"There's someone out there for everyone!"

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

Why do people say this? Does anyone actually think this is true anymore? Alot of people say that if your not with someone it's because you dont want to be with someone; I kind of believe it and I kind of dont. My mom is alone but shes been married, had a kid and hated it; she says the reason that she's alone is because she doesnt want anyone. So does that mean that there isnt someone out there for everyone? Are some people just meant to be alone?

[Dorothy Wood]

I don't know I think there's enough people in this world that someone's bound to enjoy your company for extended periods of time. unless you're just a rotten person.

I think it's different for some women who have been in an unhappy marriage, or for women who've had a husband die or something. My grandfather died in 1981 and my grandma never re-married or even dated anyone else. my friend's mom never dated anyone after her divorce...she's been single for about 18 years. her family and career were just more important to her than finding a man.

so, yeah, I don't know. my mom always has a husband or a boyfriend. I guess it just depends on what you need. she finally has someone who respects her and is nice to her though, so that's good. and I finally found someone who's nice and respectful too, even though he thinks I'm a total weirdo. but, I mean, I am, so that's fair.

[roosta]

i'm here for everyone

[TAL]

GEA takes them all!

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

I don't know I think there's enough people in this world that someone's bound to enjoy your company for extended periods of time. unless you're just a rotten person.

I think it's different for some women who have been in an unhappy marriage, or for women who've had a husband die or something. My grandfather died in 1981 and my grandma never re-married or even dated anyone else. my friend's mom never dated anyone after her divorce...she's been single for about 18 years. her family and career were just more important to her than finding a man.

so, yeah, I don't know. my mom always has a husband or a boyfriend. I guess it just depends on what you need. she finally has someone who respects her and is nice to her though, so that's good. and I finally found someone who's nice and respectful too, even though he thinks I'm a total weirdo. but, I mean, I am, so that's fair.

I was just considering the thought that what if there are some people out there that are not meant to be with anyone, or have anyone be attracted to them?

My mom not wanting someone is not because shes been divorced or shes lost someone, shes just - not with anyone. Its not about her career or things like that. She's not going to get re-married/date anyone, I know that, she's gonna be alone for the rest of her life, and the fact that there are people, like her, who will never be with anyone EVER, upsets me for some reason because I somehow think it's contagious. I've been with people before, more than a few - infact, im kind of with someone right now, but im just convinced because I was raised with her that im going to be so turned off to dating and relationships, and commitments in the future because I kind of am right now. I dont really want to be in a relationship right now, at least not a serious one. Im into dating and going out and what not but the thought of ALWAYS seeiing someone and always having to be around them and not talk to/like anyone else is kinda - not appealing to me, and it's so weird because im 17 years old ya know? Everyone around me is all OMFG I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND, and im just sitting there like, meh, been there - done that - not intrested. It's weird! :(

[na§tee]

like sarky said, i think there is someone out there for everyone unless you are a right nutbar. there are a lot of people on the planet.

don't think you will be alone for the rest of your life. one day it will surprise you and it will be like - snap - so it's like this then? and everything just clicks. i think. well, if you meet the right person, that is.

also, 17? haha. dunny worry yourself. if you're happy by yourself, even better!

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

But I think it's so abnormal that I dont want to be with anyone. Im in high school so everyones constantley running around trying to hook up, getting a new boyfriend or girlfriend every two weeks, and if you arnt one of those then your the type who's been together for years who swears you'll get married as soon as you both turn 18, and it's not for me. Right now I look around my high school and there is NO ONE who interests me at all. People are just going out with people to go out, but Im picky; I want something more. People tell me im shallow because im only intrested in/date really good looking guys unless they have a great personality, and they act like im crazy because I dont say yes when guys ask me out.

[jabumbo]

yeah, sometimes it just comes out of nowhere. and if you're like me, you have no idea why it happened, and by the time you realize that it doesnt matter, the best part has come and gone already

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

Right now im at this point where I dont really believe that I'll ever be with anyone.

[Jitters]

People are just going out with people to go out, but Im picky; I want something more. People tell me im shallow because im only intrested in/date really good looking guys unless they have a great personality, and they act like im crazy because I dont say yes when guys ask me out.

If you're looking for something more out of a relationship then you are going to have find that person; it takes a while and you'll definitely be alone for a while.

Of course you said you want someone that looks good but if you really find that right person then hopefully you won't care too much about what they look like and focus on that personality like you said (y)

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

I know for a fact that I wont care if they dont look good if I really love them and they are the right person for me. I've found people that other's think are ugly but I like them because of thier personality. For example: I love Dave Attell, now I dont know if many people here know who he is but he's by far, not the most attractive person in the world, but I love his personality.

I just hate this generation because it seems like everyones just looking to hook up, and im not into that. If Im gonna be with someone it's not gonna be for a quick fuck, you can get that anywhere, I want something else and Im convinced im never gonna find it.

[Jitters]

You can be someone and care for them in a special way but I've always thought that you can't "find" them but just sort of meet them.

I hope you do find that person though. You just never can tell when you'll meet him so keep your eyes open :)

[QueenAdrock]

Right now im at this point where I dont really believe that I'll ever be with anyone.

That's because you're 17. There's many times I thought I'd never be with someone. One of those times was high school, I never had a boyfriend when all my friends did. Then I found someone halfway through my last semester in school. It comes out of nowhere, it's when you're looking that it doesn't happen.

Another time I thought I'd be with someone again was after my breakup. And all that rhetoric of "You'll love again" was just bullshit to say to make people feel better, but it turned out to be true, too.

So while you feel strongly that you're just not gonna find someone, you're not interested, all that, if you're attracted to males (or females, whatever floats your boat) you'll cross paths with someone who you like and they'll like you back. Unless you're asexual, in which case you just don't give a shit and never have, you're not attracted to guys or girls or anything. In which case, disregard this post.

[Jitters]

Unless you're asexual

I'm pretty sure she's not a plant....

[MIKEtotheD]

I'm pretty sure she's not a plant....

Kristen, have you been lying to us?
ARE YOU A PLANT?
:p

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

I know it sounds stupid but I feel like im so old, and I havent had a real/good relationship in my life. I've had lots of relationships, but they're always guys who like me, who dont ask me out. That or thier guys that im pretty much going out with, but we dont reguard eachother as boyfriend/girlfriend, and the relationships I've had have been such shit it's upsetting. I saw my ex boyfriend last night and he was a total asshole, I think that's half the reason why im so pissy like I am today. He's totally turned me off to dating and what not and it sucks and I've seriousley considered talking to a therapist about it because the only real advice I can get is from this message board.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

Kristen, have you been lying to us?
ARE YOU A PLANT? :p

God damnit, the secret is out! My covers been blown. :mad: (n)

[MIKEtotheD]

God damnit, the secret is out! My covers been blown. :mad: (n)

Oh snap.
My bad lol.
:p

[Rock On]

I only "dated" one girl from my HS, but I lived in another neighborhood from where I went to school and "dated" a few girls from that neighborhood. After HS I became much more active when my social scene expanded a bit in college. Just because you're not attracted to anyone in your immediate social circle (your high school) is kind of normal. Don't think "I'll never have another relationship" just because the boys in HS don't appeal to you.

Those girls that you refered to that are running around worrying who they're gonna hook up with next will most likely still be doing the same thing in 10 years from now.
Focus on what you're gonna do with your life after school and what you need to do to get where you want to go in life, not on who you're gonna date next.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

Im not worried about it. If I honestley was worried about it I'd ask out one of the dudes who like me at my school, I just think it's weird that im not intrested in, not only the people at my high school, but the people that im friends with also. I find myself more intrested in a guy that peide grande is trying to hook me up with who lives all the way in CANADA - and I think that's kinda sad. :(

[Lex Diamonds]

If I honestley was worried about it I'd ask out one of the dudes who like me at my school.
It's that easy for you, huh?

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

Actually it is. I know there are dudes in the school who like me, they've told me so, but I dont want to go out with them.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

You should search for women at the nudist colony....

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

Would you really join one?

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

That's...intresting. I think you should (y)

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

hey if you dont mind then why not?

[icy manipulator]

Because I don't even know if we have them in Brisbane, and I doubt it. Plus I'm lazy.
there's a sex club in the valley, but i dont know about any nudist colonies

[icy manipulator]

yeah it's some high end place where business types have casual on lunch breaks.

there's also some park like that out in Strathpine or around that area

[icy manipulator]

nah, it's a sus place but not that sus.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

I love how this has turned into a thread about bordellos...

[Dorothy Wood]

hey, I won the google game! (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&hs=rtn&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1&q=%22brisbane+nudist+colony%22&spell=1)


I think you should forget about boys and focus on your schoolwork!

you may feel old or something, but you're not, 17 is not old. 17 is very young. you have plenty of time.

this goth kid I used to work with who got fired was 21 and he was always talking about how mature he felt and how he was so not like a typical 21-year old. which is so a typical thing for a 21 year old to say. ha ha.

no offense, just maybe don't take everything so seriously. there's too much pressure to be an adult so fast these days. it's pretty gross.

[ggirlballa]

damn this thread has got me thinking hard now....

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

how does this got you thinking hard???

[ggirlballa]

how does this got you thinking hard???


well it got me thinking hard for like 2 minutes than i forgot what i was thinking about


nudist what?

[QueenAdrock]

I'm pretty sure she's not a plant....

There's such thing as asexual human beings.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual


And as for the nudist colony thing, most of them are comprised of older wrinkled people who enjoy sunning their prune-y privates when it's nice out. Quite creepy. Don't do it.

[RaZoRbLaDe KiSs]

I know theres a such thing as Asexuals.. Im most def. not an Asexual!!

[The Notorious LOL]

just do like a lot of 15-18 year old girls do and hook up with some recently paroled meth head in the mid-late 20s age bracket on house arrest that not only reaffirms her own low self esteem but also gives her a focus on something other than herself in trying to extract that non-existent "nice guy" beneath the surface.