man, I really know how to pick em

[beastieangel01]

I am quickly losing all confidence in the male population.

And it's not like this is a one instance thing, things that were shit has happened to me three times this year now. And four times within the past year and a few months.

But it's okay though. Karma will come around and with this last one I'm having my own sweet revenge.




I still don't think I'm resorting to lesbianism, though. I haven't been pushed that far just yet. I'm just asexual now.

[Yetra Flam]

what happened? i'm pretty sure i can relate in some way

[Auton]

date g-mile. just don't ask for cheese on your whopper.

[TurdBerglar]

i think i ate too many chips

[beastieangel01]

yetra: various things have happened. Lots and lots that is too long to explain but then the most recent one... the guy had a girlfriend the entire time. And I of course, didn't know that.

And he doesn't know that I know that now, but he's been talking to me all the time as if things are normal and he cares and it was just two days ago that we have spoken last.

Prick.

[Yetra Flam]

were you two serious? or him and this other girl?

[paul jones]

call Bob!

[beastieangel01]

were you two serious? or him and this other girl?

him and the other girl are serious. He started like, coming around hanging out, asking my best friend about me and what he should do about me. Then we even got close and had really in depth conversations. He knows a lot about me and lots of things most people don't, aside from my closest friends.


Annnnd then I find out he has a girlfriend.
Lovely.

I don't understand though. Why go through all the trouble of trying to talk to me, asking my best friend advice, and then get to know me THAT much and still keep up talking when he has a girlfriend already? I really don't get it.

[Yetra Flam]

so many reasons.
maybe him and his girlfriend aren't all that close and he feels like he needs a girl to talk to.
or maybe it's the whole thrill of keeping more than one girl at one.
maybe he likes both of you and was trying to decide which one he preferred.

[beastieangel01]

true. regardless of any of those reasons, he's still a prick.

:/

[g-mile7]

I NEED TO FUCK!

[beastieangel01]

hahaha

I almost hate you for making me laugh right now.
sigh.

[BBboy20]

maybe him and his girlfriend aren't all that close and he feels like he needs a girl to talk to.Well, hopefully he actually has guilt in him.

maybe it's the whole thrill of keeping more than one girl at one.Well, hopefully he actually feels like a prick (which, speaking of both previous theories, the chances of either is pretty low; probably is just another lame male...yes, I only called him that because I just noticed the matching jumbles)

maybe he likes both of you and was trying to decide which one he preferred.Which would go to the "female as object" allegation.

[GreenEarthAl]

I always tell women about my girlfriend before I ask them out on a date (or even start emoting all in their space). Always.

(just honest like that I guess)

[Yetra Flam]

"emoting all in their space"?

[TurdBerglar]

maybe he ment ejaculating. he likes to tell them beforehand. he's a gentlman. no one wants sticky hair if they're not expecting it.

[GreenEarthAl]

Emoting is not an especially sophisticated word you know.

[RobMoney$]

I don't understand though. Why go through all the trouble of trying to talk to me, asking my best friend advice, and then get to know me THAT much and still keep up talking when he has a girlfriend already? I really don't get it.

HMM...
I WONDER, what reason a guy would possibly go through all that trouble???LOLZ!

[befsquire]

maybe you should go out with someone you don't consider to be your type, and who you would not normally be attracted to. that's if you have a type, of course. or, if you tend to meet them all the same way (like at work, or at a club), change that.

[marsdaddy]

I've been told I look like Jason Bateman. It was by my mom, but so what?! ;)

BA, you can't really worry about what motivates anyone else -- though chances are you already know. Just be who you are, try to protect yourself, and enjoy life.

[cookiepuss]

well I'm reading this interesting book that basically says the right people come into (or out of) our lives at just the right intervals to teach us something about ourselves. you met these men not so you could "live happily ever after", but so you could learn something from them.

you said this situation has happened more than once, so it's pretty much a pattern, righ? it might be negative syncronicity, trying to show you where your personal work is. you just have to figure out for yourself what the message is...
maybe it's that you open up and give your heart too easily...or maybe it's something else entirely. it's for you to analyze.

oh...and yeah. that guy sounds like a dick. heh.

[ET]

Weren't there any signs that he had a girlfriend? Like if you said, "Let's go to your place." and he goes "Uuuhhhh, no can do. It's being fumigated. For rats. Rats with herepes." That would be an indication of something, I think.

[beastieangel01]

maybe you should go out with someone you don't consider to be your type, and who you would not normally be attracted to. that's if you have a type, of course. or, if you tend to meet them all the same way (like at work, or at a club), change that.

I've done that. haha. This guy wasn't my type. I've hung out with my type too. This guy is a friend of a friend. I've met men through other ways too. Nothing has been exact as far as the type of men nor how I meet them are concerned.

And it's not this exact situation that has happened before but various shit in general with other men.

I think it's what cookie is saying. These things have happened to teach me something about myself.

oh and no, there was no sign really that he had a girlfriend. I think the times we were talking was when they were not doing too well or something.

Meh. Whatever. I'm feeling better today about it. Some people are just shit heads.

[RobMoney$]

Are you one of those people who need to be in a relationship all the time, because that could be part of your problem too. Why is it so important to have a relationship all the time? 4 relationships in a year is kind of a lot.

Sometimes less is more. Just because a guy is nice to you doesn't mean he's a nice guy.

[beastieangel01]

nah. One of these guys were my boyfriend very early in the year and that ended a while ago. The rest of them were just men that I was hanging out with (amongst my friends or theirs, or both), that ended up taking me out.

I wouldn't say I've ever been actively looking for someone either.

[b i o n i c]

Sometimes less is more. Just because a guy(/girl) is nice to you doesn't mean (s)he's a nice guy(/girl).
yes.

well I'm reading this interesting book that basically says the right people come into (or out of) our lives at just the right intervals to teach us something about ourselves. you met these men not so you could "live happily ever after", but so you could learn something from them.

you said this situation has happened more than once, so it's pretty much a pattern, righ? it might be negative syncronicity, trying to show you where your personal work is.

and YES. i've been noticing this a lot these last 2-3 years. this is what its really all about. i really believe in this, life really does teach you what you need to know if you pay attention.

[RobMoney$]

well I'm reading this interesting book that basically says the right people come into (or out of) our lives at just the right intervals to teach us something about ourselves. you met these men not so you could "live happily ever after", but so you could learn something from them.

This seems like an awfully self-centered way of looking at life.

It's on some "THE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND ME" type shit.

[b i o n i c]

not if it happens to everyone

[cookiepuss]

This seems like an awfully self-centered way of looking at life.

It's on some "THE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND ME" type shit.

yes I understand the temptation to say that..as bionic said: not if it happens to everyone.

it's actually the opposite of the world revolving around you. the idea is that you understand that you aren't in control and you don't "make" things happen...you aren't in control of when or how a person enters or leaves your life. the one thing you can take from it is how you interacted or reacted to that person. But make no mistake you need other people. we rarely challenge ourselves enough to attain personal growth, but we do show eachother the way to becoming whole (complete, how to love yourselves and others, etc.)

[ET]

oh and no, there was no sign really that he had a girlfriend. I think the times we were talking was when they were not doing too well or something.


Reminds me of a story I've heard of before. What a shithead to not let you know though. Informing a young miss of one's availability would be something a fine and distinguished gentleman of the highest caliber would do. What goes around comes around. Oh shit, that's Justin Timberlake.