advice needed for an awkward situation!

[Dorothy Wood]

fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck!

so, I need a new roommate and I put out a mass thingy about needing one and I thought possibly this one girl who is very nice might want to replace one of my roommates...but when I opened the email, she was saying that her current roommate is looking for a new place and it really interested and she even cc'd her my email. now, that would be fine, except this girl is dating a guy that my other roommate dated. and oh yeah, I hate her! I've honestly heard nothing but bad things about her and she just rubs me the wrong way every time I've met her. she's super serious and tries really hard to act cool. she is also like 23 or something. and bulimic. these are things that the very girl who is recommending her has vented to my best friends...but to me she's all trying to talk her up like she's awesome.

anyway, it could've been alright if she didn't cc the email. fuck! I don't know if I should be honest about knowing that the girl sucks, or just use the guy as an excuse? I already sort of did, but she keeps pressing the issue saying it's not that big of a deal. and if I'm like, "oh no, my other roommate just won't be able to handle it", then she looks like a tard who can't get over things.

ack...help?!

[paul jones]

don't give her the room,she'll eat all your food

[na§tee]

just say no. serious. this is a non-issue. it's who you have to live with! just be assertive! if you feel that strongly, just make your own excuses. give it a bit of time until you hear some more responses from the ad and then brush her off. easy.

23 isn't that young or a negative ; )

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah...well, I didn't put out an ad yet, this was an email to a group I am a part of. the girl who emailed me is in this group. so I see her all the time. the man in question is also in this group. I see him probably even more often as I've known him longer and we are friendly.


soooo, it's a matter of trying to handle this delicately enough so that people don't think that my roommate is pathetic or that I'm a dick, or that my friends are gossips.

one of these things will happen no matter what, as I am not going to agree to live with the girl.

[Dorothy Wood]

damn it! I still don't know what to say!

maybe it's better not to over-explain it. fudge.

[Videodrome]

use the boyfriend excuse.

[paul jones]

just tell them someone responded really quick and it's taken.

[taquitos]

tell her you need the extra room for your precious moments figurines

[hitmonlee]

dude!

i'm looking for a housemate right now. several of my male friends have expressed interest in the room. just told them i'll run their details by my housemates and that i will get back to them.

easy.

its not like this girl is even your friend, i don;t see the problem?

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah, I basically just said that I didn't want to get further tangled up in the romantic web being spun. I'm friends with the dude, with his ex, with the girl he used to sleep with and roommates with a girl he went on some dates with. I don't need another link in that chain, I already know too many personal things about all of these people and I'm sick of it!

hopefully just being like, "hey, this is too weird, sorry" will be fine, it's gonna have to be. I just didn't want anybody to look or feel stupid. :/

[Miho]

I'll live with you, Dorothy. Illinoisans unite.