jesus fucking christ

[DandyFop]

UGHHHHHHH

last night was my bday and it was totally amazing and my friends are awesome.

and the guy i like (who i've boned) totally hooked up with this other girl and it was fucking torture. Just watching them and them orchestrating getting dropped off at the same place and BLAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Of course she's insanely nice. And really hot in like a plastic LA way.

Seriously that shit is rough. I want to curl up into a ball.

[Lyman Zerga]

happy birthday! (y)











next year :(

[cosmo105]

the guy is an insensitive bald douchebag

[Rock]

how so? are they dating? was it just a "boning" or were feelings expressed when/before/after the "boning" took place?

Depending on those answers.....i don't see how he is being insensitive.

[kll]

If someone shows up in honor of someone else's bday and is there to help them celebrate and they have hooked up in the past, I would consider it insensitive for him to use the occasion to try to hook it up with someone other than the bday girl.

[Rock]

If it was just "casual sex" for dude and her fopness, then I don't really see the problem.

I guess I'm insensitive.

[ms.peachy]

If someone shows up in honor of someone else's bday and is there to help them celebrate and they have hooked up in the past, I would consider it insensitive for him to use the occasion to try to hook it up with someone other than the bday girl.

Yeah, it's pretty bad form.

[Lyman Zerga]

I guess I'm insensitive.


no, just a man

[ms.peachy]

no, just a man

I don't know that that's quite fair. I think there are many guys who would have the presence of mind to think "Wow I'm totally digging this girl, let me get her number so I can call her later" because they can see how it would look for them to hook up with her when they are actually at the birthday party of another chick they have a history with.

I believe the fellow in question is what would have in films of Hollywood's Golden Era been referred to as a "cad".

[Rock]

no, just a man

no, because i think a lot of guys wouldn't have done it if they knew that the girl had feelings for him. Which, if true, then yeah, thats a cock move.

well...maybe not a lot of, but a good amount.

[DandyFop]

It's super complicated...he doesn't know how much I really like him but I'm sure he has an inkling. We are good friends at this point and the whole think just stinks.

It was all "casual" between us but I totally started liking him and was hoping it would go away but blah. Not yet.

At one point all he would do is talk about chicks and i got pissed so he kinda stopped doing that.

But yeah as soon as I saw her with her tits stuffed into this tiny tank top last night, I knew it. I predicted it. And actually she was the one pushing it, not him. (she has no idea about our history) But obviously he went along with it. It's not like they sucked face or anything in front of us but yeah...

On the plus side, the fat guy who works at the liquor store in Superbad was at the bar and he was really cool. And the small asian girl who ran karaoke was super fucked up and freak danced with me and made me grab my boobs.

[Loppfessor]

I think the title of this thred was the right amount of dramatic but you should have capitalized the works and maybe thrown in an exclamation point or two....meanwhile I offered you b-day sex that woulda made him jealous but you shot me down! So I got nothin..

[Dorothy Wood]

that guys sounds like a douche bag. but I guess if he doesn't know that you like him like him, he wouldn't think he was doing anything wrong.

blah, thinking you might get laid, then not getting laid on your birthday is the worst! sorry that happened dude.

[DandyFop]

Yeah it's rough because he'd doesn't know how much I really like him (I'm practically in love with the dude). I think he has a small idea (well especially now, we just hashed it out a bit) but yeah...I can't really blame him. They didn't do it I guess, but they kissed.

[RobMoney$]

(!) Everyone knows chicks love bad boys. LOL

[cookiepuss]

you probably could have had a threesome.:rolleyes:

there's all types of love and if you think you're in love with him even just a little, and you're not going to tell him that you are..because you think it might scare him, then you should probably get use to having passion with out posession or expectations. if you can't be happy with that, you probably shouldn't keep sleeping with him cause you'll always be miserable.

if you do decide to tell him, make sure he doesn't confuse the words "i love you" with the words "I need you."

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm gonna go ahead and say, DON'T TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM

good god! that would scare the shit out of him. seriously.

what do you mean you hashed it out though?

[cookiepuss]

I'm gonna go ahead and say, DON'T TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM

good god! that would scare the shit out of him. seriously.


lol. well for the most part I agree. but it depends on how long this goes on. I mean after 9 months to a year of sleeping with someone you should probably take a chance and let your feelings be known. no point in suffering in silence when you really want something more.

this fling hasn't been going on that long though has it?

[NoFenders]

Either way, if it fucks with your emotions, you should probably get it off your chest.

It seems people make a certain situation out of nothing, when all they had to do was be up front about things. A one night stand is just that, if left to be that.

:cool:

[Helvete]

I have $20,000

[Loppfessor]

I have $20,000

Wanna take me on vacation?

[Helvete]

As long as it is to Norway, okay!

[DandyFop]

Hahahaha no I am not going to confess my love to him. There's absolutely no point in that unless I'd like to feel like shit and I would rather avoid that.

It's been like...I don't know 2 1/2 months or something? Along those lines.

I didn't freak out or anything but he was asking why the night was cut short (after he and the other girl dissappeared outside and I wanted to leave because I was upset) and he asked if that was why and I said yes. And he said if everything was casual with us and I knew that from the start (which I did and thought I was okay with) then what's the problem. I said I know you're not that oblivious, and it was shitty of you to do that but it was shitty of me to want anything more. He asked if I did want anything more and I said no.

Sorry this is a very short version and probably doesn't make much sense. He's a manwhore so yeah, liking him is gonna get me nowhere and probably a case of the clap at the same time.

Whatever. Blah.

[jabumbo]

i was under the impression that jesus' middle name was henry :confused:

[cookiepuss]

I said I know you're not that oblivious, and it was shitty of you to do that but it was shitty of me to want anything more. He asked if I did want anything more and I said no.




errrrrr...oh sweetie...i don't care what the fucking ground rules were when you started the causal sex thing it IS NOT SHITTY OF YOU TO WANT MORE. please give yourself credit. people can change their minds at anytime. Lots of times we do think we'll be ok with a situation and as we become more involved we realize that it's not what it's cracked up to be. that's not your fault, that's just life.

I'm not sure, but I think that's a blatant lie to tell him you don't want more...and pretty much a set up to get hurt again. You're not showing him how to respect your feelings, in fact you're giving him permission to ignore your feelings. ouch!

If anything, when you are asked a question like that and you aren't ready to say how you really feel I would simply answer..."you know what? I'm not sure. let me think about it" that puts you in the position to call the shots and not have to back track if you change your mind.

[DandyFop]

trust me, there is not a point in telling him I did/do want more. None. all it will do is make things more awkward and make me feel like even more shit that he's rejecting me. It's not like I am going to say that and a magical cloud will open above his head and he'll realize he's madly in love with me. So what's the point? Putting my heart out there has gotten me screwed before and I know when to do it and when to leave it alone.

And I dont mean it was shitty of me to want more, it was shitty that I let it continue when I knew I was getting feelings for him.

[Yetra Flam]

unfortunately a lot of them seem to like you more if you pretend to not even remotely care about them.

[cookiepuss]

I'm actually not suggesting that you put your heart out there.

but speaking from experience, we often think that lying to ourselves and to other will afford us protection from getting hurt. as long as our real feelings remain below the surface, it's all good. it isn't.

instead I suggest setting your boundaries. You're better off not confirming that you do or don't want more, rather than choosing the answer you feel is "safe".

no he's not going to magically fall in love with you just cause you say you are in love with him. But sometimes telling the person you aren't willing to settle for less than everything, actually does cause them to step back and respect that you know yourself well enough and value yourself enough not to get played. Sometimes that makes someone look at you in a different light, and makes them consider things about you that they hadn't before.

pretty much you've got nothing to loose by taking a stand for what you truly want.
you don't really have him now, right?
So you tell him..you know it's not working for me
and what do you risk? loosing someone you already don't have? sure
but you take the chance that he mulls it over and realizes you're a great and strong woman...and maybe he does make an effort to get more involved.
either way...what are you really loosing here?
I say nothing. because you have nothing to begin with.

[HEIRESS]

UGHHHHHHH

last night was my bday and it was totally amazing and my friends are awesome.

and the guy i like (who i've boned) totally hooked up with this other girl and it was fucking torture. Just watching them and them orchestrating getting dropped off at the same place and BLAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Of course she's insanely nice. And really hot in like a plastic LA way.

Seriously that shit is rough. I want to curl up into a ball.

If someone asks my opinion of a person and all I can come up with is "oh you know, she's nice" its pretty much the ultimate put down coming from me.

even if you have bad qualities that are worthy of discussing then atleast you got something interesting about you.

[Loppfessor]

As long as it is to Norway, okay!

Cool I'm down

[DandyFop]

cookie, I realize what you are trying to say. And I appreciate it. Maybe at some point if this keeps continuing and I realize that I'm never going to get over it, then I will tell him. But it's not an option at this point. I am friends with the guy, he's in my sketch group, etc. I am not going to cut him out of my life. Instead I will quietly pine for him like any good tragic romantic. :)

I just went and saw Dark Knight with just him. I swear to god that dude must have a direct electric line to my nether regions because being around him drives me insane. We kept doing the like, touch legs/don't touch legs, adjust a million times bullshit. But I don't know if it was just me being insane and wanting to reach over and kiss the shit out of him or he was feeling it too. GAHHHH HORMONES

[Helvete]

You suck!