RIDICULOUS!

[Dorothy Wood]

so, it's day two at my mother's house. I am going insane, I don't even know why I came here. It was supposed to be an escape, but I feel extra angry and annoyed.

anyway, I was wondering if you think this is ridiculous or if I'm just being a brat:

I have to sleep on the futon in the spare room. an old futon that is heavy and awkward to fold out. The house is for sale, so every day it has to be perfect and clean just in case someone wants to look at it. apparently that means that every day the futon has to be put back up like a couch so that the room "looks bigger". OH MY GOD, HOW WILL THEY EVER SELL THIS HOUSE WITH THE FUTON UNFOLDED?! I told her that I thought it was ridiculous that I have to unfold and refold the futon everyday. she said I was a complainer and that I need to stop complaining about everything and that's it's not that big of a deal to do it...even though this morning it took both of us at least 15 minutes struggling to put it back in couch form.


I think it's ridiculous and I told her so and now she's mad at me. :/

[The Notorious LOL]

just remind her how shitty the housing market is and how unlikely it is that anyone will even stop over, let alone want to buy.

[hitmonlee]

eh i can see it from both sides. yes it is a little irrational for you to have to pack and unpack it every day. on the other hand, your mother is probably pretty stressed about the whole house selling thing, so if you can do something to make it less stressful... she'll probably find something else to pick at.

[Dorothy Wood]

just remind her how shitty the housing market is and how unlikely it is that anyone will even stop over, let alone want to buy.

Oh she knows, she goes back and forth on whether or not they should sell it. I say they should just stay here. I mean, everything out here is the same, it's just one strip mall after another. they could get a bigger nicer house on a bigger lot for cheap a little farther out of town in an area that's developing. I don't know, they had this stupid house custom built, why keep moving all the time?

today, when we got back from the mountains, she walked in and was like, "okay, let's take down the for sale sign, I'm tired".

actually, they should move to the mountains where there's antiques and native americans and wrecked cars and old tymey buildings from the old west. the houses are crooked and tiny and weird. Ima move there when I'm 45, I decided. I went to the "smallest museum" which was a shack that had a picture of Oprah from 1974 in a case and an old dusty pc from 1986 with those CDs they used to give out with free hours of AOL. awesome.

[Dorothy Wood]

www.worldssmallestmuseum.com

you can take a cyber tour. also, that computer was from 1984, but for some reason I can't edit my post. pfft.


I think the only way to survive it here is to turn off my brain. that way when my mom comes in and says stuff like, "if you get hot, you can open the window", I could say, "oh shit, really? thanks, there's no possible way I'd think of that" and it wouldn't be sarcastic.

I'm not opening the window though, the coyotes will get meh. :(

[ericlee]

hey, miss wood. Do you remember a thread I wrote about my inlaw staying with us for 6 months?

Guess what, she went back home a month ago. Cool. Well, she's back as of last week with my father in law and they're gonna stay for an additional six months.

Yeah, the mrs. and I have had discussions about this prior to their arrival under conditions that we have established a nice house for them to stay in while they were visiting. Leave it to a poor broker, non responsive loan officer, and lazy underwriting team to let someone linger six months till they decide to reject an application.

Well, moms and pops were supposed to visit here when we had room for them. I'm totally greatful to have her pops here as a guest, but, we're still in a shoebox in Queens.

Just paying the rent as we go, trying to decide whether we want to rent a 2 bdrm apartment so we can have room or, buying. That last place was a one and a lifetime offer and anything similar to size and location is like 4 times more.

[hitmonlee]

how has this affected you MIL's tv viewing habits? cos surely she isn't sitting at home on sundays now... she can go out with FIL? and you can JAM!

[RobMoney$]

she said I was a complainer and that I need to stop complaining about everything and that's it's not that big of a deal to do it

One of my pet peeves is when people say, "What's the big deal?".

If it's "not that big of a deal" then why can't you just leave it open.

[Loppfessor]

It's her house...her rules fool. If you don't like it hit the bricks sister

[yeahwho]

Thats life, play the game.

Rule 1. You never win with parents
Rule 2. Even if you do win and big, there is no tie, they still win.
Rule 3. The game of life has rules and breaking this one has penalties.

mitigating factor, I've weaseled quite a chunk of cash throughout the years playing this game by the rules.

[Randetica]

the floor is soft enough for you

[AceFace]

It's her house...her rules fool. If you don't like it hit the bricks sister
Agreed!

i know, at my age, i'd be HAPPY to do everything i could to help my parents sell their house while i was staying there.

i think the phrase "at my age" is what makes the difference.

[Calimero jr.]

Stop wasting your time on the internet and go back folding that futon !!!

NOW !!!

[abcdefz]

You're the guest, so your host should try to make you as comfortable as possible. Yet, you're the guest, so you should pitch in. And that's
such a little thing to do.

Plus, you probably knew the house was on the market when you made plans to visit, right? You should have expected to have to keep things
extra tidy.

therefore, what's ridiculous is that you think it's ridiculous.

Advantage: mom.

[AceFace]

Agreed!

i know, at my age, i'd be HAPPY to do everything i could to help my parents sell their house while i was staying there.

i think the phrase "at my age" is what makes the difference.

wait, i just looked at your profile! we're close to the same age! it's hard to understand why you would be reacting like a kid about this.

[abcdefz]

Sounds more like entrenched mother-daughter dynamic than rational thought.

[AceFace]

true. you're always spot on with the rational thought yourself, a-z.

[abcdefz]

That's because I have almost no contact with my mom. :D

[AceFace]

yeah, i love my momma. i don't like that she tries to shove God down my throat every chance she gets, but i get over that quickly. i can't hate her for worrying about my soul, i guess.

i'd do anything for my parents b/c they'd do anything for me.

hell! last month i had two different flus at the same time and they brought me a huge bag of groceries and DVDs and some "nemo" pops. it was so sweet. of course they left it on the porch b/c they didn't want my sick.

[abcdefz]

That's so sweet. (y)

[Dorothy Wood]

I suppose I should've mentioned that the house has been on the market for almost a year.

I also suppose I should mention that I am intolerant to inefficiency. this intolerance is partly because of how she raised me to constantly think about the best and easiest way to do something. I offered to find a better place for the exercise equipment that is in the room so I could leave the futon out like a bed (neatly made). but she rejected.

I just don't think that an open futon is going to make or break a house sale, but I'll put it up.

I have a problem overreacting to my mom, that much is true. she treats me like a child. I act like one. and our reactions to each other are inflated because we are very similar. such is life. :/

[hpdrifter]

I have a problem overreacting to my mom, that much is true. she treats me like a child. I act like one. and our reactions to each other are inflated because we are very similar. such is life. :/


Ditto. I don't think its about the futon for either of you and that's just how it is with moms. Hang in there, my mom drives me crazy too.

[cookiepuss]

seriously, people are uncreative and dumb. the majority of prospective home buyers are unable to walk into an already furnished house and IMAGINE how their stuff will look in it. They only see how the homeowner has it and if they don't like it, it actually turns them off. Theres a whole tv show about this...they use hidden cameras so the homeowners can hear what people really think when they see the house (then of course they make it over and sell the house.) People pick out the dumbest stuff as reasons not to buy.

So yes, the house needs to be uncluttered and sparsely furnished. any thing that makes a room look bigger needs to be done. it actually does help people be more open to buying, even if it's dumb and inconvenient.

so that's where your mom is coming from.

that said, moms are still a pain in the ass.;)

[bigblu89]

Why don't you just sleep on it in couch form, so you never have to worry about folding and un-folding it?

[abcdefz]

Wow. The futon-as-Gordian Knot. (y)

[Planetary]

so, it's day two at my mother's house. I am going insane, I don't even know why I came here. It was supposed to be an escape, but I feel extra angry and annoyed.

anyway, I was wondering if you think this is ridiculous or if I'm just being a brat:

I have to sleep on the futon in the spare room. an old futon that is heavy and awkward to fold out. The house is for sale, so every day it has to be perfect and clean just in case someone wants to look at it. apparently that means that every day the futon has to be put back up like a couch so that the room "looks bigger". OH MY GOD, HOW WILL THEY EVER SELL THIS HOUSE WITH THE FUTON UNFOLDED?! I told her that I thought it was ridiculous that I have to unfold and refold the futon everyday. she said I was a complainer and that I need to stop complaining about everything and that's it's not that big of a deal to do it...even though this morning it took both of us at least 15 minutes struggling to put it back in couch form.


I think it's ridiculous and I told her so and now she's mad at me. :/

This is a really boring story...

Sorry i just had to say. OK see ya later.

[funk63]

just fucking fold it brat

[ms.peachy]

Sometimes I am so glad my mom is dead, so I never ever have to visit her again.


(Those among you who have a good relationship with your mother might think that statement is terrible. Those who don't, well, you get me.)

[Lex Diamonds]

Dorothy Wood is like the BBMB's answer to Tony Soprano. She doesn't take any shit from anybody, and she doesn't care who knows it!

[Dorothy Wood]

well, I put the futon up. I considered just sleeping on it couch style, but I think it's too slanted. we'll see.

we're still fighting. It took her two hours to get ready to go to the pool and then she couldn't find the pool key. then we went for a walk to this neighborhood restaurant and wanted to stop in and have a drink. then she got mad at me for not wanting to look at a menu even though we weren't going to be eating. I looked at it, and then she looked at it, and then asked if I wanted to look at it again and apparently the look I gave her was rude. so I said, "sorry, I just don't want to look at it, I don't find it necessary to read about food I'm not going to eat". and so I was accused of being too serious and there being too much weight to the things I say. :rolleyes:


I keep trying to remind her that I'm depressed and anxious, but it's not working. I told her that I am not bubbly, nor have I ever been, and it's unfair to require me to become bubbly just for her sake. I don't have a need to interact with waiters and bartenders and shopkeepers or people on the street. I don't want to know their business or tell them mine like she does. I told her this (in a bit nicer way) and said that I'm probably worse off for it, but she was still offended.

I wanted to go downtown to a show tonight but she wouldn't let me go by myself. she said she'd drop me off and pick me up. for christs sake, I'm almost 30.

I need a lobotomy.

[paul jones]

I wanted to go downtown to a show tonight but she wouldn't let me go by myself. she said she'd drop me off and pick me up. for christs sake, I'm almost 30.

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Now THAT is NOT on!.....I'm going to have to talk to your mother Kel !

[cookiepuss]

^ agreed. I could sympathize with her thing about the futon and trying to sell the house...but the rest is just a bit of silly mommy dearest business....

yes, why look at a menu if you aren't going to eat?

yeah, you can get to the movies on your own. geez.:rolleyes:

[AceFace]

wow. i'm really glad my momma treats me like a grown up.

[Dorothy Wood]

ah ha, well, today, my mom, her husband and I went out to eat and she kept wanting him to try her food. he didn't want to, but she kept asking and said, "come on, just do it, it will make me happy!" and he didn't and he was just as "serious" and "crabby" as I was being when she was trying to make me look at the menu I didn't want to look at. but she only got a little mad at him and didn't start crying like she does with me. no fair!

she's co-dependent. she knows she is, but I wish I could just scream it at her. everyone has to do what she wants them to do or she's not satisfied. but she's allowed to do whatever she wants.

and I slept on the futon folded last night. heh. tonight she was like, "let me help you put down the futon, you'll sleep better". and I said, "no thanks, I sleep better when things are efficient" and her husband laughed. so I didn't get in trouble. :rolleyes:

I go home tomorrow! so no more mom complaints. really, I surprised anyone even responded to this thread. I just needed to rant. I love my momma, she's just nuts.