just because you don't say it, doesn't make it not true

[insertnamehere]

i like honesty. sometimes honesty is cruel, sometimes honesty hurts someone's feelings, but i like it. just because you don't say something doesn't make it not true. so why not be honest. there are a lot of people that i like that many consider assholes, but what makes them assholes is that they are just really honest. why should that be frowned upon?

example, the other day i was talking to a guy friend of mine. i said something self-deprecating with regards to my looks. many people would say something like "you should love yourself for who you are!" or "you're not fat" or "you're pretty" you know, the textbook responses for when a girl says she's fat. he said something along the lines of "well if you'd lose the beer gut you'd look a lot better, and your boobs wouldn't look as small"... i am completely offended. if he's thinking it, id rather him say it than some bullshit response to make me feel good about myself. not saying it wont make him think it any less.

'nother example, tonight i IMed a guy i know and said hi, he said he was fapping. i said alright i'll talk to you in a couple minutes. now, i think the norm would be to say he was doing something else, but you know, i can respect that he needed his special alone time with his computer and that i need not distract him.

when someone is that honest, i feel like i can really trust them. or maybe it isnt honesty per se, maybe it's just total lack of any kind of social tact at all. either way, i'm all for it.

[TurdBerglar]

hi

[insertnamehere]

hello

[Bob]

turd, are you fapping?

[mikizee]

i'm all fapped out

[Bob]

i hate that so many people (including me) know what fapping is

[cosmo105]

just wear a shirt that says "i have low self-esteem and constantly need to affirm my self-worth based on others' opinions of me" and save everyone some time

[TonsOfFun]

I just had to look up fapping on google...

damn my ignorance of todays cool youth :-(

*washes eyes*

[HEIRESS]

I have a dance move which would be the equivalent of drunk dudes rubbing their hard cocks on girls bums, instead I rub my soft gut on their bum bums and they enjoy it ALOT.

[DandyFop]

Blah, honesty with one of my close friends is now just making me feel like shit even though she acts like a little kid and is way over sensitive and BLAHHHHHHHh

[Kid Presentable]

Do chicks enjoy having their asses nosed?

[ericlee]

I have a dance move which would be the equivalent of drunk dudes rubbing their hard cocks on girls bums, instead I rub my soft gut on their bum bums and they enjoy it ALOT.

That is so fap worthy. You oughtta name that move "the fap" cause thats what theyll do after they experience it.

[insertnamehere]

i hate that so many people (including me) know what fapping is

it's kind of self explanitory. it's an onomanapea (sic). fap fap fap fap fap fap fap. what does that sound like? yeah.


just wear a shirt that says "i have low self-esteem and constantly need to affirm my self-worth based on others' opinions of me" and save everyone some time

i don't see what this has to do with my self esteem or affirmation of my self worth. it doesn't neccisarily have to be honesty about myself, that was just a good example i had. when i told someone else what he said they went on this rant about what an asshole he is and that if someone said that to them they'd kill him and start crying, and it didnt really bother me, so i thought it was a good example for the point i was trying to get at. in addition, i hardly thing someone telling me i'm chubby reaffirms my self worth or makes me feel particularly good about myself. i like people who are overly honest cause you can be more trusting of the things they say. in a lot of cases i'm overly honest as well.

said t-shirt would probably get me a lot of dishonest remarks from people trying to make me feel good about myself, assuming anyone actually paid attention to it.

[monkey]

im painfully truthful to my friends, but i tend to warn them when im gonna tell them something that's gonna bother them. i will also adjust the bitchyness depending on the person im talking to. but i like that my friends KNOW that i'll tell them the truth about something.
my most repeated comment? "you look like a ho." i like my friends lookin classy. hehehe.

[russhie]

I like honesty as much as the next person, but there's a difference between you asking a question about something & getting an honest answer, and someone sitting there thinking it without telling you.

Your friend, or whatever, probably wasn't sitting there thinking "oh she'd look more attractive with a flatter stomach" and it never occured to him to think about your appearance until you bought it up.

A very smart person told me a long time ago that it wasn't my weight/appearance that made me unattractive - it was my constant need for reassurance. So shut up.

[befsquire]

just because you think something doesn't mean you should say it, though.

[Loppfessor]

just wear a shirt that says "i have low self-esteem and constantly need to affirm my self-worth based on others' opinions of me" and save everyone some time

BAAAHAHAAA!!!....nail on head. You are on a roll lately cosmo. I like it (y)

[insertnamehere]

A very smart person told me a long time ago that it wasn't my weight/appearance that made me unattractive - it was my constant need for reassurance. So shut up.

chriiiiiiiist you guys, i wasn't asking for reassurance or looking for reassurance or trying to make this anything about myself at all. i was hoping for a discussion on social norms and politeness and white lies. everybody missed the point. how do you think this is me trying to get reassurance or affirming my self worth? did i really just do that bad of a job of making my point clear in the first post?

great. now i'm pissed off at something that happened on the internets.

[cosmo105]

you're not asking for reassurance here, it's the fact that you said you said something self-deprecating to a friend and that seems to be your whole shtick. instead of bitching and moaning about your lot in life, why not do something about it instead? yes, it can be nice when people are brutally honest, but a constantly negative attitude toward yourself and your life accomplishes nothing and pisses everyone off.

[insertnamehere]

i think actually the way it came up was when he was telling me i should join the national guard to get monies for college, and long list of reasons why i dont belong in the army, i said something like "im fat"

not like "boo hooo hooo i'm morbidly obese i hate my life"

more like "fuck road marches and and pushups an' shit"

[Lyman Zerga]

but youre not even chubby

you should be honest with yourself

[insertnamehere]

*sigh*

[TurdBerglar]

i understood what you were trying to get at

[insertnamehere]

thanks, turdykins

[Lyman Zerga]

i think i understood it a few days ago when i read the thread but im too lazy to reread it

yadayadayadayamada..fake compliments suck especially hatembe nicdetjus* e-bed

this was supposed to mean something but my computer is a pain in the ass right now and im too lazy to retype it

[ericlee]

It. It it it tit. Do you believe me now!?

[insertnamehere]

It. It it it tit. Do you believe me now!?

*brainhurt*

[russhie]

i think actually the way it came up was when he was telling me i should join the national guard to get monies for college, and long list of reasons why i dont belong in the army, i said something like "im fat"

not like "boo hooo hooo i'm morbidly obese i hate my life"

more like "fuck road marches and and pushups an' shit"

Using "I'm fat" as a retort is as good as having a whinge about being fat. What the fuck do you expect people to say to that? Whether you like it or not, you've just asked someone for some kind of reassurance by asking that - reassurance that yes, you're a lardball or no, you're not fat don't be stupid ohmygod.

It doesn't help that everytime you post a thread here you manage to have a sook about something, or say something self depreciating.

[insertnamehere]

hey, i know i'm awesome. theres a facebook group dedicated to the fact.

[TurdBerglar]

you guys are fucking retarded

[paul jones]

you guys are fucking retarded

LOL(y)

[Yetra Flam]

It's really unrealistic to expect every young female to have complete confidence in her appearance, just because people always tell them to. Fuck, for some women it takes decades, or sometimes i never happens. Cussing someone out for having self doubt it is not helping.

[insertnamehere]

so turd, do you prefer straight and to the point statements, or for things to be sugar coated to make people feel better about themselves?

you don't actually have to answer that.

but humor me.

[TurdBerglar]

you mean it isn't obvious?

[insertnamehere]

ok, ok, so dont answer that.

what's your favorite kind of ice cream?

[TurdBerglar]

i like brutally honest icecream

[insertnamehere]

i like vanilla


and caramel sauce

BRUTAL VANILLA

[TurdBerglar]

chocolate is a lying sonofabitch

[insertnamehere]

you know what all chocolate ice cream contains? VANILLA. but they won't admit that. cocksuckers.

[TurdBerglar]

i want one of those Wendy's milk shake things. not quite chocolate not quite vinalla not quite icecream not quite wilkshake. I WANT IT NOW

[insertnamehere]

a frosty? you know they actually make vanilla frosty's now. so the original is supposedly chocolate.

i had wendy's tonight

and ice cream

but the two were entirely unrelated.

[TurdBerglar]

i ate nothing but granola bars all day :(

[insertnamehere]

you should go to wendys. they're open late.

[TurdBerglar]

the closest wendy's is downtown. i am not walking through my neighborhood and especially downtown at this time of night. no place for a lone whiteboy.

[insertnamehere]

you should get some Jimmy Johns delivered. assuming you have those wherever it is you live.



i like the turn this thread has taken.

[TurdBerglar]

again... no one delivers here. OMG THE HOOD! SCARY SHIT!

[TurdBerglar]

there's pizza places in this neighborhood that REFUSE to deliver to THEIR OWN FUCKING NEIGHBORHOOD.


im fucking pissed right now. i don't know why.

[insertnamehere]

it's probably for the best that you can't get any of that stuff. you dont want to end up fat like me


wait for it...

[TurdBerglar]

FATASS

[insertnamehere]

that didn't work as i had hoped. but i guess it's just us here now.

maybe the white shows up too much, or i'm just too obvious.

[TurdBerglar]

i didn't even notice the white

[insertnamehere]

i was kinda hoping for someone else to pop back up with the OMG YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO GET PEOPLE TO SAY YOU'RE NOT FAT WHATS WRONG WITH YOU YOU SUCK.

and then i'd laugh

[TurdBerglar]

FATASS

[insertnamehere]

i appreciate that you've shared your opinion of me in such a clear and concise manner. thank you for your honesty.

[TurdBerglar]

well the female ass is SUPPOSE to be fat!

[insertnamehere]

in all actuality though, my ass is fairly large, but very round and perky

[TurdBerglar]

prove it

[insertnamehere]

its really hard to take pictures of your own bum, and i dont really want to run down the hall and ask someone to take a picture of it so that i can show my fake internet friends.

i posted a profile view of it once before. in jeans.

[TurdBerglar]

LAZY FATASS