do you introduce your new girlfriend or boyfriend to exes ever?

[Dorothy Wood]

I went to a wedding this weekend and one of my old boyfriends was there with his new girlfriend and I thought it was kind of weird that he wanted to introduce me to her. we are friends and stuff, but I kind of felt weird. I don't know if he wanted us to chat or whatever, but ugh, I highly doubt she wanted to talk to me, so after the initial introduction I kinda just avoided her/them.

anyway, he's had 3 girlfriends since me, but I've never been confronted with the situation before and it was weird. I felt myself judging her looks and her demeanor too much and feel guilty and mean for it now. :( she also didn't seem to be having much fun. oh well. it's funny how even though I was the dumper and he was the dumpee and we've grown past our relationship, I still feel a little possessive.

relationships are weird. and even weirder when they're over.

[Burnout18]

good move on his part, it shows that you two are civil.

And It is prolly better to show you can be civil after a relationship, so that his current gf doesn't think 'oh shit, he is a bad break up, or crazy, or calls his ex gf's to curse them out.'

[kaiser soze]

By the sound of it, it looks like you can't go anywhere without running into an ex-boyfriend.....even in the Galapagos :eek:

I haven't been introduced or run into an ex's boyfriend since high school. But oddly it seems my ex's come back after failed relationships :confused:

[MagicSpork]

Of course you do. Come on, a potential threesome with your current girlfriend and your ex girlfriend? That's like winning the lottery. The worst that could happen is that your ex slaps you...

[Dorothy Wood]

By the sound of it, it looks like you can't go anywhere without running into an ex-boyfriend.....even in the Galapagos :eek:


har har. well, the bride and groom were mutual friends of ours. he's closer to the bride, I'm closer to the groom. meh, I share a lot of friends with the people I've dated.

[100% ILL]

I went to a wedding this weekend and one of my old boyfriends was there with his new girlfriend and I thought it was kind of weird that he wanted to introduce me to her.

Interesting, you become defensive at a show of mature civility.



we are friends and stuff, but I kind of felt weird. I don't know if he wanted us to chat or whatever, but ugh, I highly doubt she wanted to talk to me, so after the initial introduction I kinda just avoided her/them.

He probably assumed you would be civil, and since a wedding is a social event, he made a social gesture. I'm sure he/she aren't giving this nearly as much thought as you are.

I felt myself judging her looks and her demeanor too much and feel guilty and mean for it now.

She intimidated you, and you wish you could forget about it.

it's funny how even though I was the dumper and he was the dumpee and we've grown past our relationship, I still feel a little possessive.

You have a hard time believing he actually moved on.

By the sound of it, it looks like you can't go anywhere without running into an ex-boyfriend.....even in the Galapagos

Perhaps you should move.


To answer your question yes. Very recently I was in a similar situation at a weddding. I was introduced to a former girlfriend's fiancee'. Upon being introduced, I chatted with him for several minutes. It's just something that's bound to happen from time to time.

Don't let it stress you out. (y)

[Matt]

NO, BECAUSE THEY'RE ALL CRAZY.

[Adam]

Its a male thing to try and get your ex jealous. Especially if they are single and so its like "ha - you two have had sex with me, I hope they cat-fight"

[Videodrome]

i honestly try to avoid situations like that. its just a tad too awkward for my liking.

[jabumbo]

i saw my last fling a few weeks back and i thought it was a little awkward.

we were hanging out a few hours the morning of a football game, and after we had done our planned thing, we had about 2 hours until the tailgating was going to start up. she wanted me to go with her to pick up some cupcakes at her old workplace to take back home. she casually mentioned that they were being taken to a boy, but thats all she said.

i tried not to seem too weirded out by it, but i was. i mean, we were pretty close off and on for a couple years, and the only time she did something like that for me was for my birthday which was a couple weeks before she moved away.

[Waus]

I didn't realize what a big deal it was until last year. I went to see my ex before I was moving out of town. Like, more than a year later I still get questions like "why did you really want to see her?"

Honestly, I was just saying goodbye. We stayed sort-of-friends for a long time after we broke up and I just wanted to see her before I left. Note to self: don't talk about exes any more than you have to.

[Dorothy Wood]

Interesting, you become defensive at a show of mature civility.





He probably assumed you would be civil, and since a wedding is a social event, he made a social gesture. I'm sure he/she aren't giving this nearly as much thought as you are.



She intimidated you, and you wish you could forget about it.



You have a hard time believing he actually moved on.



Perhaps you should move.


To answer your question yes. Very recently I was in a similar situation at a weddding. I was introduced to a former girlfriend's fiancee'. Upon being introduced, I chatted with him for several minutes. It's just something that's bound to happen from time to time.

Don't let it stress you out. (y)


I wasn't defensive, and I was civil. I just had a lot of other friends there to talk to and if I was a new girlfriend I certainly wouldn't want to be all chummy with a dude's ex. I suppose he was just being mature though, how weird!

and I wasn't intimidated. I looked awesome and I was having a great time. as far as him moving on, I believe it. we dated for about 7 months and he started dating another girl after we broke up for like 2 and a half years. trust me, I know. we are friends, I could never date him again anyway because I find him extremely annoying. this is not bothering me, I just thought it was interesting. :rolleyes: nice try analyzing me though.

[AceFace]

my husband is friends with my ex. as long as you're all mature about it, it shouldn't be a problem.

the only time i was ever pissed about him hanging out with him was when he spent much of christmas eve at a party my ex was having and i didn't know about it. but i would have been pissed no matter where the party was, the ex part just made me a bit more angry.

[Echewta]

I like that this thread has "har har" in it.

[Documad]

I have a good friend who sees many of her ex boyfriends. I think it's strange but she makes it really natural and they're all friends on a certain level. She has the really big group of friends and they go to hear local bands a lot and so I guess she dated a bunch of guys in that circle and no one leaves the circle. I think that it has to be strange to be her husband, because he came along much later and she has a lot more exs than he does.

[Dorothy Wood]

I have a confession. I was inebriated when I started this thread and i really just wanted to say that my ex's new girlfriend is ugly. but then I felt bad and there was really no point to it. I'm not happy or sad about her being ugly and I feel mean for thinking she is. I mean, god bless them, really. I hope they're having a good time.

also, he's had like 18 girlfriends I think (he's a charming fellow). and now that I think about it, I was introduced to 2 of them when I was dating him and I thought "wtf? I don't want to meet these chicks!"

:rolleyes:

[paul jones]

also, he's had like 18 girlfriends I think (he's a charming fellow). and now that I think about it, I was introduced to 2 of them when I was dating him and I thought "wtf? I don't want to meet these chicks!"

:rolleyes:

did you have the mental image of 'his penis has been inside her' kind of thing?

[russhie]

Haven't had the opportunity, but yes, I would like to.

I'm still good friends with my ex (even though the novelty is fast wearing off) but a good portion of me still really wants to watch his face fall when he sees how happy another boy is making me. Thing is, I don't think I'd take him back if he asked, so I don't quite know why I want to make him jealous/sad?

[Matt]

Haven't had the opportunity, but yes, I would like to.

I'm still good friends with my ex (even though the novelty is fast wearing off) but a good portion of me still really wants to watch his face fall when he sees how happy another boy is making me. Thing is, I don't think I'd take him back if he asked, so I don't quite know why I want to make him jealous/sad?

did he dump you? That might be the reason you want to make him sad. i know that when I was dumped, I wanted to simultaneously make her feel like shit and get back with her.

I don't know. I'm not a psychologist!

[russhie]

Yes he did. I don't regret it though - I'm doing well enough without him. I'd just like to smush that in his face :)

[100% ILL]

I have a confession. I was inebriated when I started this thread and there was really no point to it.

So, The basic premise of this entire thread was based on a lie.

i really just wanted to say that my ex's new girlfriend is ugly.
Another attempt and being "mature and civil" I assume

I'm not happy or sad about her being ugly and I feel mean for thinking she is.

Really; don't "feel mean" own your feelings. The chick is ugly, you look awesome (your words) and you think it's great that your ex has a woman who in your opinion is beneath you.


I mean, god bless them, really. I hope they're having a good time.
Right here you're trying to make it sound better, "clean it up" so to speak, when originally you just wanted to say she was ugly.


he's had like 18 girlfriends I think (he's a charming fellow). and now that I think about it, I was introduced to 2 of them when I was dating him and I thought "wtf? I don't want to meet these chicks!"

Here you are attempting to place yourself above him, make him sound "less than" You did an excellent job! He sounds like a real scoundrel, who since breaking up with you has denegrated to the point that he parades around with ugly women at weddings hence socially ruining himself beyond repair.

But alas, all is fair.......

[Dorothy Wood]

oh come on, it's not a sinister as all that. I do like to feel like I'm better than other people though. I blame only child syndrome.

[100% ILL]

oh come on, it's not a sinister as all that. I do like to feel like I'm better than other people though. I blame only child syndrome.

Touche.