Oh what to do, what to do..

[ericlee]

I feel like the biggest whiner on this board. After moving back to the states, ya'll may remember me whining about it taking so long to get a job.

Well, I've been at this job for 6 months now. It's probably the easiest job I've ever had and right now, I'm making the most money I ever have while working stateside. Not to brag or anything but, it's 25 bucks an hour but, there's people that have been working in my company for 4 years and have only advanced to 25.85 and hour.

Problem is, my wife and I are both really starting to miss each other since she gets home at 11pm the latest and I get home at 4am and most of the time she's already crashed out by the time I get home. We have a whole day off together to spend with each other and honestly, for a healthy and happy marriage, we need longer than that together.

To top things off, I went to a diner for my dinner tonight and explained my situation to the waitress who's pushing 60 and she's telling me the crap about my wife probably going to go and have an affair with me cause I'm not pulling my weight in the bedroom and also cause I'm not home enough to compliment my wife so, she's gonna go and find some men to keep her esteem up.

I honestly don't believe it even though I know it does happen alot.

So, I'm looking for a new job. I may be looking at a 10 per hour loss but oh well, I'd rather keep my marriage stable by spending more time with my wife than making it financially "stable" while we both suffer the depression of missing each other. Anyway, she works too so I'm sure we'll do ok. Also I rent out a house so, there's a little bit of money on the side as well.

[mikizee]

Looks like you have your answer then. Do it.

Good luck!

[Rock]

I'd rather keep my marriage stable by spending more time with my wife than making it financially "stable" while we both suffer the depression of missing each other.
There you go.

I said it before and I'll say it again, I'd rather work at McDonalds than not see my wife on a daily basis.

[Yeti]

To top things off, I went to a diner for my dinner tonight and explained my situation to the waitress who's pushing 60

A 60 year old waitress gave me advice on my 401K and investments. Now, all my money is in penny stocks and an overseas hairnet/apron/orthopedic shoe manufacturing company.


Would your employer accommodate a request for a different schedule that would mirror your wife's work hours?

[Kid Presentable]

I never see my wife, and it works fine for us. Familiarity breeds contempt. We do our best to just enjoy the time we have together. If there can be military wives, there can be hospitality wives, too.

Good luck eric.

[Yeti]

My wife is in South Florida on business this week. I miss her.

[cookiepuss]

well my boyfriend and I are on opposite work schedules and I'm usually asleep by the time he gets home. I'm not cheating or even thinking of cheating on him.

I just think it makes us appriciate the little time we do have together. at least we can get sick or bored of eachother if we don't get to spend that much time together.

I think dennis leary said once in his act that the key to a happy marriage was not to see eachother too much. heh.

[ericlee]

I never see my wife, and it works fine for us. Familiarity breeds contempt. We do our best to just enjoy the time we have together. If there can be military wives, there can be hospitality wives, too.

Good luck eric.

I can understand your point but when the wife starts complaining that she misses me, I think it's time to do something about it.

We've already been through long periods of missing each other cause while I was working in the mid-east, she was there for two years of it and during that two years, I worked 13 hour shifts and sometimes didn't have a day off for four months.

Would your employer accommodate a request for a different schedule that would mirror your wife's work hours?

Not sure if he can. We currently have just enough manpower for all the positions to work smoothly. Everyone's content with their hours but me. Also, I've got the least amount of time there.

[trailerprincess]

well my boyfriend and I are on opposite work schedules and I'm usually asleep by the time he gets home. I'm not cheating or even thinking of cheating on him.

I just think it makes us appriciate the little time we do have together. at least we can get sick or bored of eachother if we don't get to spend that much time together.

I think dennis leary said once in his act that the key to a happy marriage was not to see eachother too much. heh.

My parents have often said that part of the reason their marriage has worked so well is the little time they spent in eachothers company through working opposite schedules and so they appreciate the time they do have together.

[ericlee]

See, it's not to beneficial for us to be apart being that we are of different cultures. I don't think it is at least and also being that she's new to the states she's got alot of questions about terms, slang or just random chatting in general to improve her english. I'm not very helpful when I'm unable to talk to her.

But anyhow, my gripe can no longer hold it's ground. I talked to a coworker of mine and he said he'd gladly switch positions with me since he's single. He didn't really know how bad it was for me till I had the chance to talk to him about it. I then brought to my boss's attention that this guy will switch with me and he said it's no problem. I actually do have a good crew to work with.(y)

[Randetica]

strike (y)

[beastieangel01]

this post and some of the responses bring back a bit of a positive outlook for me. I was getting ready to not bother with marriage ever. I have nothing but bad examples all around me (most of my family). Good to know that it can be a good thing ;P

awesome about the schedule change, eric (y)

[hpdrifter]

That's great, eric. I am with you and Rock on this one. I think in order to have a good marriage you have to make time for each other.

[Yeti]

A single guy traded. Very nice...congrats.

Years ago I used to have people want to switch with me on shifts and they would always say---you are single.

How is the poor guy going to meet a gal? Maybe when he gets off at 4am he will find a vampire hooker.

Make sure to buy that man a beer. You have a very cool co-worker.

[paul jones]

I'm in Orlando, right now and it's boiling hot

[Yeti]

Are you going to contact the Dr and Beth?