A have a F***** stupid friend

[Junker]

Now, here's the short story:

I have this childhoold friend. We're neighbours since we were born ok.
So, he got married last year with this girl he was together for 5 years or so.

Last tuesday he found out she was cheating on him with another friend of us. An 18 years old boy. And by another friend of us i mean really a close friend.

Now this is what happened:

He didnt kick the cheater friend's ass, just have a little talk with him at his home.

And yesterday I've discovered he and his slut wife are together again. Man, I cant believe theres such stupid people around. :mad:

He lost his self-respect. Fucking asshole!!! :mad::mad::mad:

[abcdefz]

...sounds like the guy's a potential human being. (y)

Hope it works out.

[ms.peachy]

Is it possible that maybe he's just managed to act like a grown up, and that they've all worked it out like adults, and not gotten embroiled in a juvenile melodramatic soap opera about the whole thing?

[Junker]

So, fuck one of your husband's best friends is a grown up attitude??

Now, here are some other details. My friend works at night. Like 10 pm to 6 am or something. While he was working his wife and his close friend were fucking in his bed.

Sorry but I cant see how this could be some juvenile melodramatic soap opera.

[Rock]

Yeah....that would be pretty hard to let slide. I'd like to believe I could make it work somehow, but I know it would eat at me.

[ms.peachy]

I am saying that, in everyone's life, bad things happen. Sometimes people we love do things that hurt us. When that happens, we have choices as to how we react. It is possible, even in the face of great pain, even when trust has been broken, to not allow passion to overrule reason, to choose to salvage and repair the damage, to decide that maybe although something is broken, it is not to be thrown away. If you are such a good friend, rather than run him down to a bunch of strangers on the internet, perhaps you could instead try to understand and support his choice, or at the very least, to mind your own business.

[Nuzzolese]

Your friendship is going to be pretty unstable if you continue to call his wife names and to hate her. If HE can forgive her, you should try to also. He's had a hard time already, he probably needs your support. I mean it's cool to vent about it and to hate her to strangers like us, and to do it in private, but don't let him hear you because it might just make him not want your friendship anymore. Lots of people dump their long-time friends out of loyalty to their spouses.

[Junker]

What can I say about her. A day before he went to my house and was also calling her by bad names. Worse than slut.

The truth is I never liked her cause I always knew he was a slut.

And theres more. He also found out she was going to a swing club with her ex-boyfriend in this meantime. Fuck.

[Freebasser]

I love these Brazilian soap operas!

Did Paulo tell Alfonso about his illegitimate son with Carlos yet, or is that next week?

Oops! Spoilers! :o

[Rock]

Paulo and Carlos have a son together? Who would have thought the Brazilians would have figured out a way for men to give birth.

[cookiepuss]

What can I say about her. A day before he went to my house and was also calling her by bad names. Worse than slut.



well then he shouldn't really be surprised that you will now continue to dislike her. You have to be careful what you say about a partner to your friends in troubled times, because when/if you get back together your friends will now have a sullied opinion of your partner. naturally.

that said I can also agree with everyone else who said that they can understand that your friend has decided to attempt to repair this broken relationship. you don't know what goes on behind closed doors and why he might feel there is still hope for the relationship.

and then again maybe he's a giant pussy who doesn't know when to say enough is enough.

*shrugs*

[paul jones]

I love these Brazilian soap operas!

Did Paulo tell Alfonso about his illegitimate son with Carlos yet, or is that next week?

Oops! Spoilers! :o
(y)(y)(y)

but seriously..........phil collins

no,I mean,that whole situation is very bad of course.cheating is very bad.

it's really hot here in Florida right now,it started to rain but not enough to clear the air.I may have to shower again before I go out and enjoy $2 shots and good music.
Also,I just bought some Angel Soft toilet paper and kitty litter for my girlfriend.It started to rain when I left the house but not enough to panic and buy an umbrella at Walgreens,but then again I could have protected my head with the toilet roll pack

yeah,so basically people who cheat are bad

[ms.peachy]

well then he shouldn't really be surprised that you will now continue to dislike her. You have to be careful what you say about a partner to your friends in troubled times, because when/if you get back together your friends will now have a sullied opinion of your partner. naturally.


See I don't necessarily agree with that. I feel like, if one of my close girlfriends is with a guy, and he does something shitty and she wants to come over and have a big old bitch about what a shit he is, it's my job as a friend to hand her a spoon and some Haagen Dasz and say "Yes of course, you are so right, he is lower than low, what a scumbag," etc etc. Because that is where she's at at the time. And then a week or so later, when they're back together, my job is to keep my mouth shut and wish them the best of luck in working out their problems.

[bigblu89]

I wouldn't have kicked the friend's ass either. He wasn't the one that cheated on his husband.

[cookiepuss]

See I don't necessarily agree with that. I feel like, if one of my close girlfriends is with a guy, and he does something shitty and she wants to come over and have a big old bitch about what a shit he is, it's my job as a friend to hand her a spoon and some Haagen Dasz and say "Yes of course, you are so right, he is lower than low, what a scumbag," etc etc. Because that is where she's at at the time. And then a week or so later, when they're back together, my job is to keep my mouth shut and wish them the best of luck in working out their problems.

I guess it depends on the situation. in general I react the same way you do: let them vent then keep my mouth shut when they get back together. (but I read some silly article about how if you talk down about your partner that it sticks with your friends and they become less supportive)

But lets say my beautiful friend is in a fight with her loser guy because he constantly tells her she needs to loose weight (and she's a size 6) and should consider plastic surgery...then I will probably voice my opinion that I don't think they should be together cause he's an ass and tries to make her feel bad about her self.

[Randetica]

just break his, her and his jaw (y)

[-T-]

Fuck that shit. Well lets see. Ex-boyfriend and old friend. She is a POS. He should get out of it while he is young and no children are involved. Its only been a year, hopefully he does not have that much invested into the relationship.


I would feel the same way you do about it. I understand people make mistakes but I don't know... this is just to far. Its not me so i cannot say what i would do. One thing I do know is it would have been extremely difficult for me to have a quiet chat with the 18yr old. I might(but probably not) be able to resist violence but I would have made a few things clear for the future. The the whole ex thing would have set me over the edge.

I agree its just one of those times its critical to think about what you say out loud and what you keep to yourself. Or suddenly your the asshole. You cannot really tell him what you think unless he ask you. Even then its hard to not say the wrong thing.

[Yeti]

I have a friend that sent me an e-mail with photos of his new baby boy. He is not married and I did not even know his girlfriend was pregnant. She is a trailertrashhippie type gal. Anyway, I was talking to another mutual friend and commented how happy he was to be a new Papa. He laughed and told me that she had cheated on him, got pregnant and he decided to take her back. Some people might consider his actions chivalrous but I can only see bad bad times ahead. She has cheated on him another time in the past with the same guy that knocked her up.

See you are not the only one that has a stupid friend.

[TurdBerglar]

i have no compassion for people that disrespect me or others to that extent. it's uncalled for.

[Yeti]

He has decided to be the father to the boy. He has to look at the little boy and think of her cheating on him. I am sure he is paying all the bills and she will leave one day.

[TurdBerglar]

See I don't necessarily agree with that. I feel like, if one of my close girlfriends is with a guy, and he does something shitty and she wants to come over and have a big old bitch about what a shit he is, it's my job as a friend to hand her a spoon and some Haagen Dasz and say "Yes of course, you are so right, he is lower than low, what a scumbag," etc etc. Because that is where she's at at the time. And then a week or so later, when they're back together, my job is to keep my mouth shut and wish them the best of luck in working out their problems.

no

you tell them the truth. not what they want to here

[Yetra Flam]

It's not like it was an accident - "whoops i tripped over and accidentally fucked your friend." She seems like she was fully aware of what she was doing, and actually wanted to do it, wanted to cheat.
Also, your friend has known you longer than he's known his wife by the sounds of it. He should trust your opinion. What does he think, does he think she's a whore as well?

[Junker]

I love these Brazilian soap operas!

Did Paulo tell Alfonso about his illegitimate son with Carlos yet, or is that next week?

Oops! Spoilers! :o

lol.....

Well, not all Brazilians are called Paulo or Carlos but I gotta confess. My name is Paulo. :o

[Junker]

Good news everyone!

He finally kicked her out of his house. He realized she's a ho!!!
And also, he finally punched the boy in the face.

Thats what I was talking about!

[paul jones]

Good news everyone!

He finally kicked her out of his house. He realized she's a ho!!!
And also, he finally punched the boy in the face.

Thats what I was talking about!

good for him(y)

[Junker]

good for him(y)

Yep (y)

Now he's throwing a party on Saturday. He's reacting pretty well right now.
Even better than what I expected.

[paul jones]

Yep (y)

Now he's throwing a party on Saturday. He's reacting pretty well right now.
Even better than what I expected.


So he should be(y)

[hpdrifter]

I don't know. I don't think I could repair a relationship after that type of cheating. With someone you know? Carrying on an affair?

Does anyone think their opinion would be different if it was the man having an affair? Just curious.

[Junker]

I don't know. I don't think I could repair a relationship after that type of cheating. With someone you know? Carrying on an affair?


Exactly. And I know I couldn't.

[paul jones]

Exactly. And I know I couldn't.

me neither

[cookiepuss]

Yep (y)

Now he's throwing a party on Saturday. He's reacting pretty well right now.
Even better than what I expected.

if you wanna be a really good friend you'll hire strippers for his party.:cool:

[Junker]

if you wanna be a really good friend you'll hire strippers for his party.:cool:

Now, that's a good advice. :D

[Rock]

Does anyone think their opinion would be different if it was the man having an affair? Just curious.

Cheating is cheating whether its for dick or vagina. Not cool either way.

[hpdrifter]

Well I wasn't wondering necessarily if it would still be considered cheating. I was just wondering if people would have said different things in terms of whether the relationship was reparable.

You know, if the man cheated should the woman give him a second chance?

[Junker]

Cheating is cheating whether its for dick or vagina. Not cool either way.

My thoughts too.