Married With Friends

[Waus]

You married folks - how many friends do you have of the opposite sex, excluding other couples?

Is it a touchy subject for you?

[ms.peachy]

Some. Not so many. The ones I do mostly are gay. I wouldn't say it's a touchy subject; neither one of us is especially inclined towards jealousy. To be fair though, we moved to the UK like a week after we got married, so we've met just about all of the freinds we have together, if you see what I mean? So neither of us has many friends with whom we regularly socialise that aren't well-known to both of us. If mr.peachy suddenly wanted to start spending lots of time hanging out with some chick he'd recently met instead of me and his kid, I imagine I'd not be too thrilled about it.

[AceFace]

just b/c i'm married doesn't mean i can't have friends anymore! we both share a lot of friends. one of my BFFs is a guy. matt's not that good of friends with him. i guess maybe matt can get jealous at times but we've NEVER told each other to drop a friend. of course we're pretty trusting.

if i go out to meet friends, it's usually girls, but not by choice. i just seem to have a lot of girlfriends right now. if matt wanted to meet one of them out and i was working or something i wouldn't have any problem with that.

i'm actually meeting a guy friend out tonight for drinks. matty has no problem with that.

i think good friends are hard to find and i'm not about to dismiss them b/c of their gender just b/c i'm married. i'm out looking for friends, not a fuck.

[Yorkshire~Rose]

One of my best friends is a gay guy. I am good friends with a male colleague at work but we don't hang out just us two - we are usually with other work colleagues or our other halves. I have several male online buddies too who i have been chatting to for several years now.

I wouldn't say it was a touchy subject at all. My husband doesn't have any female friends that I am not friends with too, but i wonder whether i would be as laid back as him if he did.

[HEIRESS]

I have no friend woes (married or otherwise) because I have none left.

it makes life much simpler and much cheaper.

[venusvenus123]

i've got a few male friends but they're either people i met thru work... or on here:o but my husband has met one of them and he'd be happy to meet more.

i've kind of grown up with my husband... we met when i was 23 and i'm now 41 (:eek:), so we have tended to make friends with other couples.
that said, we met this fantastic woman when we travelled around australia, and we were both friends with her, although i suppose me more than my husband.

the answer is: not many and it would be weird, me hanging out with a guy and not introducing him to my husband. i don't have any close male friends.

[Auton]

i really hate that 2/3 of my absolute best friends are married women. HATE it. one of em, it's not so awkward. we'll go out to dinner or watch movies together, i'll go play racquetball with him or go to the gym with her, etc. but the other one, i get the impression that her husband is paranoid, which i can understand- so i don't talk to her, or text message her, or post on her facebook unless she's the one who's calling, or texting first, or whatever. it's frustrating, but again, i completely understand where her husband is coming from. it'll be alot easier to be friends with them after i'm married.

[ericlee]

my wife has many guy friends in china that she keeps in touch with via the Internet. All of them are either classmates or fellow teachers that she used to work with. I've met pretty much all of them and like them all and also, they always provide us with a place to stay when we visit china.

The thing with me is, if she has some guy friends, its better that I know them, unlike that shithead cop that I made the thread about. Btw, we didn't have dinner with him and she told him to never call her again. It took her a while to realize he was flirting with her and once she did, she got pretty pissed.

Me, I've only got a few lady friends from my hometown that I grew up with. We barely keep in touch and most are married too. Honestly, my wife is very jealous and it doesnt bother me. We were shopping in a store once and I was talking to a lady about cologne, with my wife standing right there and she grabbed my arm and told me that I don't need to talk to her.

On the other hand as I stated in skra's thread, if there is a nice looking lady that catches my eye and my wife notices it, she'll ask me if she's beautiful or not and I always give my honest opinion and we never argue about it.

I just think that if I do have any female friends, its better that my wife knows them.

[scotty]

I'm pretty good mates with at least 4 women. One is someone I work with on occasion. Mazz is not worried about it at all because I knew them before her and she became friends with them as well. She's more worried about the young hotties that I meet when I'm at work at uni. You do get hit on in this situation (and I've never had the urge to take up), particularly on field trips, and I always tell her some girl has tried it on when I get home. Mostly, she thinks its funny, but it does upset her sometimes even though she knows its got nothing to do with me.