Subtle Sexism

[beastiegirrl101]

So since yesterday was a bye week for the Bears some girlfriends and I went to watch the Patriots / Colts game because we knew it would be a good game both being undefeated. We get to the bar early to grab a table around 2ish…and we are lucky enough to snag a sweet table right in front of a HUGE plasma as a couple is leaving but I digress.

The bar was packed at this point the Packers were on, standing room only. Not even an hour into us being there a guy walks up to our table and asks us if we planned on staying the whole time, and how long are we going to be there because him and his buddies really wanted our table. We all kind of just stared at him and said yea we planned on staying the whole time because we were there for the game that started at 3pm. Ok so fine, he walks away.

20 minutes later ANOTHER guy comes up and is like, “hey ladies, me and my friends will buy you two rounds if we can have your table.” Surprised this guy came offering gifts, we explained to him we were here for the game and then he says. “Well you don’t seem to be watching the TVs and you are doing an awful lot of talking.” ARE YOU KIDDING? So I say to him, “Just because we are women what makes you think we aren’t here to watch the game as well?” He states the talking bit again.

We all were really shocked, we get to the bar early to grab a table…we do, have lunch, drinks are flowing…it’s not like we are sitting there drinking water holding up the table. But these guys had the nerve to ask us to give up our table because we obviously couldn’t be there to watch the game. Seriously, sexist much?

It’s this subtle sexism that really irks me. Share your sexist stories.

[b i o n i c]

i was asked to pick up tampons and stand in line with them. the dude behind the counter looked at me with a smirk. so what if i have a vagina. the end.

[ToucanSpam]

Hmm. It could be sexism but it could also not be sexism.

I personally think it is because the guys tried to bribe you with 'gifts', as if that would be enough to make you move and just forget about it. Some fellows I suppose are still stuck in the 1920s where women can't enjoy sports or go to a bar.



hmmm, sexist story....I guess I don't have anything specific coming to mind but perhaps a small example. I was going out with a female friend for coffee the other day and while I was getting ready one of the guys called and asked me to come hang out. I said no, I was going out for coffee with [insert females name here] and that she would be coming to get me any time now. So:
Guy1: She's picking you up?
Me: Yeah, any time now.
Guy1: Why aren't you going to get her?
Me: ...Because she's on her way now.
Guy1: Dude, you know you're supposed to pick her up right?
Me: What?
Guy1: Yeah, that's how it goes.
Me: How what goes?


Yeah. I knew what he was getting at and I didn't think it was very cool of him to imply that there's some unwritten rule that says the guy has to drive every time. Yeah, no, that's a little backwards to me.

[abcdefz]

I think it's kind of sexist when a man can't just be "nice" to women, but women interpret it as interest in them, then get all pissy if the interest
isn't returned. Like, what -- I'm a guy, so I can't be genuinely nice or caring toward a woman I don't want to fuck? Gimme a break.

[Bob]

i'm not a sexist, but i would never vote for a woman for president

[abcdefz]

Not even president of the DAR?

Wow. Tough room. :(

[roosta]

but you were talking, right?

[insertnamehere]

serve ya on a platter like thanksgivin stuffin

[roosta]

Exactly!!!

Maybe when I say "Damn, I want to butter your muffin!" all I really want to do is butter your muffin.

hahaha...(y)

[MC Moot]

recently we went and looked at a new Volkswagen GTI and the salesman was continuously selling to me,even though she had taken the lead in the conversation and explained that it was her who was loking for the lease…it was like he was consistantly explaining the “pretty” features of the vehicle to her (cupholders,compact mirrors,etc) but directed all the technical/automotive jargon to me….I’ve never seen a man lose a sale/deal so quickly, what a schmuck….

[cookiepuss]

ppppsssssshhhhaaaa! GAh! they obviously know nothing about women. we can most certainly talk and watch tv at the same time. it's called multi-tasking. IN fact, my mother and sister and I can all talk simultaneously about three completely separate things and still understand everything each other is saying.


but I understand where the guys are coming from. it's hard for them to do more than one thing at a time.:rolleyes: ha ha.

[Drederick Tatum]

I'm sick of constantly getting my ass slapped and pinched by sexist females. I am not a piece of sexy meat to be tenderized.

[TurdBerglar]

i always get shit somewhere along the lines...IM A GIRL! LIE TO ME A BIT TO MAKE ME FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF! CHRIST! WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU???

so what if i don't like the uniform you have to wear for work. you don't like it either. am i suppose to say it's lovely? it's a fucking work uniform.... you're gonna look foolish no mattter what! everyone else wearing it looks just as foolish too! asking me if you're work uniform looks good on you. what the fuck is wrong with you.

that's not really sexist but shit like that MAKES ME sexist.

[TurdBerglar]

and for the record i didn't even say it looked bad. i just kinda shrugged my shoulders and said... well it's just a work uniform.

[Kerrbear]

I thought I knew what sexism was until I bought a house. Just me, no hubby, no man. I pay the mortgage, I decide how to fix it up. I know how to use a chop saw, and I can finish drywall like nobody's business. And yet every time I go into Home Depot and look for help, the guys peek behind me to find the man who is supposed to be helping me. One guy asked a totally irrelevant question about the part I needed, and when I hesitated, he said I should make sure what I needed and come back.
I looked into having my ancient cast iron bathtub covered in that plastic stuff, and the guy who came out for the quote actually asked me who was helping me make decisions. He also mentioned several times which features "the ladies" always like.
Should have beaned him with my pipe wrench.

[cookiepuss]

i always get shit somewhere along the lines...IM A GIRL! LIE TO ME A BIT TO MAKE ME FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF! CHRIST! WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU???

so what if i don't like the uniform you have to wear for work. you don't like it either. am i suppose to say it's lovely? it's a fucking work uniform.... you're gonna look foolish no mattter what! everyone else wearing it looks just as foolish too! asking me if you're work uniform looks good on you. what the fuck is wrong with you.

that's not really sexist but shit like that MAKES ME sexist.

thats a no win situation..cause if you say she looks hot then she might get mad that you're fawning all over her. it can go both ways.

but women who say they don't dress sexy for the attention it gets them are just liars. No one says, "hey gimmie that fabulous outfit so no one will look at me!" they wanna look good and they want people to notice. period.

[TurdBerglar]

oh trust me if you knew who this was i would never say such a thing about her being hot

and they only want the guys that they are interested in to notice them

[TurdBerglar]

i see nothing wrong with small generalizations. everyone naturally assumes things to make things easier for themselves. you just happened to be the 1 female out of 10 to actually know what she's doing in home depot or the 1 female out of 1000 that actually enjoys, understands and follows a sport. most people make assumptions out of experiences.

same thing happens when a dude is in a stereotypically chick enviroment. it's nothing to get really mad at.

is it ok to assume that a puerto rican eats puerto rican food, that a white person eats white people food and that a black person eats black people food? i think it is. i also think it's ok the each race would have difficulty trying to PROPERLY prepare a dish associated with another race.

now if you can't get a job because you have tits then there's something to get mad at.

[Yetra Flam]

Is it sexist to hold a door open for a female, or to give a female preferential treatment because she's attractive/smiles/flirts? the lines are blurred now

[TurdBerglar]

if you hold a door open for a female you can get a good look at her ass

[hitmonlee]

Is it sexist to hold a door open for a female, or to give a female preferential treatment because she's attractive/smiles/flirts? the lines are blurred now

- not if you also hold the door open for males
- yes, but hey. this is why i get the drinks at the bar for my male friends, i'll get service much quicker. actually i think that has less to do with being a chick, and more to do with being assertive and not letting anyone push in or get served first. of course as a chick its easier to get away with being assertive.

[Loppfessor]

So since yesterday was a bye week for the Bears some girlfriends and I went to watch the Patriots / Colts game because we knew it would be a good game both being undefeated. We get to the bar early to grab a table around 2ish…and we are lucky enough to snag a sweet table right in front of a HUGE plasma as a couple is leaving but I digress.

The bar was packed at this point the Packers were on, standing room only. Not even an hour into us being there a guy walks up to our table and asks us if we planned on staying the whole time, and how long are we going to be there because him and his buddies really wanted our table. We all kind of just stared at him and said yea we planned on staying the whole time because we were there for the game that started at 3pm. Ok so fine, he walks away.

20 minutes later ANOTHER guy comes up and is like, “hey ladies, me and my friends will buy you two rounds if we can have your table.” Surprised this guy came offering gifts, we explained to him we were here for the game and then he says. “Well you don’t seem to be watching the TVs and you are doing an awful lot of talking.” ARE YOU KIDDING? So I say to him, “Just because we are women what makes you think we aren’t here to watch the game as well?” He states the talking bit again.

We all were really shocked, we get to the bar early to grab a table…we do, have lunch, drinks are flowing…it’s not like we are sitting there drinking water holding up the table. But these guys had the nerve to ask us to give up our table because we obviously couldn’t be there to watch the game. Seriously, sexist much?

It’s this subtle sexism that really irks me. Share your sexist stories.

That story doesn't exactly sound sexist. You guys had a great table and were probably not paying too much attention to the early game since you came to see the late one. They probably saw a few empties and thought that you were there for the early game so they figured they'd try to get dibs on your table.

[synch]

I think it's kind of sexist when a man can't just be "nice" to women, but women interpret it as interest in them, then get all pissy if the interest
isn't returned. Like, what -- I'm a guy, so I can't be genuinely nice or caring toward a woman I don't want to fuck? Gimme a break.I was in a bar with a couple of friends and it was my turn to get some drinks. I overheard a girl that was sitting at the bar with two guys showing off her spanish skills, heard what she was saying and answered in Italian. Chatted back and forth a bit while the bartender was getting the drinks (mind you I was pretty damn drunk by then, no clue what it was we discussed). I ordered an extra beer, gave it to her, smiled, said goodbye went to sit with my friends.

It confused the fuck out of her :D

She wasn't pissy about it though, she came by the table I was sitting at on her way out and gave me three kisses (as we do over here).

The two guys she was with seemed slightly more annoyed and equally confused though :)

[Auton]

20 minutes later ANOTHER guy comes up and is like, “hey ladies, me and my friends will buy you two rounds if we can have your table.” Surprised this guy came offering gifts, we explained to him we were here for the game and then he says. “Well you don’t seem to be watching the TVs and you are doing an awful lot of talking.” ARE YOU KIDDING? So I say to him, “Just because we are women what makes you think we aren’t here to watch the game as well?” He states the talking bit again.

doesn't sound sexist to me... if it were two dudes sitting there talking, he'd probably act the same way.

[venusvenus123]

^^haha, i was just going to say, they wouldn't have offered a bunch of blokes some drinks.

i have a sexist and racist story. yay!

on saturday we were sitting in some heaving traffic in a dual carriageway in south london.
so, i'm in the outer lane and this guy sticks his nose out in front of my car.... i don't let him in.

a minute or so later... he comes up to my left (which is the passenger side here, where my husband was sitting)
and starts bellowing through our window:
"YOU FUCKING WHITE BITCH!! I'LL FUCK YOU IN THE ASS YOU WHITE BITCH!"
we're stationary so there's no getting away from him. i stare ahead resolutely

my husband turns to him with a "what the hell are you doing?" expression
...the guy carries on his rant:
"I'M NOT TALKING TO YOU! I'M TALKING TO THAT BITCH. YEAH HER! I'LL FUCK HER IN THE ASS"

so then i turn to him and point at my son, sitting in the back, who's having to listen to this.
"YEAH, I'LL KILL YOUR BABY! I'LL FUCK YOU IN THE ASS YOU WHITE BITCH, THEN I'LL KILL YOUR BABY!
THEN I'LL STICK A KNIFE IN YOUR HUSBAND'S CHEST AND WATCH HIM DIE TOO!"
this torrent of abuse continued for about 2-3 minutes...until the traffic moved on and he turned off the road.

this was a very large african man, doing a day's diplomatic service for his continent.
good job sir, nelson mandela would be proud of you.(y)

[Auton]

that's fucking intense

[Loppfessor]

^I would say your husband shoulda kicked is ass but he may have been a psycho. You shoulda called the cops and followed

[mikizee]

^^haha, i was just going to say, they wouldn't have offered a bunch of blokes some drinks.

i have a sexist and racist story. yay!

on saturday we were sitting in some heaving traffic in a dual carriageway in south london.
so, i'm in the outer lane and this guy sticks his nose out in front of my car.... i don't let him in.

a minute or so later... he comes up to my left (which is the passenger side here, where my husband was sitting)
and starts bellowing through our window:
"YOU FUCKING WHITE BITCH!! I'LL FUCK YOU IN THE ASS YOU WHITE BITCH!"
we're stationary so there's no getting away from him. i stare ahead resolutely

my husband turns to him with a "what the hell are you doing?" expression
...the guy carries on his rant:
"I'M NOT TALKING TO YOU! I'M TALKING TO THAT BITCH. YEAH HER! I'LL FUCK HER IN THE ASS"

so then i turn to him and point at my son, sitting in the back, who's having to listen to this.
"YEAH, I'LL KILL YOUR BABY! I'LL FUCK YOU IN THE ASS YOU WHITE BITCH, THEN I'LL KILL YOUR BABY!
THEN I'LL STICK A KNIFE IN YOUR HUSBAND'S CHEST AND WATCH HIM DIE TOO!"
this torrent of abuse continued for about 2-3 minutes...until the traffic moved on and he turned off the road.

this was a very large african man, doing a day's diplomatic service for his continent.
good job sir, nelson mandela would be proud of you.(y)

You shoulda let him in. Its just being a courteous driver.

I've given people the finger and yelled a bit of abuse when people are selfish on the road.

Having said that the guy may have over-reacted, just a teeeeeensy bit.

[Lyman Zerga]

i remember back when a guy on this board called me sexist, i was unbelievably hurt
now i take it as a compliment (y)

[kll]

I seem to recall a similar experience several years ago (like 12!) when Green Bay was in the Super Bowl and all the girls motivated to go to the bar early to get a good table and to basically pre-party. All the fucker guys showed up like 10 minutes before and were trying to pull up seats to our table (un-invited). In addition, they were also trying to sneak shit onto our tab, since it looked like they were "with us". I have no recollection what ultimately happened, but I remember resenting them for not planning ahead. Typical though (which is my version of reversed subtle sexism).

[Dorothy Wood]

I get treated like a child at Home Depot, the last time I went for work, I had my clip board with all the wood and supplies I needed for the tables that I designed. the dudes that worked there were like, "oh wow, that's a lot of stuff, you sure you can handle it?" and I'm like, "well, I've done it before, I'm sure I can manage". assholes. I even had a dude walk me over to the shop towels when I asked where they were, like I couldn't figure it out if he only told me the aisle number. then he proceeded to explain to me how they were used and I was like, "yeah, I know how paper towels work, thanks".


as for football, I don't really like watching it at bars, too loud. weekend before last, I went to Cleo's to meet up with a few of my dudes for brunch and there weren't enough stools at our table because some tardo Bears fans were standing and leaning on them at a lower table watching the game. STANDING! rocking the fucking stool back and forth, eyes fixed on the goddamn television when it was clear that people needed seating. Luckily, one of my friends was gentlemanly enough to give me his seat. although I suppose it's a little old-fashioned of me to expect a man to give up his seat for a lady. especially since I'm not much of a lady.

[Bob]

then he proceeded to explain to me how they were used and I was like, "yeah, I know how paper towels work, thanks".


i don't think i've ever met a woman that's known how to use a paper towel before

[Dorothy Wood]

they're shop towels too! that means they're blue and extra thick! they're like cloth! I'm sure everyone's confused by that. my first instinct was to eat them.

[Bob]

i probably would have tried to wipe my butt with them

[kll]

i didn't know you worked at home depot - as a homeowner, i am forced to go to that place occasionally and i have to say your company has gone DOWN HILL since i first bought my place. whenever i need to find any employee, it's takes 3 miles of laps around the damn place to find someone or i just give up.

glad to know i can find you at the paper towels...