that's kind of not cool, dude.

[beastieangel01]

so, my roommate has helped me out before sure. But she helped me out because she desperately wanted me to be her roommate.

anyway there were 4 dollars on my computer desk. They were not mine, a friend left his money here and I left it there for him so he can grab it once he comes over tonight.

my roommate comes in and tells me she owes me two dollars because she borrowed two that were on the table.

first, it's not my money.
second, wouldn't it have been a good idea to ASK ME FIRST? Right now it's not an issue but what if I actually needed that money for something and it's gone now. Sure she's giving it back but not until tomorrow.

That really, really bothers me. And I told her that and she freaked out on me "oh my god I help you all the time and even with moving in here etc"

I know this will blow over, and she won't do it again since (she tends to blow up and be defensive at first then later she calms down and realizes it was a dumb thing to do) but wow I'm fucking annoyed right now.

[Drederick Tatum]

I'm usually fine with stuff like that. some people are a bit more uptight about their things and personal space, but whatever.

it just goes to show that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it a cardigan.

[SugarInTheRaw]

so, my roommate has helped me out before sure. But she helped me out because she desperately wanted me to be her roommate.

anyway there were 4 dollars on my computer desk. They were not mine, a friend left his money here and I left it there for him so he can grab it once he comes over tonight.

my roommate comes in and tells me she owes me two dollars because she borrowed two that were on the table.

first, it's not my money.
second, wouldn't it have been a good idea to ASK ME FIRST? Right now it's not an issue but what if I actually needed that money for something and it's gone now. Sure she's giving it back but not until tomorrow.

That really, really bothers me. And I told her that and she freaked out on me "oh my god I help you all the time and even with moving in here etc"

I know this will blow over, and she won't do it again since (she tends to blow up and be defensive at first then later she calms down and realizes it was a dumb thing to do) but wow I'm fucking annoyed right now.

Forgive her. For she knows not what she do's.

[mickill]

Four dollars barely like counts as like money even. I mean, that ain't shit. I got like hundreds. I could blow through four dollars in a couple days. That's chump change.

[Kid Presentable]

My shoes were four dollars

[beastieangel01]

Four dollars barely like counts as like money even. I mean, that ain't shit. I got like hundreds. I could blow through four dollars in a couple days. That's chump change.

like I said, it wasn't mine.

And it's the principle of the thing. Please just ask me first and it's all good.

[abcdefz]

Though it's not much money, I'd be a little miffed. If I'd left it on the kitchen counter, much less so, but my room is my room, etc. I never minded if a roommate borrowed CDs or a movie or something, took care of them and put them back, but taking someone's money or eating someone's food is a different matter. Basically, when you come home, things should be as they were rather than consumed.

[beastieangel01]

I think people were looking at the detail too much and missing the point I had. A-z knows what's up. AND the fact that I gotta tell my friend my roommate has his money now when it was in my room...yeaaaah.

[abcdefz]

Your friend shouldn't make you responsible for his forgetfulness, though. I'd just say, "I left it out for you; my roommate thought it was my loose change and took a couple of bucks" if for some reason your roommate or you can't cover it in time. Your friend can hardly bitch about that, really.

[MC Moot]

Is your computer desk in a "common area" or in your bedroom?....that would be key to where I would stand on the matter.......I've only really lived with one roommate outside of my brother,and that's family so things like that are nature to us....the "roomate" I had lasted for about 2 weeks,I was in school and house framing to make ends meat and this guy would eat the lunch I pre-made the night before work......see in my books that warranted a smack,no warning,no discourse just one upside the head…...:mad:

[abcdefz]

this guy would eat the lunch I pre-made the night before work......see in my books that warranted a smack,no warning,no discourse just one upside the head…...:mad:





Yeah -- no question that that's just wrong. I don't see how people even have the nerve to do that shit.

"OHHH! How nice of Moot to make a sammich for me!"

[MC Moot]

"OHHH! How nice of Moot to make a sammich for me!"

NOT EVEN A PLEASE OR THANKS TO BOOT!!!!

arrrggghhhhhhh!!!!!!!

[beastieangel01]

Is your computer desk in a "common area" or in your bedroom?

in my room and my door is always shut.

makes me wonder, did she need money so she went in to my room to look for some? wtf?

[MC Moot]

in my room and my door is always shut.

makes me wonder, did she need money so she went in to my room to look for some? wtf?

yeah,yeah....I hear that .....see that's a vey fine line......it would be a privacy issue to me,the money becomes entirely secondary.....(n)

[abcdefz]

She probably just needed a boyfriend and went looking in your room. That's when she saw the money.

[Waus]

Yeah -- no question that that's just wrong. I don't see how people even have the nerve to do that shit.

"OHHH! How nice of Moot to make a sammich for me!"


I know! I had to buy a minifridge to keep separate in my room because my roomie and his girlfriend would eat all my deserts and drink all my sodas while I was gone. Literally - they ate a whole thing of brownies once while I was gone for a day - like 9 of them.

He acted like he supplied food in equal quantities, and then would be confused when I'd be furious there were no more cold drinks in the fridge when I got home from work.

[abcdefz]

I've had that happen in the workplace more than in the house. I guess because, depending how many co-workers you have, it can be really anonymous when someone just slips off with your food.

IT'S ANARCHY I TELL YA

[beastieangel01]

privacy issues: yes. I mean I have told her she can borrow my movies but those are out in the living room so she can easily access them (I keep my door closed because she has a cat and the cat likes to piss on things sometimes and I do NOT want my stuff pissed on). There was no reason for her to go in to my room when she borrowed that cash.

I had that food issue in the workplace before. And I don't really have that issue now except we do have a lot of guests over (all our mutual friends) and they tend to help themselves. Which I usually am okay with but when they take the very last of whatever I had, and when I go in the fridge to have one and it's gone I get kind of irritated.

Aside from that; coworkers or roommates that swipe your shit is lame. You KNOW it's not yours, why take it? What a bunch of inconsiderate assholes.

[ET]

You don't just take someone's money. That's bullshit. Even if it's just a few bucks. That's like someone touching the Pussy and the Power while I'm not home. Don't be no dummy.

[mickill]

like I said, it wasn't mine.

And it's the principle of the thing. Please just ask me first and it's all good.

If I were to accidentally drop like four dollars I'd just be like whatever, there's a lot more where that came from - like literally hundreds more...and I'd just leave it. That ain't shit. I make twice that in an hour at work.

[beastieangel01]

got a handful of stacks
better grab an umbrella
I make it raaaain

[Bob]

when i was waiting for my limo, i dropped a 20 on the sidewalk but i have so much money that i didn't even bother to bend down and pick it up. i said to the guy standing next to me "i'll give you $50 if you get that for me" and he did it. man, what a chump

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

"oh my god I help you all the time and even with moving in here etc"


When people do something nice for you then remind you about it over and over as if to make you feel obligated.....

Yeah, they're cunts.

[Lex Diamonds]

Four dollars barely like counts as like money even. I mean, that ain't shit. I got like hundreds. I could blow through four dollars in a couple days. That's chump change.
LOL

It's a good point though. Who gives a fuck about 2 dollars, seriously?

In your situation I would either have

1) Said "You shoulda asked man" and forgotten about it

or

2) Not really cared


But I don't know, you're only a woman so you're probably on your period or some shit and can't deal with the drama.

[Lex Diamonds]

privacy issues: yes. I mean I have told her she can borrow my movies but those are out in the living room so she can easily access them (I keep my door closed because she has a cat and the cat likes to piss on things sometimes and I do NOT want my stuff pissed on).
Woah woah woah, hold the phone! You're saying you DON'T want your stuff pissed on? What is this, some kind of joke?

[befsquire]

if she has permission to be going into your room for movies, she probably felt like it'd be ok to go in and see if you had some change that could cover her, because she knows you would be all "it's cool, it's only a couple of bucks" and so she's likely really confused right now, and thinking your beef is over $2. and there's no way in hell she could have known that it wasn't yours and that now all of a sudden you can't cover the extra $2 to give back to your friend.

you need to try to just breathe and let it go, or it's going to escalate into every little thing with you and your roommate and your living situation will be unbearable.

[The Notorious LOL]

If I were to accidentally drop like four dollars I'd just be like whatever, there's a lot more where that came from - like literally hundreds more...and I'd just leave it. That ain't shit. I make twice that in an hour at work.



hahah

[Documad]

mickill and bob kill me.

[Dorothy Wood]

I agree with beth. I mean, I understand that it sucks that she violated your privacy...but like, it's $2. sometimes cort will steal money from me for the bus and I later she'll be like, "hey, I stole $2 from your dresser for the bus" and I'll say, "YOU ASSHOLE! STAY OUT OF MY ROOM!" and she'll go, "okay okay, sheesh, I owe you a beer then". and I go, "fuck yeah you do". then she tells me she farted on my pillow and then we get into a punch fight. but we're pretty tight, so maybe it's different.


it's dumb that she's bringing up helping you though. man, chicks are the worst!

[beastieangel01]

if she has permission to be going into your room for movies,

I thought I already mentioned that they are in the living room to avoid her having to go in my room...

but yeah. I don't know. This is one thing on the list of many. Many. Many. Many many many things.

It's just one thing that happened/that I found out about when I happened to be sitting here at the computer so I vented.

Deep Sea and DW: yeah she only helped me because she BEGGED me to be her roommate. I would have waited another two months and saved and found something on my own but she begged me almost to the point of tears and said she'd loan me the money so I can be her roommate because she wanted me to be that badly.



pfft. I'm moving out next month anyway.

[mickill]

Is she hot at least? Honestly, if she was ugly I'd probably be pissed at her too. Maybe that's why you're so peeved. Is she gross or something?

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

Deep Sea and DW: yeah she only helped me because she BEGGED me to be her roommate. I would have waited another two months and saved and found something on my own but she begged me almost to the point of tears and said she'd loan me the money so I can be her roommate because she wanted me to be that badly.

Whoa....sounds like quite a needy person. Emotionally and otherwise...

Helping out is admirable, just be careful.

[beastieangel01]

Whoa....sounds like quite a needy person. Emotionally and otherwise...

Helping out is admirable, just be careful.

The story is a bit more detailed. She has a 18 month old so I can understand why she didn't want to find a stranger despite background checks to have as a roommate. I despise borrowing money but like I said, she begged me/pleaded with me to accept her help in order to be her roommate since we had to take the place right then.

[abcdefz]

I dunno, BA. I'm sure you were trying to help, but that scenario raises all kinds of flags. Maybe I'm just filled with trust issues. :o

I';d probably wind up putting a lock on my door. Privacy is a huge thing for me, and I'd feel pretty violated. Next will be cute shoes she wants to wear, then a dress that would fit her great if she'd just let it out here and here...

[abcdefz]

You should resolve this by wrestling in puddin'.



IS PUDDING ALL YOU EVER THINK ABOUT JEEZ LOUISE

[beastieangel01]

I'm moving out soon (hopefully if the property manager will let someone else take over the lease) because I cannot afford the place now. So I guess it doesn't matter once that occurs.