So I may wind up killing myself later... [Archive]

adam_f

08-25-2008, 08:09 AM

Probably not though.

I was reading Dorothy's thread on shyness and I can relate because I'm just as awkward in real life, but since I've known most of you for four years on here, I don't really feel out of place on the board. What sucks about it is that I've seem to have developed a habit of falling for girl friends who I'd like to become more than friends with, but I'm too awkward and shy to tell them and I wind up beating myself up for it. If it's a girl I've never met, I'm awkward, yes, but at least if she says know I can just talk bad about her behind her back anonymously.

But now, there's this girl, Alyssa, with whom I've become really close with over the summer and I've kinda developed feelings for, especially since she left to go on vacation for three weeks and I barely even talked to her. We both start school today, the same school, and I figure today I'm going to take the monumental step of telling her I like her like her. She was telling me about this Ben kid she likes and all that, and I think she recognized the fact I didn't care because when I'm depressed or upset I use one word answers and avoid eye contact. I make it completely obvious in other words.

I'm scared to lose her as a friend, but with school starting and maybe meeting new people, I don't see us as being as close anymore (plus, Goddammit, she doesn't have texting on her phone anymore because of a high bill, so I gotta call and shit...fuck) and I figure I'll wind up pissed off and upset I didn't at least tell her. It's quite a big step for me since usually I talk myself out of losing someone I care about, but hey, might as well go for gold this time. I like this girl too much to not try.

And I'm aware this all sounded very High School Musical and juvenile, but whatever. I just had to tell somebody.

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 08:12 AM

Can I have your watch when you are dead?

Randetica

08-25-2008, 08:16 AM

i love shy guys

ToucanSpam

08-25-2008, 08:22 AM

I don't think you should tell her, especially since she's already indicated interest in someone else. This is going to end bad for you if she says she only wants to be friends.

adam_f

08-25-2008, 08:30 AM

Yeah, I know what you mean Toucan but I feel like it's something I have to do just for me. It sucks watching everybody else be happy with the girl that I want, so at the very least, I just have to try.

Plus I'm a lyrical gangster and I can talk my way into staying friends. That's how it works out in my head anyway.

venusvenus123

08-25-2008, 08:33 AM

do tell her.

don't kill yourself.

Kid Presentable

08-25-2008, 08:33 AM

I guess you can only rely on the experiences of others, so here's mine:

Two occasions have passed where I wanted to be more than friends with female friends; I was under some illusion that we would be perfect because we talked well, hung out and joked and so on and blah blah. Each time I revealed my feelings, it was a roaring failure. One girl said that the thought to her was 'weird', that she'd fancied me when I was 16-17 (when she was 19 - 20) but thought an age gap at that age would be hard to overcome. And so her feelings subsided just perfectly to coincide with my humiliation. Awesomes.

The other time, we were friends, I knew she was into one of my buddies, I fucking acted like a knob-end trying to be 'right' for this girl and she said she couldn't do it. Maybe at one time, but not now or some shit. Fucked.

So I was pretty forlorn both times. Self-doubt, self-loathing and so on. I have to say being a married dude now has given me two perspectives on this shit, though. One, I would never have met wifey had anything been different, so I'm glad those two never happened. Two, even if you got together with one of these chicks, the odds are stacked in favour of it ending like most relationships (I mean, are you wanting to marry this girl?), either badly and with much hostility, or just fizzling out and being back at square one.

So I guess you have to think about what happens after the credits roll on your romance story. Even if you get together, it's note to being just another relationship. In that sense, if she rejects you, think about it as no big loss because it really isn't. I'd avoid telling her your feelings, but as I've pointed out, you don't learn what it's like to be emasculated unless you open your mouth on these things.

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 08:40 AM

don't kill yourself.
I am expecting you to buy me a watch now.

And, tell her, just don't make it creepy. Chicks don't like creepy.

venusvenus123

08-25-2008, 08:43 AM

i have a thomas the tank engine one you can have

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 08:52 AM

Score!!!

ToucanSpam

08-25-2008, 09:04 AM

While I agree that it is a bad idea to kill yourself, I really, really think you should just let this slide. Unless, however unlikely, she makes a move on you, you should just remain friends. KP brings up a point I want to shoehorn into my suggestion. Do you plan on marrying her? Probably not. She isn't 'the one' and you're too young to get serious about a relationship. You know what's more important at this point? Being successful in your career. Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

...or not, you know. You could just go for it and have it blow up in your face. Your call.

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 09:09 AM

While I agree that it is a bad idea to kill yourself...
Sometimes your insight astounds me.

ToucanSpam

08-25-2008, 09:09 AM

Who are you again?

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 09:20 AM

No one of any significance.

ToucanSpam

08-25-2008, 09:21 AM

You look familiar.

monkey

08-25-2008, 09:49 AM

i love love love my adam_f, but i'm willing to share with a real life girl. dude, i wouldnt go up to the girl and say "ive liked you forever" but instead... make a subtler move. start being extra friendly. make it clear(er) to her that you like her and you're going to start kissing her soon or something. put your arm around her waist and start holding a hug a little extra long. she then has the ability to either stop you or go for it. no pressure. no declarations of love. let the like build organically.

(p.s: dont die. if you die, im gonna come kill you. <3)

Bob

08-25-2008, 10:18 AM

you're afraid of girls? what are you gay or something?

Jitters

08-25-2008, 11:00 AM

you're afraid of girls? what are you gay or something?

:)

Tell her how you feel. Like everybody else said, if she turns you down then don't get too worked up over it. There's a lot of women out there.

jabumbo

08-25-2008, 12:11 PM

We both start school today, the same school, and I figure today I'm going to take the monumental step of telling her I like her like her.

CCAC Boyce? :rolleyes:

i'm down with the organic suggestion. (y)

don't blow her away with big words, just give her some more to think about and find more reasons to hang out with her each time

cookiepuss

08-25-2008, 12:41 PM

call me a hopeless romantic, but I'm a big fan of love letters. one option you have is to write it down, if you think you'll get tongue tied. if she doesn't think that's sweet, she's a ho. :p

Bjork

08-25-2008, 12:55 PM

In my experience with close guy friends who later developed feelings.

Don't drop a bomb on her, if she felt the same you would already know.

This has happened to me three times, and one in particular devasated me and things were never the same, and for the past 5 years I wished he didn't tell me.He slowly withdrew from me, and I lost one of my dearest best friends.

Do something small, give her a pretty single flower ....ask her out on a "date"

a small gesture see what happens

ToucanSpam

08-25-2008, 01:02 PM

Don't drop a bomb on her, if she felt the same you would already know.

Exactly, which is why you should do nothing and let her make a move. Otherwise move on to someone else.

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 01:06 PM

call me a hopeless romantic, but I'm a big fan of love letters. one option you have is to write it down, if you think you'll get tongue tied. if she doesn't think that's sweet, she's a ho. :p
Write it with a Sharpie. That will make it stand out, as well as make it special.

cookiepuss

08-25-2008, 01:13 PM

Write it with a Sharpie. That will make it stand out, as well as make it special.

especially if you write in on her forehead while she's sleeping or passed out drunk.(y)

jabumbo

08-25-2008, 01:14 PM

Write it with a Sharpie. That will make it stand out, as well as make it special.

i wrote mine on engineering graph paper :o

Bjork

08-25-2008, 01:25 PM

Write it with a Sharpie. That will make it stand out, as well as make it special.

I love you, Douchebag.

Myu-to

08-25-2008, 01:43 PM

I love you, Douchebag.
AWE!!!

I love you too.

beastieangel01

08-25-2008, 01:44 PM

If you are going to regret it for never going for it...

then just fucking do it.
I say that with love.

Bob

08-25-2008, 03:25 PM

whatever you do, DON'T leave a message on her phone singing "and then i go and spoil it all by saying something stupid like i like you"

ms.peachy

08-25-2008, 03:39 PM

Mr.p has on occasion said that if he could go back in time and tell his younger self anything, it would be, when you like a chick, just go for it. Don't spend time going endlessly over "should I shouldn't I what if she says what if she doesn't does she doesn't she will I look like a what if she thinks I'm blah blah blah". Just fucking go for it. And sometimes you'll win and sometimes you'll lose but so fucking what. If it doesn't work out with one, another will come along. This isn't to say that women are all interchangeable or should be thought of as objects, only that there are actually a whole load of really fab, funny, decent attractive girls out there if you just have a look around, and you could potentially have a really nice time getting to know any one of them.

adam_f

08-25-2008, 05:48 PM

Just to start out, I only saw her for five minutes today and didn't think it wise to be like "Oh, hey, how was Santa Fe? Ah, that's sweet. Yeah, by the way, I kinda want to fuck you really bad." We just talked for a minute and went to class, and I want to clear up I think I'll be subtler than the whole fuck you bad thing.

Originally posted by ToucanSpam
...or not, you know. You could just go for it and have it blow up in your face. Your call.

Confidence, I like that. More than likely you're right, so more than likely that sucks a whole lot for me.

Originally posted by monkey
put your arm around her waist and start holding a hug a little extra long

I actually did hug her today and she seemed happy to see me since I haven't seen her in three weeks, so that was nice.

Originally posted by Bob
you're afraid of girls? what are you gay or something?

Not gay, just curious.

Originally posted by Bjork
Don't drop a bomb on her, if she felt the same you would already know.

Here's the thing...I have no idea how she feels. Sometimes I think she might have feelings, sometimes I'm not sure, sometimes I post on message boards and debate out loud if she has feelings. It's crazy.

RobMoney$

08-25-2008, 05:49 PM

You made the right choice.

Trust me, when you get to be an old fuck like me you'll regret not trying.

Everyone has crushes in their life. Most of us are too chicken-shit to do anything about it and years later when you look back on things you'll realize that she was probably as much into you as you were into her.

Dude, she likes you. trust.
That story about that other dude could have been her testing you to see what your reaction would be at the idea of her being with another guy.

Make her a mix CD.

adam_f

08-25-2008, 05:50 PM

Originally posted by RobMoney$
The way I see it, you have two choices.

1. You can go for it

2. You can follow Toucan's advice.

What would you suggest, sir?

RobMoney$

08-25-2008, 05:59 PM

Yeah, you posted the same time I did so I just edited.

ToucanSpam

08-25-2008, 06:06 PM

I'm not just being negative to be a prick, but based solely on the evidence presented in the thread I think it's a bad idea to put yourself out there. While I think it's cute everyone believes 'you miss all of the shots you don't take', I'm playing devil's advocate here and giving you a rational answer. If she wanted you, she would have let you know by now. Since she didn't, I think you should let this go.

Alternatively, if she's waiting for you to make a move, she's probably into playing games. IMO women who like games are long-term bad dating options. Just a thought.

Also, in this case, I'd be very happy to be wrong and have this work out for you if you decide to go for it. And I won't say 'I told you so either'. I'm simply trying to give you the best advice I can offer, given my knowledge of the situation.

ericlee

08-25-2008, 06:23 PM

i love shy guys

[IMG]burj_dubai_skyscraper.jpg[IMG]

Bob

08-25-2008, 06:24 PM

[IMG]burj_dubai_skyscraper.jpg[IMG]

lol

RobMoney$

08-25-2008, 07:20 PM

Timmy Lupus: Mr. Buttermaker...I don't know about you, but I want to win...so don't send me in.

Buttermaker: Listen, Lupus, you didn't come into this life just to sit around
on a dugout bench, did you?

Get your ass out there and do the best you can.

Bad News Bears=Life.

adam_f

08-25-2008, 07:51 PM

Originally posted by RobMoney$
Make her a mix CD.

Ironically enough, there's this Nouveau Riche song she likes I have on my iPod and she couldn't find it for download so I put it on a mix. This was like, a week ago.

Anyway, thanks for the advice, man. I really appreciate it. Bad New Bears does equal life.

funk63

08-25-2008, 08:21 PM

Go up to her and grab her right on the ass and just go at it.

russhie

08-26-2008, 03:30 AM

Having been the recipient of I-like-you-more-than-a-friend on wayyyy too many occasions, I can say more often than not it's not reciprocated. Just because a girl likes to hang out with you, you have similar tastes in stuff, or she looks pleased to see you - doesn't always mean she likes you more than a friend. It always, always freaks me out to have someone say flat out "I like you. Really like you" unless I'm already sorta in some kind of relationshippy thing with them, seeing them casually or something like that.

On the same note though, it's really awesome when a guy you kinda sorta like kinda sorta likes you back...and sometimes all it takes is the small stuff like how you pay her extra attention, remember small stuff she's mentioned or are usually the person who notices when she's unhappy and tries to make her smile, to make the transition from friend to something more. I wouldn't have gotten with my ex if we hadn't been friends first, and even though we aren't together anymore we still have a great relationship, one I wouldn't give up for the world.

That's what it takes to get with me proper, anyway. Hah. Probably not worth much to you, then.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 03:47 AM

lol @ toucan's sage advice.

I don't really have any surefire advice, just pay attention to her a lot, give her little dumb presents or something. not anything big, just like, if she's all, "I love elephants", find some kind of elephant thing and give it to her and be like "oh yeah, I found this thing and I thought you'd like it since you love elephants so much".

ease into it I guess. ask her to hang out just the two of you. see if there are any sparks. casually make physical contact, but don't grope her. yet.

if she seems unresponsive, or still talks about other guys after you give some of these things a shot, she's probably not into you romantically.

I dunno, I think I just realized that the friend I like has no clue I like him, even though I've been flirting for months. the other night, we were talking about stuff that people who are interested in each other probably wouldn't talk about. he was telling me about some chick he was hanging out with and how it wasn't working out, and then proceeded to tell me about how his balls ache, and he got an ultra sound and nothing seems to be wrong. but he still has ball pain. then we talked about death and souls for a long time. then we found some frozen brown bananas in the freezer and I said, "frozen poop dildos!" and he laughed a lot. the more I think about it, maybe we were flirting. :/

oh man, men and women are so crazy!!!!!!!!!! :o(!)(lb)

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 09:40 AM

Why are you all edging him towards pursuing this? The evidence he has given to us indicates it's a bad idea for him to make a move. You're all pushing him to do something potentially bad because subconsciously you've all been in this scenario and done precisely what I said he should do and regretted it. If you look at this reasonably you would tell him it's a bad idea and just let things play out without him having to put himself out there to get hurt.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 01:28 PM

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 01:58 PM

well, I think it's a little silly to tell him to avoid girls until he's out of school and making money. frankly, on behalf of womankind, I find that offensive. but you know, keep holding on to your dreams. :rolleyes: maybe you'll be so rich and smart and powerful that sexy ladies won't think you're a weirdo anymore and line up to date you.

adam, don't be scared to take a chance.

HAHAHAHA

You are a god damned idiot if you take personal offense to that. And nowhere in any of my posts is there any indication that he should avoid women until he's done school. What I said was based on the evidence he should avoid putting himself out there.

Seriously, do you even read your posts before you hit 'Submit Reply'? I'm embarrassed for you.:rolleyes:

And with that, here comes the trolling.

adam_f

08-26-2008, 02:11 PM

So, funny story, I was talking to her online and I had no intention to tell her on there, but I said we should hang out soon and I was going to tell her then.

Well, she said 'probably not' and went on to say she was really busy and I said maybe we could watch a movie at her apartment and still 'probably not' and she was kind of a bitch on there, and finally I decided it's really not worth my fucking hassle and if she wants to talk to me, she can call me. I'm done worrying about it if she apparently doesn't even care if we're just friends right now, then you know she doesn't care if we're together like that.

And for the record, I kept my cool talking to her so I didn't say anything to provoke her. I was rather proud of myself.

So thanks, Toucan, I guess you were right.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 02:20 PM

Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

uh, hello? ^
I'm not trolling, dumb ass. you just constantly say stupid shit. you're gonna have to make a lot of money to compensate for your terrible personality.

and adam, that sucks. good thing you didn't out and out tell her you liked her I guess. that's strange behavior on her part, she doesn't seem very nice, even for a friend. sorry :(

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 02:20 PM

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 02:22 PM

uh, hello? ^
I'm not trolling, dumb ass. you just constantly say stupid shit. you're gonna have to make a lot of money to compensate for your terrible personality.

You need to learn how to not take the internet so seriously, kid. This is bordering on pathetic.

Bob

08-26-2008, 02:24 PM

good thing you didn't out and out tell her you liked her I guess.

imagine how dumb he'd have looked if he'd followed everyone else's advice in this thread and told her how he felt

that's gonna fuck with your head, isn't it adam? it would surely fuck with mine

Bob

08-26-2008, 02:24 PM

You need to learn how to not take the internet so seriously, kid. This is bordering on pathetic.

"kid"

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 02:35 PM

imagine how dumb he'd have looked if he'd followed everyone else's advice in this thread and told her how he felt

that's gonna fuck with your head, isn't it adam? it would surely fuck with mine

I didn't say he should tell her, just try to put some moves on and back off if it didn't get a response. and he did put the moves on, albeit via IM, but they were still moves and she reacted like a bitch. so now he can either wait and try again some other time or just let it go.

I dated someone a while back who kept pursuing me even though I was kind of a bitch at first. for some reason it just didn't register that he was interested in me. we ended up dating for about 7 months, he wasn't right for me, but we are still friends and love each other.

toucan, go put on some chapstick.

Bjork

08-26-2008, 02:44 PM

Wtf?

I told you not to do it as well.

Like I said, you'll know when someone has mutual feelings. It usually isn't a puzzle.

Sorry to hear it didn't work out, at least you didn't make an ass out of yourself telling her how you feel.

cookiepuss

08-26-2008, 02:50 PM

shit man, I don't see why he'd be making an ass out of himself by telling her how he feels regardless of how she reacted to the news. but I guess honesty is overrated.

when guy friends of mine have expressed interest as more than a friend I never thought they were an ass, I didn't laugh in their face. I was flattered and said oh no I'm sorry that's not going to work out buddy.

what did he have to lose by telling her really? he didn't have her before he expressed interest, and well he still doesn't have her. nothing gained, nothing lost. yeah the friendship part can be awkward after such an admission...but ti doesn't usually end the friendship unless you just weren't that good of friends to begin with.

I think what he did was fine, and all the advice given was fine too...except mine. love letters are dumb. lol.

and toucan you're chickenshit. bawk bawk!:p

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 02:59 PM

Your idealistic, naive approaches to romance are so cute.

Bjork

08-26-2008, 03:04 PM

Well, I am just expressing to him my experience.

Every situation is different.

Something to think about Adam. 5 years ago I didn't want to date my best friend Nick, and now that I lost him because I rejected him and his ego was shot. if I was given a second oppurtunity today to be more than friends with him, my answer would be yes.

Maybe you should just hold off for a little bit, I mean what's the rush anyway?

cookiepuss

08-26-2008, 03:04 PM

Your idealistic, naive approaches to romance are so cute.

yeah...probably why I'm single again....I am idealistic. it's true.:o

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 03:14 PM

yeah...probably why I'm single again....I am idealistic. it's true.:o

I didn't mean to insult you in particular. Sorry.

cookiepuss

08-26-2008, 03:17 PM

I didn't mean to insult you in particular. Sorry.

you didn't. I was poking fun at myself...*poke* :cool:

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 03:20 PM

tell us how it's done then, toucan, if you're the expert? after years and years of successful healthy relationships, now you're married and have a full life of wisdom to impart on us lowly idealists, right?

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 03:27 PM

Freebasser

08-26-2008, 03:29 PM

SECONDS OUT

Bjork

08-26-2008, 03:40 PM

Maybe toucan has already done what Adam is attempting to do, and it didn't turn out how he hoped it would.

But, that just my opinion.

Just trying to save a brother from heartache and pain. Lubricated spit backslap.Kicked in the nutts, and left on a street corner agony. My mom slept with my best friend kinda of pain.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 03:41 PM

Lashing out at me doesn't change the fact that I'm right. I'm not the one making 5-10 threads a month about 'liking a boy' or whatever awkward social situation that you find yourself knee deep in. I'm smart enough to keep my personal life as far away from this board as possible in recent years. There's no logical reason for me to share any of that with someone like you.

I'm not lashing out, I'm calling you out. you go around acting like a know-it-all been-there-done-that veteran and I'm asking you where you got all your "wisdom". to me, it just reeks of a lifetime of rejection and built up animosity toward women because of it.

I'm glad you don't make threads when you like boys or find yourself in awkward social situations, they'd take up the whole internet!

rirv

08-26-2008, 03:48 PM

Dorothy Wood reminds me of Sarky Devotchka.
What happened to her?

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 03:50 PM

I'm not lashing out, I'm calling you out. you go around acting like a know-it-all been-there-done-that veteran and I'm asking you where you got all your "wisdom". to me, it just reeks of a lifetime of rejection and built up animosity toward women because of it.

I'm glad you don't make threads when you like boys or find yourself in awkward social situations, they'd take up the whole internet!

The lifetime of rejection you speak of is non-existent. Don't mistake a lack of evidence for a successful defense of your point. Like I said, I have no reason to display my social life to the likes of you.

The part that makes this comedic gold is your complete lack of credibility. You are the whiniest, rudest, most poisonous person on this board. You are trying so hard right now to make yourself feel big by trashing me it's ridiculous. It would be funny if it weren't so god damn transparent.

Keep making one-dimensional gay jokes and pretending you're better than I am. You're not.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 04:12 PM

your inability to self-reflect is astounding.

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 04:13 PM

Your inability to recognize your own hypocrisy is astounding.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 04:15 PM

your ability to make sense is underwhelming.

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 04:16 PM

Your lack of ability to understand is hilarious.

Freebasser

08-26-2008, 04:17 PM

Youse two are hilarious. Get a room already.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 04:42 PM

*pukes on freebasser*

you didn't follow the formula, toucan, I win the contest.

Bjork

08-26-2008, 04:43 PM

ha!

ToucanSpam

08-26-2008, 04:47 PM

Oh no, the most repulsive woman on the board finds me repulsive. How will I sleep at night?

Very comfortably and not alone, by chance.;)

In b4 you make another one-dimensional gay comeback

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 04:49 PM

*pukes for a thousand years*

Bjork

08-26-2008, 04:52 PM

Is Toucanspam insinuating he's getting laid?

lol.

Randetica

08-26-2008, 05:01 PM

im sorry adam

in like 5 years you will tell us stories about how your wife annoys you and you wish you were free and single again like you were 5 years ago

Lex Diamonds

08-26-2008, 05:06 PM

Is Toucanspam insinuating he's getting laid?

lol.Now there's something we can all laugh at!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA

*wipes tear*

Anyways, Toucan and Dorothy are both shit with the laydeez. Admittedly Dorothy is probably higher up the sexometer but put it this way, I wouldn't go to either of them for a makeover.

Adam, to be honest it sounds like you're so starved of pussy you think you're in love with any chick who speaks to you. I've seen it before with people who are awkward in social situations (coincidentally these tend to be the people that spend time on message boards). From the looks of it homegirl doesn't even think of you as a good friend or she wouldn't have busted with the whole "probably not" thing. Fuck her, she's probably banging some dropout called Vince.

Remember, women are more than just a pair of tits and you have to capture the mind before you can take that ass hostage. Aint no chicks interested in suicidal internet geeks, believe me. Stop being a dork, get out there and hold some booty to ransom. Get on some diplomatic pussy siege shit.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 05:12 PM

Admittedly Dorothy is probably higher up the sexometer but put it this way, I wouldn't go to either them for a makeover.

:mad: mean! just because I don't like uggs doesn't mean I couldn't give you a good makeover.

Lex Diamonds

08-26-2008, 05:13 PM

Know what, if you wanna pay for the plane ticket and the clothes then feel free.

cookiepuss

08-26-2008, 05:15 PM

hey thanks for the new signature gem, Paddy.

Lex Diamonds

08-26-2008, 05:19 PM

No troubles, bubbles.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 05:28 PM

Know what, if you wanna pay for the plane ticket and the clothes then feel free.

I don't have that kind of money, besides I think you like the way you look already. but thank you for believing in me.

Lex Diamonds

08-26-2008, 05:31 PM

You think I like the way I look, huh? To be honest I don't really think about it. I'm more one of those "personality" people who get chicks into bed by making them laugh. I just happen to be strikingly handsome and stylish, too.

Dorothy Wood

08-26-2008, 05:45 PM

Freebasser

08-26-2008, 05:49 PM

Afronaut

Um...

Lex Diamonds

08-26-2008, 05:51 PM

that wasn't meant to be sarcastic. you just seem like you know what you like already and have put together a look, intentionally or unintentionally. plus, you put up a family picture once and your sister looked stylish. usually stylish sisters don't let younger brothers grow up to be dorks.

I'm thinking about this too hard. I have errands to run, jesus!Yeah my sister seems to know about all that shit. What's "in" this "season" and all that bollocks. The way I see it, you can't go wrong with polo shirts and jeans as long as you're willing to spend money on the right ones.

Anyways, you go do your errands, I'll stay here and talk about me some more.

Randetica

08-26-2008, 05:54 PM

Yeah my sister seems to know about all that shit. What's "in" this "season" and all that bollocks. The way I see it, you can't go wrong with polo shirts and jeans as long as you're willing to spend money on the right ones.

Anyways, you go do your errands, I'll stay here and talk about me some more.

im sure adam f will be thankful for this piece of information

Lex Diamonds

08-26-2008, 05:56 PM

Yeah, and so will afronaut.

RobMoney$

08-26-2008, 09:52 PM

Unless, however unlikely, she makes a move on you, you should just remain friends. KP brings up a point I want to shoehorn into my suggestion. Do you plan on marrying her? Probably not. She isn't 'the one' and you're too young to get serious about a relationship. You know what's more important at this point? Being successful in your career. Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

If only I could make this entire post my sig.

Possibly the deepest thing ever posted in the history of the BBMB.
Either this or Kenny Guido's myspace links.

adam_f

08-26-2008, 10:17 PM

Originally posted by ToucanSpam
Unless, however unlikely, she makes a move on you, you should just remain friends. KP brings up a point I want to shoehorn into my suggestion. Do you plan on marrying her? Probably not. She isn't 'the one' and you're too young to get serious about a relationship. You know what's more important at this point? Being successful in your career. Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

I don't remember if I responded to this but oh well.

I'm 22 years old, I found a girl I liked, and wanted to make a move. No plans of marriage or waiting until I'm financially secure in my endeavors required. I just wanted somebody to be with until the time comes when I'm ready to actually move forward with my life. I never said anything about marriage and quite frankly since we're not even a couple that shouldn't even be brought up, and I don't care if those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will start jocking the guys who made something of themselves. That's further on down the line and that vaguely suggests I should remain alone for the time being to focus on my career, when this is really the prologue to the remaining chapters of my life. I'm going to have a career, yes, and a wife and some kids, but right now, all I wanted was that one girl.

And, like I already said earlier, I'm not going to get that girl, career and marriage and athletes be damned.

russhie

08-27-2008, 04:14 AM

This is a great thread. Good work, Adam f.

RobMoney$

08-27-2008, 04:55 AM

Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

Take it from him.

Toucan has apparently become Donald Trump and now has models fawning over his bank statement.

Kid Presentable

08-27-2008, 05:35 AM

Toucan fucked my sister then phoned me the next morning to tell me she was a sack of spuds. :(

Randetica

08-27-2008, 07:01 AM

Take it from him.

Toucan has apparently become Donald Trump and now has models fawning over his bank statement.

since this thread toucan actually reminds me of that ginger guy of that 'the apprentice' show (first season)

ToucanSpam

08-27-2008, 09:16 AM

You're all FIRED.

beastieangel01

08-27-2008, 11:26 AM

Toucan fucked my sister then phoned me the next morning to tell me she was a sack of spuds. :(

ahahahaha

adam_f, if it's any consolation, I still love you.

Bob

08-27-2008, 01:19 PM

Toucan fucked my sister then phoned me the next morning to tell me she was a sack of spuds. :(

he once did the same thing to me. i was all "but toucan that's crazy, i don't even have a sister" and he said "yeah well i'm so rich that i bought you one, then i fucked her - DEAL WITH IT" and i was like "damn"

adam_f

08-27-2008, 05:44 PM

Originally posted by beastieangel01
adam_f, if it's any consolation, I still love you.

And I'll let you love me...all night long ;)

Bob

08-27-2008, 05:57 PM

And I'll let you love me...all night long ;)

but can you keep up?

adam_f

08-27-2008, 06:03 PM

I'll probably doze off or read Us Weekly.

Lex Diamonds

08-27-2008, 08:13 PM

Well I for one don't understand why the babes aren't queueing at his door. :confused:

Bob

08-27-2008, 08:34 PM

I'll probably doze off or read Us Weekly.

*snaps fingers* that's probably what she's into

King PSYZ

08-27-2008, 08:45 PM

Adam, I'm glad you didn't say anything.

I found in the past that when the same thing happened with me it was far too late. Your better bet would have been trying to date her first and then evolving into just friends if that was how it was ment to be.

If you're into a chick put the moves on right away, if it doesn't work oh well. But once you become close with someone it just gets uncomfortable. If you feel some mutual attraction than ignore everything I have said. but if you aren't sure or think it might be you carrying that torch alone let it go and write an emo pop song about her.:cool:

adam_f

09-02-2008, 05:50 AM

Just as a heads up, I did wind up telling her and she LOVES (she emphasized loves) being friends with me but that's about as far as it's gonna go. Apparently she was pretty much aware of my crush on her so it really wasn't news, and I guess now we just wait and see how awkward things are, but I don't think it'll be that bad.

So yeah, I feel better telling her even though it's not gonna work out but at the same time, this kinda sucks really bad.

ms.peachy

09-02-2008, 06:11 AM

So yeah, I feel better telling her even though it's not gonna work out but at the same time, this kinda sucks really bad.

Yeah, I'm sure it does. Because it's a wound, you know? You're hurt. But the good news is, you'll heal. In the meantime, it's totally acceptable to take a day or two - but not any more than that - and feel completely and utterly sorry for yourself, lock yourself in your room, listen to songs that will make you cry, eat a gallon of ice cream (Ok maybe that part is a girl-thing, I dunno, do boys drown their sorrows in ice cream?). Then have a good nights sleep, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with life, soldier.

russhie

09-02-2008, 06:18 AM

I WANT TO SPEND TIME IN THE FRIEND ZONE

Let's trade places.

Lex Diamonds

09-02-2008, 08:10 AM

In the meantime, it's totally acceptable to take a day or two - but not any more than that - and feel completely and utterly sorry for yourself, lock yourself in your room, listen to songs that will make you cry, eat a gallon of ice cream (Ok maybe that part is a girl-thing, I dunno, do boys drown their sorrows in ice cream?).
Nah, whiskey.

venusvenus123

09-02-2008, 08:42 AM

i'm glad you told her. glad you feel better too.

roll with the punches (y)

TurdBerglar

09-02-2008, 10:49 AM

do guys do this? do they stay only friends with a girl that's crushing on them? guys seem to get creeped out when a girl they have no interest in is crushing on them or they're just completely oblivious. females seem to love the fact of having some guy around that's crushing on them.

adam_f

09-02-2008, 03:08 PM

I'll probably jerk off thinking of her one more time, and then I'll go back to being friends again.

ToucanSpam

09-02-2008, 04:37 PM

I'll probably jerk off thinking of her one more time, and then I'll go back to being friends again.

This was the funniest thing I've seen on this board in a long time. Glad you're doing alright with this stuff.

adam_f

09-02-2008, 04:46 PM

Originally posted by ms.peachy
Yeah, I'm sure it does. Because it's a wound, you know? You're hurt. But the good news is, you'll heal. In the meantime, it's totally acceptable to take a day or two - but not any more than that - and feel completely and utterly sorry for yourself, lock yourself in your room, listen to songs that will make you cry, eat a gallon of ice cream (Ok maybe that part is a girl-thing, I dunno, do boys drown their sorrows in ice cream?). Then have a good nights sleep, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with life, soldier.

I'll probably just masturbate...a lot.

ms.peachy

09-02-2008, 05:25 PM

OK, that will probably work too.

Maybe have some ice cream too anyway, just for the hell of it. Why not.

adam_f

09-02-2008, 05:47 PM

Here's hoping I don't cream on the ice cream (y)

monkey

09-02-2008, 09:45 PM

i offer you my support in this masturbatory time

adam_f

09-02-2008, 10:19 PM

Pauli, I can't tell you how much that means to me. I'd appreciate anything you could do to help.

mikizee

09-03-2008, 12:55 AM

Give him some material for the wank bank

DandyFop

09-03-2008, 02:17 AM

TSPAM is just saying this all because he's creeped girls out plenty of times by saying it and then scared off friends. Right? I used to get away with it just fine when I was younger and hotter and now that I'm fatter I scare people away too. What did I just say? I don't know. My point is: I have no fucking idea.

Okay edit. maybe I do. My closest friend out here told me he likes me (after he found out he and our other friend who I love were boning and he couldn't deal with it). I said uh, okay, not happening. Then recently he told me he's falling in love with me. It's hard to know what to do with that kind of information. Now I try not to talk about other dudes with him but yet again...he's my closest friend out here. And he's friends with the dude I am in love with (who I recently told that I like also.) It's all a giant mindfuck huh?