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HEIRESS
07-25-2007, 07:26 AM
my uncle died
he had been a "drifter" sort for the past 14ish years
he lived in a shanty in a field next to the industrial park where he had a job
he was addicted to crack cocaine among other things
he suffered from a heart attack and then someone robbed him of all his belongings and then phoned the police
it took the RCMP a week to contact us because he didnt have any identification on him
my mom actually tried calling my uncle at the last "number" he had given us only 3 days prior and left him a message, and he was already dead but we didnt know
they newspaper where he lived wrote a story about "the homeless man with noone who cares for him"
someone he worked with saved it and gave it to my mom and dad
my mom phoned the editor of the paper yesterday and gave them a talking to and asked him if he has every had a family member with addiction and if he even has any clue about what that involves and how difficult it is. the editor was just all "its just a story!"

my uncle left a wife and child in australia around 1993
at that time he came to live with our family here in canada, but this only lasted for about 6 months because he started coming home drunk and high all the time and bringing his even drunker sleezy pub friends over to our house too.
it still breaks my mom's heart thinking that she had to ask him to leave, but she had two kids in elementary school at the time.

we are saving my uncle's ashes, and he had a last paycheque coming to him which we are going to save and use to buy a plane ticket for his son to visit canada so his ashes can be scattered in his home province of alberta.

my dad is all torn up, hating himself that he didnt try to do more, but he didnt 100x more than any of our other family memebers combined.

this week fucking sucks

mikizee
07-25-2007, 07:38 AM
Dude thats awful, I'm very sorry to hear it.

No doubt your uncle is in a better place now.

Prayers for your uncle and your family.

trailerprincess
07-25-2007, 07:38 AM
Really sorry to read this, it's awful. But things will get better with time. Stay strong and my sympathies to you and your family

abcdefz
07-25-2007, 08:19 AM
That must be hard. I know you said your dad wishes he had done more, but I hope there's some solace in -- I hope you don't take this wrong -- but it looks like your uncle was making a lot of lonely choices. Your dad couldn't have forced him to take a different path; somebody's got to want to commit to that.

I hope you can be a comfort to him. Sorry for your loss. And, again, I hope I don't sound rough; that's not what I mean.

Kid Presentable
07-25-2007, 08:42 AM
Man, Hairnest I'm sorry to hear that.

I never know if sharing my own feelings from a similar place is the right thing to do or not. All I will say is that life goes on.

Sympathies.

cookiepuss
07-25-2007, 09:57 AM
I'm sorry.:(

One of my boyfriend's uncle died in a similar fashion many years ago. no one really knows what happened exactly, but there was addiction and one day he dissappeared and then a month or two later he was found dead.(n)

kaiser soze
07-25-2007, 01:02 PM
I'm very sorry to hear about your uncles tragic life and passing, let your dad know he was as loving to his brother as he could be....

QueenAdrock
07-25-2007, 01:37 PM
I'm sorry, Airesse. :(

*hugs*

Yorkshire~Rose
07-25-2007, 01:43 PM
So sorry Airesse :( My sympathies to you and your family.

*hugs*

Suavee-Bolo
07-25-2007, 04:32 PM
The struggles of having a family member or loved one who has a mental illness is imposible to explain to someone who hasn't lived through it themselves.

I feel sorry your Uncle had to live with that illness,
and I'm even more sorry for people like your Dad who have to go on living with the pain of not being able to do enough to reach him and help him out of it.

cosmo105
07-25-2007, 08:03 PM
such a terrible story all around :( i'm really sorry sweets.

Waus
07-25-2007, 11:22 PM
That's really sad. I wish I had something poignant to say, but it's just kind of sad.

I wonder how your uncle felt about his own life.

My condolences.

paul jones
07-26-2007, 02:49 PM
shit that's heartbreaking my friend.Let's hope he's having a bettr time someplace else

venusvenus123
07-26-2007, 04:23 PM
so sorry to hear about your uncle heiress. such a sad story :(

that must have been so hard for you all to live with, especially your dad.

hugs&condolences

beastieangel01
07-27-2007, 11:08 AM
That must be hard. I know you said your dad wishes he had done more, but I hope there's some solace in -- I hope you don't take this wrong -- but it looks like your uncle was making a lot of lonely choices. Your dad couldn't have forced him to take a different path; somebody's got to want to commit to that.

I hope you can be a comfort to him. Sorry for your loss. And, again, I hope I don't sound rough; that's not what I mean.

exactly.
I'm sorry heiress :(

BangkokB
07-27-2007, 05:00 PM
That's why it's always important to try to keep in touch with those that try to keep in touch with you

Sorry to hear that bad news Heiress

HEIRESS
07-28-2007, 08:55 AM
my parents found a guy he used to room with awhile ago and he had a notebook of my uncles, and an old rolling stone magazine and a brocken necklace.

the first page of the notebook had an excert from an poem which I searched on the net and found out to be by alan seeger

but what he wrote was

I've a rendezvous with Death
At midnight in some flaming town
When Spring trips north again this year
And I to my pledged word am true
I shall not fail that rendezvous.

:(

my daddy is just so sad, he tears up when talking all the time and gives me a hug like everytime he sees me and everytime I leave.
he has always been a dad who gives out hugs freely, but just lately hes like a hugging machine.

oh, and that editor of the paper that my mom called must have had a change of heart because yesterday my uncle's old boss called and said that the paper had printed another story about my uncle and quoted all the stuff my mom said about him having a family that cared for him, and he had also left behind a son etc etc

though also yesterday our local paper ran a little blurb saying "homeless man that died in kelowna was from kamloops" etc etc and they printed his full name and stuff. so that was kind of hard for my dad to read too.

man.

Knuckles
07-28-2007, 09:37 PM
That is just so sad...


Wow...



I feel so terrible for your dad.

befsquire
07-29-2007, 01:49 AM
my condolences to you and your family, heiress.

people with addictions / mental illness often keep themselves from family just in case something happens to them, thinking it will make things better for others, when really, it just makes it worse. i hope that your dad isn't feeling guilty, because there truly isn't anything he could have done to change the circumstances.

i hope your heartache eases soon.

:(

Auton
07-29-2007, 03:34 AM
i'm very sorry about your loss, airesse