GreenEarthAl
04-03-2007, 07:47 PM
Where I work it gets very physical. The warehouse was pretty much 100% men, and the vast majority of those men believed that only men could do the job. I being a rare exception. But, being the boss for a subcontractor I get to hire and fire who I like within limits. So an old friend of mine myspaced me from out of the blue one day and I saw that she was still playing basketball and even played for the university and she was into weightlifting and such and I asked her to come work for me and she did. She was like a little sister to me 20 years ago and she does a great job for us and a lot of guys seem very threatened by her.
None of this has much to do with the story I'm trying to tell. What else is new. It's tangentially related.
There's a guy in the warehouse who asked me how the "little girl" was doing, and I replied "Yesterday she chucked 28,000 pounds like a champ!" and he replied "Mary that woman!" and I replied "I have two girlfriends already, I don't know where I would ever find the time to have a third one."
Less than 24 hours later... I had a 3rd girlfriend. Because life is funny. And not just any girlfriend either. Like the PERFECT girlfriend. Like, imagine if you were in love with the perfect woman for you, and then one day you got to be in love with the other perfect woman for you also. It's like that.
Okay, it's like this. I saw all that Polyamory stuff on Mtv and what not back in the 90s and I was like 'that's cool if that's what they're into, but I doubt I'll ever meet anyone who lives like that in real life.' And then when I met Heather and she was so perfect for me and she was like 'You can be my boyfriend as long as your cool with my other boyfriend' and I tried not to like her and just kept liking her more and I spent so much time thinking 'You know, maybe one day she might just change her mind or something' and then realizing she was never going to change her mind. And so we had that crazy plan that she and I would break up as soon as I found the perfect monogamous woman for me, but THEN... there was this one woman, and she was just SO HOT and I got to thinking, now what if Heather loved me and this other woman loved me and they were both okay with that, what would be wrong with that?
And so that didn't go anywhere but I kept it in the back of my mind and a few months later I couldn't beat it so I joined it and became poly and found that I actually liked Poly and that it was for me and yadda yadda yadda.
And so two long years went by where Heather was my only girlfriend, and being poly and being able to date other women was nice and all along, this whole time, that woman that first made me think 'well maybe' she and I were just really great friends. She would move away and move back and we would call each other and every six months or so I would check in and say 'I really think you should let me be one of your boyfriends' and she was shake her head and say 'I dunno, I'm glad that all works for you and Heather..."
One time she even told me she was becoming Polyamorous, and I about did a backflip. BUT she was living in Indiana at the time. THEN she moved back to Buffalo to be monogamous with her ex boyfriend. That's about the way it's gone. I've mostly just been quietly pining away for her for thre years and checking in every once in a while to see if she'd consider changing her mind.
Last Friday I kissed her. And the universe shifted and all that. And I so totally loves her. And I totally don't understand how this came to be my life, it's like if you just set out to take a walk to the corner store one day and you're like "How the hell did I end up in Hawaii." I don't know why I get to have the best girlfriends. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. Like, do I get hit by a car now or burned by acid or something? I don't trust the universe that much.
I guess I'll just try to enjoy it. And be really careful riding my bike.
None of this has much to do with the story I'm trying to tell. What else is new. It's tangentially related.
There's a guy in the warehouse who asked me how the "little girl" was doing, and I replied "Yesterday she chucked 28,000 pounds like a champ!" and he replied "Mary that woman!" and I replied "I have two girlfriends already, I don't know where I would ever find the time to have a third one."
Less than 24 hours later... I had a 3rd girlfriend. Because life is funny. And not just any girlfriend either. Like the PERFECT girlfriend. Like, imagine if you were in love with the perfect woman for you, and then one day you got to be in love with the other perfect woman for you also. It's like that.
Okay, it's like this. I saw all that Polyamory stuff on Mtv and what not back in the 90s and I was like 'that's cool if that's what they're into, but I doubt I'll ever meet anyone who lives like that in real life.' And then when I met Heather and she was so perfect for me and she was like 'You can be my boyfriend as long as your cool with my other boyfriend' and I tried not to like her and just kept liking her more and I spent so much time thinking 'You know, maybe one day she might just change her mind or something' and then realizing she was never going to change her mind. And so we had that crazy plan that she and I would break up as soon as I found the perfect monogamous woman for me, but THEN... there was this one woman, and she was just SO HOT and I got to thinking, now what if Heather loved me and this other woman loved me and they were both okay with that, what would be wrong with that?
And so that didn't go anywhere but I kept it in the back of my mind and a few months later I couldn't beat it so I joined it and became poly and found that I actually liked Poly and that it was for me and yadda yadda yadda.
And so two long years went by where Heather was my only girlfriend, and being poly and being able to date other women was nice and all along, this whole time, that woman that first made me think 'well maybe' she and I were just really great friends. She would move away and move back and we would call each other and every six months or so I would check in and say 'I really think you should let me be one of your boyfriends' and she was shake her head and say 'I dunno, I'm glad that all works for you and Heather..."
One time she even told me she was becoming Polyamorous, and I about did a backflip. BUT she was living in Indiana at the time. THEN she moved back to Buffalo to be monogamous with her ex boyfriend. That's about the way it's gone. I've mostly just been quietly pining away for her for thre years and checking in every once in a while to see if she'd consider changing her mind.
Last Friday I kissed her. And the universe shifted and all that. And I so totally loves her. And I totally don't understand how this came to be my life, it's like if you just set out to take a walk to the corner store one day and you're like "How the hell did I end up in Hawaii." I don't know why I get to have the best girlfriends. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. Like, do I get hit by a car now or burned by acid or something? I don't trust the universe that much.
I guess I'll just try to enjoy it. And be really careful riding my bike.