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cookiepuss
11-07-2007, 05:07 PM
oh like burn down half he state of CA because he was playing with matches?

I was just reading the below article about them prosecuting (as a juvenille) the young pyro and they can also chose to hold the parents particially financially responsible for the millions of dollars of damage.

you could say...well someone should have been looking after him...so the parents deserve to go broke for what he did...but what if they weren't neglegent? what if they just let him go out to play, thinking they've taught him well and that he's smart enough and old enough to know better? wouldn't it suck to do everything you can as a parent have a kid that screws up this big? I mean what would you do?

The 10-year-old boy who accidentally started one of the worst California wildfires last month could face stern consequences, should prosecutors decide to bring charges. Though too young to be charged as an adult, the boy could still face millions of dollars in fines, removal from his home and possible detention as a ward of the state. For now the boy's fate - and that of his parents, who would be partially liable for any restitution payments he would have to pay - rests with Los Angeles County District Attorney Steve Cooley. His office told TIME he has not yet decided how to proceed. "The matter is under review," spokeswoman Sandi Gibbons told TIME on Monday. "No decision has been made."

To bring those charges, all Cooley must decide is whether the boy knew right from wrong - an easy standard to meet, other prosecutors in the state say. "That is a lot easier to establish than you would think," said Cyndi Jo Means, a deputy district attorney in nearby San Diego County who leads that county's juvenile division arson team. "Think of your own children, even very small children; most of the time they know when they did something wrong."

Despite the low hurdle to prosecution, Means contends the California juvenile justice system seeks to help young suspects, who can benefit from counseling and close supervision from the court and case workers. Children under 14 are nearly always charged as juveniles, not adults - no matter what the crime. "We try to help the child, and prosecuting them as adults would not be very helpful," Means said. Any finding of guilt, she added, would not follow the boy into adulthood.

Southern Californians are still sorting through the wreckage from the fires, which burned more than 800 square miles - an area 40 times as large as Manhattan - and destroyed some 2,100 homes. The 10-year-old's carelessness sparked the Buckweed fire in Los Angeles County, which destroyed 21 homes and injured at least three people. Those losses have left some residents in a less than forgiving mood. "If you accidentally set a massive fire that destroys homes, cause residents to flee for their lives and requires millions of dollars in resources to extinguish, then you damn well need to pay the piper," wrote Dave Bossert on his online newspaper, The West Ranch Beacon.

Peter Arenella, a professor at the UCLA Law School said any prosecution of a 10-year-old that aims to punish the boy, rather than help him, "is an absurdity. The only justification for that would be if, in some extreme case, there was a need to protect society from him." Barring that, he said, prosecutors should be reluctant to sweep the boy up into the legal system.

It's hard to see how stern consequences - taking the boy from his parents, for instance, and handing down a multi-million fine - would be helpful to the 10-year-old. Much of the decision of whether to prosecute him rests with Cooley, who like prosecutors everywhere has a great deal of discretion. Unless uglier details about the boy's behavior are discovered, he could decide that in this case playing with matches doesn't rise the level of arson - even if the boy admits he knew that doing so was wrong. As Means points out, children almost always admit they knew their actions were wrong when they are questioned by police or prosecutors, which can be a scary experience for a kid.

When the U.S. Supreme Court struck down the death penalty for inmates who were under 18 when they committed their crimes, it argued that teenagers' brains are not fully formed until they are grown, and that punishing them as adults was therefore cruel and unusual. No one is saying a 10-year-old boy ought to be executed for setting a fire, but even the lesser punishment the boy is facing could be nearly as cruel. That has led some to argue that the bar for prosecution ought to be higher than simply proving that he knew right from wrong. Boys know lots of things are wrong - from ignoring bedtimes to eating too many cookies. A better standard, some argue, would be determining whether the boy, at 10, had any way of knowing the consequences of what he was doing with those matches. With reporting by Jill Underwood/San Diego

ms.peachy
11-07-2007, 05:35 PM
When I was 13, I was 'watching' my two younger sisters while my mom was at the supermarket on a Saturday afternoon. My youngest sister was 6, and was in the apartment with me, watching TV. My other sister, who was 10, was out playing with some other neighborhood kids. At the end of the parking lot for our apartment complex, there was a small bit of woods, kids used to play there all the time. There's a huge knock at the door and it was a cop with my sister. Apparently she and the other kids she was with had gotten hold of some matches and started a small fire. Fortunately another neighbor had seen them and called the fire department and had put the fire out by throwing a blanket over it before things got out of hand.

When my mom got home, she got an earful from the cop for leaving us 'unsupervised'. But I don't actually think it was wrong for us to have been left in the middle of the day for two hours, with me being a teenager and all. And the same thing could easily have happened if my mom was home, anyway. My sister and these other kids, they weren't bad kids, they just were stupid and curious and did a dumb thing. Maybe it's a similar story with this kid in California.

adrockmelanie
11-07-2007, 05:43 PM
But I don't actually think it was wrong for us to have been left in the middle of the day for two hours, with me being a teenager and all. .


this reminded me of something i heard the other day... is it the law now where minors can't be home alone? i know it is in arkansas, but i wasn't sure about everywhere else. if someone is under 18 years old, they aren't allowed to be home alone ever.

cookiepuss
11-07-2007, 05:43 PM
When my mom got home, she got an earful from the cop for leaving us 'unsupervised'. But I don't actually think it was wrong for us to have been left in the middle of the day for two hours, with me being a teenager and all. And the same thing could easily have happened if my mom was home, anyway. My sister and these other kids, they weren't bad kids, they just were stupid and curious and did a dumb thing. Maybe it's a similar story with this kid in California.

yes that's what I'm wondering. There are no allegations that the parents did anything wrong..but can you imagine the financial hardship thier family will face if/when they are fined for thier son's actions? we are talking billions of dollars in damage so the fines won't be small. and maybe this kids isn't a bad kid either, maybe he screwed up real bad. it's kinda sad.

I don't know how I'd handle it if I had a kid and something like this happened. I mean you don't stop loving them but how do you cope? I guess this is why I choose not to be a parent.

b i o n i c
11-07-2007, 05:49 PM
i thought i heard that they werent gonna charge him? in the end there is no way his parents can make even a small dent in paying for that damage

ms.peachy
11-07-2007, 05:51 PM
this reminded me of something i heard the other day... is it the law now where minors can't be home alone? i know it is in arkansas, but i wasn't sure about everywhere else. if someone is under 18 years old, they aren't allowed to be home alone ever.

What?! That's crazy! How are you ever supposed to find a babysitter?

adrockmelanie
11-07-2007, 05:54 PM
man i don't know. my boyfriend has a 16 year old cousin that has to sit at her mom's work after school because she can't be home alone. it's so dumb.

cookiepuss
11-07-2007, 05:56 PM
i thought i heard that they werent gonna charge him? in the end there is no way his parents can make even a small dent in paying for that damage


it looks like they haven't decided officially...I think the story I just posted is the most recent. I guess it hinges on whether they can figure out if he knows right from wrong?

ms.peachy
11-07-2007, 05:57 PM
man i don't know. my boyfriend has a 16 year old cousin that has to sit at her mom's work after school because she can't be home alone. it's so dumb.

But... I mean, what's the driving age there? Surely it can't be that you can be old enough to be in control of a vehicle, but not able to be in your own home alone?

cookiepuss
11-07-2007, 06:04 PM
this reminded me of something i heard the other day... is it the law now where minors can't be home alone? i know it is in arkansas, but i wasn't sure about everywhere else. if someone is under 18 years old, they aren't allowed to be home alone ever.

I haven't heard of that. it is probably a state law?

and Peachy has a good point about the driving thing. I mean that's ridunkulous!!!!!:eek:

adrockmelanie
11-07-2007, 06:13 PM
16 = restricted license. you can drive with any licensed person over 21.
18= "real" license

yeah, it's a state law in arkansas. everything about this state is dumb.



i'm seriously thinking about moving back to illinois soon. anyone have a reason why i shouldn't? ...no, you don't. arkansas = bad. forever.

Bob
11-07-2007, 07:02 PM
why would you want to move to arkansas in the first place?

Schmeltz
11-07-2007, 07:46 PM
Especially from Illinois - shit, Chicago alone has more people than Arkansas.

adrockmelanie
11-08-2007, 01:55 AM
it wasn't my choice. my parents moved us here when i was in jr high.

-T-
11-08-2007, 08:15 AM
You cannot keep and eye on your kids 24/7 and until they are an adult. Kids are kids and parents who claim there kids never do anything stupid like this are naive. Shit happens, the kid should be punished but in a way thats going to ruin his life or his parents. I do not really think the parents should be severely punished unless they were obviously acting in a careless way.

this reminded me of something i heard the other day... is it the law now where minors can't be home alone? i know it is in arkansas, but i wasn't sure about everywhere else. if someone is under 18 years old, they aren't allowed to be home alone ever.

Thats retarded. Do they think parents have no lives or the $$$ to have a friken baby sitter.

Bob
11-08-2007, 08:36 AM
telling cub scouts not to play with matches is like...well it's like something really pointless

Loppfessor
11-08-2007, 08:41 AM
That kid had better have to get a summer job mowing lawns to pay off some of his debt...that or he could be sentenced to a bazillion hours of community service...