well, now i just feel like total crap

[jabumbo]

so i found out last night that this girl that i have sort of been seeing met some other guy a couple weeks ago, and only like a few days before i finally just spilled my guts to her in a letter.

granted, i should have done this a lot earlier, but i guess i never realized how much it mattered until it was too late



i'm still trying to do what i can, because i can't see what some guy she met two weeks ago can hold over me after several months, but i really don't know what to do. all i know is i feel really crappy because i feel like i've basically just lost everything.

[Documad]

I am so sorry. I have nothing as far as advice, but I feel bad for you.

[g-mile7]

My advice is that it never too late and if your realtionship meant something to her equal or even greater to what you feel for her, then it should work out and she should come back. Just keep in contact with her, even meet up somewhere maybe, to discuss your feelings and if she is a cool chick she will oblige.

Stay up I know how your feelin' got me a bit of trouble with this girl Im talking to as well....maybe I'll post bout it one day....

[b i o n i c]

im with this ^

if she really means that much to you, she should know and you should tell her. but this is coming from the biggest cheese of all cheeses. part of me knows that women generally don't respond to guys who profess their love the way you want to. for some retarded reason it seems like women are more attracted to men who are aloof than those who treat them the way we want to be treated.

id say spill it out to her anyway, but be prepared to be turned down. the better bet, but probably riskiest would be for you to just completely forget about her and see if she comes back to you. even find someone new to spend some innocent time with. you might just lose her forever but as corny as is sounds, only then will you know that she really wants you.

good luck.

[WillMac]

always avoid the friend zone. its a mine field full of self doubt and ego bruises.

if you like a chick....always try to make out with her within 3 days of meeting her. you'll save your self alot of wasted time.

[b i o n i c]

that too.

[jabumbo]

basically, i know that i waited too long, and i probably could have avoided this but...

what she wanted me to do the whole time was just something that was really hard for me to do, and i figured that knowing her personality, if it was really a problem then she would have done something else to work around it.

my thoughts are that she was just as scared as i was to do something about it, and when new guy came around, he was probably like most other guys in this world and had no problems with that sort of thing.


i wrote a lenghtly note to give to her, but i dont know how to give it without just plopping it in her hands and saying to wait to read it when she has some alone time later on....

[b i o n i c]

what is it that she wanted you to do?

[jabumbo]

the general statement was "to talk about it", so you know, that is basically anything. we would have chats here and there about things, but it never seemed to fit the bill at first.

but when i seemed to get to the point where i was requesting to see her for these reasons, something was always in the way. A lot of the times it was things like class or whatever, but i know there were times that she would pass on it just to avoid it as well. so i just sort of feel that even though i had a couple months to do this, the mutual effort was never there at the same time

[cosmo105]

GODDAMNIT

[jabumbo]

yes?

[TurdBerglar]

SHOW HER YOUR COCK

[monkey]

give her the letter as soon as possible. just go give it to her now, if you can.

[b i o n i c]

i could totally be wrong, but generally speaking.... when there's a will there's a way. and if she wasnt available to you when she smelled something in the air, then she probably isnt interested. but again, i could be wrong. and even if she's not interested now doesnt mean you can never have her.


turd is right. you shoulda just showed her your cock.

[g-mile7]

I agree with Willmac and Bio.

[Justin]

so i found out last night that this girl that i have sort of been seeing met some other guy a couple weeks ago, and only like a few days before i finally just spilled my guts to her in a letter.

granted, i should have done this a lot earlier, but i guess i never realized how much it mattered until it was too late



i'm still trying to do what i can, because i can't see what some guy she met two weeks ago can hold over me after several months, but i really don't know what to do. all i know is i feel really crappy because i feel like i've basically just lost everything.


You didn't shave your beard did you?

[jabumbo]

I've always wanted guys to express their true feelings to me, wether it be love/like/lust/whatever...but I'm usually uncomfortable when they do. Because I feel like they have given something to me, which is nice, but I can't return it, making me feel bad.

If that makes sense.

It's easier to be emotionally neglected than be treated like a princess. That whole feeling of deserving/being undeserving.


i think thats part of the issue here.

she wants me to express everything, but is afraid that when i do, whatever it is she feels isn't the same and she sort of was afraid of that.


i understand why she expected me to be the one to take that step and everything, but i don't understand why she let it bother her so much that it took me a while to try and do it when she could have initiated the exact conversation she wanted whenever she felt necessary instead of waiting for me to find it.

[DandyFop]

but when i seemed to get to the point where i was requesting to see her for these reasons, something was always in the way. A lot of the times it was things like class or whatever, but i know there were times that she would pass on it just to avoid it as well. so i just sort of feel that even though i had a couple months to do this, the mutual effort was never there at the same time

I can't believe I'm saying this but

"Dude - she's just not that into you"

hey let's make out!

[b i o n i c]

^ i think she's right, but that doesnt mean you shouldnt still make the effort if she really means that much to you... at the very least so you dont wonder what if later.

[DandyFop]

Making an effort is a good idea, you don't want any regrets. BUT, I have to say, that on good advice from someone I avoided the "gut spilling" letter thing, because she told me about when she was totally in love with this guy and did the whole letter thing to him just to get basically a shrug in response. To me, that is worse than giving the letter. If you feel like she might respond this way, i would avoid it. I know that I'm happy I did...but of course I was in a different place in my "relationship" (meaning, we had broken up), so I definetly needed to get over it.

[Lyman Zerga]

that one who left her clothes in your apartment?


well you can still have your ol randii