Had a massive fight with the fiance last night

[hpdrifter]

and now I can't sleep. I'm exhausted but I can't sleep. I'm not sure how it blew up like that. We went to a friend's house after the club and after awhile I asked him to see if anyone could take us home cuz I was tired. He said he would and I went to lay down and wait. I woke up like two hours later and he was still just tooling around with everyone. So I got mad at him. Okay, maybe I didn't need to get mad but I was exhausted and frustrated. I didn't really say anything but he knew I was mad. He tried to put his arm around me in the car on the way home and I put it back.

Anyway, then he blew up at me. I mean blew up in a big way.

And now I can't sleep. Its 8:00am or so and I don't know what to do. I want to leave but no one is up and I don't really have anywhere to go anyway.

It was really bad. I don't actually know what's going to happen today.

I might be single again and its really scary but I don't know that its a bad thing.

[Kid Presentable]

You are a wonderful person. The only thing you did wrong was rely on the status quo. :)

[hpdrifter]

What do you mean rely on the status quo?

I think I might be a profoundly stupid person.

[Kid Presentable]

I said it in a profoundly stupid way. Don't beat yourself up if things don't work out; the only thing you did wrong (as most of us can do) was rely on things working out.

[hpdrifter]

I feel ill. I am riddled with anxiety and I just want to sleep. I can't go in the spare room because a friend of ours stayed over last night and is in there.

[AceFace]

poor girl. was he doing lots of drugs/drinks? i know you've said he parties hard before.

my husband pulls this stunt every once in awhile. i want to go, he doesn't so he does everything he can to stall and stay for another hour blah blah. "but i just opened this beer and i have to stay to drink it"... whiney whiney.

it's really hard for us to understand it b/c if say... he wasn't feeling good, or suddenly had a headache, we'd be trying everything we could to make them feel better including leaving the party or whatnot. they don't think that way and it's frustrating.

hopefully it'll all work out, but you kinda hint that he said some hurtful things. that's hard to get past.

[yeahwho]

Holy smokes HP, hope this all works out in a way that benefits you. No matter what happens either way, you seem to be supersweet.

Choices and decisions will have to be made, like whether getting ripped is a higher priority than a healthy relationship. closing the door on partying is really tough for dudes.

[Dorothy Wood]

I don't think I like this guy. he doesn't seem very nice. :(

good luck darling, you need to do for you what will make you feel safe and happy.

[bigblu89]

I'm either out of the loop, or have an amazing wife, but if we're out at a bar, and she wants to go home, and I don't, she takes the car home (she doesn't drink much), and tells me to cab it home.

Granted, I'm a 30 year old man, and "a night out at the bar" rarely goes past 1a.m. anymore.

[abcdefz]

We went to a friend's house after the club and after awhile I asked him to see if anyone could take us home cuz I was tired. He said he would and I went to lay down and wait. I woke up like two hours later and he was still just tooling around with everyone. So I got mad at him.





...is it possible he just didn't want to wake you up?

This is a bit of a coin toss, really, but surely not the end of the world.

[MC Moot]

I really hope you guy's are considering pre-wedding counsel...sumthin ain't right...:(

[Waus]

I'm either out of the loop, or have an amazing wife,


It's the second one. (y)

[Planetary]

women...

[paul jones]

leave him or something.You shouldn't have to put up with that crap!

[cookiepuss]

leave him or something.You shouldn't have to put up with that crap!

Someone needs to marry PJ! he's a good guy. Going once, going twice...ok maybe I'LL marry him.;)

[alruggs]

I might be single again and its really scary but I don't know that its a bad thing.

This is what caught my attention the most. It seems like the fight wasn't really about the party...there is something underlying. I know I used to subconsciously pick fights with my ex-boyfriend before we broke up. I wasn't brave enough to say, "I'm not happy and this isn't working" so all the little things became really big things.

[ericlee]

I'm just hoping she's ok. Making a thread like this and not replying in a few days kinda makes a person worry.

[AceFace]

good call eric. anyone have her phone number that could call and check on her?

[cookiepuss]

She's alright. I'm in touch with her.
talked to her yesterday.
I think she's also busy with work.
I'll text her though....

[paul jones]

Someone needs to marry PJ! he's a good guy. Going once, going twice...ok maybe I'LL marry him.;)

*gets boner*(y)

[jabumbo]

cookie is the perez hilton of the bbmb, only a lot better looking


good to see things are okay (y)

[cookiepuss]

cookie is the perez hilton of the bbmb, only a lot better looking


good to see things are okay (y)

LOL. damn right I'm better looking! Perez has the worst fashion sense of any gay man in history. (n)