The Gay People You Know

[Jitters]

This totally came to me off the top of my head but do all the gay men you know act like "stereotypes of themselves?"

Every gay guy I go to school with is feminine acting and very "oh my god" acting about stuff.

Of course I know that not everyone is like that but is it just me are an overwhelming amount of gays this way?

[mikizee]

I think it comes from the fact that they're gay.

Although I do know 2 gay guys that are disgusted by the fancy prancy type gays. In fact when i first found out they were gay I refused to believe it.

[ScarySquirrel]

As a matter of fact, none of the gay guys I know are really like that. One has some stuff that you're like "Oh man, now that's gay." But nothing too extreme.

[Documad]

No, none of my friends do that.

[Bob]

most of my gay friends are lesbians actually...i don't know how lesbians are supposed to stereotypically act

actually one of them once straight up asked me while drunk one time "so, do i seem like a lesbian to you?" and i said "wait, you're gay?" and then she laughed and we made out but no seriously, i'm not actually sure what the stereotype is for women.

the gay guys i know, i dunno, i guess they sort of do to a degree. they have the gay accent, and they dress a little nicer than most people, but that's about it. they don't "act" gay or anything.

[YoungRemy]

nope

[monkey]

i have one friend i like to refer to "homo fag" cause he's so gay. (i say it to him, it's a silly joke.) he's just very effeminate sometimes. but sometimes he's not and whatever. most of my gay friends are just like my straight friends... regular peoples.

[BangkokB]

Here's what I can't figure out: Why do some femme lesbians go for the butch types? 2 lipstick lesbians I can understand and actually want to research this at every angel. But I see alot of shmen that are with beautiful lipsticks. I can't wrap my head around that. But to each their own

I don't hang around gay guys so the question is moot

[befsquire]

they don't act like that, but they are the best dressed, and their houses are to die for.

one of my best friends is gay, and through a series of events he became my work husband so that i would have someone to nag / order around away from home. i always joke with him that he probably showers in a button down polo and dress pants. so it almost killed me late one evening when i dropped some stuff off to him, and he was dressed in a white hanes undershirt and plaid boxers. to be fair, i had woken him up.

[BangkokB]

Send him to the Ted Haggard School Cure for Faggotry. It worked wonders for him. 3 weeks later he's back to chasing skirts: or kilts but don't let the facts get in the way

[The Notorious LOL]

I was watching tv once with this guy I know whos gay and some flamer was on and he just sighed and said "I fucking hate faggots...you have no idea what its like to have 90% of the population you can date be irritating and obnoxious" to which I said ".....I dont?" ;)

[TAFKASB]

I have no problem with gays..straight acting ones that is...I hate camp queen acting ones, after all, it is an act!

[ms.peachy]

This year I found out my best friend from primary school, whom I hadn't seen in like 8 years is now gay.

I would imagine he was always gay, and is now 'out'.

Living in London, I think I know more gay men than straight ones. And of course many lesbians as well. They's all jest folks. Some are more 'typical' than others, some you'd not guess on first meeting.

One of mr.p's "gang" of mates, let's call him R, is gay, but he is quite 'one of the guys'. They all do stuff like go the rugby matches and drink beer and all that man-stuff. He's Australian and a fairly buff bloke as well, but not in an overly-macho way; he attracts a lot of women when they all go out as he really doesn't flip anyone's gaydar switch on first meeting. Unless you get him talking about interior design. Then he can be very bitchy (in the best possible way, of course).

[TAFKASB]

and as for lesbos who go for the butch type...what is the point?

[ET]

How old are you, Jitters? It seems that, from my experiences around the younger side of my family, that being gay and in high school means that you have to be an absolute flamer. Perhaps going through your 'gay phase' was like the grunge thing. Speaking of, about 50% of the gay males I have known were flamers. Not all.

Note: do not go to Filipino karaoke hosted by gay men as they will make jokes about not using lube in Tagalog. :mad:

[BangkokB]

and as for lesbos who go for the butch type...what is the point?
I'll take one for the team on this one as well to research it but I'm willing to bet that each story ends with Lesbian Bed Death

[ms.peachy]

I hate camp queen acting ones, after all, it is an act!
I don't know that that's true. I mean I think for some, maybe. And I think for some young gay men, when they first come out (or are preparing to do so) and they are first tasting the freedom of identifying as 'gay', I think maybe they need to try some of that on, see how much of it fits. Kind of like how we all as young people need to get involved in different subcultures and try out the mannerisms, the uniforms. So for some gay guys, they might actually BE that queenie; it might fit and that's who they are and how they are and it's not an act. And others will try it on for a bit and as time goes on realise that that is not the best manifestation of their authentic selves.

I got nothing against a big bitchy queen, myself; they're grand fun for a bit of a booze-and-gossip session.

[BangkokB]

A Wise Man Once Said: The club ain't happenin unless there's a Transvestite

[cosmo105]

nah, not really. might be a little femme but maybe only one is COMPLETELY flamingly obvious. and he was just an irritating person all-around, it had little nothing to do with his sexuality.

[Randetica]

Here's what I can't figure out: Why do some femme lesbians go for the butch types? 2 lipstick lesbians I can understand and actually want to research this at every angel. But I see alot of shmen that are with beautiful lipsticks. I can't wrap my head around that. But to each their own

I don't hang around gay guys so the question is moot


some lesbians need women who can protect them and some lesbians are the protectors or should i say protectars

so it's like a hetero relationship just without those annoying things called cocks!


my dad only speaks in a high voice when he talks with youngsters and/or feminine gays but he usually is pretty manly for a gaylord

[venusvenus123]

"those annoying things called cocks!" hah:D

my brother in law is gay and it took me and my husband quite a while to figure it out (that was about 15 years ago). he says the flamboyant behaviour is a total act and finds it annoying. like that guy on will and grace i guess. my bro in law's partner is even less obviously gay. i'm sure a lot of women have crushes on him as he's great looking. and fit.

their house is a heap, quite disappointingly :(

[Randetica]

i always wanted to have a friend like 'just jack', some people think this role is over the top but ive seen gays who are really like that

[QueenAdrock]

My best friend from high school is gay. No one knew because he was heavy into hockey and heavy metal music and didn't have a lisp and used the fact that he was Mormon as an excuse to why he wasn't interested in exclusively dating girls. He was having gay buttsex at that time, though. :(

He always said he hated the flamboyent gays, but after being in the scene he's turned more into one. He calls people "doll" and "honey" now, and says "Mmm, do you love it?" a lot. He'll lisp only when he's drunk and with his gay friends, but he's got the dramatic hand gestures all the time now and his boyfriend is pretty stereotypical gay-acting. He's a product of the environment he hangs out with. And those boys he hangs out with are the stereotypical gays, 100%. It's quite weird to see the transformation.

[Praying Mantis]

any guy who pops the collar on his shirt......

[ms.peachy]

Well he had a girlfriend back then.

That hardly means he wasn't gay. Honey, I can't tell you how many gay men I know that got married (to women) and had kids and tried to do the whole "typical family" thing, in the hope that their attraction to other men was just a phase and would pass if they just did all the right 'normal' things. Trust me, your friend didn't just wake up one day and decide "You know what, I think I'd like to try some man love." Because it just don't work that way.

[Randetica]

That hardly means he wasn't gay. Honey, I can't tell you how many gay men I know that got married (to women) and had kids and tried to do the whole "typical family" thing, in the hope that their attraction to other men was just a phase and would pass if they just did all the right 'normal' things. Trust me, your friend didn't just wake up one day and decide "You know what, I think I'd like to try some man love." Because it just don't work that way.

EXFUCKINACTLY!

im made by homo sperm and it fucking sucks that many think im a liar or just an attetion whore when i say my dad is gay but it's true

for so many years he couldnt admit to himself and others that he is gay and his parents would have killed him if they found out

he was pretty agressive and we didnt know why well now we do cause he had a double life and couldnt really live the way he wanted to but now he has his freedom and can be all himself

[QueenAdrock]

You know, my gay friend has never had a boner over a girl. He said it would be physically impossible to have sex with a chick, because he just doesn't feel anything for them at all.

I mean, I guess it makes sense. I suppose straight guys have never had a boner for another guy before...but it's still odd to me, for some reason.

[Jitters]

How old are you, Jitters? It seems that, from my experiences around the younger side of my family, that being gay and in high school means that you have to be an absolute flamer.

I'm turning 17 this month and will be a Senior in high school when summer is over.

I do think that it has something to do with being younger though. The few older gay men that I know, while still flamboyant, are far less so than the younger ones I know.

[Otis Driftwood]

most of my gay friends are lesbians actually...i don't know how lesbians are supposed to stereotypically act

I think they're supposed to beat you up with a bag full of Marxist literature while accusing you of being a male chauvinist pig.

[Bob]

I think they're supposed to beat you up with a bag full of Marxist literature while accusing you of being a male chauvinist pig.

i do actually know a few like that

i think they keep their hatred of me hidden though, because of my lesbian friends. i have good references, i guess

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm around all different kinds of gays in my daily life because of the neighborhood I work in and the people I work for. It's pretty much a gay wonderland, so some dudes camp it up. but overall, there are so many different personalities, it's tough to really say what's "stereotypical". and sometimes the stereotypical voice and sayings are tongue-in-cheek and for comedic effect.

I think it's just basic group identification. People clinging to certain traits to feel like they belong and fit a role.

[DroppinScience]

I know two openly gay people. One is Diana's friend, so see her post above.

The other one I know, he's not super-obvious about it. In fact, I didn't know he was gay until I saw his Facebook, and he made references to various guys being hot and that he'd like to get bukake'd by the Spartans in "300". It was then that I realized he was gay. On the surface, he looks like he could be a metro, I guess, but he doesn't act stereotypical at all. In fact, he kind of hides his sexual orientation from the other people we work with at work (long story, but he's paranoid about being fired and the reasoning being connected to him being gay).

He even "came out" to me when I was hanging out with him and some other friends. Once he told me, I went: "Yeah, I know that." He goes: "How?" I say: "Well, I saw your posts on Facebook. The bukake reference kinda gave it away."