Loners?

[-T-]

I think I'm kind of a loner. I seem to need a lot of personal time and it has to be when I want it. After hanging out with friends or whatever for a while I need some time off. I have not had a girlfriend in a long time and I don't really want one. I like to do what I want when I want. Its not that I'm anti-social I just enjoy being by myself more than most people.

[kleptomaniac]

loners of the world, unite! (when you feel like it) (y)

[-T-]

Sounds like a plan! haha

[Bob]

me i'm kinda weird

when i'm fully alone alone with no other people around, i feel ok

but when other people are around, that's when it starts to get nuts. when i'm around other people and nobody's paying attention to me i start to feel bad. when i'm around friends and nobody's paying attention to me i start to feel horrible, and then, generally, when people start paying attention to me, i want to be alone, i dunno, it's kind of hypocritical. it's like all i want is some attention and then when i get it i dunno what to do with it

mostly, that is, there are some people that i genuinely enjoy getting attention from, and i hate it when i don't get it from them. it's like, jesus, what do i have to do, do things? do i have to do things, do i have to be interesting, to i have to be worth paying attention to, i dunno, i don't get it

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

I think I'm kind of a loner. I seem to need a lot of personal time and it has to be when I want it. After hanging out with friends or whatever for a while I need some time off. I have not had a girlfriend in a long time and I don't really want one. I like to do what I want when I want. Its not that I'm anti-social I just enjoy being by myself more than most people.


Same here. I've got friends I really enjoy hanging out with, but sometimes I just can't wait to get back to my "territory" and do my thing.

[insertnamehere]

pfff, if we had real friends we wouldnt be up here, would we?


but really i think im kind of in bob's boat. i feel lonely and left out a lot, but then getting attention freaks me out, so i can never be happy. like im jealous of people who all their friends make a big deal out of their birthday when ive never really had a birthday celebration... just like, a cake from the store and some presents from my parents... and the past several years not even that. but the reason i started not having birthdays is cause when i was little they tried to have a bithday party and when everyone started to sing happy birthday i cried a lot cause i didnt like everyone paying attention to me at the same time.

being older than 4 now, i think i could keep from crying, but i still dont think i could have a birthday "party" because having more than 2 or 3 people focus on me at once makes me nervous. so im the same kind of hypocrite. i crave attention and at the same time dont want it.

[Dorothy Wood]

I like attention and I have a bunch of friends, but I truly only actually like, like 5 people. Probably because I spent the bulk of my life alone. and I'm also an only child. I tend to hang back and wait for something interesting to happen, I'm not the maker of interesting things. I suppose as I've gotten older, I try to make things interesting. but then I have friends who think that me making a face or saying, "uhh, poop" is super funny, so I get my kicks that way.

I have trouble these days with saying stuff that's weird or really inappropriate that would fly here, but doesn't so much fly IRL. but I'm trying to force people to understand that it's funny.

p.s. a lot of my friends are over at a bar across the street from my house right now, but I totally left because I wanted to check my email and get a good night's sleep. NERD.

[mikizee]

Tell me more about this pantyhose of yours

[cosmo105]

i could be at a friend's welcome-home party (i was at his going-away party a year ago) with a bunch of people i've known for a long time, one of which i'm relatively close to...


but a couple of them are elitist assholes (and they really suck in real life, i don't get why they think they're so special! i think they both have really low self-esteem and need to seem uber popular on le myspace in order to satisfy their attention cravings) and i'm not really "in" their group. sort of a fringe friend there. and a couple people are there that i just plain don't want to be around. so eh. i could be spending the whole weekend with all these people at the closer friends' cabin in the mountains...but...meh.

i was always a loner growing up, and didn't have that many friends as a kid. i was a total weirdo in elementary school, but i guess i grew out of it. i still don't like to go out to clubs or raging parties or anything, but i see my close group of friends (three girls i've known since kindergarten and 7th grade and their boyfriends/their boyfriends' best friends) probably every weekend. we don't necessarily have much in common, but we all get along so well and there's never any bullshit or drama between us that it's always a good time.

i know of a couple other circles of people i could run with, but i've honestly never felt like i was wanted in them. i've always been on the periphery. i don't like having to make a ton of effort to feel comfortable with people, so i'd rather not bother. the oh-so-full-of-themselves art kids, the don't-know-how-ridiculous-they-look greaser/hardcore type...eh. i know i'm kind of a dork don't really care about getting a ton of attention or making myself sociable. i'm happy in my own little world. thus me doing THIS on a friday night instead of being at a friend's party or some of the clubs downtown. that was a fucking letter, jesus.

[jackrock]

People my age are too big of annoying morons for me to enjoy spending time with. im most comfortable alone too.

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

People my age are too big of annoying morons

Indeed.

[funk63]

how old r u ppl?

pertaining to the last two posts.

[de-nice]

Jack, Deep Sea,


I hear 'ya.

d-nice


ps. what is the formula for a quadratic equation?

[-T-]

Bob and insertnamehere it sounds like you may have avoidant personality disorder (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder).

I like attention and I have a bunch of friends, but I truly only actually like, like 5 people.

Same here. I get along with a lot of people and have many "friends" but really only have a few friends I actually like. It seems like when I have a friend they stay friends.

The thing is i guess i really don't like many people and if i don't like them I'm not going to hang around them. I see many people I know and I'll talk to them for a few or hang out for a while every once in a while but thats it.

[Frank Black]

T, you're just in the midst of what we call 'down time'. swings and roundabouts, na'amean?

[yeahwho]

I genuinely enjoy being around other people. I have a huge fear of what may happen before going out to say a work gathering or meeting of some sort. But I think that has more to do with my mind always playing out bizarre scenarios.

But to have friends and play cards, hit bars, trips and diners is great.

I hate crowds...this is a new development in the past year. If a concert is in venue with over 5000 seats it's going to have to be amazing for me to pay up. I've just had it with the masses and the whole "Event" philosophy.

[Randetica]

i dont have a cell phone

[-T-]

T, you're just in the midst of what we call 'down time'. swings and roundabouts, na'amean?

Down time? I have always been like this. This thread is not like a "I'm sad because I'm sitting here alone" deal. I just had got back from watching a movie and going out to eat with some good friends. It was a good time. I'm just saying It feels good to do my own thing.

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

how old r u ppl?

pertaining to the last two posts.


Teenagers, with very few exceptions, are douche bags. Almost always.

I'm referring to people in their late teens/early 20's in particular. Like I said...there are always exceptions to the rule, but as a whole they treat people like shit.

[Jitters]

I always enjoy hanging out with people as long as they're nice but you always got to have some alone time.

[Chicka B]

I think I sort of am. I'm fine with just staying home and going outside occasionly or walking for fresh air. I only have one best friend and she's more like a sister to me, she's pretty social and has a boyfriend and everything. I never had a boyfriend and don't really want one (and even if I did I couldn't get one since I'm too shy), I just wish I could have the happiness of it. I have crushes but I prefer just admiring from afar rather than going for it. And when dudes ask me out (which isn't often) I think they're playing a prank and if I say yes they'll go "JUST KIDDING YOU UGLY BITCH!" :( I get really anxious and nervous if I'm about to do anything social, and even avoid it (by not answering the phone). And after I do something social I get really exhausted. At parties with a lot of people I stick to just a couple of people that I'm more comfortable with/know well. I get freaked out when I can tell people aren't being like themselves to get attention, and I'd rather be my boring dull self then act like someone I'm not just to be admired. I prefer the more routine activities that I do on my own, like listening to music, browsing the internet, drawing, videogames, and shit like that. And at school I never talk, I seem to be very approachable for some reason though. Hopefully this didn't seem like rambling self pity, I suck. (n) (ha ha)

[ggirlballa]

i think i'm pretty social i have 3 best friends and many other "regular" friends, and even though their my best friends sometimes i get annoyed by one of them and i don't want to hang out with them or just one of them then the next day it'll be completely fine and we go out. at parties i eithier hang out with them and not socialize as much or i ditch them and talk to as many people possible at the party hehe:o

[Audio.]

hmm... you guys don't seem lonely at all in cyber world apart from the psychical life.

One advise that I took was only focus upon myself and build up my character in society and I do. I feel more relax and calm about myself more than ever in a group. I brought myself to a "I don't care" attitude. The problem is keeping my ego in check.

and for you wanting a women or guy to be with, I think you should look for places your are interested in to find this perfect match. I'm not saying go to a bar or a concert to find this person. Go to some convention or some other class you like etc.

hope you'll never be alone again

[Audio.]

Down time? I have always been like this. This thread is not like a "I'm sad because I'm sitting here alone" deal. I just had got back from watching a movie and going out to eat with some good friends. It was a good time. I'm just saying It feels good to do my own thing.

oh. I thought it was that thing from reading all the posts here.

yeah dude its fun. When I'm alone I have time finish things and catch up with my interests. also I get down with lost of drawing time and plenty of build up with my theorys on visual motion on a still image. Mostly I'm alone at night and while that I'm watching adult swim and drawing and painting at the same time.

PEACE MAN!!!

ALONE(y)
is way to calm the soul and keep you identity in real

[TimDoolan]

It is true that many creative people fail to make mature personal relationships, and some are extremely isolated. It is also true that, in some instances, trauma, in the shape of early separation or bereavement, has steered the potentially creative person toward developing aspects of his personality which can find fulfullment in comparitve isolation. But this does not mean that solitary, creative pursuits are themselves pathological....
Avoidance behavior is a response designed to protect an infant from behavioral disorganization. If we transfer this concept to adult life, we can see that an avoidant infant might very well develop into a person whose principal need was to find some kind of meaning and order in life which was not entirely, or even chiefly , dependent upon interperonal relationships.
From Into the Wild.

[insertnamehere]

and for you wanting a women or guy to be with, I think you should look for places your are interested in to find this perfect match. I'm not saying go to a bar or a concert to find this person. Go to some convention or some other class you like etc.


i'm hoping that last thing you mentioned will lead to the expansion of my social circle this coming fall. instead of taking a bunch of shit introductory courses on various core requirements that i have no interest in, im going to take a more focused, generally higher level set of classes that interest me a good deal. im sure the classes will still be full of riffraff who dont want to be there, but maybe i can meet some cool ones.

due to my less than stellar performance in school, even last semester as a junior i was taking a lot of classes that were primarily freshman. not to say freshmen inherently suck or upperclassman are inherently better, but i'm not interested in befriending people who are incredibly immature and act like it's still highschool. on the other hand, acting childish is perfectly ok. i draw a distinction between immature and childish. or maybe i should say child-like? that doesnt have as bad a notation. you know, playing with toys and goofing around and the like. im going off on a bit of a tangent. i'll shutup now.

[Audio.]

when you do open up a little. Its fun sharing stories. I like having a conversation to strangers as much as friends. Hope you find some interesting socializing you and your class mates.

[BangkokB]

I'm a loner through and through. My best friend lives in Chicago and I call him up every other week and we end up bitching at one another til my card runs out. As for here: My best friend and I parted ways bc I got tired of listening to his bitching about his wife. There are few people that I connect with those I do I'm loyal and stick with and help in anyway possible. But those are few and far between

Personally: As cheesy as it sounds I'd rather be with my wife bc she knows that I need my space. I get tired of other people rather quickly. My friend in Chicago is the only person that I can stay up all night talking to about nothing.

Music is my Drug: As long as I have music and alcohol I can entertain myself

[HEIRESS]

There are only about 5 people I know that I will willingly hang out without it feeling like drudgery. and two of them are my parents.

I hate acting "sociable" on weekend cause I have to do at it at work all weeklong and its fucking tiring.

Ive gone many a weekend where Ive hung out with no other soul from friday afternoon til monday morning. sure its digustingly depressing at times, but its way more fun and I find productive than choosing to be around other people and still not have a good time.

most weekends I just go to the gym cause its nice and empty, do some fun grocery shopping, hit up the farmers market,cook, read, watch some movies, and go on some stupid long walks with a fully charged ipod.(y) Id say Id go out socially at night only once every 2-3 weeks

this is why I miss having a fun time mate, because then I know its the one person I dont mind spending excessive time with who wont end up boring me or making me feel like I need to put on an act.