Being the "other man/woman"

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

Anyone else been in/currently in this situation? :(

[TOY]

I wouldn't bother.

Well.. Knowingly.

[beastieangel01]

nah
never have been actually, at least, to my knowledge. I wouldn't be able to stand that. If someone is with me, and with my self esteem, I need to know that I'm the #1 who they want to be with otherwise I drop it. I need to know I'm wanted.

And that would make me feel second place and fuck that.

sorry dude.

[hitmonlee]

yep. knowingly, twice.
one guy was also the other man.
the other guy became my bf but that ended very badly.

i don't recommend it. there's are 2 girls out there that hate my guts. one of them even used to be a friend sort of. its not as bad as it sounds... she moved away and they never broke up - but they were living in different cities. i was casually seeing him, she found out, she broke up with him and then he broke up with me (all in the same day). we got back together the next year and broke up again. anyway, while i felt i hadn't really done anything wrong, she sure did, and what she had to say to me was tough. as it should be.

[cosmo105]

once, unknowingly. found out he had a gf after we got together. then he insisted that he broke up with her, but about three weeks later a friend saw them arguing for a long time, and then kissing...about an hour before he and i were together, making out. i confronted him with it and he admitted it and i broke it off. they stayed together for a while after that, but he always seemed miserable. luckily i got out of it with my feelings intact. ah, high school.

moral of the story: if you really want to be with someone else, you should have the decency and respect for both of them to break it off so you can at least not be fucking CHEATING on someone. that's just low. yes, you may be hurting the other person, but at least you're not a scumbag.

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

nah
never have been actually, at least, to my knowledge. I wouldn't be able to stand that. If someone is with me, and with my self esteem, I need to know that I'm the #1 who they want to be with otherwise I drop it. I need to know I'm wanted.

And that would make me feel second place and fuck that.

sorry dude.

This sums up exactly how I've been feeling.

Fuck, this sucks. It doesn't help that she's 11 years my senior, which makes me feel like I'm being used for some reason.

[HEIRESS]

multiple times this time last year. it was ok, I just got drunk alot.

[kaiser soze]

fuck that noise, cheaters never win

[hitmonlee]

This sums up exactly how I've been feeling.

Fuck, this sucks. It doesn't help that she's 11 years my senior, which makes me feel like I'm being used for some reason.

sounds like you are. are you ok with that?

is her other half a violent angry type? if so, get the fuck out now. although she may tell him anyway which will result in him wanting to hurt you still.

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

Eh, if it was anything else I was being used for no, but this? Yes and no...

She's not angry or violent...very much the opposite. From what she tells me her husband is the meek and timid type...I don't think there will be a problem. Plus, he's much smaller than me. But still...I need to go out and find a girl my age...and not married. (y)

[Randetica]

no, i never even felt like a woman

[b-grrrlie]

I've been, once, knowingly. He was married, once I had to call him on business and it felt weird. And it was even weirder kissing him goodbye at the railway station when he was working abroad... He and his family moved to a small town later on... At least I knew from the start it would never last...

[-T-]

Cheating is just not cool. All I know is if I had a wife and she was cheating on me with a go who was aware of the situation I would rage for better of for worse.

[Kid Presentable]

Some girl I'd been friends with for ages (who had a boyfriend) invited me back to her place one night, so I went there instead of my Girlfriends. But, you gots to do some stupid things just to realise the magnitude of their stupidity.

[-T-]

As good of an excuse as any!:D

[Kid Presentable]

I mean, I was 20. Who the fuck knows anything at 20?

[Yetra Flam]

sort of, yeah. but at the time i didn't give a shit.

[-T-]

I mean, I was 20. Who the fuck knows anything at 20?

Very good point.

[Kid Presentable]

Now that I think about it, I was 19.

[-T-]

Thats an even better point then. Being a teenager you always get the dumbass teenager card to throw out there. I miss that.

[Burnout18]

Yes!

Its great being the other one,,, don't really need to spend money on gifts or on dinner or anything else, while the significant other dishes out all the dough. What a great situation.

[ToucanSpam]

Being the 'other person' is just a waste of time. If it doesn't click right away without a struggle or any major articles like another person, it's not worth it and you should probably move on immediately.