How do you teach someone good manners who should already know?

[hpdrifter]

My carpool guy is a great guy, super nice. I enjoy chatting with him and stuff on the way to work but he doesn't seem to have a lot of boundaries. He pops his zits and picks his nose in my car. He used to try to hide it but he doesn't any more. Recently he actually commented on it to me. "Oh, I have a big zit" pick pick pick.

And he's always clearing his throat. Its like he was a heavy smoker in a former life. You know that thing some people do when they're sick that sounds like they're sucking the snot out of their lungs through their nose? He does that all the time but nothing ever materializes. He's a relatively young guy so I am mystified by this throat clearing thing.

What do I say to him to make this stop? I can't keep throwing up in my mouth every morning, people are going to think I don't brush my teeth.

[paul jones]

Just slap him hard in the face repeatedly until he screams(y)

[hpdrifter]

I have sometimes been relieved when I had some errand to run or something and I couldn't give him a ride. Can I just pretend that I have plans all the time before and after work?

See passive aggressive thread.

[yeahwho]

I think he keeps clearing his throat because secretly he's drinking his zit juice.

[funk63]

suck manners fuck my sperm donor

[hpdrifter]

Why, fellow Seattlelite, partner in this gray, rainy, hipster-infested berg, do you torture me?

[yeahwho]

I guess thats more of an observation than a teaching tip. Short of these (http://www.sentrysafetysupply.com/images/sentry-prod-images/horizon_Shade3_0%5B1%5D.jpg) and these (http://www.omarksafety.com/Images/products/MUFF-H9A.jpg) perhaps you could ask him if he ever considered modeling or broadcasting. Boost his ego and make him more body conscious.

[Lyman Zerga]

i had a clear throat addiction for many years but mainly when i laid down to sleep, usually took hours to get there

well i hate bad manners

yeah..

[hpdrifter]

I guess thats more of an observation than a teaching tip. Short of these (http://www.sentrysafetysupply.com/images/sentry-prod-images/horizon_Shade3_0%5B1%5D.jpg) and these (http://www.omarksafety.com/Images/products/MUFF-H9A.jpg) perhaps you could ask him if he ever considered modeling or broadcasting. Boost his ego and make him more body conscious.

Well both options sure fit the passive aggressive bill.

[Bob]

drive your car really fast off a dock and bail out at the last second (put the child locks on first though)

[yeahwho]

I worked with a guy just like this last week, always wearing unwashed clothes, zit popper, smelly (either gas of just poopy pants), gross halitosis, throat clearing then nose double sniff plus every time anybody would start talking he would yawn obnoxiously loud over their conversation. What a card. Even with all these things the fellow seemingly had a certain gift for gab and charm.

OK, I'm talking about myself again :rolleyes:

[hpdrifter]

Bob, you've been playing too much GTA IV.

yeahwho, forget what I said about meeting at the Cap Hill block party. I... uh,.. I'm not going after all.

[yeahwho]

Is this guys name Dan Lewis?

[hpdrifter]

No.

[yeahwho]

Eddie Vedder?

[Dorothy Wood]

ugh, I hate that throat clearing stuff. I used to have a friend in elementary school who did that all the time, hopefully he grew out of it. or maybe that friend is your carpool guy!

I have no idea how to teach someone not to be disgusting. I'd probably say, "you diggin for gold?" when he picks his nose. might make him embarrassed at least.

the zit thing is just gross. I don't know, you might just have to be honest about it making you pukey.

an old boyfriend of mine had no boundaries. and nothing really helped, his feelings would just get hurt. once my friend and her husband were visiting from out of town and he had just met them, he announced that he had to "dump a deuce" and went to the bathroom and came out with his shirt unbuttoned and half off saying, "I have zits all over my back, come look." so gross. I just said "put your shirt on!" and he got mad and went home. :rolleyes:

[hpdrifter]

I thought your name was Dave :confused:

[hpdrifter]

an old boyfriend of mine had no boundaries. and nothing really helped, his feelings would just get hurt. once my friend and her husband were visiting from out of town and he had just met them, he announced that he had to "dump a deuce" and went to the bathroom and came out with his shirt unbuttoned and half off saying, "I have zits all over my back, come look." so gross. I just said "put your shirt on!" and he got mad and went home. :rolleyes:

Oh god, *vomits*.

[funk63]

drive your car really fast off a dock and bail out at the last second (put the child locks on first though)

haha. memories. my grandma did that to me once after I refused to cut the grass. she said we were going to get icecream but then she started going really fast and i was like GRANDMA WHERE THE FUCK R U GOING! and she was like talk is cheap mothafucka and put on the child lock and bailed.. i cant remember how i survived that shit but it sure did teach me a lesson :(

[hpdrifter]

I might have actually mentioned to him that I post here, I hope he doesn't look.

...

Or maybe I do!

[yeahwho]

Not me, you never take me anywhere.

You know maybe your commuter is actually just doing this on purpose to see how far he can go. Does he have a sense of humor about all of his fucked up ticks.

Also suggest naptime when he's with you then slip an ambien into a coffee for him.

[hpdrifter]

I'm not sure whether he has a sense of humor about it but I don't think he takes himself too seriously.

Thing is I don't want to hurt his feelings, he's really nice. He sometimes offers to help carry in my bags and always opens doors for me and stuff. I mean, he's not being mean spirited, I think he's just oblivious.

[cookiepuss]

oh hey miss passive agressive, have you offered to give him a facial???;) hee hee....actually I'm kinda serious about that...you should offer to give him a facial. If nothing else at least he's at your mercy for about 30 minutes and you can make him look silly.
(I actually like poping zits. it a little grosser when they aren't my own but If I have some klenex I'll totes do it for some one else.)

er...maybay you should get a little jar and lable it "boogers" and keep it on he dash. that would be fairly obvious...then when you are done carpooling he can take his boggers home and start a collection!

throat clearing...offer him a lozzenge (sp?) yeah get some fucking Ricloa and whe he clears his thoat ask him if he wants one...say "oh it really helps me with flem!!!!" like you so it too or something....

:o

[cookiepuss]

I'd like to add...that my freshman roommate in the college dorms had terrible achne everywhere and wreaked of BO..even when she showered :confused:. I mean like other people would come into the room and they could smell it. BAD. I never did have the heart to say anything. I don't think she could help it. I just transfered rooms. eek.

[Miho]

Yeah, what Skye said. When you see him doing a crude action, catch him in the act. Speak up on it, and let him know. That will let him know that others around him don't appreciate that disgusting thing he's doing.

[jimmyfungus]

My carpool guy is a great guy, super nice. I enjoy chatting with him and stuff on the way to work but he doesn't seem to have a lot of boundaries. He pops his zits and picks his nose in my car. He used to try to hide it but he doesn't any more. Recently he actually commented on it to me. "Oh, I have a big zit" pick pick pick.

And he's always clearing his throat. Its like he was a heavy smoker in a former life. You know that thing some people do when they're sick that sounds like they're sucking the snot out of their lungs through their nose? He does that all the time but nothing ever materializes. He's a relatively young guy so I am mystified by this throat clearing thing.

What do I say to him to make this stop? I can't keep throwing up in my mouth every morning, people are going to think I don't brush my teeth.

You could bring him a hot cup of coffee every morning. He will be too busy trying to hold onto the hot coffee to pick his zits or eat his boogers, and the piping hot liquid will help clear up the excess mucus that he is snorting. The only downside is he may spill coffee in your car,...and also you will have to go through the trouble of getting coffee for him.

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