Dating older men/women

[TOY]

I'm talking old enough to be your mom or dad.


If you're of LEGAL age- not barely legal (18), but an actual adult (21), what is your opinion on dating an older man or woman? They're interested, you're interested, and it's not a question of "Oh, I like him/her 'cause he/she's young penis/puss"- simply, "I like and am attracted to him/her just..because!" Yeah. The "becauses" should be more in depth obviously, but you get what I'm saying. The attraction isn't based on fantasy (i.e., searching for the father or mother figure/borderline pedophile stuff).

I think when younger men date older women, society's more accepting of it. As for the other side, not-so-much. You HAVE to question whether the dude's a puffer or going through a mid-life crisis. And I'm wondering if, oh, 9 times out of 10, that holds true in an older man/younger woman relationship.


SHOOT :cool:

[BangkokB]

Great Idea: Many pipe smokers throughout our day have agreed that men mature at a far less rate than women. So my advise to you is if you're 18 then look for that perfect 36 year old. Don't try to change him once you find him. Let him craft you to the beautiful work of art the you are.

[Dorothy Wood]

Great Idea: Many pipe smokers throughout our day have agreed that men mature at a far less rate than women. So my advise to you is if you're 18 then look for that perfect 36 year old. Don't try to change him once you find him. Let him craft you to the beautiful work of art the you are.

:rolleyes:

[BangkokB]

O Dorothy I hope that you realize that most PipeSmoking Psychologists would say the same thing but their wearing their tweed jackets would make it more convincing.

Let's at least laugh about that

[TOY]

C'mon!

What is your reaction to seeing an obviously younger woman walking down the street and holding hands with a man old enough to be her father vs. a younger man whispering sweet nothings into a woman's ear at the bar old enough to be his mother? Do you cringe? Do you automatically assume either are boderline puffers? Do you favor one over the other?

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

I've never had a problem with it, and it's something I almost prefer. My first girlfriend was 6 years older than I, and the woman I'm seeing now is 11 years my senior...and it works wonderfully. (y)

[BangkokB]

Hey I'm a whatever floats your boat kinda guy. If that makes you happy then so be it.

I'm not judgmental but I have noticed that the younger the girl the more $ she's able to dig out of the older the man

Perhaps BKK is your home. I've seen girls talk their "husbands" out of their homes..Multiple homes at that

If you're a good bullshit artist then this is your playground

[TOY]

Hey I'm a whatever floats your boat kinda guy. If that makes you happy then so be it.

I'm not judgmental but I have noticed that the younger the girl the more $ she's able to dig out of the older the man

Perhaps BKK is your home. I've seen girls talk their "husbands" out of their homes..Multiple homes at that

If you're a good bullshit artist then this is your playground

:confused:


Anyway..

I'm mainly curious because, see, there's this "man"... I'm very attracted to him in more ways than just one, and the feelings have been expressed that they are in fact mutual- however, we've yet to take the next step as far as dating is concerned because there's that gap in age. We're BOTH kinda uneasy about it because of what other people might THINK (whether I'm a gold digger or he's a perv). Through people I work with as well as a few other reliable sources, I know he's not an up-front pervert if you will. It hasn't been known of him to date younger women, either. And the one who's more, err.., pushy about the whole thing is actually ME. It seems I'm the one who initiates/gives the okay to flirt back or whatever.

I don't know.

[Randetica]

i would just think that youre into wrinkly balls and not that youre a gold digger

hope your feeling better now

[BangkokB]

you sound like you're suicidal too. Put a knife in his hands and tell him to kill you.
Odds are he'll puss out and you can always hang that crown over him.

I've put knives in at least 3 knives in 3 girls hands and they can never pull that trigger though requested. And some should by all rights because I push buttons

Ha. And then they want to talk about commitment

[TOY]

you sound like you're suicidal too. Put a knife in his hands and tell him to kill you.
Odds are he'll puss out and you can always hang that crown over him.

I've put knives in at least 3 knives in 3 girls hands and they can never pull that trigger though requested. And some should by all rights because I push buttons

Ha. And then they want to talk about commitment

YEAH! He has one I think. That's my main motive. Not monies! Just to steal his gun and do myself in.

Awesome. I fuckin' shot that!

[BangkokB]

What's the fun in killing yourself? There are plenty of people that will do it for you if you push the right buttons. I'm 36 and am still trying to find the answer to that quantum. If you let people know that you want to die: they'll fear you. So that's something you shouldn't share with eveyone.

[BangkokB]

[QUOTE=TOY;1576976]YEAH! He has one I think. That's my main motive. Not monies! Just to steal his gun and do myself in.
Awesome. I Fucking Shot That"

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[TOY]

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That's so old. :rolleyes:

[BangkokB]

I have an unhealthy fascination of Budd Dwyer. It's more concrete than the Zapruder Film.

I love Press Confrerences: That's th3 way to go

[TOY]

I have an unhealthy fascination of Budd Dwyer. It's more concrete than the Zapruder Film.

I love Press Confrerences: That's th3 way to go

What about that lady who killed herself during a newscast? She kept the gun in puppets or something??? Got that video?

[Waus]

BangkokB is dominating this thread with the clarity of tomato soup.

Heck - I don't think it really matters if all the motives are right. The real difficulty that I'd expect would just be the different levels of life experience. Sure, people mature at different rates, but there's still something to be said for having years of taking flights, paying bills, working jobs... I don't know, just general experience that can make one person feel stupid or the other feel ancient.

I'm dating a slightly younger girl - so I guess I kind of have some idea.

[Dorothy Wood]

I think that if an old dude and I had the hots for each other, I'd probably go for it. it's kind of complicated, but most relationships are anyway. I suppose the only thing you'd have to worry about is him dying first.


speaking of getting people to kill you, I have this crazy movie italian movie from the 70's with elizabeth taylor in it. This spoils it, but she spends the whole movie looking for someone, and at the end, she's been searching for someone to kill her. and then she gets stabbed. it's fucked up.

here's a clip with andy warhol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iq7TJJ19n0

[TOY]

I think that if an old dude and I had the hots for each other, I'd probably go for it. it's kind of complicated, but most relationships are anyway. I suppose the only thing you'd have to worry about is him dying first.


speaking of getting people to kill you, I have this crazy movie italian movie from the 70's with elizabeth taylor in it. This spoils it, but she spends the whole movie looking for someone, and at the end, she's been searching for someone to kill her. and then she gets stabbed. it's fucked up.

here's a clip with andy warhol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iq7TJJ19n0

I NEVER SAID I WANTED TO DIE!

[Dorothy Wood]

oh no! I know! sorry, bangkok's nonsense rambling just made me think of that movie!

[paul jones]

I think that if an old dude and I had the hots for each other, I'd probably go for it. it's kind of complicated, but most relationships are anyway. I suppose the only thing you'd have to worry about is him dying first.


speaking of getting people to kill you, I have this crazy movie italian movie from the 70's with elizabeth taylor in it. This spoils it, but she spends the whole movie looking for someone, and at the end, she's been searching for someone to kill her. and then she gets stabbed. it's fucked up.

here's a clip with andy warhol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iq7TJJ19n0

Ah I love those fucked up early 70's films(y)

[paul jones]

anyway,back to the subject.

My last gf was 11 years younger than me.

I haven't had a relationship with anyone older yet but who knows.

There's a cream cake in the fridge,I'd better go eat it before somebody else does

[jabumbo]

i think i would hesitate to do it at first, but i guess if i just met someone at first without knowing age, it wouldnt be a big deal unless it was really noticable.

i mean, the whole idea doesnt really bother me either way, but i can't say i wouldnt think strangely of the situation if i saw it on the street.

[cookiepuss]

well, I' the product of a may/december relationship. my father was 22 years older than my mom. They truly loved each other and it worked out pretty well for them, except for that whole, my dad dying much much sooner than my mom and her now being all alone and single in her late 50's.

naturally my parents did face some obsticles in regards to the opinions of friends and family over thier union. my eldest half sister had a difficult time exepting my mother because my mother had been a senior at her highschool when she was a freshman. now my mom didn't meet my dad until she wasin her late 20's, but naturally my sister felt my mom was way too young for our dad. My dad was also obviously married before and he left his wife for my mom, so there was that whole home wrecker thing on top of the age difference thing too. but they stuck together and didn't let the criticism get to them. My four half sisters have always treated me like I was a full blooded sister, and never made me feel awkward even though some of them may have had issues with my parents union initially.

if you were lucky enough to witness how much my parents loved each other, you'd understand why having to deal with all that crap was worth it.

so I really can't tell you if may/december relationships are a good thing, certainly they are not for everyone. I can only offer you insight in to how it worked out in the story of my parents lives.

[b i o n i c]

i completely don't get this thread. the part where its more acceptable for a dude to date an older woman than it is for a chick to date an older dude.

i would be MUCH more suprised to see a young dude and an old woman at a bar together.

[abcdefz]

I only once dated a woman "old enough to be my mother," and I wasn't legal at the time. It didn't last long because my parents broke it up.

[Waus]

I only once dated a woman "old enough to be my mother," and I wasn't legal at the time. It didn't last long because my parents broke it up.

Whoa - I demand more juicy details.

[ET]

Parents just don't understand. :(

I was practically dating a 23 year old when I had just turned 18. There has rarely been a time that I was interested in anyone that was my age. Oddly enough I'm still into the 23 year old range. But maybe that's just coincidence. It's not like I go "A/S/L" when I meet people.

[abcdefz]

Whoa - I demand more juicy details.



Nothing too juicy. We didn't get past the making out stage. We were both pretty hesitant, frankly. And within a couple of weeks, my parents
figured out that we weren't just friends.

[hitmonlee]

i completely don't get this thread. the part where its more acceptable for a dude to date an older woman than it is for a chick to date an older dude.

i would be MUCH more suprised to see a young dude and an old woman at a bar together.

its partly because men usually age better than women, lookswise, and also men can have children until they are 80ish, but for women its more like 40, so it makes more sense than an older man/younger woman relationship could work.

[paul jones]

I just noticed abcdefz has turned into a lemon