mothers and their expectations

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm going home tomorrow morning, traveling by plane. my flight leaves at 7 a.m. and I casually mentioned that my beeboo might be driving me (borrowing his sister's car, neither of us own cars). I said that I might not make him because it's so early and the train by my house goes right to the airport, etc. and she got all pissed off and basically told me that I should demand a ride and was like, "don't feel as if you're not important enough for him to do that for you!". ahh!

she's also concerned that we haven't discussed our future or plans as a "couple"....but I don't really find that to be important, we're individuals.

anyway, I'm pretty sure she's acting like this because wants a grandkid, like tomorrow. I just don't know how to explain how well I am treated when her idea of being treated well is pretty different than mine. especially since considering my last boyfriend bent over backwards for me, but secretly hated doing things for me...I'd hope she'd understand why a little honest, "ugh, that early?" from the current beau would be refreshing, not upsetting, to me. I don't know how to make her think he's not a douche bag.


whatever, he's driving me ;)

[Bob]

i hope my mom doesn't expect any grandkids

i think she'd just be relieved if i turned out not to be gay at this point though, i think i can deliver that

[Dorothy Wood]

oops, nevermind. he can't. sister needs her car afterall. :(

[Dorothy Wood]

i hope my mom doesn't expect any grandkids

i think she'd just be relieved if i turned out not to be gay at this point though, i think i can deliver that

tell her you're a lesbian!

[hitmonlee]

yesterday i had my office lunch. i work for my dad, so my mother has a 25% share in the business and comes to the office lunch.

we're there for 5 minutes... 5 MINUTES! and i pull out my phone to check the time...

PUT THAT AWAY

for fuck's sake i'm not 5 years old, i'm at my own office lunch, i'm not even making a call or smsing anyone, but even if i was, look around mother, using a mobile is normal these days and don't give me that fucking look every single time i quickly check my mobile for the time or to see if i got a message which may actually be important.

fuck she pisses me off.

then she tell me not to pick at my fingers. I'LL DO WHAT I WANT.

[alikat]

ha! i knew i should click on this - your mom and my mom should play mahjong.

nothing cuts you to the core quite like a mother's comment on your man, right?

i have to contstantly remind myself: (1) she means well (2) i may not be able to share things she won't take the same way i do (3) i must remember the value of humoring her . . . as much as possible . . . sometimes.

i used to share everything & we'd fight so much . . . now i phrase controversial things in ways i know will appease her. if that sounds like shutting down, or lying, i don't mean it that way at all. she's amazingly smart and i value her opinion. but that's exactly why the slightest disapproving "huh" on the other end of the line will drive me crazy & come back to haunt me. sometimes i've found it's best to say "yes, we had a lovely valentines day" and leave it at that. ;)

anyway, as i'm sure your mom would say: the important thing is you're happy. :)

EDIT: didn't see the above few posts as i was typing. this was a reply to the first post.

[marsdaddy]

Be sure to point out to her that you've already learned from her mistakes and now it's time for you to make your own. Ooooh, never mind that...

[kaiser soze]

hooray you have a boyfriend.....uh, hmm....you had a boyfriend, wait....you have a new boyfriend....oh, you'll have a new one soon, oh yeah you gots one now!

get bwned!!!

[Dorothy Wood]

what? I done had the same one for 8 or 9 months now. :/

I'm at my mom's house. the way she interacts with her husband is annoying. she is the biggest nag ever...and she expects everyone to behave in exactly the way that she wants at the exact time. basically she thinks everyone should read her mind and do what she's thinking.

after a day of arguing and being annoyed, I discovered that I should just keep my mouth closed whenever I disagree with her. I've also taken to saying "yes ma'am". because apparently having your own opinion is disrespectful.

she doesn't think The Office is funny.

also, she cut 3 inches off my hair :(

[Yetra Flam]

my mum seems a lot meaner when i'm not talking to her in person. i never realised that there was this harshness in her voice. and i dunno, i sometimes get the impression that she's thinking "you do not impress me, susan"

[Bob]

also, she cut 3 inches off my hair :(

what, like while you were sleeping?

[Dorothy Wood]

no, she gave me a haircut and I told her not to cut off too much, but she did. I'M NOT SPECIAL ANYMORE!!! WAHHHH!!!!!!!!!

it was almost down to my butt :(

[TurdBerglar]

i have hair down to my butt too but it grows upwards

[Bob]

if you start balding you could do a combover

[KENNY GUIDO]

ha! i knew i should click on this - your mom and my mom should play mahjong.

nothing cuts you to the core quite like a mother's comment on your man, right?

i have to contstantly remind myself: (1) she means well (2) i may not be able to share things she won't take the same way i do (3) i must remember the value of humoring her . . . as much as possible . . . sometimes.

i used to share everything & we'd fight so much . . . now i phrase controversial things in ways i know will appease her. if that sounds like shutting down, or lying, i don't mean it that way at all. she's amazingly smart and i value her opinion. but that's exactly why the slightest disapproving "huh" on the other end of the line will drive me crazy & come back to haunt me. sometimes i've found it's best to say "yes, we had a lovely valentines day" and leave it at that. ;)

anyway, as i'm sure your mom would say: the important thing is you're happy. :)

EDIT: didn't see the above few posts as i was typing. this was a reply to the first post.

Whats the matter? The caps button is broken or you just cant tell the difference?