prejudice from parents/family when dating someone?

[beastieangel01]

it's amazing how many people I know personally (especially considering the times AND at my age) that tell me that if they were to date a person of a certain race, that their parents would either be angry, disappointed, or the like. And not only race, but looks (i.e. tattoos or the like).

I can't believe that even happens still. And the people I know go on and date whom ever they want anyway. But they hear complaints from their parents or extended family.

One friend is dating a guy with tattoos and her Mother is giving her hell for it. She's dated a black guy once and her mother had a cow over that too.

My parents, they are pretty good about it. But my Mom did tell me that my Father has asked her before why I date white men.

I was even told by a guy I dated that his Mother wasn't too thrilled that I was latina.

WTF. Honestly.

[abcdefz]

My parents were pretty pissed when I was in high school dating a 30 year-old, but even then, I knew I was kind of pushing it. :D

[MC Moot]

Yeah....I find that with prejudice sometimes still waters run deep...like my old man would be fine with me dating or marrying any racial denomination....but if I was to bring home a Jewish or Muslim girl,I know he'd accept it but he sure as hell wouldn't embrace it....it's the only thing that makes me feel shame with regards to my family.....(n)

[ScarySquirrel]

Just because the times are a'changing, it doesn't always mean the people are a'changing with it. That's my best explanation.

[jabumbo]

i think people just feel the need to have something to complain about. i try not to think about the things that i know my parents wouldnt like about a girl, but sometimes its hard to avoid.

i like to think that most parents/relatives would only really lay it on hard if the truly thought that whatever the prejudice was would be a problem. but i guess some people are just old fashioned and think that things like race or religion are really a bigger deal than they actually are to most younger folk

[abcdefz]

During a discussion we had, my folks and I were talking hypothetically about me dating a black girl, and they said they didn't approve of
interracial dating. I asked about my friend M----, because I knew they loved her to death, and she's Japanese. They said that was fine
because she was "almost white." :D

[HEIRESS]

I dated a half-native and a jew without even an eye twitch from my parents

but my mom wasn't entirely impressed when I said I was going to start dating an italian
I think its because she has so many italian friends who had italian husbands who beat and abused them
but yeah, its a new generation so really she was just being overly cautious

[MC Moot]

Now I have Peter Boyles performance in "Monsters Ball" on the mind......:eek:

[Freebasser]

Yeah, what is the deal with some people? Why can't they just accept that the love between a man and an animal can be just as rewarding, nay, moreso, than your run-of-the-mill cliched human/human relationship?

Cunts :mad:

[beastieangel01]

Yeah, what is the deal with some people? Why can't they just accept that the love between a man and an animal can be just as rewarding, nay, moreso, than your run-of-the-mill cliched human/human relationship?

Cunts :mad:

ahaha, that made me think of zoo (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zoo_(movie))

[Freebasser]

Yeah, what is the deal with some people? Why can't they just accept that the love between a man and an animal can be just as rewarding, neigh, moreso, than your run-of-the-mill cliched human/human relationship?

:(

[Jitters]

I've been dating a girl who is half Black and half Mexican for almost a year now.

My parents don't know and if they found out I was dating anyone that had even a little Black in them they would literally kick me out of the house (n)

[hpdrifter]

That's fucked up.

I dated a half Hawaiian half Irish and my mom wanted me to have his baby because she thought he was so beautiful.

I dated a half black guy too but it didn't last long enough for my mom to even know about it.

[Lyman Zerga]

sorry but your parents suck hairy dragon ballz


i doubt i would really care what my mum thinks of my bf..in fact my family is way too harmonic lately, it's even making my sweet cunt cheesy

it would be awesome if the rest of the family had a nice time together till me and my bf enter the room and everyones getting the roll eye attacks

im out of the rebel age though, it's just the over the top cheesieness that bugs me

[cookiepuss]

My mom said once in the past she wouldn't be too thrilled if I was dating a black man.:rolleyes: like the only black men out there are gansters or something. I bet she'd change her tune if it was like a black doctor or something...someone a liittle more "middle to upper class".


I recently got back in touch with my childhood sweetheart who I dated for 5 years and I discovered he's dating a woman from Mexico. I've run into him and his parents a few times over the last couple of months and you should see how his mother fawns over me now. Thing is, she didn't really like me when I was dating her son. Now she hugs me and is all excited to see me. and i just have to wonder if it's because her son is dating a mexican. She's the kind of possessive mother who would think the gril was after a green card from him and she wouldn't like that.

[insertnamehere]

i know my dad would prefer me to date white guys. i think he could stand asian, native american, and possibly hispanic if they "act white" also, probably the shade of their skin would matter to him.

middle eastern, indian, or especially black and he'd probably disown me

[adam_f]

As long as I don't turn gay, my parents are pretty okay with who I date...as long as she isn't black.

[Alli]

My mom doesn't care but my gramma tends to be a little meh. My sister married and black man and at first gramma was wishy washy about it but now she loves him. Then again my gramma is Japanese and married a white guy so she can't talk when it comes to interacial love.

[Bob]

i think my mom would be thrilled to find out i was dating anybody. even a man, probably (a black man might be pushing it though)

as far as i know my parents think i'm gay, it's hard to say

[hpdrifter]

Bob, that was the funniest shit I've read on here in a long time.

[insertnamehere]

my dad used to think i was gay. he asked me if i liked girls once. actually im pretty sure everyone i know thought i was gay.

[insertnamehere]

on an unrelated note, i think i would have sex with bob.

[Bob]

get in line!

...i'm not fooling anyone

[Dorothy Wood]

my dad is a racist, so he'd be pissed off if I was dating anyone non-white. and dude is brown, so good thing my dad and I are estranged.

my mom doesn't care. although sometimes she makes it a little too obvious that she doesn't care. or she says stuff like, "oh, he looks just like orlando from church!" and I'm like, "ehhh..."

[skra75]

I <3 Latinas.

:cool: I need this on a shirt. but then, that's kinda embarrassing.
I usually don't run into any problems with this sort of thing, I've dated black chicks, asian girls, latina girls, hillbilly girls. I'm like the united colors of benetton of boyfriends. Or Slash from that G'N'R video.

[ggirlballa]

i'm still in high school so i haven't had much experience (cuz then i'd be a hoe) but my mom especially would flip if i dated a black kid my age (she doesn't know that i have but it was so dumb & embarassing) anywayz she's told me before to not date black or latino boys (even though we're latino). she wants me to date a white boy as if i needed a green card or something so i find that very fucked up.(n)


but the kid i like is latino but doesn't speak spanish much but he's a cholo so they'd hate him

[cosmo105]

my mom doesn't give a rat's ass. she's white and she married a mexican. she's a total hippie, and she rules. some of the things you people are saying really make me sad, to know that people still think that :\

[beastieangel01]

some of the things you people are saying really make me sad, to know that people still think that :\

that's exactly why I made this post. It still is around and amongst a lot of educated people. So strange and outrageous.

[Paul Kemp]

Interracial dating doesn't really bother my mom. My brother is dating an Iranian guy, my sister is dating a Jewish guy, and I'm dating a Japanese girl so it's a good thing she's accepting of that. She wasn't too thrilled when I told her my girlfriend has a bunch of tattoos and piercings though.

[Bob]

Interracial dating doesn't really bother my mom. My brother is dating an Iranian guy, my sister is dating a Jewish guy, and I'm dating a Japanese girl so it's a good thing she's accepting of that. She wasn't too thrilled when I told her my girlfriend has a bunch of tattoos and piercings though.

she probably thinks she's yakuza or something

[Schmeltz]

My parents are perfectly tolerant of all races and wouldn't at all mind if I dated a non-white girl. In fact my mother has told me that she would love if I married an Asian or a black girl so she could play with a cute/exotic grandchild.

But they have this thing where they don't like me dating girls who aren't members of their crazy fundamentalist religion. So that's a bit of a downer.

[Yetra Flam]

I suppose to our generation (using this in the broadest sense of the term), that kind of thinking is considered racist and a form of bigotry. but to our parents, they were raised in a different time when that ideology of "different ethnicities shouldn't mix" was probably more common and even acceptable on some level.

[avignon]

I'm way off the reservation. I'm native american and not only am I dating a white guy, but I'm dating a european white guy, and not only that, he's italian and not only that, he lives in amsterdam. I get grumbly remarks from my pop, but he would do that about anyone. He pretty much got over stuff like that when my sister came out. Anyway he's dating a latina so he's gone off the reservation too.
I worry about the prejudice I'll face in europe as an american when I move though.