was sort of going out and eating pizza in the streets with this american guy josh while R was making teh movez. but he was uber christian and was all about the no sex before marriage thing although he secretly wanted to bone me, i'm sure. but i just wanted to eat the goddamned pizza yo. but, like, i guess i wasn't dating either of them. just being friendly. jesus fuck i need breakfast.

i think it is perfectly fine to test the waters with two boys in the early stages. if one gets more serious than the other, then you know it's time to re-assess the situation.

[na§tee]

Sometimes I wonder what it's like to be single.tell me about it :(

i hope your troubles dissipate, you-gee.

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[mikizee]

I just broke up with my gf on the weekend. i still love her, but im not in love with her and i knew she wasnt 'the one' so i had to break it off. hardest thing ive ever done in my life. god, it was difficult. she is completely shattered. and seeing her completely shattered shattered me too, and i felt like the biggest asshole.

hopefully things should get better.

[Otis Driftwood]

i still love her, but im not in love with her
:confused: How does one do that?

[mikizee]

it was quite easy, evidently

u can fall out of love with someone but still care deeply for them as a person, and love them that way. u just dont wanna marry them or have kids etc. thats the deal with me.

[Junker]

I already dated multiple people at the same night but not at the same time.

[abcdefz]

I gave this a shot once. Both the girls I was dating knew about it -- it was all above board. But then the one I really preferred told me she did mind after all, and rather than letting me break up with the other girl, she broke up with me first. We stayed friends, though, but that kind of sucked and I never did it again.

Though I did break up with a girl once because I wanted to have a fling. Broke up with that girl after about a week and hooked back up with the first. That was pretty lame.

[beastiegirrl101]

Sometimes I wonder what it's like to be single.

It's friggin great.

[HEIRESS]

pffffft multiple dudes, I can't even find one.

granted I made out with two people in one night, but thats one night out of 24 years

[b i o n i c]

i 'dated' five at the same time, they overlapped for like four days. its confusing and not fun. i started confusing their names and it got uncomfortable.


i like being a one girl dude and telling the truth. none of that

[Dorothy Wood]

well! I talked to my mom and she said I should go on dates with both of them and see which one I like better and then choose. she's pulling for the friend though, because he's putting together a wood shop for making furniture and stuff and she got really excited. heh.

[Bob]

will you be wearing the coveralls on your dates? will they be covering your LIES

[Echewta]

Make sure none of them skates.

[hpdrifter]

I don't see what the big deal is of dating more than one person at a time. I mean, you don't meet or go on one date and then are instantly a couple with an understanding that you're exclusive. You go out, if you like each other you go out again. And over time if you decide you want to be exclusive you talk about it. Hopefully you're both there at the same time.

Why would I turn down a date with a guy just because I had been out with someone else the previous weekend? I'm not saying its a hot topic when you're out with people. Like dinner conversation would be oh yeah, I'm dating like three other people. But its not lying and its not wrong. I mean, if sex is involved its a little different, but otherwise I don't see the problem.

I guess if you're friends with someone already it sort of muddies the waters, but

[beastieangel01]

well! I talked to my mom and she said I should go on dates with both of them and see which one I like better and then choose.

Nothin wrong with that.

I've dated many people before at once. Nothing official but, even then, in the long run it gets a little weird. And despite what people may say, feelings always get hurt. I'ts almost positive that at least one person will feel hurt in the end.

But they'll get over it ;P

[Caribou]

Damnit, I can't even manage a date with 1 guy. It's because you're stealing all the spares. :mad:

[Dorothy Wood]

so I went over to the friend's house last night and we walked to the beach and sat on a pier and chatted and stuff. we are acting very silly. when we got back to his house, it was all awkward and stuff, but funny. he was like, *sigh* "what is happening, what are we doing?" kind of under his breath and I was like, "what?" and he said, "nothing". then we took our pants off because it was hot. then he told me a story about this musician guy who put a gun in the vagina of a chick who used to date neil young or something. and then he was like, "fuck! why did I just tell you that story right now?!" ha ha.

anyway, I have a hickey on my neck now, for the first time since I was 19! :mad:

he's going on vacation for two weeks tomorrow. so. we'll see what happens.


no specific date settled with the other kid yet, but he is excited that I agreed to it.

I don't like hurting people's feelings, but I can see that someone is probably going to get upset. :(

[skra75]

If by "dating" you mean "had no strings attached trists with" than, yes.
If you don't get your heart involved it's no big deal. Sometimes other people are looking for the same thing you are, and there is nothing wrong with that.
But yeah, once you commit to one it's the honorable thing to kinda break it off with the other ones. Kind of a bitch really because I've lost some good friends that way.

[skra75]

will you be wearing the coveralls on your dates? will they be covering your LIES

I spat coffee everwhere when I read this lol

[skra75]

1) he was like, *sigh* "what is happening, what are we doing?" kind of under his breath and I was like, "what?" and he said, "nothing".

2) then he told me a story about this musician guy who put a gun in the vagina of a chick who used to date neil young or something. and then he was like, "fuck! why did I just tell you that story right now?!" ha ha.

3) anyway, I have a hickey on my neck now, for the first time since I was 19! :mad: (

This guy seems to have no social skills with womens whatsoever. He seems creepy and freaky, sorry lol. Three strikes listed above.

[Echewta]

Hello guy i kinda know. Yea its hot, lets take our pants off :confused:

[skra75]

hahahahahahah

[Dorothy Wood]

Hello guy i kinda know. Yea its hot, lets take our pants off :confused:


we are friends! I've known him for 5 years! and I was wearing long jeans and it was like 75 degrees!

and skra, he's not creepy :( I think he's just acting weird because he likes me. I mean, if we were sitting on a couch being friends rather than lying in a bed half-naked together, he probably would've told me the story anyway.



fuck, I hate this. I'm not cut out for it.

[Lex Diamonds]

Basically you should choose right now, because being rejected for another guy is pretty much the worst feeling in the world and someone might kill themself or something.

[Bob]

I don't like hurting people's feelings, but I can see that someone is probably going to get upset. :(

yeah...."someone"

excuse me, i have something in my eye

[DJ_Skrilla]

yes, its fun. Now with cell phones and sneaky girls it gets harder. Also myspace too. Why does your #1 spot have to be reserved for your girlfriend?

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah...."someone"

excuse me, i have something in my eye

bob! come on! you know you're my #1 future husband contender. ;)