aspergers

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm pretty sure I have a friend with it who is undiagnosed. or he might be and just wouldn't tell anyone. I don't know how to deal with it. I think he's a cool dude, but he's really been making me mad lately. and then when I get mad, he writes me emails about being sorry, but then he just goes and does the same thing again.

anybody know anybody with aspergers?

[kaiser soze]

I do but she very rarely see her ( she worked with my sister ), a nice girl but socially disconnected as most with Aspergers are.

You gotta have patience and understanding, tell him how you feel and try to find a solution together. Many with aspergers are just as frustrated with their condition as you....when they know they have it.

[tracky]

sounds like ass-burgers

[HEIRESS]

slip some meds in his drinks.

I have had friends who do stuff like that, except they dont have a legit genetic condition to blame it on.

[Bob]

aspergers is debatably legit in some circumstances

a leading cause of aspergers syndrome is reading the wikipedia article about the symptoms of aspergers syndrome in many patients

[kll]

I'm the exec. director for an autism foundation. If your friend has flown under the radar this long and has been able to make it through school undetected then either he has a very very very mild case of it or that's not what he has. Usually the ones that I have come into contact with lack social skills (i.e. don't know when it's appropriate to cut into a conversation, won't wait their turn, etc.) but they don't usually apologize for it later, as it's a skill they don't realize they lack.

[TAL]

Asparagus.

[venusvenus123]

I'm the exec. director for an autism foundation. If your friend has flown under the radar this long and has been able to make it through school undetected then either he has a very very very mild case of it or that's not what he has. Usually the ones that I have come into contact with lack social skills (i.e. don't know when it's appropriate to cut into a conversation, won't wait their turn, etc.) but they don't usually apologize for it later, as it's a skill they don't realize they lack.

yeah, asperger's is a very broad spectrum and is a lot more common than most people realise. it's sad that there's still so much stigma attached to it.

[beastiegirrl101]

someone please explain!


Sorry.

[Waus]

a leading cause of aspergers syndrome is reading the wikipedia article about the symptoms of aspergers syndrome in many patients

lulz

I knew a kid in highschool who had it while I was doing youthwork in college. He was a really cool kid, but in social situations he was positive but just...off? I dunno, like someone driving a car on train tracks - he still got to the same place but it was bumpy and there were missed messages.

[Chicka B]

aspergers is debatably legit in some circumstances

a leading cause of aspergers syndrome is reading the wikipedia article about the symptoms of aspergers syndrome in many patients

Ahh that's true, I never even heard of it until I found out the lead singer of The Vines had it. Then I got curious and went to wikipedia and was all "OMG social awkwardness and clumsiness, sounds like me!?" I think I'm just confused though, 'cause my mom was actually diagnosed with a mental illness, but my dad refuses to believe that they even exist. I think he has Asshole Syndrome. :confused:

[Medellia]

If your friend has flown under the radar this long and has been able to make it through school undetected then either he has a very very very mild case of it or that's not what he has.
It might depend on his age. My mom's youngest brother will be forty this year, and he most likely has it, but was never taken to a doctor because of his problems (everyone thought he was ajust a bad kid trying to disrupt class). He'd do things like rock back and forth really hard and stare off into space, and then get punished for it. Now that he's an adult he's not going to go to the doctor for it.

My sister also has it, and has been properly diagnosed, so she's much better. She's still not totally "normal" when in a social situation, and sometimes doesn't quite get that other people feel differently than her. For example, our grandfather died last week, and she didn't want to go to the funeral because crying annoyed her. When our parents made her go, she wore earplugs the entire time. But stuff like that doesn't happen very often anymore. Had she not been treated she would probably be more like our uncle. It was when she first got diagnosed that my mom first suspected her brother had it, because they acted so much alike when they were children.

[hitmonlee]

im extremely sure my housemate has it
he's crazy smart but yeah, lacks any sense of when to say things
eg. im in the middle of a rant about how much life sucks, there's a pause and he goes "well this guy i know..." and we think he's about to talk about how much life sucks too, and he launches into a convo about online poker and doesn't realise how infuckingsensitive he's just been.

[The Notorious LOL]

aspergers is debatably legit in some circumstances

a leading cause of aspergers syndrome is reading the wikipedia article about the symptoms of aspergers syndrome in many patients


hahah yes. Its another fantasy disease like IBS, fibromyalgia, and the common cold.

[Yetra Flam]

it's just basically massive social ineptitude, right?

[Bob]

hahah yes. Its another fantasy disease like IBS, fibromyalgia, and the common cold.

well i mean i'm sure it's a real thing, it's just that the symptoms are so vague that it's so easy for some nerd to go look them up and say "oh my god, i have that, that explains why nobody likes me i'm so glad that i have something to blame it on now"

i know this because.....*sigh*.....I have asperger's syndrome. i haven't found a doctor willing to diagnose me yet but i'm sure it's true

[TOY]

Oh, shit. I think I have this. But that's kinda gay. I'm clumsy, don't have empathy for some people 'cause they're bullshitters... Must have aspergers. Yup. HAY- did you know I like rice? A lot?


Wikipedia is an evil thing- 'specially if you're a hypo, yo.

[Bob]

*looks up wikipedia article on hypochondria*

oh no! i think i have that!

[taquitos]

Ass Burgers? (http://regimechangeiran.blogspot.com/2006/01/regime-sells-donkey-meat-for-beef.html)

[ms.peachy]

hahah yes. Its another fantasy disease like IBS, fibromyalgia, and the common cold.

Uh, no. It most certainly is not a 'fantasy disease' and I am saddened that you think so. I can only assume that you do not know any families who struggle to cope with a person with Aspergers. As some of you may recall, I spent the autumn of 2006 in the US after my mom died trying to sort out appropriate guardianship and educational opportunities for my teenage nephew, who has it. My husband and I will spent the next 30 years of our life working off the massive loan we had to take out to pay the tuition for the amazing residential school that provides the type of structured environment he needs to learn how to manage his own behaviour if he is to be able to function as a reasonably independent adult in the future. ($4700 a month, in case you're wondering.) If you are so sure it's a "fantasy disease", maybe you would like him to come live with you for a while, since according to you there's no need for him to be there. It would save me quite a lot of money that I could happily find other uses for.

[Guy Incognito]

i didnt know anything about aspergers til i read a story called "the curious incident of the dog in the night time" by MArk Haddon, its a great read but a bit unsettling.
I think the character has a particular strain of the illness, i have no idea how many types there are but after speaking to my father in law (who is leading professor in childhood autism and other similar illnesses) and watching a couple of documentaries i get the impression that its very frustrating because , the way i see it, is that a persons mind works too well if you know what i mean, there is so much going thru the persons head and it must be so hard for them to control and must be tremendously difficult to live with. Doing anything must be such a strain.
I am not going to comment on the "fantasy" comment - peachy has just done that and sounds like she knows her onions (as per usual) so mr LOL, consider yourself told.

[Dorothy Wood]

I would like to say that a mutual friend who is a licensed therapist suspects it, I didn't just stumble upon it and think, "omg, he totally has it!"

kll, he is a grown man and leads a mostly solitary life. I think the apology emails are a result of his fixation (not necessarily romantic) on me...he always notices when I am not particularly happy and takes it personally, even when it isn't personal.

oh well, I'm going to try not to let it bother me too much and just go with the flow. I could stand to be less of a crabby ass anyway.