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venusvenus123
02-14-2008, 04:53 AM
there's this woman at my son's school whose husband died in a motorbike
accident around november time.
she has 3 kids, age 1, 7 and 10 and lives in a small council house.

her husband was sudanese (she's british). recently five members of his family have dumped themselves on her, one of whom is his brother who she can't stand. they said they'd stay for a month, but now it is looking more like 3, which is their visa limit. i can't believe how she can put up with this. surely she already has enough on her plate without her husband's family landing themselves on her. it would be one thing if they helped out, but they don't.
she always looks drained.

she says she's doing it for her husband. perhaps that's the only way she can cope. : |

ms.peachy
02-14-2008, 05:10 AM
I think you may well be right that this is her way of 'coping'; when they are gone it will literally just be her and the kids and that might be a really scary thought for her. Them being there gives her something to focus on, and she doesn't have (as much) time to feel lonely. It is sad that they are not more helpful to her and are seemingly taking advantage of her situation, but maybe the thought of really being on her own is just too much for her to bear at the moment.