ugh. why do i have to be so sensitive?

[AceFace]

so i'm stage managing the summer show at the theatre i volunteer at. monday was the first rehearsal and i laid down some ground rules including some environmental things like bringing your own sports bottle and i'd supply the water. we have 30 people in the cast so i suggested that everyone try to carpool as much as possible.

so today i get this email from the director, that i work closely with, saying i talk too much and i need to leave my political views at the door. that's summarizing it very shortly. it was brutal.

as soon as i read it i broke out in tears.

i hate that i'm that weak. that i can't hold in the tears when my feelings are truly hurt. then i constantly think about it and get upset all over again.

sigh/

[AceFace]

and honestly, i didn't even see it as a political thing. i was suggesting it so that people could save on gas money since it's effing $4 a gallon right now. the environmental issue was a good plus, though.

[abcdefz]

It sucks to be criticized for something harmless -- beneficial, even.

[AceFace]

it doesn't help that i've been crying a fucking hour off and on. must be the stress level here at work. that's a good excuse. i'll run with that.

[paul jones]

the director is just interested in directing it seems.

don't let him win,just go ahead with it.Why the fuck should he care anyway about how people get to the place and what they're drinking?

[AceFace]

i think people rejected your ideas because you're volunteer. if you had shared your ideas with the director and got his/her approval then they might have listened.

enh, the director's a volunteer as well. we ALL are. it's a community theatre.

[YoungRemy]

what play are you guys putting up?

[paul jones]

enh, the director's a volunteer as well. we ALL are. it's a community theatre.

any more shit from the director ,tell him to 'volunteer to shut the fuck up'(y)

[AceFace]

HA! thanks PJ! that made me smile, finally.

[paul jones]

HA! thanks PJ! that made me smile, finally.

(y)

[ET]

Sounds like someone's insecure about their peni size. When someone exerts more authority than someone else these things tend to happen. That's how "directors" are though. Notice how I used quotations. When you are a director of a volunteer theater troop you can't really throw so much weight around. It'd be like the guy at the Burger King drive thru yelling at me for not diversifying my bonds, nigga.

[AceFace]

what play are you guys putting up?

Guys and Dolls. it's been pretty fun the past few days. i generally like stage managing. i can't sing so i always do it for musicals.

i might get to direct next year!

[AceFace]

but crying won't change anything

agreed! i wish it wouldn't effect me that way. i hate it when i just get upset all of a sudden. i guess that was the whole point of my first post.

:)

[YoungRemy]

Guys and Dolls. it's been pretty fun the past few days. i generally like stage managing. i can't sing so i always do it for musicals.

i might get to direct next year!

haha, I was going to guess that one!

don't even sweat the director. he/she is probably suffering from "I used to live in New York and was in an Off-Broadway Play and now I'm stuck here in Community Theatre" syndrome. our old director burned so many bridges because he was such a diva...

either way , I can sing some mean harmonies as Benny Southstreet on "Fugue for Tinhorns" and the title song "Guys and Dolls"

[AceFace]

haha, I was going to guess that one!

don't even sweat the director. he/she is probably suffering from "I used to live in New York and was in an Off-Broadway Play and now I'm stuck here in Community Theatre" syndrome. our old director burned so many bridges because he was such a diva...

either way , I can sing some mean harmonies as Benny Southstreet on "Fugue for Tinhorns" and the title song "Guys and Dolls"

Benny's def my favorite character!

[MC Moot]

Hey Ace don't sweat it,lady,sensitivity is a trait common amongst we capable of higher thought and genius...I suggest you rent "Waiting for Guffman" and bring on the tears of hilarity...(y)

[abcdefz]

Now I want a Remains of the Day lunch box.

[YoungRemy]

It's like in a Hitchcock movie, you know, where they tie you up in a rubber bag and throw you in the trunk of a car. You find people.

[b-grrrlie]

so i'm stage managing the summer show at the theatre i volunteer at. monday was the first rehearsal and i laid down some ground rules including some environmental things like bringing your own sports bottle and i'd supply the water. we have 30 people in the cast so i suggested that everyone try to carpool as much as possible.

so today i get this email from the director, that i work closely with, saying i talk too much and i need to leave my political views at the door. that's summarizing it very shortly. it was brutal.

as soon as i read it i broke out in tears.

i hate that i'm that weak. that i can't hold in the tears when my feelings are truly hurt. then i constantly think about it and get upset all over again.

sigh/

Sometimes I get really really upset if someone critisizes me, and especially when someone attacks me
about something that I've done wrong when I knew how to do right, but didn't bother.
Resently it feels I do just about everything wrong and I feel like not wanting to continue with anything....

[Dorothy Wood]

AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR HIPPIES IN COMMUNITY THEATER, YA HEAR?!


I dunno, sometimes when you get criticized for things that you were well-meaning about, it strikes a nerve. it'll pass. you should just kick him in the nuts the next time you see him.

[cookiepuss]

and honestly, i didn't even see it as a political thing. i was suggesting it so that people could save on gas money since it's effing $4 a gallon right now. the environmental issue was a good plus, though.

I agree....it's not fucking political. when did environmental become political? the director is probably just pissed he wasn't the one to say it and it trying to take control.:rolleyes: makes me mad. stupid, mean director.

but I must say my dear, I am completely the same way as you. I would be hurt, upset and crying too. Sometimes I get also get frusterated with how sensetive I can be...

but having empathy and emotions can be a gift too....espcially if you are a good actress/actor who can redirect that emotin into a performance. so just look at it that way.

[roosta]

email him back asking him to explain how it was 'political'? See what he says.

THEN CALL HIM A FASCIST.

[trailerprincess]

Slash his tyres and put laxative powder in his water.

[venusvenus123]

crying does change something: it changes the way you feel. if that's how you "bleed" your emotions there's nothing wrong with it.
it's just seen as a sign of weakness(:rolleyes:)... so i guess don't let him see it.

anyway, yep sounds like he's not comfortable with you having a good idea and taking away his power.
since when did caring about the environment become political? silly man.

i read somewhere this woman saying that if somebody annoys her she just imagines them being really small and
that it's hard to get upset by somebody who's the size of a keyring!
haha, see how that works for you with this guy.

[AceFace]

you guys rock. i'm much better today, thanks.

i went into rehearsals last night like nothing ever happened. my director gave me a weird look but he got over it when he saw that i wasn't going to bring it up, he got over it.

the funny thing is, he started blocking last night and his directing style is so confusing that i had several people approach me about it after rehearsal. so now i have to figure out how to talk to him about that without him blowing up on me.

ahhhh what fun it is to volunteer!

[roosta]

you should have said something to him.

[abcdefz]

the funny thing is, he started blocking last night and his directing style is so confusing that i had several people approach me about it after rehearsal. so now i have to figure out how to talk to him about that without him blowing up on me.



Why don't the actors just ask directly? That seems cowardly. It's going to seem confrontational if you bring this up.

[AceFace]

i know. i think it's b/c i seem approachable and he's scary. i'm thinking of trying to just get him to clairify with ME and then the actors hear him telling me the clarification. i dunno.

basically he just starts rambling when people are supposed to come in and whatnot. he doesn't have the cues or anything for them to know where to come in. so when they come in at the wrong place, he gets testy.

so while i'm writing the blocking, i might just get him to repeat it to me slowly.

[hpdrifter]

Well try not to end up doing his job. You have to do your due dilligence as the stage manager but if he's going to screw it up you can't try to clean up after him. Its a fine line.

[YoungRemy]

let him screw up and let everyone else see how valuable you are to the production...

[AceFace]

um yeah. so i just resigned as stage manager.

yesterday we had an "emergency" rehearsal. opening night is 5 weeks away. there can't possibly be an emergency yet.

anyway. he was going over some blocking and an actor told him "i feel stuck behind this desk". now i've been in some plays and i think, for community theatre, an actor has a right to say something like that. he didn't say anything else but that. the director said "well if you think you can direct the play yourself go for it." he grabbed his shit and left in a whirlwind. i was dumbfounded and confused. i had no idea what to do. i called a few board members (i'm on the board as well) and told them the situation and they all acted like he had essentially quit.

so i don't get a call or anything today. but i get an email from the director like nothing ever happened (mass email to all the cast and crew) and i know for a fact he's talked to most of the board, except ME! i'm his stage manager and the one he stormed out on and i'm the only one he won't call. unh hunh. feels like i'm being set up.

so yeah, apparently i'm the "crazy" one even though there were actors there that witnessed it. i'm no quitter, but i don't take being treated like crap lying down.

sad face. i hate when things happen like this when they really don't have to.

[mikizee]

What a cocksmoker.

Him, not you.

Lets see how well the play goes NOW!

[cookiepuss]

dude. the director is a prima donna! :rolleyes:

[AceFace]

so i guess i'm a sucker b/c somehow i got talked into taking back the resignation.

[cookiepuss]

ha haa. Somehow I knew you would end up staying with the production.

you know theater is really about dealing with big egos...and well it seems there is always drama in drama. heh.

[YoungRemy]

But Missus McCloskey ain't a good Scout!

[AceFace]

But Missus McCloskey ain't a good Scout!

you are too adorable.