My man and his mother don't get along...

[cookiepuss]

and I wish there was something I could do to mend thier relationship...because I know it tears him up.

He's back to not speaking to her and cutting off all contact. it's her birthday today. I feel terrible for the both of them but it's not my issue or my business.

but a few weeks ago she called me and I answered thinking it was a wrong number...and then I was stuck. she's manipulative and tried to suck me in the middle. I don't appriciate that from her,but for some reason I feel sorry for her. she seems to have alienated everyone in her life from her.

at the begining of the year we went to visit her and we were told she was dying. she sure acted like someone who was dying..but then we researched her illness and found out it doesn't have to be fatal and can be quite manageable. Now apparently she's decided not to take so much morphine and live. and that's great, but she's demanding that we send back a bunch of stuff she gave to us when we were down there. we were told to help out and clean up her garage by her borther (my mans uncle) who owns her house. she gave us the stuff...she doesn't even use it and she was all doped up when she gave it to us...and now it will send 100s or dollars to send it back.:rolleyes: she's not even going to use it. she just wants it to want it.

:( it makes me so sad. but this is years of manipulation that she's inflicted on him. and there's nothing I can do. but I still feel bad.

I just had to get that out...

[abcdefz]

she's manipulative and tried to suck me in the middle. I don't appriciate that from her,but for some reason I feel sorry for her. she seems to have alienated everyone in her life from her.






I didn't know you were dating one of my brothers. :confused:

[MC Moot]

hmmmmm.....Dysfunction in the family is such a drag and so very common…..personally I know daughters who don’t jive with their mothers or fathers and sons who don’t dig their dads…but a sour Mother/Son relation is pretty foreign to my experience…..I was trying to think of book or film to recommend about reconciliation, resolution, forgiveness and all that good stuff but nothing leaps to mind,sorry…...

[SB00774]

not talking to her sounds like a great move. she sounds like a right drama queen...don't ler her suck you in.

[Loppfessor]

When it comes to issues with your significant other and their family your best move is to stay out of it...getting involved will only cause you grief

[kaiser soze]

imagine getting married....no love from either mom :(

[Nivvie]

My mothe in law doesn't like her son.

She refuses to fight, avoids all scenes, and so seethes with bitterness and disappointment. And then, talks about him behind his back to other family members, and tells other people utter lies about him, building him up to be the son she wanted, and not the one she got, which is kind of sad as he's a good, skilled, responsible and compassionate man, and the only child of hers not to end up divorced ( a very big deal to her).
But that's not enough, he did 'odd' things like live on a house boat, and that was too shameful for her to deal with.

He still talks to her (just about) but to be honest, life would be easier if he didn't.

It's understandable that you feel bad, but some things just can't be fixed. :(

[hpdrifter]

I haven't heard many instances of a sour mother/son relationship either, that really sucks. At least he recognizes that its a problem and is taking steps not to let it screw up his life.

I don't have that great of a relationship with my immediate family either. I think my mom and my sister resent me. My mom resents me because I haven't given her any grandchildren and I'm not living in the same town as her. My sister resents me because she doesn't have the family life she wants and I am part of that.