Well its 3am here and I can't sleep

[hpdrifter]

My job has been stressing me out hard core. I can't quit because I am trapped by my house which I can't sell because the market is in the toilet. I don't feel connected to my friends or fiance or my mom and my sister lives far away. I just feel super alone and I don't know how things got so messed up. In some ways I want to start over but how does that work when you're 31? I seem to have anxiety all the time and feel super insecure. I don't know what to do with myself.

Sorry to unload on you guys, I know I haven't been around for awhile to contribute but I don't feel like I have anywhere else to go.

[mikizee]

Thats all not good. Besides rubbing one out I don't know how to relax, either.

An ex of mine used to do long division equations when she got stressed out and bored. (she was a math genius). She said it helped her get her mind off things.

May I suggest sudoku?

[camo]

Try not to think about things. I've learnt that you cannot right the worlds wrongs whilst lying in bed and trying to fall to sleep. Just turn off your thoughts and get a good nights sleep.

You can always think about your problems the following day after recharging your batteries.


:)

[hpdrifter]

I think its gotten past the point where stuff like that is going to help. Its not really that I need help sleeping, I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be able to tonight. I just don't know what to do with my life, I don't know how to make it better.

[mikizee]

As stupid as this sounds I have also found exercise really helps a lot. Makes you feel better about yourself, gives you time to think, and improves yr health. I used to be on anti depressants, but once I started running/lifting weights I didn't need them anymore.

[camo]

I don't know how to make it better.

I'm with you on that but I just wanted you to know that you can't sort any of it out lay in your bed at night.

Try to think of something positive or funny. Imagine me dancing at the end of your bed in my incredible hulk boxer shorts.

[mikizee]

what about me doing naked windmills

[camo]

Tha Bbmb Nude Breakin' Crew.

[hpdrifter]

Thanks guys, maybe I'll try to go back to bed soon. I'll probably stay home from work tomorrow and maybe a day off will help.

[mikizee]

Try to go for a walk or jog tomorrow.

[camo]

Don't spend the day sulking, get out of your house and make the most of it. I'm terrible for wasting days off in bed.

[ms.peachy]

Bear in mind that this is temporary. Even though you can't see right now how things might change, they will. Maybe try going to a bookstore (if you got one of them new-agey ones around especially) and get a guided meditation CD, that might help you just find a little time in the day to relax your mind?

[hpdrifter]

I'll try to do something with the day tomorrow but I suspect I'm going to need some rest. I have been trying to exercise more and it does help so maybe I'll try to squeeze some of that in tomorrow too.

[funk63]

Try not to think about things. I've learnt that you cannot right the worlds wrongs whilst lying in bed and trying to fall to sleep. Just turn off your thoughts and get a good nights sleep.

You can always think about your problems the following day after recharging your batteries.


:)

that made me all warm inside

[camo]

Yeah it looks like something Oprah would say.

[checkyourprez]

maybe start looking for a new job? obviously just dont up and quit what your doing until you have something concrete. but i dont think its worth going to a place 40 hours a week that makes you feel like this.

[MC Moot]

Hey Christina,I was thinking the other day about you cause I bought some new sheets that match those pillow cases and I was wondering where you'd been lately and how things with your fiance had been going...anyway's...I'm sorry to hear about your blues and am sending you white light...have the rains started there yet?...when I lived on the coast I alway's found that with fall and the advent of the rain I would really get down...I also think that when you hit 30ish you tend to look at your situation and life in a semi-critical manner...I wish you well,sincerly and Mikizee makes a really good point about using excersise as a way to ward off depressive episodes...If I lived in the sound I'd take you on a hike or kayaking or sumthin,I really would...please be well...;)

[ToucanSpam]

I don't sleep well lately either, but this isn't about me.



I can completely sympathize with your situation. You've got a lot on your plate. The best thing to do is do some stress-relieving activities. Whatever little things you like to do that make you happy, do them. I don't mean do stuff to take your mind off of your troubles, but remember life isn't about all the terrible shit that is happening. No matter how bad things can get, your life is great and you need to remind yourself once in a while that things are good and there's a lot of good things going on for you.

[Matt]

Get some rest, then go out and make some new friends. Being 31 isn't an excuse. You're never too old to make a fresh start in life.

[Dharma]

When are you getting married?

[BangkokB]

Try Melatonin...That works wonders for me and it "natural" as far as I've been led to believe. 10 Milligrams and you're Golden. Takes about a week to kick in though.

[hpdrifter]

Thanks guys, I feel better this morning. I didn't get any sleep but I feel okay. Thanks Moot, just the thought of kayaking is nice. Yes, it has started raining here.

You know, most of the time when I get this panic or anxiety in the middle of the night I am able to reassure myself that everything feels worse at 3 in the morning and that when I wake up I'll wonder what I was so worried about. I'm not sure why last night it was more of a struggle, I just couldn't seem to talk myself down. Oh well, the stress is still there but I feel okay. Maybe I just needed a day away from work. Its been so stressful, every day I have more things to do and track, I'm interrupted constantly, other people's work trickles my way somehow.

Anyway, I'll be alright, thanks for being there guys.

Dharma, the wedding is in April 09.