What the hell is it with some people

[ms.peachy]

I am going to vent here about something I read often on another board I go on (a parenting forum), because if I bitch about it there people will get a stick up their asses and I don't feel like dealing with it but I need to say this, OK?

What is it with women who bitch about how their partners don't do shit around the house, and yet they go on having kids with them? I read so many posts from women who are like "I have to do all the housework and he's such a slob and I have to do all of the kid stuff and I work too and he doesn't help out and blah blah blah" and then like two months later they're pregnant again. And still bitching about how useless the guy is.

WHAT THE FUCK, YOU STUPID COWS!

I mean seriously, if your guy was a freakin' slob when you married him, why do you think that after popping out kid number 2 or 3 or 4 he is going to suddenly start picking his own damn towels up off the floor?

Why would you keep making babies with a man like this, if it bothers you so damn much?








ok I feel better now I got that out of my system thanks

[gbsuey]

I'm sure these women like to get it out of their system then find it easier to just get on and shut-up in real life. I don't even understand why anybody would keep popping babies out until they suddenly realise they've got too much on their plate-let alone someone who lives with with a useless waste of space that does nothing.

i was really shocked that A hasn't done more with the kids-i was always the one who wasn't so keen on having kids but i do most things-including the stuff more associated with the"guy" side of things-taking them out to play football or shoot hoops etc. but i love it and it's his loss really. i wouldn't have more kids regardless-two is plenty i think!!

edit-he's far from useless tho-just thought i should add that!!

[ms.peachy]

I'm sure these women like to get it out of their system then find it easier to just get on and shut-up in real life.

I guess. To be fair most of the women I am talking about, the men aren't entirely 'useless' in the sense that they aren't, like, jobless layabouts or anything - more like, they're normal middle or working class families in which both parents work, and yet the men (apparently) don't really carry their share of the load with regard to housework and childcare. Which I know is no new story by any stretch of the imagination. I just don't get though how, once you've been together a bit and have one kid and you see the way this is all going, that you would then go on to have more kids, because how in the hell is THAT going to help? (Sort of like, when you find yourself in a hole, stop digging, you know?)

[Lyman Zerga]

they only get kids so they can do the house work

it's a pretty clever turn if you ask me

[venusvenus123]

a housecleaner is the only answer. they only cost the equivalent of a pint and half of beer an hour, or a packet of fags!
ok maybe a bit more, but still--it sorts out a lot of problems.

i bet my sister posts on that board... she doesn't have a husband tho so she won't be moaning about that.

[ms.peachy]

I really miss our cleaning service :(

[Lyman Zerga]

i hate women who dont work but want the working man to do half of the homework


child raising is another topic

[yeahwho]

After all of the kids moved out of the house my mom hired a cleaning lady who comes once a week. My mom went back to work and my parents now have a whole other set of things to bitch about in their sparkling clean house.

I wonder how much does a clean house mean to kids? Is it psychologically advantageous to live in a pristine clean environment? Is it OK to leave a half of a slice of bread on the counter all day? Are newspapers, magazines and stacks of bills going to mess with young development?

I mean if the parents are smart nurturing and doing healthy activities isn't that just as good in a sloppy house as in an immaculately clean home?

[gbsuey]

i agree on that- i work too but A is out at work more hours so i wouldn't bug him about housework. besides,he's more anal about tidyness than i am so if he starts tidying up he gets all moany and i have to stand behind him and pull faces at him to stop from kicking him!! childish i know!

[gbsuey]

After all of the kids moved out of the house my mom hired a cleaning lady who comes once a week. My mom went back to work and my parents now have a whole other set of things to bitch about in their sparkling clean house.

I wonder how much does a clean house mean to kids? Is it psychologically advantageous to live in a pristine clean environment? Is it OK to leave a half of a slice of bread on the counter all day? Are newspapers, magazines and stacks of bills going to mess with young development?

I mean if the parents are smart nurturing and doing healthy activities isn't that just as good in a sloppy house as in an immaculately clean home?

i think so long as a house is clean(hygenically i mean-i don't go for the bleach every surface and destroy all your natural immunity shit)enough and tidy enough to find stuff/sit down it's cool.
my house is clean and mostly tidy but i have two boys who have free reign pretty much!

[Loppfessor]

this is why I spread my seed across multiple partners....that way I don't have to go through the old "I can't believe I let you knock me up again you lazy asshole!" talk very often...

[yeahwho]

i think so long as a house is clean(hygenically i mean-i don't go for the bleach every surface and destroy all your natural immunity shit)enough and tidy enough to find stuff/sit down it's cool.
my house is clean and mostly tidy but i have two boys who have free reign pretty much!

So yeah, throw in a big dog and cat (or two) now you have a big 'ol house full of critters and kids! Happy Happy Happy :) :) :)

My new pointer really can get pretty stinky, and he occasionally has weapons grade gas, but he sure acts the fool and plays it cool all day, you can't help but love him.

[ms.peachy]

I wonder how much does a clean house mean to kids? Is it psychologically advantageous to live in a pristine clean environment? Is it OK to leave a half of a slice of bread on the counter all day? Are newspapers, magazines and stacks of bills going to mess with young development?

I mean if the parents are smart nurturing and doing healthy activities isn't that just as good in a sloppy house as in an immaculately clean home?

I don't think though that most people want a pristine, sterilised home, but if you've got a kid or two surely you know how fast "mess" just happens; how quickly an empty laundry basket suddenly becomes a mountainous pile; how one dirty dish and a cup somehow breed an entire sink full in the blink of an eye. So I can see how, if you're with some one who not only doesn't help you keep on top of it but in fact contributes to the landslide, it would really annoy the crap out of you. What I can't see is why you'd then say "Another baby, that's the thing we really need around here."

[Echewta]

Earth girls are easy.

[Dorothy Wood]

men and women are the worst, sheesh.

I grew up in a very tidy household. my mom is a neat freak and I always had chores to do growing up. everyone pretty much did their fair share around the house though and really when I was old enough to really do a good job with the housework, I don't think my mom cleaned anything but the occasional load of laundry. or the kitchen if she didn't cook. (the cook never had to clean up). looking back, I pretty much did all of the inside housework besides laundry. ah well, I suppose I was getting free room and board. :rolleyes:

now I'm messy. not outrageously messy in a dirty way, more cluttery. and I don't dust too often. I like a clean kitchen though. my room is often a pigsty.

I think it's because was forced to do so much cleaning as a kid. but my mom grew up in an extremely messy house, so I guess it goes in cycles.

I plan to bridge the gap when/if I ever have a family.