how do fat people get dates?

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm not trying to be a dick, I'm a chubby sort of person myself, but I've noticed a lot lately that girls of the husky variety seem to be flaunting their relationships in my face.

there was this fat lady squatting down to pet some pit bull puppies out in front of my shop and one of them tried to get into her grocery sack and she said, "oh no! don't eat my fiance's steak!" and I was like, *high five* way to go announcing your engagement to strangers that don't even care.

also, had a potential roommate who came by and kept talking about her boyfriend and how he was going to sleep over sometimes. she was tall and very large.

just had a bulbous young woman in here on her cell phone, yapping about her boyfriend, and I thought, "wow, you have a terrible personality!"

I suppose I'm just curious because I have a friend (no, not me) who is a chubby sort as well, and worried about her appearance...but she had a tremendously awesome personality and is well-liked by everyone. yet, she can't get a date. and these other turds have boyfriends falling out their generously-sized asses. what gives?


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[Bob]

there was this fat lady squatting down to pet some pit bull puppies out in front of my shop and one of them tried to get into her grocery sack and she said, "oh no! don't eat my fiance's steak!" and I was like, *high five* way to go announcing your engagement to strangers that don't even care.


not only that, she was flaunting her veganism, too! you should have eaten her dogs just to spite her

[Guy Incognito]

I'm not trying to be a dick, I'm a chubby sort of person myself, but I've noticed a lot lately that girls of the husky variety seem to be flaunting their relationships in my face.

there was this fat lady squatting down to pet some pit bull puppies out in front of my shop and one of them tried to get into her grocery sack and she said, "oh no! don't eat my fiance's steak!" and I was like, *high five* way to go announcing your engagement to strangers that don't even care.

also, had a potential roommate who came by and kept talking about her boyfriend and how he was going to sleep over sometimes. she was tall and very large.

just had a bulbous young woman in here on her cell phone, yapping about her boyfriend, and I thought, "wow, you have a terrible personality!"

I suppose I'm just curious because I have a friend (no, not me) who is a chubby sort as well, and worried about her appearance...but she had a tremendously awesome personality and is well-liked by everyone. yet, she can't get a date. and these other turds have boyfriends falling out their generously-sized asses. what gives?


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I have no pearls of wisdom here i just wanted to commend you on your many different descriptive phrases for the larger lady(y)

[Dorothy Wood]

not only that, she was flaunting her veganism, too! you should have eaten her dogs just to spite her

THIS DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE BOB!

vegans don't eat steaks, and they weren't even her dogs!

[Bob]

THIS DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE BOB!

vegans don't eat steaks, and they weren't even her dogs!

that's right! that's why it was her fiance's steak, not hers. she wanted to be very clear about that

[Guy Incognito]

at what point did vegans even get a mention in the first post in this thread. Mr Bob what are you on about?

[DipDipDive]

I'm gonna take a shot in the dark and say confidence? One of my good friends is totally rad, talented, and good-natured, but she's kind of a big girl and mega self conscious about her appearance and it's painfully obvious in many social situations that she isn't comfortable in her own skin. Dudes don't dig on the shit. My guess is those obnoxious fats you recently encountered probably have an "I'M FAT AND FABULOUS" mentality. People want to be with confident people, not sad sacks they have to constantly reassure.

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm gonna take a shot in the dark and say confidence? One of my good friends is totally rad, talented, and good-natured, but she's kind of a big girl and mega self conscious about her appearance and it's painfully obvious in many social situations that she isn't comfortable in her own skin. Dudes don't dig on the shit. My guess is those obnoxious fats you recently encountered probably have an "I'M FAT AND FABULOUS" mentality. People want to be with confident people, not sad sacks they have to constantly reassure.


hmm. I hadn't thought of that. my friend is actually pretty confident-seeming outwardly though. maybe too confident. maybe that's the problem.

but I see what you mean about the fat and fabulous ladies having men folk attracted to them.

[Dorothy Wood]

that's right! that's why it was her fiance's steak, not hers. she wanted to be very clear about that

oh, well maybe it was all a cry for help. she was afraid of getting a whoopin

[Echewta]

IM FAT AND FABULOUS

[Dorothy Wood]

*becomes attracted to echewta*

[Bob]

at what point did vegans even get a mention in the first post in this thread. Mr Bob what are you on about?

it was a "joke"

[mikizee]

I just had a very good "coffee"

[Bob]

was it hot"?"

[cookiepuss]

I have the answer!

Bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin! ;) can't beleive no one said that yet!


laugh if you will but, sex aside, hugging fat people is nice. they are soft. My mom is fat and I really kinda like it aside from my obvious health concerns for her.

[mikizee]

was it hot"?"

yes it was nice " "

[mikizee]

I have the answer!

Bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin! ;) can't beleive no one said that yet!


laugh if you will but, sex aside, hugging fat people is nice. they are soft. My mom is fat and I really kinda like it aside from my obvious health concerns for her.

Nah I don't subscribe to that school.

Sure you dont want to screw someone really bony but slim is good. If I wanted a bigger cushion I would have bought a bigger pillow.

[ToucanSpam]

Obnoxious obese women are plentiful where I come from and omgomgomg they are extremely annoying. They do the same things previously mentioned, except tenfold. When they are single they shut the fuck up about their personal lives and spend most of their time babbling about how every friday/saturday theyre hitting the clubs and getting hit on by guys...the really rofl par tof that is the bar scene in my city is extremely pathetic and most of the guys at the bars are either 'bros' who wouldn't look twice at a big girl or guys who don't own their original teeth.

When they are in a relationship, its all over facebook and my live feed and my friends live feeds are spammed with these people making noticed like this:

Thelma is GOIGN OUT WITH MY BOYFRIEND, LOVE U BOBBY

Roberta is out w/ my hubby, 2gether 4ever!!!!!!11one

Bertha is I LOVE MY MAN

and etc. Personally, I don't mind it too much when people do that but when it's like ^^^that it's annoying.


People just tend to piss me off. Oh, and the 'fat and saucy' attitude is the most unattractive trait I have ever seen/witnessed. Even though you double my weight it doesn't mean you get in my face without getting some shit.

[Caribou]

I'm a lardy-bum myself, don't act overly insecure in front of guys and yet I never date.

I find that there's a certain type of guy that goes for bigger ladies, and they're mostly disgustoid douchebags.
Those ladies you talked about are probably not very picky when it comes to dating and hooked up with someone who's personality matches theirs. Annoying and Douchey.

btw, don't you hate it when 'chubby' women have huge tits and wear these really low cut tops to show off their 'best assets'.
It disgusts me. I don't wanna see massive cleave on slim people and I definitely don't want to see it on people with an H-Cup.

Oh well, maybe I'm just jealous, because it's usually the big boobs that attracts guys to big ladies, and I am not so well endowed in that department.

[RobMoney$]

HAHHAAA

Toucansperm has issues with fatties.

[funk63]

fat chicks put out about 60 percent more than skinny chicks. also, for some reason, they sound nice on the phone.

[RobMoney$]

Generally, fat chicks are just less maintainance.

[funk63]

ugh, I just remembered I recently witnessed two fatties goin at it outside a bar.

[Loppfessor]

fat chicks put out about 60 percent more than skinny chicks. also, for some reason, they sound nice on the phone.

That's probably the most accurate thing said in this thread...meanwhile I will also say this. These large women that some of you are calling so annoying are probably no more irritating that your average thin girl but the fact that their big just make them a better target for lack of a better word. By that I mean what's one of the first things you think when you have a problem with an overweight person..."Oh that fat bitch" or something like that. It's a quick easy effective insult that most of us are guilty of. Like I said they're probably jsut as annoying as some smaller girls but the fat thing draws more attention to them...

[taquitos]

physical intimidation

[Dorothy Wood]

That's probably the most accurate thing said in this thread...meanwhile I will also say this. These large women that some of you are calling so annoying are probably no more irritating that your average thin girl but the fact that their big just make them a better target for lack of a better word. By that I mean what's one of the first things you think when you have a problem with an overweight person..."Oh that fat bitch" or something like that. It's a quick easy effective insult that most of us are guilty of. Like I said they're probably jsut as annoying as some smaller girls but the fat thing draws more attention to them...


I don't have a problem with overweight people. and I know plenty of dumb ass skinny bitches. I guess this is more about people who scrutinize their own looks and feel they are unattractive to potential suitors because of their size. but then these people who have bad personalities and are overweight and therefore unattractive (according to society's rules), are somehow getting into serious relationships.

I suppose the same question could be asked about ugly people. some people are just ugly and there's nothing you can do about it.


I don't know, I guess I'm kind of interested in knowing exactly how and why relationships develop when they're not based on immediate physical attraction. because magazines and t.v. would have you believe that if you're not perfect-looking, you better get perfect or there's no way you can get a mate. but clearly, people are hooking up all over, ugly and fat alike!


(and caribou! my boobs actually didn't grow until I was 25/26, so there's still hope!)

[Dorothy Wood]

physical intimidation

are you fat?

[russhie]

hahahaha, taquitos

I think like Caribou said, there's a type of guy that go for larger girls, but they always seem kind of sleazy.

It annoys me a bit that really fat girls can get dates/boyfriends/fiancees because I see being overweight as a sign that you can't really be bothered looking after yourself - I've always tried to look as good as possible and yet I struggle to find guys who won't use me or dump me after seven or so years (thanks ex boyfriend).

I don't have anything against fat people, I just don't understand it?

EDIT: I suppose maybe cause we're all bombarded with physical perfection all the time in the media/advertisments and shit too. It makes it seem like everyone wants that shit. I don't know.

[adam_f]

I used to be fat and got no dates. Now I'm thinner and still get no dates.

[DipDipDive]

I don't know, I guess I'm kind of interested in knowing exactly how and why relationships develop when they're not based on immediate physical attraction.

One word - internet. And I'm not knocking it, in fact I think it's a good thing that people are able to form a connection via online communication without physicality being a factor.

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah, but now there are pictures and things, so people are still picky. I guess in theory people usually end up with who suits them best regardless.

but maybe all these people met on eharmony or something.

I wish I knew more fat men, there's like none! or they're already married. or they're toooo fat, the kind that is scary unhealthy and/or annoying because they're like, "wahhh, I'm fat".

[insertnamehere]

When they are in a relationship, its all over facebook and my live feed and my friends live feeds are spammed with these people making noticed like this:

Thelma is GOIGN OUT WITH MY BOYFRIEND, LOVE U BOBBY

Roberta is out w/ my hubby, 2gether 4ever!!!!!!11one

Bertha is I LOVE MY MAN

and etc. Personally, I don't mind it too much when people do that but when it's like ^^^that it's annoying.


I think when you name your daughters Thelma, Roberta and Bertha, you're probably asking for them to be fatties.

I have a friend that goes for fat chicks, and it annoys the absolute piss out of me, not that he likes fat chicks, but that he's a huge goddamn hypocrite. His cited reason for liking it is that you shouldn't try to conform to society's standards of beauty and you shouldn't care what other people think of you, etc. Yet at the same time when his girlfriend (now ex) wanted to lose weight because she was uncomfortable with herself he threw a big hissy fit. It's something they fought about constantly. If she ordered a small size something instead of a large he'd get into it with her. I think really it comes down to him being really insecure and thinking that he can't do any better, and that if a girl does something to become more attractive while dating him, she'll then leave him for someone "better." The same girl has an issue with facial hair and started getting laser hair removal treatments on her face and he flipped the fuck out about that as well.

I don't really get the guys with fat girls thing just because in my experiences working and being around almost entirely guys for a long time now, especially when i was the only female employee, I hear a lot of their guy talk which was almost entirely talking about girls appearance and how hot (or not) they were. Any time anyone said a girls name someone would say "is she hot?" to which the guy would either respond something like "dude she's smokin" or make a scrunched up face like they just ate something nasty. It lead me to believe that guys only gave a shit about the smokin hot girls.

The thing someone said about their titties growing in their mid 20's really gives me hope for the future though, I had no idea that could happen. C'mon boobies!

[taquitos]

are you fat?

no, but im not lean. why?

[paul jones]

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=b0QejNNXqOY

I couldn't think of an answer so here's a fat song(y)

[Dorothy Wood]

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=b0QejNNXqOY

I couldn't think of an answer so here's a fat song(y)


I like that guy's outfit!


taqos: just wondering.

[paul jones]

I like that guy's outfit!


.

who ?, Buster Bloodvessell,the singer? Watch all the clip and you'll see him do his tounge trick.

[Dorothy Wood]

ya, he reminds me of that guy that says "yarp" in the grocery store in Hot Fuzz.

[paul jones]

ya, he reminds me of that guy that says "yarp" in the grocery store in Hot Fuzz.

hahaha!!!!! yeah he does a bit!

I mean YARP,he does a bit

that clip is from 1981 btw. I saw Bad Manners about 4 years ago as it happens.He once ran a hotel for fat people too.

[Guy Incognito]

it was a "joke"

Jokes are supposed to be "funny".

[ms.peachy]

I think that there are a couple of factors at play here.

First of all, there is what guys say they like to other guys, and that male competitive thing comes into play, where they make it sound to eachother like they're standards or so high, they only date supermodel porn stars or something. This is largely a younger guy thing though - most guys come to realise that actual, regular, real life women are where it's at.

Secondly, there are many larger women who can carry it well and who are confident, and tend to come across as very robust, lusty, sensuous beings, and I think a lot of men respond to that. I mean, who do you think is going to be more fun to be with - some neurotic chick who picks at her salad and is forever obsessed with the tautness of her own stomach, or one who will happily and joyfully dig in at a BBQ joint, licking her fingers after every rib?

[camo]

I've done some photo shoots with some absolutely beautiful plus size models (not pornographic before someone adds) and every single fella in the places was tripping over his tongue. It was curves/boobs galore (y)

[russhie]

Plus size models hardly look like your average fat chick on the street though. They're a special kind of fat chick.

[camo]

They're a special kind of fat chick.

lol (y):D

[icy manipulator]

i want to go boldly where no man has gone before ;)

if you want a scapegoat for this new found confidence blame Gok Wan

[funk63]

obesity was seen as attractive in ancient greece.

[camo]

Manchester United 3 - Arsenal 0
Chelsea 0 - Gok Wan

[Lyman Zerga]

i hate fat people who dont know that they are fat

[AceFace]

my best friend is large and GORGEOUS. she knows she's pretty. she has issues with her weight, but she doesn't let it stop her from dressing nicely and presenting herself in a well put together manner. she's smart and funny and talented and beautiful, and the guys recognize that. she is never hurting for guys and at the moment she actually has 3 guys that want to date her and she's not sure who to go with. i've NEVER had that problem!

i don't think any of the guys interested in her have ever been "sleazy". some are professional men and some are more like hipsters that have good jobs and good looks.

i WISH i could look half as beautiful as she is and have the confidence she has.

[Kid Presentable]

I have legs like drumsticks. That always worked for me back in the day.

Edit: I've been a proponent of the plus-sized betty for years now. When you're hunkering down at a party all full of chemicals, some relaxed normal person of a girl is far better than the exhibition piece, among other things for the fact that talking your way into their pants can actually be a two-way conversation. Sorry.

[Echewta]

Just when it seems so clear that its over now, drink your big black cow and get out of here.

[Yetra Flam]

how fat are these fat people? like rolls and rolls of jiggly fat, or just a little extra chunky? it's a crucial difference

[Kid Presentable]

Plus, skinny people can be fat in their heads.

[AceFace]

i've always considered myself as a big girl and i'm not hugely fat or anything.

[b i o n i c]

yeah you're pretty dope(y)

[HEIRESS]

I am definately a big girl.
At most times i vary between 165-175 pounds and Im only 5foot6. most circles thats not considered "average" by a long shot.
so yeah, "most" guys dont pay me any attention. atleast until Im shooting the shit with them and making them giggle, and thats alright by me.
though I do get a wee bit of male attention just based on physical appearances alone because Im a bit of an odd dresser and alot of my weight is based in my chest and badonkadonk.
my girlfriends tell me all the time that they wished they had my body because although its on the large side proportionally, atleast I look as strong as an ox.

regardless, I always date boys that I outweigh by a good 20-30 pounds. though one of them was 6foot4 and 180 pounds though, so he did outweight me but not by very much, sadly.
Plus Ive always dated jocks of some form or another (hockey, soccer, cycling) and you would assume they would be the most superficial when it comes to picking a girl who is of a slim athletic build to match their own. but Ive never had any complaints about my having to "lose some pounds" from any boy ive dated ever.

[Yetra Flam]

no, fat is like rolls and big jiggly stomachs and storing chicken wings in your fat folds. if you're a size 14 or whatever you're not a big girl.

[-T-]

Like the fat girls that wear those shorts that say "Hottie" or "sexy" on the ass and hear tube tops where all there shit is hanging out or the guys that have not seen there penis for years?

[abcdefz]

I've only "been with" one girl I would consider fat, and that was just making out. A woman who's, say, twenty pounds or so overweight,
I wouldn't consider fat.

The way that I wound up hooking up with the "fat girl" was pretty simple: we were really good friends, we were drinking at a party, I (at least)
was really drunk, and somehow we wound up rolling on the floor laughing and making out. That was all. Maybe if I hadn't had a ride home,
more would have happened, but it was more like one of those "making out with a friend" things where maybe there's been some attraction
all along that one or both of you didn't want to pursue, but then there was suddenly an outlet for it, it happened, it was over.

[insertnamehere]

I am definately a big girl.
At most times i vary between 165-175 pounds and Im only 5foot6. most circles thats not considered "average" by a long shot.


This is not at all fat. That sounds healthy to me. Also you're really hot, just so you know.

[Dorothy Wood]

well, my friend is probably a size 16/18, and actually she lost about a 100 pounds to get to that. I'm a 14/16 (can squeeze into size 12 jeans with a muffin top) but I have short thick waist, so tailored tops that nip in don't fit me (high waisted 50's style dresses do though). my friend and I weigh the same (around 200), but she has a smaller waist and bigger arms/legs/butt. my boobs are rather large, but I am constantly in denial about it. she's an hourglass, I'm an apple...but I have very little back fat, and a good deal of muscle mass. I have actually literally never seen another person built like me. I've been told that I have a firm softness that is pleasurable to the touch. so, line up boys. :cool:

the ladies I was talking about were the flabby kind. unhealthy-looking, but not particularly enormous.


maybe we're not fat enough.

[Caribou]

Recently I get a lot of people telling me I look like I've lost weight, but I really haven't. People also seem to think I'm about 25 kilos lighter than I actually am. (212 lbs. and I'm 5'8") They can also never understand that I have problems buying clothes.
But just because I've always been made fun of when I was younger and because I always fail horribly when I want to go out shopping, I FEEL like I'm a total lardass.
I also never get any male attention, except when I make them laugh, and I've read somewhere that guys just want you to laugh at their jokes. Once you make them laugh you're 'one of them' and you're screwed.
So that's my problem, I'm just a chubby dude with boobs to them. Moobs. :(

[Myu-to]

One word - internet. And I'm not knocking it, in fact I think it's a good thing that people are able to form a connection via online communication without physicality being a factor.

*snorts*

[DipDipDive]

*snorts*

But wait, there's more! I met my boyfriend on this board. We've been together for 2 years and live together. One couple who met on this board is now married. Joke's on you, asshole.

[Myu-to]

But wait, there's more! I met my boyfriend on this board. We've been together for 2 years and live together. One couple who met on this board is now married. Joke's on you, asshole.
I see.

Wait, is that suppose to prove your point or mine?

[Bob]

snorting isn't a point

[Myu-to]

What?

It is to a point.

I *snort* in your general direction.

[DandyFop]

I am chubby and awesome and cannot get a date.

I have been losing weight.

The boy I like is tall and skinny and hot. He likes super hot girls because we live in Hollywood and they are everywhere.

The boy that likes me is fat. I do not find him attractive (on physical and other levels).

It's all really fucking annoying.

[Dorothy Wood]

oh man, I could never hack it in LA. I know a chick from college who was considered really hot in ohio, but in LA, she's just regular and dating some dorky loser that she wouldn't have even considered in ohio.


in other news, I just saw some excellent improv tonight. the group leader was the hottest funniest dude I've seen in a long time. I wanted to eat him alive. he was also really excellent at cultivating comedic moments out of other people's hesitance. cort was like, "hey, when plaid shirt comes by, tell him you think he was funny" (hot dude was wearing a plaid shirt) and he was beginning to walk by when she was saying that, so I told him, "hey you're funny" and then told him that she told me to tell him that. and then he gave us a flyer for another show. and I was like, "oh, ha, okay thanks".

I probably outweighed him by about 30 pounds. :(

I just found him on the internet and he's 6 years younger than me. ouch!

[DandyFop]

omg there are so many hot dudes that do improv and comedy here. It's ridiculous. A bunch of dudes that look normal but then make you die laughing and you want to have all their babies.

But they still date hot girls even if they are so-so in the looks department. So that leaves me with lame options.

[Dorothy Wood]

you just need to get famous and you'll rule the school.

[DandyFop]

We were watching a tape of something we filmed and boyilove was like "aw it's our own Tina Fey" which made me want to die of happiness.

P.S. Watch him kiss Betty White at the end of this video

http://youtube.com/watch?v=C9H2NRAqXp4

I sorry I have completely gone off the subject of fat people dating

[Bob]

omg there are so many hot dudes that do improv and comedy here. It's ridiculous. A bunch of dudes that look normal but then make you die laughing and you want to have all their babies.

But they still date hot girls even if they are so-so in the looks department. So that leaves me with lame options.

urrrghhh i should have been a comedian

edit: in LA

but in LA, she's just regular and dating some dorky loser that she wouldn't have even considered in ohio.

[Tone Capone]

I think it's because fat chicks put out more. It's like that joke "why are fat chicks so good in bed? because they have to be". Also, they are more forward than most chicks, probably because they know they can't compete with hot chicks so instead of waiting for a guy to come talk to them (not gonna happen if a hottie is around) they will straight walk up to a dude like "after party at my place?" and offer it up on a platter.

I personally couldn't be with a fat chick but I got a lot of friends who get drunk and really don't care LOL. They probably put up with a little more BS too. My best friend was dating this fat chick strictly because she bought him EVERYTHING. Also what they consider dating might be completely different from what the dude considers dating.

[funk63]

I just realized I hate fat people. right or wrong whenever I see one all I can think of is you lazy fuck I want to chop off your fat and feed it to starving people. and for all you people complaining about how fat you are get the fuck over yourself at least you have food to eat.
I volunteer motherfuckers.

[funk63]

I personally couldn't be with a fat chick but I got a lot of friends who get drunk and really don't care LOL. They probably put up with a little more BS too. My best friend was dating this fat chick strictly because she bought him EVERYTHING. Also what they consider dating might be completely different from what the dude considers dating.



there was this obese chick at this party the other day literally throwing herself at every dick in the place. she came up to me and I two stepped that joint real quick and she hit the stereo and it started skipping my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard milkshake milkshake milkshake..
she goes OM G a milkshake sounds sooooooooooooooooo good lets go to wendys YAAAA. god fucking damn

[Dorothy Wood]

well, this thread has taken an ugly turn.

[TAL]

well, this thread has taken an ugly turn.

They are being bad guys to get the girls.